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Hi my name is Lety and I am here to help. I currently work full time but like to turn on my computer in the evenings and help anyone in need of an answer(s). Please don't be shy, drop me a line if you need anything, I truly would love to help..........advice
Alright so I've been talking to this guy on and off for years. I want to see him but I also want to lose my weight before seeing him. My question is do you think he likes me? We talk off and on and he's called me a tease, asked me if I wanted his number. He mentioned we've talked for years, it;s nice but its a tease. He has also asked me what my type was and teased and asked if I liked girls. He said he's shy and shy around girls. He doesn't talk much, but he does respond to me. But I am not sure if he's interested or not.He has invited over to his place before and I had to turn him down because of it being late. He respected that and didn't push me. He has been ballsy at times but not all the time and he hasn't been ballsy in quite some time. He occasionally messages me before I do. Should I give up on this guy? I've been told by other people saying he likes me, but I am very unsure. Any advice? I want my weight off to feel confident around him. Sorry if there is grammar and mistakes on here.
In your question it does not state if you guys have already seen each other. I will assume you have not. Well, we can't guess what he is feeling as we can only go by his actions and words. If he has contacted you and has taken the initiative that means he does have some type of feelings towards you. Ask yourself the following question, do I want to meet him? If so, then give yourself the chance to meet him and see how well you two get along. I understand you feel like you need to loose weight to feel confident. We, as I am a woman myself, feel like we need to fix something with ourselves to feel more prettier or to grab the guy's attention. We will always have these thoughts regardless if we loose weight because something else is going to come up. I suggest you see him, soon. Don't stay with the what if's and instead see how things work out. If this is your first time meeting, plan something in public. See how he behaves and how things go. Remember to tell yourself while looking in the mirror how amazing you are and how any man would love to have you in his life. You are your worst critic if you pump yourself up you will show him that confidence and those extra pounds you think you carry won't matter. Best of luck!
I guess my title explains itself. I have been seeing everywhere on every job website about working at home. At first I thought they're all scams; but if they're on every website, and approved on some job boards like the paper, now I am thinking in between.
Are these working-at-home jobs real or fake? If any are real, please tell me who is real?
I might do it, but I need second opinions and reviews about at-home jobs first.
I do ask to not send me survey websites like CashCrate. I looked into it, it's not very real to me.
Thanks
I've come around tons of ads that sound too good to be true. I would suggest you stay away from them. UNLESS you know of anyone that has actually tried them and their real. You can also give it a try BUT only if they aren't charging anything or if the amount isn't that high. You can loose say for example: $20 dollars and try it out or just save your money.
I would suggest staying away from them, they do sound like fraud; companies trying to rip people off.
Good Luck
I bought a pair of stretch denim jeans online, and they are a little too big, but according to the size chart they are supposed to fit. If I wash them, will they draw up and fit me? I don't want to wash them if they won't draw up, because the store might not take them back.
If the jeans are kinda loose then don't wash them. Jeans do shrink when you dry them BUT if they are stretch denim then they will stretch more once you put them on. If you can exchange them for a smaller size do that better...
josh decided he would choose between me and kelsey but he would need a couple days because he liked us both. i finally talked to him and he said he was sticking with kelsey...so once again he led me on and broke my heart! its so hard to find the right boy, should i just give up on him?
First of all if you have to put yourself in a position where a boy needs to choose between you or another girl, you are wrong...
A boy that cares about you, won't have to choose between you or another girl. A boy that truly cares about you will chase you not the other way around. You shouldn't put yourself in a position where you are waiting to be chosen by a boy, how dare he.
Please don't bother with him. He had the option of using you and if he didn't then his loss. You need a boy that is going to chase you, that is going to ask you to be his girlfriend not the other way around.
