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Helping a friend in need
I have a really good friend, a best friend you could say, who is really troubled at the moment. It has to do with a guy she really cares about who moved out of state and who will probably not stay in touch because it's super long distance and because he said he doesn't want to talk to people because it'll make him miss being here. It's hard to know what to do or say to her because she just seems so hurt and affected by it. It seems like I can't say or do anything to possibly make her feel any better. /i hate seeing her like this. Does anyone have any ideas of what I can do or say? Has anyone else ever been in this situation? Thank you.
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Yes, I have been in this situation and it's TOUGH. No matter what people tell you it hurts. I think this situation will only get better with time. Make her understand that if he left or had to leave is because things weren't meant to be. Make her understand that this is out of her hands and she has to be the stronger one and proove to him & herself that she's TOUGH..........
Love isn't easy to deal with and harder to let go BUT at times only GOD knows why things happen the way they do.
All you can do for her is be her best friend and try to listen to her and distract her as much as you can. With time she will understand and see the situation from another point of view.
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Ask if she needs to talk about it and, if she does, listen and support her. There isn't really a whole lot you can say... Just try to be sympathetic. Occassionally make an effort to take her mind off him by doing something fun. Ask her if she wants to go the movies, park, shopping, or whatever she enjoys.
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There is nothing you can do for her except be a friend and support her the way you already are. Your presence in her time of need is all you need to do for her. A few words here or there, like "I understand" and "It's okay" will comfort her just enough until she is ready to move on from the subject. The more you try and do it for her, the more she will resist from what you are saying, because you would be making the choice for her, not her making the choice for herself to move on. So all you need to do is, show your support and just be the friend that you are right now until this whole thing passes over. She can't keep in sorrow for the rest of her life. I'll give your friend 2 weeks at the most and guarantee you that she will be over this almost completely and want to live her life normally again. And when it all passes over, words cannot express how good of a friend you have been to her, just for supporting her emotionally and showing empathy, and giving her the choice to move on, and not you trying to convince her to move on. Trust me, it is the way to handle things.
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