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how do you be confident but not cocky?
in other words humble. (link)
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confident but not cocky...
there's ways :)
let's sayyy you accomplish something (YOU GET AN A+ on your math test!), dont brag about it.. but keep studying and doing good.. in the meantime someone will realize and say "wow.. youre really good.." and all you gotta do is smile and add a warm "thank you" :)
if someone compliments your appearance/personality/etc give feedback in a nice and kind way, dont brush it off as a way to throw off your insecurity like by saying "HA HA.. yeaaa i knoww.." NO.. YOU DONT!
whats the difference between cocky and confident in your mind ?
Look at that and see what are some of the biggest differences you spot out, then try to avoid those cocky moves that arent so "confident"
confident is holding your head up high where the public eye cant put you or your self esteem down.. but you take negative feedback and be smart about your choices and turn into POSITIVE FEEDBACK :)
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I have been having dreams about my exboyfriend a lot recently, and I really do miss him.
We dated last may until november, and it may not seem that long, but we were with each other day and night. We did everything together. I loved him with all of my heart and I know he did love me also. His exgirlfriends broke us up, they were insane about breaking us up.
After our relationship failed in November he started dating a new girl, and she they have been together since then. i haven't tried breaking them up because all I want for him is to be happy. I wish he knew this. He doesn't want anything to do with me at all, he won't even add me on myspace. I miss him so much and words can't explain how much I want him back now. I don't know what I can do. It seems like all I can do is wait for them to break up and STILL I'd have to wish that he would ever come back to me.
I love him, and I lost him, what do I do (link)
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There's nothing you actually CAN do right now judging from where you stand with your ex boyfriend. A good start would be being FRIENDS with him again, but that could make the girlfriend jealous.. so if you two do become friends again make sure not to immediately tell him how you still feel.. and start dating again to see if there's other guys worth falling for.. dont waste all your time on one guy.. its not worth your time, while he's out with his new gf..
just be there for him and im sure he will come to you soon enough
reply to your feedback:
ways you could become close with him again, even after he's been pushing you out of his life, is to stop trying soo hard. i really think many girls out there, that go through the same situation as you don't realize that by just STOPPING and THINKING FOR THEMSELVES they are doing their ex boyfriends and themselves a huuuge favor. Why?
Because by doing so they will gain more respect from their ex boyfriend and maybe even his current girlfriend..
Because they gain respect for themselves by doing a thoughtful act..
and because they learn when to move on..
moving on can be hard, but trust me.. in the long run (when this guy sees that you are trying to forgot him) he might just come back for you.. give it a try.. you have nothing to lose at this point
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One of my best friends from my early childhood has recently become a rather rotten individual. Her home life has always been fragmented, and her mother is quite literally mad. This friend of mine has for the past couple of years been working on a modeling career and has honestly gotten nowhere, though she still insists that she is now and forever a model. She graduated early and left town to be with her dad, but not before she hooked up with a much older and rather "dirty" fellow here in town. With her dad, she hooked up and is "dating" a guy she met online whose description strikes me as more than a little creepy. Worst, she won't talk to me about it---hasn't mentioned ANY of this to me. Apparently, she worries that I will judge her. Mostly I'm just very hurt. She has also been treating all my other friends who she keeps contact with like scum and it bothers me. Now what? (link)
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Really, she does sound pretty rotten.
Tell her how you exactly feel, tell her that all those memories you two shared from childhood are important to you, and express the happy memories you two shared. If she doesnt seem to change, or seem to care that you show graditude towards her.. forget her.. at least for now.
Wait for her to come to you. Be that friend that will catch her when she falls hard.. and she will never forget you.. but for now if she does not change.. i wouldnt even bother trying to tell her that im not judgemental
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I've been getting along with my parents. Well, at least before i started to have my own ideas and plans. We think differently;we have different points of view, priorities, which often leads to disappointments and argumenments. On the other hand, my older sister is a goodie goodie that never has a problem with my moms plans. I know that my mom favours her more and I think I know why, but yet I really want to change the relationship for the better. Its getting tough to talk to her now, and lately, shes been losing trust in me too. I mean, I am only 13. How can I live with that for the rest of my life if this stays like this? (link)
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Good evaluation you wrote on here of yourself.. now what you wrote, or similar to what you wrote, go and tell your mom/dad that you feel this way.. I guarantee you your mom will change her point of view on you and see that you do have responsibility of seeing how your priorities/ideas affect with hers.
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im fat. advice? i mean like i know i should exercise and eat healthy and all that jazz but any like fun ideas for exercise or something idk im like 5'3 and i weigh like 140 pds or something like that.. not exactly healthy.. (link)
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DANCE YOUR ASS OFF !