Your young you will meet a great guy, just be patient. If Josh decided on Kelsey then let them be happy, but PLEASE don't ask him about you two dating nor be with him if he and Kelsey have problems..........Act like you don't care a bit and move on, you'll see he will regret it "BIG TIME" :)
Okay, I'm a 17/f. I started having sex the summer before I turned 16. But I was in a long term relationship when I lost my virginity, we were together about 3 years. After we broke up I was depressed for quite some time, and then I eventually sucked up my shxt and got over it. I started dating my best friend and i gave him head for the first time; it wasn't weird or anything after. We started dating and eventually ended up having sex.. alot. I thought the only reason why we were together was because he wanted to have sex all the time. It really freaked me out, so I got out of the relationship and thankfully, we're still best friends. After that relationship, I just started partying all the time and I've had about 8 or 9 drunk hookups. Which weren't bad, all the guys I hooked up with I trusted and I was friends with them so it didn't bother me.. It wasn't like a one night stand each time.. we talked and had a crush on eachother for a while and then I just moved on. I stopped drinking, for the better and now I just keep having feelings for my guy friends and we eventually... alwaysssss hook up and I love it.. but then I hate it at the same time. I don't know how to stop hooking up and having sex with all these people. It's like a serious compulsion. I'm 17 and I started having sex when I was 15 and I've had sex with about 16 different guys. I've gotten tested for HIV and all that good stuff and I'm fine.. I just want to stop doing what I'm doing.
Any advice/tips for saying, you know.. like.. no?
I'm glad you took the first step to admit you have a problem....
I can understand how you must feel. You feel that you shared a very important part of you in your first relationship, where you had sex. After the relationship ended you felt used. You felt like this boyfriend took a very important part of you with him and that made you loose control.
I feel that you lost the definition of sex. Sex is something you share with someone you truly love. These guys whom you have been sleeping with aren't love. If I am not mistaken it seems like you are hooking up with all these guys either to feel loved or for many other reasons..
The first thing you need to do is to tell yourself...I'm a beautiful girl that doesn't need to have sex to be loved. Try staying in a relationship with someone for say 6 months before actually having sex. If you keep that priority in mind you won't fall into this cycle. As easier as it may seem, try to keep temptation off your shoulders. If you know you will be alone with this one guy where you might want to, don't put yourself in situations like that..
Your at a decent age to stop yourself from being taken as an easy girl. We need to let men treat us with respect and if we don't give our respect then they won't.......
I'm here for you if you need anymore advice...
Be strong!!
i have been with this boy for two years now. and when we first got together everything was perfect, never argued, had fun, and enjoyed are time together. but now two years down the line we; bicker, sit around, && our fun is watching movies.
its hard to explain but its getting kinda old doing nothing. even the sex isnt like it used to be. i still love him with everything i have and its hard to just throw 2 years of your life away. but am i getting bored of being with him? is this normal? is there anything i can do to prevent leaving him?
thanks,
18-female
When you are with someone for a very long time (years) the spark in the relationship does fade a bit. The butterflies you feel when you first meet someone and start dating is very nice BUT once you two get to know eachother the sparks loose their touch.
I would suggest you plan something different to do then watch movies. Say go out dancing (if you like to dance) or go out for dinner & a walk at the beach. If he isn't taking the initiative of doing something different then you should. If you still love him and don't want this relationship to end then you need to help him lift the sparks...........
Try something out of the ordinary and suprise him. Being at a different place and unknown is very exciting and makes you re-live the love you have and the butterflies you two felt when you met...
I have been having dreams about my exboyfriend a lot recently, and I really do miss him.
We dated last may until november, and it may not seem that long, but we were with each other day and night. We did everything together. I loved him with all of my heart and I know he did love me also. His exgirlfriends broke us up, they were insane about breaking us up.
After our relationship failed in November he started dating a new girl, and she they have been together since then. i haven't tried breaking them up because all I want for him is to be happy. I wish he knew this. He doesn't want anything to do with me at all, he won't even add me on myspace. I miss him so much and words can't explain how much I want him back now. I don't know what I can do. It seems like all I can do is wait for them to break up and STILL I'd have to wish that he would ever come back to me.
I love him, and I lost him, what do I do
I am a bit confused with your question.......
First of all why did you guys break up?? I know you say that is has to do with his exgirlfriends but what is the main reason you two broke up?? What did they actually do??
I wish I could help you more but I am not quite sure why you two broke up and why he ran to her. Did you do something wrong or did he???
All I am going to advice you is to try your hardest to let it go. I know you love him and it is hard to let someone you love go BUT at times we have to and more in cases where they are already seeing someone new. You said you have tried contacting him and he doesn't want to hear from you then forget him.
