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childhood friend has turned rancid. like spoilt meat.
One of my best friends from my early childhood has recently become a rather rotten individual. Her home life has always been fragmented, and her mother is quite literally mad. This friend of mine has for the past couple of years been working on a modeling career and has honestly gotten nowhere, though she still insists that she is now and forever a model. She graduated early and left town to be with her dad, but not before she hooked up with a much older and rather "dirty" fellow here in town. With her dad, she hooked up and is "dating" a guy she met online whose description strikes me as more than a little creepy. Worst, she won't talk to me about it---hasn't mentioned ANY of this to me. Apparently, she worries that I will judge her. Mostly I'm just very hurt. She has also been treating all my other friends who she keeps contact with like scum and it bothers me. Now what?
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The 2 answers previous are very good advice. Sometimes people lose there way and and are searching for help but are embarrassed to admit they are wrong. Confronting her is a bad idea. Letting her know you will always be there may be just the thing she is missing from her parents.
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She does sound a bit rancid. But as you said, she had a fragmented home life and that's probably spilling out into her social life. You should definitely tell her how you feel. Let her know that she can be comfortable with you and that you're not going to judge her. She sounds like she's just lost her way a bit.
It is annoying that she insists that she's a model when she hasn't gotten anywhere, but it's probably one of her big dreams. Just try to be as supportive as possible.
When you talk to her, you should also let her know that it's hurting your feelings that she's not coming to you with things. Tell her that you don't understand why she's treating you differently and not telling you what's going on with her.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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Really, she does sound pretty rotten.
Tell her how you exactly feel, tell her that all those memories you two shared from childhood are important to you, and express the happy memories you two shared. If she doesnt seem to change, or seem to care that you show graditude towards her.. forget her.. at least for now.
Wait for her to come to you. Be that friend that will catch her when she falls hard.. and she will never forget you.. but for now if she does not change.. i wouldnt even bother trying to tell her that im not judgemental
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