Turn up the music, and let yourself gooooo!
After 1 song you cant believe how much youre sweating! It's greatttt cardio.. and then always finish off with strength training.. you could also go jogging with a friend because that always motivates you to do better ( you guys could compete and see who loses more by the end of 2 weeks ) . Either way set short goals for yourself, and reward yourself in short intervals instead of saying "After this month i will give myself a 'free' day of eating anything i want.."
Better yet, eat a small piece of pie/cake/sugary snack/whatever you like at the end of the day.. SMALL .. NOT BIG !
I wish you the best...
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IM M/17 the name is adam, as far as finding a girl and holding on to a solid realtionship my skills are lacking. I finally found the right girl I guess people think of it as the girl guys live there life to find. There's only one problem about 2 months ago she ended a 2 year realtionship for good. Her friends keep telling me that all she needs is more time and a good friend. I know that I should wait and respect the time she needs, but I'm afraid that the time will have her grow closer to me as a friend rather than a boyfriend, what should I do? (link)
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you should MOST DEF wait for her.. im serious about this one.. cant be anymore clear
If you ask her out now, she might turn you down and say " i need more time "
But waiting and becoming good friends could turn in a successful relationship between you two
because, trust me on this one, there's nothing more cute than a guy friend asking his best girl friend out.. you two will be soul mates by then!
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I've had this cat for just a few months now but I still don't know what to name him. I want something original. He's a REALLY sweet cat. I've never had a cat that had such a big heart. Does anyone have any ideas of what I could name him?
http://i41.tinypic.com/2dsftsl.jpg (link)
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He is a really sweet cat !
He is def a keeper lol
Jasper
Jinx
Tuasi ( i made this one up today )
Rocky
Ron
Edison
Benny
Whittaker (my friends give really long names to their cats and i think it's cute!)
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prob. wrong categorie, idk..
15/f
basically, i hate myself.
i hate my life and everything about it therefor i hate myself.
i have absolutly NO real friends.
my family is so f**ked up its not even funny..
i mess up BAD with every nice, decent guy i meet, screw up every relationship i'm in..
my parents hate me, legit.
i dont wanna tell you my life story and all the reasons im like this.. and im not trying to be dramatic, i seriously do have a bad life. the only thing i can think good of about me is that i'm pretty. but it doesnt even matter because people dont think i'm pretty when they look at me, they think im a miserable, mental, bitch.
i dont mean to dump all this on you, but i clearly have some depression issues.. that have been diagnosed by my therapist.. and my mom 'doesnt believe in depression medicine' so i cant even take a friken prozac to make me happy. >:o
ive even tried turning to religion..
and i have no one to talk to..
idk what to do with myself anymore..
the other day i ran away from the school and went missing for 2 days.. clearly im going insane and need help. i have counceling.. doesnt work..
anyone know how i can make myself happy? im sick of being like this and crying 247.. someone be my friend..? (link)
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Oh my, you do sound to be in a "depressed" state... now you can sit here waiting for advice from your therapists and your counselors or even me to be telling you all the great things about life, OR YOU CAN CHANGE. You can lead a horse to water but you cant make it drink.. i have to remind myself of that quote every so often as it pertains to human beings. Make goals, Set Goals.. do whatever you can to keep your life enjoyable. YOUR PARENTS/FAMILY should have nothing to do with making you feel negative about your own life. The way they decide to run their own lives is NONE OF YOUR FAULT, youre just a special dove stuck with the wrong family of crows ;)
And think of this, life can change ever so quickly.. in a blink of an eye.. EVERYTHING CAN CHANGE! and every minute youre depressed about your life you could spend doing something lovely. Something i found to make me feel great about myself is helping others. When i cant trust myself or be confident enough i always find ways to help others and that helps me feel content just the way i am. Your human.. you cant help but sometimes say "WHY AM I HERE?! WHY AM I STUCK IN THIS RUT?!" But dont.. dont ever think like that. There's children in poor countries that HAVE NO WATER to CLEAN themselves with, or even worse.. no clean water TO DRINK..
Also, knowledge is power.. it really is. Indulge yourself in a good book.. MAKE YOURSELF read it if youre not into books.. everyone can be if they are open minded.. read books and extend your knowledge.. join clubs.. and this will help you make friends. Try making ONE BEST FRIENd.. that's all you really need.. not 23 of them where you cant even tell one secret to.. but be best friends with yourself because in the end its YOU that makes all of YOUR choices...
And i MUST BRING THIS UP because in all honesty one factor that has helped me in life when i feel depressed at times is my religion. No, my religion is not Christianity or Hinduism,etc. But it is Islam.. i know many people think of Islam as terrorists and oppression.. ITS NOT..