Letting go of someone you truly love is hard. It is going to take tons of time and patience for your heart to heal. Just think that if you both were meant to be then nothing would have broken you two.
I know you must want him to know your true feelings, but why is he closing the door on you?? If you did something bad that hurt him then it is going to be hard for you to have a word with him. But if he is taken then your better off being without him and trying to forget him.
Love isn't easy but only with time youll understand this was the best for you. You are a very young girl and will eventually meet a great guy that isn't going to let NOBODY break the love he has for you..........
~Be strong & I"m here if you need more advice~
My friend's grandma is really close to dying, and she is really upset about it because she has been through more than I can even describe and if I did it would take me a long time.. But I never know what to say to make her feel any better about it.. I usually just say I'm here for you and it'll all be okay and stuff along those lines but I don't know what to tell her.. Any suggestions?
All you can really do is try to calm her down. A death isn't easy for anyone to handle but at times we have to accept it. Just try to make her understand that the way humans were made were to last until a certain period of time and then we have to let go. As much as it hurts us to see people we love leave we need to realize this is the way GOD made us.
Try to distract her and make her laugh if you can to try to cheer her up. This is a very hard situation and the only thing you can really do is be there for her :)
so this guy asked me out like 2 months ago but i kindly said no because i didnt know him.i mean it was the first time i really talked to him ya know?
then i didnt seem him till about 2 weeks ago.he was flirting with me and stuff.well then when i walked by him he was like so whats up?and then when i replied he asked if i like him and i said well i dont know you really.so then he was like what you dont know me now?and i was like i never really got to know you but he didnt seem upset about it because he still flirted.well then i saw him last night and he was with some girl i believe was his girlfriend.and it kinda made me jealous i guess.it kinda made me think what if i really missed out ya know?now i dont know what i should do.i felt like i liked him last night when before i didnt feel it but between 2 weeks ago and last night i was thinkin like next time i see him if he asks me out again i was gonna say yes well know i feel im too late.am i just feeling this because he does have a girl now or what?i mean the only reason i turned him down was because i didnt know him all the well,he wasnt what i would date(appearence wise) and my friends opinion but when i thought about it he is a really great guy besides i never really see him but i was thinknin that would change if we dated ya knw?well i wanna thank you all before hand
Saying "NO" to him don't feel bad about that. If you don't know a guy it's hard to just trust him and accept his offer, just like that.
Second of all, if he has a girlfriend now that has nothing to do with you. I mean you didn't know him back then and that's why you didn't take him on his offer.
Why is he such a great guy??
Sometimes we tend to like someone when that person isn't reachable. That's why I feel that maybey you aren't really atracted to him you just like the attention you get from him, we all like attention. We love to be chased and admired and when we loose this affection we feel bad. So you might not even like him, it might be only the attention you get that you like.
Think about this question and see what answers you come up with. I'm here to help you out some more if you like............
My sister and I were never best friends until five years ago, before she went into high school. I showed her how to use makeup and how to make friends. She was always the skinny one and she started growing long legs that my mum's friends commented on being "killer legs". I introduced her to her first "popular" friend and gave her the first taste of alcohol. These days, we joke about how I kind of "created" her and she agrees. Unfortunately, I think I've created a monster.
First, I need to let you guys know that we're both Pakistani. No one in my family is religious but we are "officially" muslim. This is more of a cultural than a religious thing but a lot of it is common sense: don't wear clothes that are too revealing, don't drink and don't screw around with boys.
This all started when I realized a few months ago that she was using me. She's sixteen. I used to buy her French Connection jackets, food and boot for her all the time. I realized that whenever I'd ask her to come shopping with me, she'd make an excuse- either homework or that she had other plans. In fact, even though I used to drive her to school and back everyday, she wasn't really doing anything for me at all.
My cousin is getting married in Pakistan in the spring and I asked my sister to do the dance with me. She was very reluctant. She even had to fight our parents because she didn't want to go (last time we visited was in 2005, we had moved to Canada in 1999 when she was 7). But eventually she was defeated and she decided to do it. She was very reluctant every time I asked her to do it.
