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am i overthinking this?
hiiiiii everyone :)
well im 18 years old, female.
i have a good friend, well pretty much my best friend and his name is ben. i've known him for about four years now, and i've always always had a thing for him but he use to have a girlfriend so i kept those feelings to myself and well, they never did go away. just about 6 months ago ben tried to get with me, and it pretty much came out of nowhere, i was stunned. he didn't have a girlfriend, but he was trying to get down my pants and everything. i'm still a virgin, never really done anything past kissing, making out and getting felt up so obviously my reaction to him was "no!" i've also never had a boyfriend before, it's like when i really like someone and i find out they like me too, i push myself away from them. maybe i am scared of getting into a relationship, but i don't like it at all. well just a few weeks ago ben was at my house, and well he kissed me. this boy, he turns me on alot and i know he wants to finger me but i am scared. i always feel like guys only want to use me but i've known him for 4 years, and it's not like he has always just tried to get with me. i'm so comfortable with him, i tell him alot of my problems and he does help me out. has anyone else ever felt the resistance to do something with a guy because you always feel like your going to get used? i can't live like this forver, i have to take chances ya know? maybe it is because i've never been in a relationship, and it's why i feel like this but i just need a second opinion on what you think is going on, should i trust him? do you think he is just trying to use me?
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As a matter of fact, I've been through what you have. I had this bestfriend who I've known for over 10 years. Well not too long ago, he asked me to have sex with him, and i figured he was joking around seeing as he does that a lot. Turns out he wasnt. Then he just wanted to fool around ya know, do whatever but sex until i was comfortable. Im comfortable around him more than anyone in this world, but i was scared. I wanted to fool around with him so bad, like i wanted him more and more every time we would talk about doing something. He turned me on like no other, and i loved it. We never ended up doing anything though we had ample opportunity to do so. And to be honest i regret it so much. I felt used because now him and i arent the best of friends and i still want him so badd.
But I don't think he's using you, chances are he knows you have some sort of feelings towards him. And i think you can trust him, and i say go for it. Seriously, you probably wont regret it, rather than not doing it and regretting it as i do.
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You are absolutely not overthinking this..........
I mean we aren't talking about just anything here we are talking about your body and something very special. I say you DON"T do it. I mean you both are very good friends but just that. I would agree if you were dating and in something serious but this just seems more like a fling.
I mean why would he ask you that ? knowing you two are the best of friends? Did he ask it maybey because he knows you have feelings for him......
I would suggest you think this through. Yes, we should take chances at times but this isn't just anything this is more personal and you will regret doing this and then asking yourself WHY did I take this chance with someone I didn't even date...............
I am here to help you in any way I can & wish you the best........
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