It has saved me.. it has made me love again and care again.. it has made me a better person.. it has made me meet people that i will forever keep by my side.. its one thing that keeps me living, aside from family.
So i beg you, sad victim, whatever you choose to do to improve your life.. i hope it's good choice.. we only have one life to live.. live every moment like it's your last.. WAIT for the surprises in life.. WAIT FOR THEM.. when you feel like giving up.. know that there's hope.. ALWAYS IS THERE..
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Ok. so i've been texting and talking to t his guy... lets call him T. well, he's 17! and i'm fourteen. he knows how old i am though. Well, i think i like him. and we 're supose to be haning out sometime. but he thinks i'm hot and whatnot. but geeze. Even though he freaks out about age/
do you think that after we hangout, if he likes me enough... we'll settle something, and maybe date?
ps. DON'T TELL ME I'M TO YOUNG TO DATE/ HE'S TO OLD FOR YOU/ HE'LL GET YOU INTO TROUBLE.
please.
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Oh yea, it's def possible for him to date you after he gets to know you. There's many guys out there that want to get to know a girl before they date her, especially with a fourteen year old girl. Now, you may look old for your age for a seventeen year old to be dating you, but he still wants to get to know you to make sure if he wants to settle something.. so don't get offended by this. Just act cool and relax and show him the real you :)
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what are some good apps that i can get for my ipod that are free and dont require an internet connection??
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the Love Calculator !
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Okay so yesterday i got the sims 3 collectors edition in the mail. I am DYING to play it but i'm not sure if i should go ahead and install it.
You see i currently have the dell inspiron 6000 and i love it and all but i got 500 $ so i'm going to buy me another laptop in the near future. But what i was wondering is if i install it on JUST this computer ( the sims3) can i uninstall it later and put it on a completley different laptop? (link)
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you have the Sims 3 ?!?! OH MY OH MY !
i really need to go out to a nearby video game store and buy it myself!
The Sims have kids now !! :D :)
haha Anyway, apart from my excitement.. YES! You can install it to your Dell Inspiron 6000, and uninstall the game whenever you want.. just like any other program .. have fun !
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im not a poet, and i honestly dont even know if this is considered poetry. im not sure if it makes sense to anyone but me, but theres not much of a point of writing it if im not getting any feedback, so here it is. comments greatly appreciated, thanks!
silence.
silence to fight against the words pushing at her lips
trying to get out
trying to fix what she’s stuck in
this dirty rut of past memories and a love gone rotten.
colder than ice, the those sharp words freeze her
freeze her mouth shut
and those echoing words are locked inside her head to spoil
until she cries
but her tears turn to ice
so whats the point?
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veryyy niceeee :)
you seem to be showing lots of talent and emotion
(applause) hehe or shall i say "snaps"
oh god, i hope you get that.. haha anyway
i would recommend maybe switching some of the words to this poem. when i started reading it, i didnt quite get if there were two people or one person.. i dont know that's just me.. until i hit the words "this dirty rut of past memories.."
i knew it mustve have been one girl crying about "love gotten wrong.."
maybe if you tried starting out with This dirty rut.. and kept going but towards the end put SILENCE or something?
sounds a little bit more clear to me if i read it off like that.. but either way.. VERY NICE! 5 stars!
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18/f
hey. i have this rounded face and im slender but my face is kinda fat or chubby. what hairstyle fits me? i want a LONG HAIR for now.
thanks! (link)
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I think this would look beyond great on a round faced person :
http://z.about.com/d/beauty/1/0/_/G/mandymoorelong.jpg
http://z.about.com/d/beauty/1/0/R/n/curlyhair.JPG
http://z.about.com/d/beauty/1/0/U/n/Thandie.JPG
round faces+short hair can be hard to pull off.. but Kelly Clarkson did it before and she looked miraculous ! :)
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would anyone know about how much money a linguist would make and what the job would involve? i seem to have a knack for studying languages and i am interested in seeing if i can make a good career out of it. I am 17, and I already speak three languages fluently, working on a fourth... (link)
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Well CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU!!!!! :D
I very much respect those who take the time to learn different languages and study different cultures, not too many people out there know more than 3 languages FLUENTLY.. so i must say.. youre a very intelligent person!
And yes, you can def. find jobs in that area. My cousin, she's 19, is planning on becoming an English teacher for German kids (Elementary level).
There are many different job areas for linguistics. There is Historical linguistic, Computational linguistic, Applied linguistic, Neurolinguistics, etc etc.
What you have to do is go throw a bunch of websites, which i will provide.. and make sure to read all forms of Linguistics out there !
