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Failing communication and broken trust
I've been getting along with my parents. Well, at least before i started to have my own ideas and plans. We think differently;we have different points of view, priorities, which often leads to disappointments and argumenments. On the other hand, my older sister is a goodie goodie that never has a problem with my moms plans. I know that my mom favours her more and I think I know why, but yet I really want to change the relationship for the better. Its getting tough to talk to her now, and lately, shes been losing trust in me too. I mean, I am only 13. How can I live with that for the rest of my life if this stays like this?
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We are all unique individuals with our own thinking and ideas, and it's not easy to get others to agree with us unless they do think and act like us. At the age of 13, you are at the path finding to know who you are. I insist that it is important for you to continue thinking and acting on your own as this will bring wonders and happiness to yourself in the future. Please make sure you are on the right path though.
As for your parents, they'll never stop setting expectations and worry over you. It's what they do and I can imagine myself facing the same thing again and again over my past years even now. By knowing yourself better, how you think and act, you can share to them and also understand from their perspectives. This is call teamwork, yes even in a family setting. I'm sure they'll be proud of you one day, provided you don't go against them just for the sake of snapping or competition. It took me years to get through to my mother with or without my father around, and I couldn't remember whence I was her favorite.
For your goodie goodie older sister, just ignore her. The more you focus on her and the so-call favorism even if it's real, the more you hate yourself and your parents. And the further you'll sway away from them. Don't compare and please love your family as they are. You have the inner strength in you to do that. I am sure you can!
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Well it isn't going to stay like this. I went through the same thing ten years ago. Your first problem is that you think your mom is playing favorites. It may seem that way but it isn't. Try writing your mom letters, or going along with her plans some times. I know your 13 and you have your own life but you have many years to come. She is just trying to keep you out of harms way.
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Good evaluation you wrote on here of yourself.. now what you wrote, or similar to what you wrote, go and tell your mom/dad that you feel this way.. I guarantee you your mom will change her point of view on you and see that you do have responsibility of seeing how your priorities/ideas affect with hers.
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