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i need a friend.... someone help=(
prob. wrong categorie, idk..
15/f
basically, i hate myself.
i hate my life and everything about it therefor i hate myself.
i have absolutly NO real friends.
my family is so f**ked up its not even funny..
i mess up BAD with every nice, decent guy i meet, screw up every relationship i'm in..
my parents hate me, legit.
i dont wanna tell you my life story and all the reasons im like this.. and im not trying to be dramatic, i seriously do have a bad life. the only thing i can think good of about me is that i'm pretty. but it doesnt even matter because people dont think i'm pretty when they look at me, they think im a miserable, mental, bitch.
i dont mean to dump all this on you, but i clearly have some depression issues.. that have been diagnosed by my therapist.. and my mom 'doesnt believe in depression medicine' so i cant even take a friken prozac to make me happy. >:o
ive even tried turning to religion..
and i have no one to talk to..
idk what to do with myself anymore..
the other day i ran away from the school and went missing for 2 days.. clearly im going insane and need help. i have counceling.. doesnt work..
anyone know how i can make myself happy? im sick of being like this and crying 247.. someone be my friend..?
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Hi there i no how you feel im 25/f and in the same boat, i am suffering with depression at the present time and i had it before at your age!
The only thing you have to have is faith in yourself, i no its hard to do but im doing the same.
If you think you are pretty then you are gorgeous, in this day and age you have to show people what you think of yourself as they cant see it for themselves thanks to people like Paris Hilton!
With your mum not believing in medication is her opinion, cant you ask your doctor to keep it all patient doctor confidentiality? or just get it put it in another tub and tell your mum its birth control? (if you think it will help you)
you can talk to me whenever you wish my email is gemmalunn1984@hotmail.co.uk
i have cried all of the tears i can, i can not physically cry anymore, just try and smile show people who the real you is and try live life to the full! the only person who can really help you is you at the moment it will take time but just keep on working on it trust me it works.
keep your chin up babes x
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first of all i wish to say i am sorry that you are depressed and hate yourslef. that is an awful thing to say, if you havent told your therapist about you self image issues you need to because your feelings can get a lot worse than just disliking who you are. if your therapist wanted to perscribe you to medication he/she should be the one to talk to your parent about it because it is your mental heath they are dealing with. i would like to be your friend. my email is superbrie@yahoo.com
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my ex boyfriend of 8 months had depression.
he said i was and still am even after we broke up, the best person he's ever talked to about it.
feel free to inbox me and if you want my email i'd be more than happy to give it to you.
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this aint advice, but jeez i know what you mean. i sat on my roof (on the corner so no one could see me) for 32 hours till my mom found me and dragged me inside. parents just don't give a SHIT. plus peole either blank eye me or get in my way. why cant they just choose one and stick to it? but yeah. i hope you et a firend cos im in desperate need of one. let me know if you do. jammy369@msn.com
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There's been some good advice already given, just thought I'd chip in my two cents about medication.
Though the media may make it seem as if doctors who prescribe psychiatric medications for people under the age of 18 are whackjobs who are desperate for money from pharmaceutical companies, doctors generally will only prescribe these drugs if they think that the benefits outweigh the risks. If counseling hasn't done anything to alleviate your symptoms then perhaps your doctors are onto something.
That being said, you could also try seeing another therapist. Your therapist may be a good fit for some of his/her other clients, but we're all different people with different needs.
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Oh my, you do sound to be in a "depressed" state... now you can sit here waiting for advice from your therapists and your counselors or even me to be telling you all the great things about life, OR YOU CAN CHANGE. You can lead a horse to water but you cant make it drink.. i have to remind myself of that quote every so often as it pertains to human beings. Make goals, Set Goals.. do whatever you can to keep your life enjoyable. YOUR PARENTS/FAMILY should have nothing to do with making you feel negative about your own life. The way they decide to run their own lives is NONE OF YOUR FAULT, youre just a special dove stuck with the wrong family of crows ;)
And think of this, life can change ever so quickly.. in a blink of an eye.. EVERYTHING CAN CHANGE! and every minute youre depressed about your life you could spend doing something lovely. Something i found to make me feel great about myself is helping others. When i cant trust myself or be confident enough i always find ways to help others and that helps me feel content just the way i am. Your human.. you cant help but sometimes say "WHY AM I HERE?! WHY AM I STUCK IN THIS RUT?!" But dont.. dont ever think like that. There's children in poor countries that HAVE NO WATER to CLEAN themselves with, or even worse.. no clean water TO DRINK..
Also, knowledge is power.. it really is. Indulge yourself in a good book.. MAKE YOURSELF read it if youre not into books.. everyone can be if they are open minded.. read books and extend your knowledge.. join clubs.. and this will help you make friends. Try making ONE BEST FRIENd.. that's all you really need.. not 23 of them where you cant even tell one secret to.. but be best friends with yourself because in the end its YOU that makes all of YOUR choices...
And i MUST BRING THIS UP because in all honesty one factor that has helped me in life when i feel depressed at times is my religion. No, my religion is not Christianity or Hinduism,etc. But it is Islam.. i know many people think of Islam as terrorists and oppression.. ITS NOT..
It has saved me.. it has made me love again and care again.. it has made me a better person.. it has made me meet people that i will forever keep by my side.. its one thing that keeps me living, aside from family.
So i beg you, sad victim, whatever you choose to do to improve your life.. i hope it's good choice.. we only have one life to live.. live every moment like it's your last.. WAIT for the surprises in life.. WAIT FOR THEM.. when you feel like giving up.. know that there's hope.. ALWAYS IS THERE.. <3
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Hey there.
I can completely understand the feelings you are feeling right now. I was in the same exact situation my senior year of high school which was just last year. I basically lost ALL of my friends and had no one to turn to, and because of that - I fell further and further away from my parents, and it just felt like NO ONE understood how I felt.
You have to just think about the positive things about yourself and work from them. If you think you're pretty, other people must think you're pretty as well. It doesn't matter if you're miserable or a bitch, you can STILL be pretty either way!
The only thing that I can tell you is that you NEED to stay in counseling and you need to sort out your depression issues before anything. I know that you're 15, but the last thing you want is to be dealing with depression issues in a few years from now that COULD'VE and SHOULD BE dealt with ASAP, otherwise they will just add up and up and up.
You should get a journal or some sort of online diary thing that you and you only can get access to. Write in it every single day and talk about the bad feelings you have and write out how much you HATE your parents and how much they piss you off. Trust me, as stupid or silly as it sounds, it really works. When I went through my tough time, I wrote in a diary and it drastically helped, it makes me sad to look back at it and read the things I wrote because even though it was just a year ago, I feel completely better about my life and the people in it.
I understand why your mom may not want you to go on Prozac or any anti-depressent. For some people it can cause negative feelings and make you feel even worse then what you did before you took the pills. I know that you want to be on them, because you think it may help you. But, unless you have severe depression issues diagnosed by your therapist and your mom agrees to getting you the medication, then you won't be able to unfortunately. If it's something that your therapist feels is absolutely necessary, maybe you could get her to speak to your mom. Of course she can't make her allow you to take them, but if she hears it from a professional and let's her know that she'll keep an eye on you & make sure that you won't be affected negatively, she may feel a bit better about it.
Anyways, get a diary and start writing in it. Keep your therapist for as long as you possibly can. And, try to think positively about yourself. I know that it's hard to especially when you don't have a support system, like good friends and family around you. But, you're a great person I'm sure and you deserve to be happy, and to be happy you have to believe that you're happy.
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And, I'm always here to talk, my e-mail is arichardson2008@yahoo.com I would LOVE to be your friend!!
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