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it seems i want him only if i cant have him
so this guy asked me out like 2 months ago but i kindly said no because i didnt know him.i mean it was the first time i really talked to him ya know?
then i didnt seem him till about 2 weeks ago.he was flirting with me and stuff.well then when i walked by him he was like so whats up?and then when i replied he asked if i like him and i said well i dont know you really.so then he was like what you dont know me now?and i was like i never really got to know you but he didnt seem upset about it because he still flirted.well then i saw him last night and he was with some girl i believe was his girlfriend.and it kinda made me jealous i guess.it kinda made me think what if i really missed out ya know?now i dont know what i should do.i felt like i liked him last night when before i didnt feel it but between 2 weeks ago and last night i was thinkin like next time i see him if he asks me out again i was gonna say yes well know i feel im too late.am i just feeling this because he does have a girl now or what?i mean the only reason i turned him down was because i didnt know him all the well,he wasnt what i would date(appearence wise) and my friends opinion but when i thought about it he is a really great guy besides i never really see him but i was thinknin that would change if we dated ya knw?well i wanna thank you all before hand
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you are jealous because he has turned his attention to someone else...flirt with him and see what happens
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I remember talking to this girl once about the difference in the perceptions we have for people that are "taken". Most often a girl with a boyfriend is something most of us will stay away from, yet I often noticed the exact opposite with women. Anyway, she said that guys with girlfriends sometimes appear to be better because that girl has already approved them so to speak. No idea if this bears any truth, but it might be relevant to your case.
Now, random thoughts aside, my advice is pretty simple but I doubt you will like it. Any guy that hits on a girl while he has a girlfriend is pure scum. No redeeming quality can make up for the deceit that he is apparently so comfortable with. This is the sort of situation where it would be good to put yourself in her shoes (and also to remember that if he could do it to her, he may well do it to you when a better "catch" comes along).
It really doesn't go beyond that point in my book and anything else is therefore irrelevant.
Good luck.
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It kind of sounds like he has gotten a girlfriend to make you jealous and to see what you will say. However, since I know nothing about this boy, I could be wrong.
Next time you see him, get him alone and tell him how you really feel. If I'm right, he won't care about his "girlfriend" and go to you. But if I was wrong, and he does really like this girl, you have no choice but to move on.
I know it's hard, but it's for the best. You could always be friends though, and later that can evolve into a real close relationship, and maybe he will even become your boyfriend.
If he says he likes you, tell him that you like him back. Explain to him that you weren't sure before because you didn't know him as much as you'd like to. Arrange a get together, one on one. You'll probably end up really liking him. If the get together went great and he asks you out, you should say yes. But if you'd like to wait it out, you should.
Remember, always follow your instincts.
I hope for the best!
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Doesn't seem like you genuinely liked him. You just liked the fact he fancied you.
If you did actually want him and were attracted to him (which you said you aren't anyway), you two would have made more effort to get to know each other and make it work.
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I think you were right to decline him in the beginning. And i see that you weren't interested the second time, but that was crucial. Because being rejected twice is a blow to a guy's ego and clearly means you don't like him. I think you just liked the idea of having him as an option? You know? And then you see him in a new light. But it doesn't really mean you like him. I know what you're feeling, it's happened to me a million times. But trust me, it's not for real. It'll go away really quickly and you'll be happy you didn't waste your time because you guys were probably going to go nowhere if sparks didn't fly in the beginning.
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I understand what you're saying. I think you're jealous because he moved on from you to someone else so fast. simple as that. I don't think he's gonna stop flirting with you considering he asked you out and didn't give up before.
Try being friends with him. Get to know him because once he realizes that he knows you better and you know him better he'll try asking you out again. And maybe he likes you more than his girlfriend. You never know. She might be his rebound.
I hope this helped in any way.
Good Luck!
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Honestly? It just seems like the guy is a flirt and wants attention. I mean, he has a girlfriend but he still flirts...that doesn't show too much about him.
You should get to know him, but try to avoid the emotions that make you like like him.
You get a feeling of attraction towards him when he flirts and makes you feel wanted, I know this because it's happened to me as well.
Hang out with him, but let him know that you want to know him and you're not looking for a relationship with him.
If you did date him, he would most probably still flirt with other girls...since he's been flirting now whilst he has a girlfriend. Dating him wouldn't change much. You'd be better off knowing him really well...then considering a relationship.
Good luck!
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Maybe you should try and talk to him. Your not even positive if it's his girlfriend. Ask him for his number tell him you want to talk to him and get to know him. Tell him that your crushing on him but you want to get to know his personality more.
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I believe you now feel jalousie because of that new girl that may or may not be his girlfriend. Sometimes i feel like i missed out on something kind of in this way but i believe you did make the right discussion at the time if you don't know the guy why date him? But since you got to know him, what do you think? do you think you would be happy with him? and he with you? or do you only like him because he is dating this new girl and not you? Don't care about what your friends think about any guy you date cause if you let your friends start telling you who you can and can't date you might miss out on some really nice guys. You said last night you kind of thought you liked him, did you feel this way after you saw the girl or before? There is a very good reason for that question because if it is after than i would say your jalousie is making you want him. if it was before than i would say that you have to decide if you like him enough to ask him out when he and this girl are history. Take into consideration before you date him,if you choose, that you may not get to see him as much as you would someone else that could be a real side changer on the matter. need any other help, i am always here.
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I believe you now feel jalousie because of that new girl that may or may not be his girlfriend. Sometimes i feel like i missed out on something kind of in this way but i believe you did make the right discussion at the time if you don't know the guy why date him? But since you got to know him, what do you think? do you think you would be happy with him? and he with you? or do you only like him because he is dating this new girl and not you? Don't care about what your friends think about any guy you date cause if you let your friends start telling you who you can and can't date you might miss out on some really nice guys. You said last night you kind of thought you liked him, did you feel this way after you saw the girl or before? There is a very good reason for that question because if it is after than i would say your jalousie is making you want him. if it was before than i would say that you have to decide if you like him enough to ask him out when he and this girl are history. Take into consideration before you date him,if you choose, that you may not get to see him as much as you would someone else that could be a real side changer on the matter. need any other help, i am always here.
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Saying "NO" to him don't feel bad about that. If you don't know a guy it's hard to just trust him and accept his offer, just like that.
Second of all, if he has a girlfriend now that has nothing to do with you. I mean you didn't know him back then and that's why you didn't take him on his offer.
Why is he such a great guy??
Sometimes we tend to like someone when that person isn't reachable. That's why I feel that maybey you aren't really atracted to him you just like the attention you get from him, we all like attention. We love to be chased and admired and when we loose this affection we feel bad. So you might not even like him, it might be only the attention you get that you like.
Think about this question and see what answers you come up with. I'm here to help you out some more if you like............
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Gurl I'm in the same situation right now...right now I'm handling it the best way I can but what I think you should do is get to know him first before you start saying you made a mistake because there may be something you might not like about this guy in the long run...so just get to know him and if your feelings are still mutual just tell him how u feel and see if he'll let yall start over and give u another chance...Im sure everything will work out for the best!
Good luck!
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