A little while later, we had a fight where I didn't talk to her for five days. She eventually asked me to tell her what was wrong. I told her that she was ungrateful for everything she had (I asked her what her favourite posession was and she couldn't come up with an answer even though she has designer clothes and my dad bought her a new computer for her own use), she didn't appreciate me, she took everything I did for her for granted etc. She cried about it and said she would change but I figured she wouldn't. She didn't. The next day she was back to her usual, "You're driving me to my appointment, right" "Umm what appointment" or "You're driving me to school, right?"
After our fight, she stopped and a month later, after waiting for her to approach me (my mother hinted at her to talk to me about it), I told her that we were doing the dance whether she liked it or not. So we did the dance for once night and the next night, she said she couldn't.
Last night, after picking her up from work, I told her we were going to do the dance. She told me she was too tired. I told her we were still going to do it and she should tell me what time (It was 9:00 at night). When we got home, I was trying to ask her again and she walked away from me. When I asked her a third time, she was on the phone and started walking away when I told her to stop and she said we'd do it after she ate (I knew she wouldn't because she never dances after she eats). After this, she recruited my dad to approach me and let her go to "sleep" (she doesn't usually sleep till 11:30 at night). I waited and waited, she never came down to dance.
So I got really pissed, I sent her a text and told her she was an idiot because she never realized that the worst thing I could do for her -wasn't- to stop driving her around and that our parents would learn some really interesting stuff about her over the week. I figured she would at least try to talk to me about it. She didn't.
Now, I have a lot on my sister and she doesn't have too much on me (she does a little bit, I did used to boot for her after all). She drinks, goes to parties my mother has forbidden her to go to, was drunk the night her iPhone was lost, she has gotten increasingly vain (she thinks she wants to be a model) and makes fat jokes about me.
I wake up this morning and she has deleted her facebook to stop me from looking at her photos. I called my mom and she said she got a text message from her, telling her that they needed to talk.
So I called my mum and explained this entire situation to her (didn't tell her about all the things that my sister has been doing) but I did tell my mom to ask her where she had been on Halloween (she told my mum she was going to a friend's but she was actually about 2 hours away in a few towns from here at her friend's boyfriend's drug-dealing friend's house (this friend is 25 years old). All my sister replied was "I'll talk to you after school". I also told my mum about one of the comments she made about me: I fell on the ground once and my sister said "at least you have lots of padding".
Just so you guys know, my sister was really sweet and considerate before but now I'm afraid that my parents and I have ruined her. So my problem is that:
1. I've betrayed her trust and I never should have. She'll never speak with me again.
2. My parents won't care and she'll keep doing it.
3. She will talk it all away.
EIther way, I feel really terrible now. I'm so torn up about this. I always hate conflict with my friends and family :(
First of all, I know exactly how you feel. I have had situations and yet I still do where I help other's and don't get the appreciation I deserve.
I know that in the future she will look back and appreciate everything you did for her, trust me on that one. For now she is young she feels she can do it all and doesn't see why she is where she is. Let her be the person she is , sometimes we have to learn to understand life.
About the dance, don't force it. Ask her do you want to be in it, yes or no? If she says "NO" then be upfront with her and tell her well if you can say NO to me about a insignificant thing like this then I can definitely say NO to you when you ask me to drive you around. Explain to her that you help her and you feel she should help you too.
A relationship with a sister is very tough but at the end she is your sister. Try to be patient and understand that she is at a young age when you feel you can conquer it all.
I am here if you need my help.
hiiiiii everyone :)
well im 18 years old, female.
i have a good friend, well pretty much my best friend and his name is ben. i've known him for about four years now, and i've always always had a thing for him but he use to have a girlfriend so i kept those feelings to myself and well, they never did go away. just about 6 months ago ben tried to get with me, and it pretty much came out of nowhere, i was stunned. he didn't have a girlfriend, but he was trying to get down my pants and everything. i'm still a virgin, never really done anything past kissing, making out and getting felt up so obviously my reaction to him was "no!" i've also never had a boyfriend before, it's like when i really like someone and i find out they like me too, i push myself away from them. maybe i am scared of getting into a relationship, but i don't like it at all. well just a few weeks ago ben was at my house, and well he kissed me. this boy, he turns me on alot and i know he wants to finger me but i am scared. i always feel like guys only want to use me but i've known him for 4 years, and it's not like he has always just tried to get with me. i'm so comfortable with him, i tell him alot of my problems and he does help me out. has anyone else ever felt the resistance to do something with a guy because you always feel like your going to get used? i can't live like this forver, i have to take chances ya know? maybe it is because i've never been in a relationship, and it's why i feel like this but i just need a second opinion on what you think is going on, should i trust him? do you think he is just trying to use me?
