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how to let him know.
I'm not quite sure what catergory this was supposed to go in, so I just picked one that seemed relevant.
I just finished my first year of college and I met some amazing friends. It turns out that yesterday I found out that one of my amazing friends passed away. He lived in a different state so there is no way I can go to his viewing or funeral.
I want him to know that I will miss him and I'm sorry that I can't go to his funeral/viewing. I don't know how I'm supposed to do that. I want him to know that I'll always be thinking of him and he'll forever be in my heart.
I know you'll probably say "you just did" or "pray to him, he'll know" or "he'll know" but I guess I want more than that. I don't know exactly. I just feel so bad that I can't go. I don't know. I just need some advice or something.
May Angels Lead You In<3
05/26/09.
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Start something in his name: a fundraiser for a charity he liked, or a scholarship for his favorite sport or club. Organize something for the anniversary of his death. I'm sure you're not the only friend too far away to attend the funeral; try to organize a memorial-like event in the fall at your college with friends, family, and staff.
And as a side note, I love the song choice in your signature.
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Well trying to pray to him probably is the best way but if you want his memory to live on with you forever and make sure he knows you could get a tattoo to represent him or maybe pick a day once a year that you go to his grave and put flowers down or something of that sort. trust me though he knows you love him and miss him whether he is physically here to see it or not. hope i helped
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Ok. As others have said, what you want to do, what you are striving to send, is completely for you, to make you feel better. Not that there is anything wrong with that.
It depends on your belief system. If you believe in praying, pray. If you believe in writing a letter, write.
Ask yourself what you believe you have to do to communicate something to a dead person, then do it.
If you really don't have any beliefs on how to do that, than just accept he is dead and you can't.
Besides, its not like he will miss you being there. If you believe he is in heaven, then they arent with the body. If you believe that he is a spirit that can actually go to the funeral, than why couldn't he go see you?
How about on the day of his funeral (or whenever) you hold a private, personal ceremony? That way you are still paying respect, and depending on your belief system it'll get through.
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I like Crazystylists idea of writing a note to his parents. That would help not only you, but them as well.
Funerals are mostly for the living. Whatever your beliefs, he will know, as you mentioned.
There is one thing you can check into. They may not have it where he lives, but it may be worth it to you to check. Here where I live there is a funeral home that now broadcasts services online. If you can find out the name of the funeral home, you can check with them. Most have websites now where you can at least go to leave a note. That may help you too.
If others in your circle also knew him, you could have your own small memorial service for him. Doesn't have to be anything fancy. Just a get together to talk about him and what he meant to you.
Sorry for your loss.
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Write a note to his parents and let them know that he touched your life and that you thought that he was amazing.
If there were a charity or something that he took a personal interest in , make a donation and give the certificate to the parents as well, as tribute.
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May your friend* rest in peace <3
It would really bother me too if my friend/someone i cared about passed away and i wouldnt be able to attend his funeral.
the thing you have to realize though is, YOU CANT ATTEND HIS FUNERAL.. YOU JUST CANT..
unless there is another solution..
However, YOURE TRYING.. youre THINKING
It's not like youre totally ignoring the fact about not going at all. Honestly, my opinion, funerals are important, but sad/gloomy/emotional.
Funerals are a time to say goodbye to that one special person. But that's just a ceremony. What you have to realize is that, when you have the time, go visit this friend of yours when you CAN.
He's not going away and will always be in your memory. That's all that matters is that you have that friend in your memory/heart for the rest of time and appreciate all the good things they have done for you and those around yourself.
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