You can def. make a good career out of it.
But may have to search a few different schools in your area, or beyond your area if you plan on moving. Remember, the better the school.. the better success you may have working for this type of job.
http://www.geocities.com/CollegePark/3920/
http://en.citizendium.org/wiki/Linguistics
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I'm not quite sure what catergory this was supposed to go in, so I just picked one that seemed relevant.
I just finished my first year of college and I met some amazing friends. It turns out that yesterday I found out that one of my amazing friends passed away. He lived in a different state so there is no way I can go to his viewing or funeral.
I want him to know that I will miss him and I'm sorry that I can't go to his funeral/viewing. I don't know how I'm supposed to do that. I want him to know that I'll always be thinking of him and he'll forever be in my heart.
I know you'll probably say "you just did" or "pray to him, he'll know" or "he'll know" but I guess I want more than that. I don't know exactly. I just feel so bad that I can't go. I don't know. I just need some advice or something.
May Angels Lead You In (link)
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May your friend* rest in peace
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Alright i want to get a blackberry but its too expensive with the internet. is it possible to buy a verizon wireless blackberry and then call and cancel the internet because when you go to buy one they say "you have to have internet on it" but i know many people with a blackberry and no internet on it. (link)
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If you know many people without internet on a Blackberry, than youre good too.. BUT this couldve been a limited offer. So, I would call and check just in case to make sure your paying the right amount of money.
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I am moving in a few months to another country. I have two cats that need to go with us and I was wondering about air travel. They will go in the cabin with us, but I am sure they will scream and howl like crazy. What should I do? I have heard really bad things about sedatives and tranquilizers and that they are not reliable and can hurt the cat. They are both about 10 years old and I have heard that older cats might not wake up from tranquilizers. Is this true? Of course I don't want that to happen, but I also don't want any trouble from complaining passengers because of my cats' howling. Any advice?? Thanks! (link)
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These little critters always seem a problem when it comes to transporting them from one place to the next !! Cats panic and shriek when having to travel, it's true. Only 1 cat out of 100 will curl up, quietly, next to you in the car seat.
I would call up the air travel agency and see what their best solution for this type of problem is. Chances are, when youre traveling by plane, your cat will not be able to sit next to you because some people are allergic to those types of things, unless you own a private plane..
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what is menopause?
when your older and your periods stop forever? (link)
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Menopause, as MedicineNet describes, is the absence of menstrual periods for 12 months. Premenopause means the time before menopause (this is a transitioning cycle). Postmenopause is the entire period of time that comes after the last menstrual period.
The ovary, reproductive glands, cease in women when menopause comes around.
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i started smoking a year ago. recently, whenever my boyfriend lights up a cigarette or i smoke a cigarette, it smells really funny/weird and i start feeling nauseous. and also my boyfriend smokes a lot in his room, and if i stay in there too long i get a headache. this started happening about 4 or 5 days ago, and its really confusing me. does anyone know what is wrong? (link)
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Uhm.. i am just confused as you are because it's so odd for osmeone to smoke but be opposed of the smell from cigarettes..
And you said you just recently started hating the smell of cigarettes?
Im guessing it could be something with your health or even your MIND telling letting you get to your head. For example, you know it's bad to smoke but you indulge anyway, well maybe this way the cigarettes smell is one way your mind is telling you "EWW!STOP!" and you take that adivece in but continue to follow your bf anyway.. ya get what am sayin?
Either way, take it in as a good and positive factor because this may be the only way to quit smoking !
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well im 15 and 5'9 .. i am skinny, but have a tiny pooch, and i have big hips so i have little love handles, also i have big ribs so i cant be as skinny as i want because im built big, but does anyone have any tips on how i can have tight abs and get rid of my tiny lovehandles? (link)
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A-ha ! Another woman's crisis abut not getting the lower abdominal muscles working properly!
Now, your upper stomach muscles are fairly tight, right?
Well then youre answer is.. YOURE DOING THE WRONG EXERCISES! This is a common problem that soo soo many people face, especially young women, women.. etc.
Now, if you want to work your lower ab muscles, the best way to get them working is exercises involving lifting or curling up the legs. When you do start working out the lower abs, you will get results so much faster than doing other exercises.. running, lifting weights, etc.
Tip: Start performing lower ab exercises at the beginning of your workout for the best results :)
The best lower ab exercises:
the hanging knee raise, the reverse crunch,
and KICK BOXING!
Now if youre wondering how the hell do these moves look like.. then simply Google
"the best lower ab exercises"
GOOGLE wont let ya down.. that's how i got my 4 pack! and still improving.. :)
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