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i want a baby
Im 18/f almost 19. and my boyfriend is 22/m. I dont know why but lately i've really wanted to have a baby. I've talked to my boyfriend about it and he said he wants one to just not now. Maybe like in 2 years or so he suggested. We've been together for almost a year, and are really in love. Is it normal to want a baby this bad? I'm on birth control, and my boyfriend when we have sex he cums in me. I know birth control isnt 100% effective but is it normal to sometimes secretly wish you were part of that .1% that get pregnant? I know babies are alot of responsibility and money and such. I dont need that lecture. Can somebody please just give me some advice? Thanks alot!
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Have you plan out your goals with your boyfriend? When to build your home? To get married? To have a kid? If one of you are career-focus, then which do you want to focus on now?
I am building my own home too, and we have a lot of arguments even though we have the same goals yet different expectations.
Please find out why you want a baby so much, and I strongly encourage you to talk to him. Sometimes intimacy could mislead you by giving you the feeling of wanting a baby, but it is actually the hope of a home, the sense of security.
Try start with the first stage. Build some goals together. Good luck!
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I honestly think you're a little young to be getting pregnant. It's normal to want children, but I don't find it normal that you would hope your birth control fails.
If you're looking for someone to love you, stick with your boyfriend & your family. While babies do provide love, they need a lot of love back & they are a lot of work. Babies cannot fix problems within a relationship (even if you don't think your relationship is problematic) and they should not be used as a band-aid.
I think you should wait a while before you decide to reproduce. Graduate from high-school, get a job & move out on your own. Once you can handle working full time & getting an education & paying for your own things, then you can consider having a baby, but until then I think you should just enjoy your life. Babies can give a lot to you, but they can also take a lot away. Enjoy yourself first. There's no need to be in a rush to grow up. :)
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what you have is called the "baby bug". i had it once when i was 15, and i even have it now. (im 16) but its reaaaaally hard to get pregnant from .1%. and yeah, its totally normal to want to have a child. someone who will love you unconditionally, someone you can love and take care of. and something that you can have a 9 month bond with, and it just makes you realize the miracle of life. something can actually grow inside of you! it all seems so fun. and after the first few weeks, it really is!
you're not too young to get pregnant. to me, 18 is the perfect age. your boyfriend wants to wait a few years? thats fine. hold him to it. men tend to "forget" the promises they make to women. maybe try to convince him to make it an earlier promise. i think why he doesnt want to have one now is because you guys are young. he wants to live out the last years of his young life. he wants to have fun. and he knows that when your pregnant, you cant have fun with him. just hold him to the "few years" thing, and it should eventually kick in that you're serious about this.
i hope it all works out! take care :)
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