You are absolutely not overthinking this..........
I mean we aren't talking about just anything here we are talking about your body and something very special. I say you DON"T do it. I mean you both are very good friends but just that. I would agree if you were dating and in something serious but this just seems more like a fling.
I mean why would he ask you that ? knowing you two are the best of friends? Did he ask it maybey because he knows you have feelings for him......
I would suggest you think this through. Yes, we should take chances at times but this isn't just anything this is more personal and you will regret doing this and then asking yourself WHY did I take this chance with someone I didn't even date...............
I am here to help you in any way I can & wish you the best........
I've been with my boyfriend for 3 months now im not sure about him and i dont know if i should call it quit by his behavior.his always broke have bad hygiene(unbrushed teeth)his too emotional he does eveything i ask him to even if it was a joke he has made it clear that he wont break up with me no matter what.example one day i was @ his house in his room and i told him not to sit on the bed or lay next to me he listened and stood there he never stands up to me even if i'm wrong i pretty much need him to act like a man .
First of all, HE DOESN"T BRUSH HIS TEETH (sorry that's a bit ewwwwwwwwww) A big NO-NO.......
I would understand the broke part, because everyone goes through a situation like that but not taking care of your hygiene is not good. I think he must have some serious confident issues.
I would suggest if he does the things and acts the way you don't like, then you are better letting him go.
I don't quite understand why you have been with him for this long knowing he has qualities you dislike? Is it maybey because you feel somewhat sorry for hiM?
I can help you some more if you like, just let me know........
In whatever you decide, lots of luck :)
i recently became reacquainted with someone that i had a crush on when i was young. but basically i had a crush on her from 6th grade until i graduated high school. we were friends but not like super close. since then we have actually become somewhat better friends and all. now this crush is ancient history in a lot of ways. i mean, today she is married and has kids and it's not that i want to be with her. i really don't. but at the same time, i had realy strong feelings way back when and i never said anything. i feel like it would do me alot of good to finally say some day what i had thought and felt about her so long ago. i don't think she would be upset or anything. we get along great. but i dont know if i should jsut keep that to myself or actually let the cat out of the bag. in a way, i feel i deserve to get to say it plus i feel like she deserves to know she has a special place in my heart. i don't think she'd believe i'm trying to win her over or anything. so would it do any real harm to say anything? also, if i were to say something, any clue how to go about it? i'd want to keep it somewhat lighthearted.
WOW!! Isn't it hard being around someone you care knowing that, that person is taken and attached to this particular person?? It would be hard for me to be around someone I cared for a lot. But the question isn't if I should keep in contact but letting out your true emotions for this person..........My answer is "YES"........
I think that you do deserve to let it out. I don't think it would matter her knowing since she is already with someone else and has children with him BUT you owed it to yourself to let her know. I would suggest you tell her over coffee or when you both talk. I can't really say where exactly since I don't know what kind of relationship you both have, but you need to let it out.........
Please let me know if you need more advice, I'm here to help :)
hi I am a wife and a mother mother of four great kids. I love my family to death but they say that I am onesided and to hard on them. I however dont see that way. I just think i want the best for them. Now mind you 3 of my kids are handicapped and this puts alot of stress on me. it seems at times that I am the only parent in the house. my husband works and I stay home with the kids. I cook,clean,help kids with their things and try to be a loving wife. but when he comes home if feel i need a break and it is his time with them. we do share so household chores. but when it his day to do something he useally doesnt do or only half way do it. and i feel if you start something you need to finish no matter what. he says that i have to have my way about everything and that i dont care what he feels or how it makes him feel. he also says that I have a way of doing everything and if i see someone doing it diffrent then its wrong. plus he say I have a spot for everything and that the house isnt going to stay clean and I should let it go sometimes and chill.he also state that no matter what he does it doent please me. Now I feel that you should have a clean house and keep it nice but i now its not going to stay clean but if you see something out of place put it away this makes it easier on me.should i chill? i have a very bad temper and we get into fights not hand to hand but yelling matches and sometimes i feel that i am not tiring my best to stop the fights and that im overbearing and out of control what should I do? i feel sometimes that it would be easier to be by myself.
mylife
First of all I am going to say, you are a VERY Strong lady. Meeting the responsibilities that you do must not be easy.
