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some friend..?
18/f
so i use to be close to this girl. but we went to different schools and we just...stopped talking for awhile. well then we hung out every now and then and then stopped talking again and lately she was asking what i was doing because she wanted to get together, and i was always busy. so last night i texted her and was like, what are you doing tomorrow night? we should go to dinner and she was like yeah!! and so then tonight i met up with her at a restaurant and we were catching up on everything, and i was like oh you got a new phone and she was like ya! here look, and she gave it to me. well i was looking at everything and i went to her texts and i saw that she was like talking about me to another friend (i use to talk to her too) and she was texting her about how i asked her to go to dinner out of no where, and how it's all awkward and the girl was like ask her about college and she was like well then what!! and she was like it's just awkward. i didn't think it was awkward at all and so when i saw that i was like wow i feel stupid now. she is talking about me to someone else, saying how it was random how i asked to go to dinner, and how it's all awkward (but it really wasn't?) and i told her like everything that was going on in my life, all my problems and everything i've been going through and now i was like okay..sweet. guess i can't trust anyone anymore? i just wanted to leave after that because i felt so stupid. i don't know what to do. am i stupid for feeling so dumb about this?
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You are not stupid for feeling dumb about it. I know I would too. maybe she didn't mean it in a bad way. Maybe she was surprised because you usually can't hang out because you are so busy. Maybe her friend asked her what she was doing that night, so she told her that she was gonna be with you, and then the friend would have been like, oh cool, and then you friend said, yeah, but its weird because it is so random, but not really. This could be the positive way of looking at it. The other thing that could have happened is that she could have been talking about how she was gonna chil and how it was weird because it was random...but i think you should talk to her and bring it up. Tell her that was fun catching up on everything, and just tell her what you saw, and how you didn't understand what she was meaning. Like you want to know why she said that. That is a quick way to solve the whole issue, then you can just easily decide wether or not you can trust anyone. i hope this helped.gd luck :D
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No, you aren't wrong for feeling that way. It's normal. I wouldn't take it personal though. Girls are like that all the time. They get worked up over stuff. I'm sure it was nothing in her terms. Maybe you could ask her, "Did you think last night was awkward at dinner?" Then tell her how you felt. You don't nesceraily have to tell her you saw her texts. Hope this helps!
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I wouldn't say that just yet...
I'm guilty of what that girl did, to be honest, except the guy didn't find out about it. I would text my friends about a guy I liked saying he was weird and that he was obsessive about me just because I didn't want to admit I liked him... and I didn't want anyone to think I liked him, even though I liked him tons, ended up dating him, and basically fell in love with him. So, it could be possible that the girl just wanted to draw attention to herself, and so she made up stuff about how it was going. I mean, it's definitely more entertaining for friends to talk about awkward boys than normal ones. Chill out, if everything seemed to be going fine, then I'm sure you guys were fine.
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Please don't feel bad................
You were trying your best to work this relationship with her again but if she wasn't up for it, then it's her lost.............
Sometimes we try to connect with people from our past and sometimes it doesn't work out........
Don't feel bad about your effort, but give yourself props............You tried and it was her lost not yours.........
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