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I miss my exboyfriend
I have been having dreams about my exboyfriend a lot recently, and I really do miss him.
We dated last may until november, and it may not seem that long, but we were with each other day and night. We did everything together. I loved him with all of my heart and I know he did love me also. His exgirlfriends broke us up, they were insane about breaking us up.
After our relationship failed in November he started dating a new girl, and she they have been together since then. i haven't tried breaking them up because all I want for him is to be happy. I wish he knew this. He doesn't want anything to do with me at all, he won't even add me on myspace. I miss him so much and words can't explain how much I want him back now. I don't know what I can do. It seems like all I can do is wait for them to break up and STILL I'd have to wish that he would ever come back to me.
I love him, and I lost him, what do I do
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The advice from LOL was really solid. You do have to move on, but not only for your sanity. If you really do want this guy back than the only way you can do it is by getting over him. Imagine if you were in his shoes...You have a boyfriend, and your ex is making it very clear he wants you back-BADLY. Why would you get back with your ex? You know you can have him at any time so you would just put him in your back pocket to save for a rainy day. Every time you beg for his attention you might as well be saying, "I need you. I am here whenever you choose to pay me attention." To make matters worse, all of your affection is only making his new girlfriend want him all the more because someone else wants him. I'm not one for games, and I think you should always be yourself and be honest about your feelings, but you don't have to lay them on the line to get stomped on, either.
Now imagine what you would do in this situation. You were dating this guy but you broke up and now you're with someone else. Your ex is still so into you and you are pretty confident that you can have him back any time you want. But then you start to notice that he's not really paying you any attention anymore. Now you're going to start to wonder why. You weren't really into him and hardly gave him the time of day, but now you're thinking about him all of the time, wondering why he's not interested.
I suggest you back off. Don't make yourself so available. Stop talking about him all of the time, and if someone else talks about him, keep out of the conversation. Don't go around telling everyone that you don't like him anymore, just keep quiet about your feelings. Make him wonder. If he approaches you, which he probably will, if only to try to keep you hanging on, be friendly. Don't ask him about his girlfriend, and don't let on that you're into him. Let time pass and don't turn away other guys. Date and have fun and if it was meant to be it will be.
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I am a bit confused with your question.......
First of all why did you guys break up?? I know you say that is has to do with his exgirlfriends but what is the main reason you two broke up?? What did they actually do??
I wish I could help you more but I am not quite sure why you two broke up and why he ran to her. Did you do something wrong or did he???
All I am going to advice you is to try your hardest to let it go. I know you love him and it is hard to let someone you love go BUT at times we have to and more in cases where they are already seeing someone new. You said you have tried contacting him and he doesn't want to hear from you then forget him.
Letting go of someone you truly love is hard. It is going to take tons of time and patience for your heart to heal. Just think that if you both were meant to be then nothing would have broken you two.
I know you must want him to know your true feelings, but why is he closing the door on you?? If you did something bad that hurt him then it is going to be hard for you to have a word with him. But if he is taken then your better off being without him and trying to forget him.
Love isn't easy but only with time youll understand this was the best for you. You are a very young girl and will eventually meet a great guy that isn't going to let NOBODY break the love he has for you..........
~Be strong & I"m here if you need more advice~
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I think you should move on. It's not healthy to dwell on the past :(
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I have found, firsthand, that the best way to get over a gut is to do the following:
Step 1: Have a really good cry.
- When my boyfriend and I broke up, I was super upset (like words cannot describe how bad I felt). But I told myself that I wasn't going to let it flip my entire world upside down. So I let myself have one really good cry, and then I told myself I'm going to start moving on. Which brings me to...
Step 2: Friends = lifesavers.
- Go to the mall and buy yourself something nice (don't over spend, though. Just something small, but nice. Like a new outfit or purse!) Or go see a movie, or out to dinner or something! Don't mope around your house all day doing nothing.
Step 3: Talk about it.
- It feels SO good to let it all out. Sit down with somebody you trust (for me, it was my mom) and just spill your heart out. Again, don't let it ruin your life or impact you too much.
Step 4: Move ON!
- Stop talking to him for a while (you need to give yourself time to get OVER him). Don't stalk his Facebook, spend time with other people, and don't even waste time TALKING about him.
Honestly, it's going to take time, and it's going to be hard, but once you get over him you will feel SO much better. I promise you that this guy is NOT worth wasting all of your time on, and that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Go out and find a new guy that treats you right and is WORTH your time. Forget about this guy ASAP. You're young and have plenty of time for guys. And, as one of my favorite books puts it: The first boy is always the hardest.
Best of luck & feel better soon! :)
-Laura (17-f)
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There's nothing you actually CAN do right now judging from where you stand with your ex boyfriend. A good start would be being FRIENDS with him again, but that could make the girlfriend jealous.. so if you two do become friends again make sure not to immediately tell him how you still feel.. and start dating again to see if there's other guys worth falling for.. dont waste all your time on one guy.. its not worth your time, while he's out with his new gf..
just be there for him and im sure he will come to you soon enough
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ways you could become close with him again, even after he's been pushing you out of his life, is to stop trying soo hard. i really think many girls out there, that go through the same situation as you don't realize that by just STOPPING and THINKING FOR THEMSELVES they are doing their ex boyfriends and themselves a huuuge favor. Why?
Because by doing so they will gain more respect from their ex boyfriend and maybe even his current girlfriend..
Because they gain respect for themselves by doing a thoughtful act..
and because they learn when to move on..
moving on can be hard, but trust me.. in the long run (when this guy sees that you are trying to forgot him) he might just come back for you.. give it a try.. you have nothing to lose at this point
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