I know that living with a man isn't easy. At times you two don't agree but I see a lack of understanding. He does go to work and you stay home so for him it is an easier task. You on the other hand have to take care of the household and need some time for yourself.
I would suggest you found a hobby to attend in the afternoons, when he arrives back from work. This alone time for yourself would help you gain your strength and release some tension.
Being at home 24/7 is stressing and at times you do need to get some fresh air and clear your thoughts.
I hope my advice helps you in some way if you need more you can always email me.
Keep it up and I know GOD will reward you for your strength and Good Heart :)
I have a really good friend, a best friend you could say, who is really troubled at the moment. It has to do with a guy she really cares about who moved out of state and who will probably not stay in touch because it's super long distance and because he said he doesn't want to talk to people because it'll make him miss being here. It's hard to know what to do or say to her because she just seems so hurt and affected by it. It seems like I can't say or do anything to possibly make her feel any better. /i hate seeing her like this. Does anyone have any ideas of what I can do or say? Has anyone else ever been in this situation? Thank you.
Yes, I have been in this situation and it's TOUGH. No matter what people tell you it hurts. I think this situation will only get better with time. Make her understand that if he left or had to leave is because things weren't meant to be. Make her understand that this is out of her hands and she has to be the stronger one and proove to him & herself that she's TOUGH..........
Love isn't easy to deal with and harder to let go BUT at times only GOD knows why things happen the way they do.
All you can do for her is be her best friend and try to listen to her and distract her as much as you can. With time she will understand and see the situation from another point of view.
so my best friend is a boy, which tends to make people think we're dating.. all of the time. haha. but the other night he finally told me that he has started to avoid being alone with me because he doesnt want either of us to miss out on relationships because people think we're dating.
that really bothers me because hes my best friend. we're supposed to be able to do things alone instead of having to wait and see if someone else can hang out as well. how do i convince him that he shouldnt care what others think and to stop avoiding times when we're alone?
This is a tough situation.........
The way people judge a girl & a boy together is definitely a couple. I say that if you guys go out, you guys go out to enjoy eachother's company not to hook up with someone else.
Talk to him and make it clear that if you two go out with eachother is as a friendship basis and that if you two are seen in society the way they are judging you shouldn't matter. Unless he goes out with you and is thinking about hooking up with someone else then that's an issue.
i have this friend. She is so competitive. and she claims to be my best friend. So when i get something new, she has to get it, but in a better brand or more expensive to make me feel bad. example would be like; i just got a phone. a week later, she finally got a phone, but more expensive. then when i got a computer, she got one after, but in a better brand. I don't know why she does it but it is getting on my last nerve. Then when I come up with ideas, she steals them and make them into her own. for example. Our whole group of friends hasn't hung out in a while, and i was saying how it would be tight to have everyone get together at a sleep over and just chil. She went off and told all of them as if it were her idea. And it is so frustrating. She also tried to steal my boyfriend. I ended up having to brake up with him because of whole lotta drama. I have slowly separated myself from her. She asked me if we were still best friends, and I said no. And she was begging for best friend status. But I said no. And I have stopped telling her everything, and calling her. I just listen, because I will always be there for her, i have never betrayed her. I helped her lose weight, and told her when people were talking ish about her. But with all that, she repaid me with all that. I want to separate myself from her to the fullest. Do you guys have eny ideas? what do you think about the whole situation?
I think that your X bestfriend has some serious issues...........
From everything you wrote it is very true that she is very envious of you. If you have a best friend you want the best for her in every way and from what you wrote it seems that she wants to be on top of the staircase in everything.
First of all did you confront her on the main issue, the competiveness?? If you did and she straight out ignore the issue then you need to let go...
