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my friend rob posted a bulliten on myspace saying that he was suicidal again. and he said that he had a knife and a lighter in his bedroom and he wasnt afraid to use them, he also said that meybe he'd add a rope in to and that he wasnt afraid to kill himself. should i tell someone? if i do, who do i tell? will he hate me? should i talk to him first?
he's a good friend of mine. i dont wanr him to die. please help me.
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I know this has been posted a few days ago--so too late to take immediate action. I hope it worked out okay.
However, this information may be able to help others.
It is not logical or practical to ask you to evaluate your friend at this moment to determine if he really WILL commit suicide. How crazy is that? I was upset to see those answers. You were/are obviously concerned and there is evidence that Rob is considering taking his life.
What should have been done is an annoymous call made to the police. The police would most likely intervene and transport him to a professional.
The myspace profile is public so anyone could have done this--he'd never know it was you. Even so it's better that he is mad and still alive than dead. It is also obvious that Rob is asking for help. But the help that should be given is professional help. Oh my gosh I can only imagine how terrible you would feel if you came to the wrong conclusion.
All suicide threats should ALWAYS be taken seriously. Let the professionals decide what the amount of risk is in the suicidal person.
Friend's should not be put in that position.
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Firstly, you need to decide how serious this is. Has he attempted suicide before or hurt himself purposely? If so, go with the first option.
First option - This is a cry for help. By posting it on Myspace he seems to be looking for attention but it may be more serious than you`d think. If you feel he may actually attempt to hurt or kill himself, you NEED to tell a trusted adult immediately. You have many options ranging from your parents or guardians, his parents or guardians, teachers, counselors - they will know what to do. If you feel that he may be mad at you for telling, ask the adult to keep it a secret that you were the one to tell them about his behaviour. If he finds out it was you he may lash out and be mad at first. After time he may realize you saved his life and forgive you (not that it is wrong to tell someone!).
Second option - If you believe he is doing this for attention and you have some time and energy to spare, give him attention. Hang out with him whenever possible and make him feel good about himself and his life. Maybe all he needs is a little encouragement to become happier. Remind him of his talents and best qualities. Is he funny? Laugh at his jokes. Does he make you smile? Tell him. Is he reliable or trust worthy? Let him know you appreciate how good of a friend he is. These are just examples, you know Rob since you`re his friend so you`ll know what is appropriate to say to him.
Finally, do not let this place too much stress on you. There is a fine line between being a good friend and being a crutch. If you feel that his situation is putting pressure on you, tell an adult right away. If you need any more advice feel free to ask me! You`re being a very responsible and kind friend by wanting to help him. :)
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That's the problem with the internet - you never know if people are being 100% serious, or just angry and need a way to vent.
This is his way of obviously crying out for help.
Try to be there for him by calling him or visiting him. Let him know there are ways around everything and whatever he is feeling right now will pass with a bit of time and perseverance. He is definitely not alone.
If he fails to respond to you or you can tell he really is in a bad way, you need to tell an adult.
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There's a 90% chance he is not serious. If he were serious, he would not advertise it in a Myspace bulletin. It's more likely a way of gaining attention. Threatening suicide is an easy way of getting tons of response, varying from "no don't do it I love you" to "you mean too much to me" to "can I videotape it, dumbass?"
Suicidal thoughts are serious and too many people make light of them. Unfortunately, it's tough to discern the attention seekers from the seriously disturbed. My advice is to talk to him about it, face to face, in a serious discussion. Instead of asking if he'll do it, ask him WHY he'll do it. In most cases of teenage suicide, there are a multitude of reasons building up to it, and an event of sorts that becomes the climax to break the camel's back. If he's a middle class only child spoiled brat whose daddy works too often and doesn't hug him enough, fuck him. He doesn't have real problems, he just wants the response.
In the off chance he IS serious, and believes he has qualifying reasons for the act, it's up to you and everyone who cares about him to be the intervention; the reason he decides to keep on keepin on through it all.
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I don't have any knowledge when it comes to suicide, other than that you need to contact a trusted adult. Tell your parents, his parents, your counselor, the principal, a teacher, or someone. Just let someone know, because he could be finding a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
--Jack
(17/m)
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Honestly you need to say something, find him in person, and talk to him about whatever he is going through. Also you may want to talk to a guidance counselor at school, that way if more than one person talks to him people can get through to him. If you reach a hand out to him, my guess, is that he needs help and will take it.
Also, if you know someting is going on, and you do not do anything about it, you are only helping it happen again. Please talk to someone and him, b/c you just might save a life.
One thing I learned if you stand for nothing, youll fall for anything, so stand for him, stand up against his suicidal thoughts, and pull him out of this. Your his friend, being a friend is a powerful job with a very rewarding experience. Protect him by being there for him.
Good luck with everything, let me know if you need anything else :)
<3 Jeannie
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Go see him as soon as possible if his parents are home tell them or school counsler if he is going to od it right away call the police. but it also sounds like he could be looking for attention but take it seriously. maybe he wants to see whom cares
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Go see him in person as soon as possible. Not a call a mean go see him in the flesh. See haw bad the damage really is. If it is bad then get him help tell a consuler and give them all the info on him. His name age adress. Yes he will hate you. He'll say it wasn't your business exetra. But think about it he's the one who made it super obvious. He put it on the internet. He probley just wants attention. If not then do what I said asap. I mean he will hate you but after he see's what he's been doing and saying he will probley thank you for saving him. Be brave and be strong. Easier said then done I know but I believe in you!!
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