I've been getting along with my parents. Well, at least before i started to have my own ideas and plans. We think differently;we have different points of view, priorities, which often leads to disappointments and argumenments. On the other hand, my older sister is a goodie goodie that never has a problem with my moms plans. I know that my mom favours her more and I think I know why, but yet I really want to change the relationship for the better. Its getting tough to talk to her now, and lately, shes been losing trust in me too. I mean, I am only 13. How can I live with that for the rest of my life if this stays like this?
We are all unique individuals with our own thinking and ideas, and it's not easy to get others to agree with us unless they do think and act like us. At the age of 13, you are at the path finding to know who you are. I insist that it is important for you to continue thinking and acting on your own as this will bring wonders and happiness to yourself in the future. Please make sure you are on the right path though.
As for your parents, they'll never stop setting expectations and worry over you. It's what they do and I can imagine myself facing the same thing again and again over my past years even now. By knowing yourself better, how you think and act, you can share to them and also understand from their perspectives. This is call teamwork, yes even in a family setting. I'm sure they'll be proud of you one day, provided you don't go against them just for the sake of snapping or competition. It took me years to get through to my mother with or without my father around, and I couldn't remember whence I was her favorite.
For your goodie goodie older sister, just ignore her. The more you focus on her and the so-call favorism even if it's real, the more you hate yourself and your parents. And the further you'll sway away from them. Don't compare and please love your family as they are. You have the inner strength in you to do that. I am sure you can!
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Im 18/f almost 19. and my boyfriend is 22/m. I dont know why but lately i've really wanted to have a baby. I've talked to my boyfriend about it and he said he wants one to just not now. Maybe like in 2 years or so he suggested. We've been together for almost a year, and are really in love. Is it normal to want a baby this bad? I'm on birth control, and my boyfriend when we have sex he cums in me. I know birth control isnt 100% effective but is it normal to sometimes secretly wish you were part of that .1% that get pregnant? I know babies are alot of responsibility and money and such. I dont need that lecture. Can somebody please just give me some advice? Thanks alot!
Have you plan out your goals with your boyfriend? When to build your home? To get married? To have a kid? If one of you are career-focus, then which do you want to focus on now?
I am building my own home too, and we have a lot of arguments even though we have the same goals yet different expectations.
Please find out why you want a baby so much, and I strongly encourage you to talk to him. Sometimes intimacy could mislead you by giving you the feeling of wanting a baby, but it is actually the hope of a home, the sense of security.
Try start with the first stage. Build some goals together. Good luck!
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