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I really want highlights before I go on a trip to meet relatives I haven't seen in some cases 5 to 10 years. However we just had a child and I don't have the money to get them professionally done. Can I successfully give myself highlights? Is there a way to give yourself natural highlights without dying all of your hair?
I have medium brown hair that has some natural gold and auburn highlights. I just want to bring out my natural highlights and maybe enhance them a little. Something that looks nice and classy not drastic.
Some hairstylists try to give themselves hightlights, and even though we know what we are doing, we should not do it !! :)
But, with that being said, in your current situation, and we've all been there, you will need to do an all over. Go to whatever drug or department store you go to, buy an all-n-1(COLOR +HIGHLIGHT) box, get it as close to your natural color as possible, and get a friend to help you use the comb that will be in the package to help you when it comes to the highlight stage. Tell whoever is helping to make sure she uses the comb in the same place on both sides of the top of your head, otherwise it will look messy and unprofessisonal, even if you don't wear it straight it just wont mesh. She/he can have more freedom with the highlights as you go away from the scalp. If you do it yourself....one word, mirrors, mirrors, mirrors !!!!!!!!!
Good Luck, Girl. Be sure and send me a pic. at crazystylist@windstream.net to let me know how it turned out !
So is it true? does cold water make hair shiny? If it does could you tell me why?
Rinsing with cold water will close & smoothen the cuticle making it look shiny.
Im 18/female and im always geting mad when i see my man talking to other females he has never given me a reason for him to cheat and he keeps telling me he want every time i ask i dont know what to do i know he loves me but i just have a bad jelous problems and i dont know how to change it What do i do to stop being jelous!
I know that it's hard when you have those kind of internal feelings. However, just try to relax. If the situation is appropriate, go on up, introduce yourself and join in on the conversation, you may even like her :)
If you don't feel comfortable doing that, then just start talking to one of your friends.
And try to remember not to badger him when he gets back to you with questions like,"Who was that?", "Why were you talking to her for so long?"
Nothing makes a man more creeped out then feeling like he has to reassure his girlfrined all of the time ! He chose you for a reason :)
Good Luck !!
a guy asked me if i wanted to try smoking with him and i said sure because i like him a lot. and so we were walking to his brother's apartement and he started making out with me really randomly,,he was going a little too far and i told him to stop. he got really mad and started yelling and then he walked away. wht am i supposed to do, i dont want to ruin our friendship!!!
He ruined your "friendship" already for encourging you to do something that you really didn't want to by smoking, and then by trying to take advantage of you.
He should apologize, and you should keep your distance.
14-f
ok so last night i went to a party and i met this REALLY hot guy who is 17, after a while i drank a little bit too much and this morning he sent me a text saying that i was the best he ever had, need to do it again soon. and im pretty sure u know what im talking about when he said best i ever had, considering i woke up in his room...... what am i supposed to do????????????????????????? should i see him again??
If you want to see him again, go for it. Just know that he doesn't care if you are passed out or in a blackout. He probably prefers it.
Makes it easy for him.
So if being some boys easy mark is something you enjoy, sure... jump right on that.
Help ! I needdd to buy a cosmetology kitt for school and I can't seem to find it =( ! I need a kitt that brings every thing including a blow dryer curling iron brushes, capes , clips , straightner iron, scissors , mannican head, nail care -clippers files etc. I alreadyy tried google but nothingg that I am looking for comes up maybe for you it will ? Please and thank youuu
Try these links:
Cosmetology Kit
Kit
Student Kit
Those are just a few of the sites that I pulled up.
I'm guessing you're in high school?
You can always ask your instructor where the best deals are in your area.
If there is a Sally Beauty Supply in your area then you can buy a kit there.
You can do your own search, just try cosmetology student kit.
Good Luck to you!
15/f
how do i break up with my boyfriend if he never answers his phone OR calls me back? its a long distance relationship and thats our only way of communication. but i really need to break up with him. it IS NOT working out.
(hes my first bf)
UGH WHAT SHOULD I DOOO?
should i just forget about him and stop calling him? because i have guys coming at me left and right. so if something happens between me and a guy would that be considered cheating on him because i never actually said it was over cause he never answered!
help??
If your "boyfriend" doesn't even live in the same town and you don't see him, and he doesn't answear your phone calls or even call you, then I would say that you are already broken up.
Don't sweat it and see who you like.
My boyfriend and I are going to an ACDC concert next week. I don't really listen to their music that much but I'm still excited about it.
Now, this might sound really stupid, but I have no idea what to wear.
I've been to only one other concert in my life, but it was for Shania Twain and I was like 10..so, not exactly the same kind of situation.
I was wondering if any of you had some pointers as to what to wear to this concert, because I really have no idea what to expect.
Black. Wear a black top and some skin tight low rise, boot cut, blue jeans. A black belt with some silver on it. Either silver button holes or studs, something that really screams rock and roll chic.
Footwear, black no heel suade booties, or black boots with a low heel. Or even black sandles with no accents on them, just black and cool.
Silver hoop earrings.
A few silver bangles on your wrist, and maybe a black leather braclet or two. A leather or silver necklace that hangs between chest and belly button with a medium to large silver cross hanging from it.
Black eye-liner, and big lashes. Make your eyes smoky.
The general idea is to take 80's rock and roll and update it to suit your style.
AC/DC is all about the 80's style.
You are going to have a blast!
Enjoy.
No problem. I appreciate your feedback, but if you were going for your own personal style, then you should already know what to wear. Who knows what suits you but you?
Perhaps I misunderstood the question.
Maybe you just wanted to know what to wear to a concert, to any concert.
I thought you wanted to know what to wear to an 80's rock and roll concert.
Vague answears are NOT what I do.