Just be upfront with her and let her know that you feel you two have grown up and now things have changed in how you feel about your relationship. Try to cut all ways with her and move on...............
Breaking up with a friend is hard but sometimes we have to do it for ourselfs.......
18/f
so i use to be close to this girl. but we went to different schools and we just...stopped talking for awhile. well then we hung out every now and then and then stopped talking again and lately she was asking what i was doing because she wanted to get together, and i was always busy. so last night i texted her and was like, what are you doing tomorrow night? we should go to dinner and she was like yeah!! and so then tonight i met up with her at a restaurant and we were catching up on everything, and i was like oh you got a new phone and she was like ya! here look, and she gave it to me. well i was looking at everything and i went to her texts and i saw that she was like talking about me to another friend (i use to talk to her too) and she was texting her about how i asked her to go to dinner out of no where, and how it's all awkward and the girl was like ask her about college and she was like well then what!! and she was like it's just awkward. i didn't think it was awkward at all and so when i saw that i was like wow i feel stupid now. she is talking about me to someone else, saying how it was random how i asked to go to dinner, and how it's all awkward (but it really wasn't?) and i told her like everything that was going on in my life, all my problems and everything i've been going through and now i was like okay..sweet. guess i can't trust anyone anymore? i just wanted to leave after that because i felt so stupid. i don't know what to do. am i stupid for feeling so dumb about this?
Please don't feel bad................
You were trying your best to work this relationship with her again but if she wasn't up for it, then it's her lost.............
Sometimes we try to connect with people from our past and sometimes it doesn't work out........
Don't feel bad about your effort, but give yourself props............You tried and it was her lost not yours.........
I'm in college and I have a few good friends. I'm not shy, I'm just very picky and cautious about befriending people and trusting them. I do not go out alot. Some college girls like to party, but I'd rather just relax and watch a movie at home. I'm not incredibly social, and it's mostly because I choose to be this way. Is this a really bad problem/issue? I've had boyfriends and big groups of crazy friends before, but now, I'm more into family and studying.
No I don't think their is nothing wrong with you choosing who you want to spend your time with........
I don't think your anti social I just think your more mellow then others in your area...........
If this is what you truly like then don't let others comments take you down.......We are who we are as individuals and others comments are their comments and don't truly matter :)
this is kinda long, i suppose =P
okay, well last may i met this boy..he was like everything i could ever ask for. in june we got serious.. i really did love him. it was like a perfect relationship. at the end of july we broke up because his mom was kind of a lunatic and like tried to put him on house arrest. then middle of august we got back together and that was pretty good. then we broke up because it was the school year and we go to different schools and it was hard. then in february he got a girlfriend. they were completely in love. they lasted for like 7-8 months and then he broke up with her because she was a control freak. now, he is trying to get me back. and i mean i did love him and part of me still does.. but he did things before that made me not trust him. like he would always "talk" to other girls and it bugged me. i dont care if he is friends with girls, but he would tell them he likes them and siht. it buggged me. well now he wants me and he like poured his heart out to me. told me he was thinking about what we had and he knows he messed up but really wants to try it again, im thinking about it. and then i didnt know if i could deal with it again. then i decided to message him ex girlfriend and piss her off.. HAHA but she used to message me and like tell me all this stuff aboout their relationship and it bugged me, ha. but i go are you two together she goes no y i go because his friends told me he liked me and stuff, i lied to her by saying his friends bc i didnt knnow if they were talking or whatever..she goes yeah were talking i go like talking talking she goes yes so i texted him and flipped out and he otld me that they arent together and are only friends but she has the impression there like together basiscally. then today he said im the only person he wants to be with, he told her that there is no chance between them. and i dont know what to do. it seems like he really does care for me, but im confused because im afraid of getting hurt again. any advice? (:
Trying to work issues with someone who you have been with on & off is supper hard........
not only are trust issues going to be hard to deal with BUT also are you willing on settling with someone that doesn't respect you......
Take this advice from someone who went through a very hard relationship and as hard as it was getting out I'm glad I did.........
When you date someone and they date others its hard to go back without doubts in your head, but it's all up to what you are willing on working with.............
Good Luck