In any case, reguardless of what you wear, it's great music and you will have fun.
Take Care.
Hey,
I am trying to get my boyfriend to come but his penis is just so small.
How do i pleasure him
I have a question too...
Why Bother?
I personally think that the "just so small men" in the world are responsible for the most evil.
At least where evil concerns women.
I wonder if Hitler was a "just so small man", I'm thinking..yes.
It wasn't so long ago that it was NOT okay for a woman to be known to have sex before marriage.
Why do you think that it is that men wanted to marry a virgin?
I, personally think that it was to give all men a fighting chance.
All Men are NOT created equal,
and they wanted to hide the fact.
They were hoping that we wouldn't notice the difference.
But we do.
So compensate.
You Basterds,
COMPENSATE.
Hello. Me and my boyfriend have been gonng out for just ab0out 2 yrs and i went of for college in the fall and came home for xmas and then we spent time togehter and we thought we would try soemthing new and we took our pants off and started to touch eachother with our privetes. and now im scared that i might be pregnant. he didnt cum or anything we just brushed up on eachother. i need help we are only on our first yr of college we really cant have a child now.
Wow, really?
You're in college and want to know if you can get pregant from rubbing your privates together?
Are you from South Carolina?
750 million sperm per, and it only takes one.
I'm 18/f in the US, in a long distance relationship with a guy from the UK. Haven't told my parents, and don't think they'd be very understanding, they're very uhm..old fashioned and strict people.
Anyway, my boyfriend and I want to share a journal, like he'll have it for a month than mail it here, and vice versa. Problem is, if my parents see mail to me from the UK with some guys name on it, they're gonna ask questions. Also, they'll have to drive me to the post office to mail it back, as I do not have a car.
Can anyone think of something I could tell them? I thought of saying I signed up on a penpal website, and this is my penpal. But, I don't know if they'll buy it. Any other suggestions, please help!!
I say give your parents a chance.
You are 18.
Your boyfriend is in the UK.
They may actually be happy.
And the whole journal idea is so romantic and innocent.
I would sit the parents down and have an adult conversation with them.
They may suprise you.
And if not, at 18 you are an adult and can mail whomever you choose.
i am an 18 year old girl who has always had issues with confidence and self esteem. ever since i was a little kid all i did was draw. i guess the only thing ive always consistently done and been good at it is art. and now im going to school in new york for design. ive moved from los angeles to chicago, so this new city doesnt really scare me, but i feel like now that im anticipating these changes i should try and tackle the real issues about my personality.
im really easily manipulated by people in countless different ways. they always come over to my house because i let them even if i dont want to. they hustle me for money and drugs. (i do the same drugs). these people are my friends, and all of us do the same things to each other, but i feel like everyone takes advantage of my niceness and no one listens to me or takes me seriously. i feel like i have a lot to offer to people (and guys), but no on ever takes the time to see it.
ive been told that my independence scares guys and people in general. i get told i dress well and that i'm pretty, but no one even looks at me. i feel invisible most of the time. and awkward. there are some guys i would love to get to know better but dont know what moves to make without being too forceful. note, i am so terrified of rejection because all through elementary school people just called me ugly and a freak.
i need to learn to hustle hard and find my way. someone please help me use people to my advantage, and find another half.
Self-esteem is, simply, how good we feel about who we are.
However, the impact of self-esteem, or the lack of it, is quite complicated and far-reaching. Linda Tschirhart Sanford and Mary Ellen Donovan, authors of Women & Self-Esteem, a great book by the way, describe the impact of self-esteem in the following way: "Our level of self-esteem affects virtually everything we think, say, and do. It affects how we see the world and our place in it. It affects how others in the world see and treat us. It affects the choices we make -- choices about what we will do with our lives and with whom we will be involved. It affects our ability to both give and receive love. And, it affects our ability to take action to change things that need to be changed."
As you can see, accepting who we are helps develop a healthy self-esteem and can make a huge impact on how we live our lives. A person with a healthy self-esteem is aware of her potential, knows the many facets that make her unique, and values and respects herself. More importantly, however, she knows that her imperfections or inadequacies are not inherently bad; and, they do not become overwhelming to the point that they completely define her value as a person. She knows that no one's perfect -- it's human to have limitations and make mistakes.
Regardless of self-esteem status, I am certain that everyone doubts their own self-worth or value at one time or another during their lifetimes. It can become all too easy to compare ourselves to others. When this self-comparison is occasional, it can be beneficial. It can help us achieve goals and ideals that we admire and respect in other people. However, when self-comparison becomes more frequent, and even all-consuming; and, when we, in our own estimation, do not measure up to our perception of others, it can become self-destructive. The quality of our lives is severely limited.
Although it may not be easy, it's not impossible to feel better about yourself. I offer the following tips to help you boost your self-esteem:
Accept who you are -- your strengths and your weaknesses, your feelings and emotions. This doesn't mean we don't have to work on things.
Forgive yourself for mistakes, and, instead, see them as opportunities to learn and grow.
Take alone time, regularly, to read, play, garden, write... basically, to nurture yourself. Develop your talents and abilities.
Trust your thoughts and intuitions. Do what makes you feel happy and fulfilled.
Take pride in your achievements, big and small.
Set realistic goals for yourself.
Replace negative self-talk with positive, kind, loving statements. When something goes wrong, instead of blaming yourself, that you must have done something wrong or that there's something wrong with you, learn to accept that it may not have anything to do with you.
Don't depend on others to make you feel good. Know and reflect on who you are in the event of a rejection.
Exercise, eat right, and get plenty of sleep. Being exhausted and out of shape can leave you feeling more vulnerable to insecurity, anxiety, and self-dissatisfaction.
Surround yourself with positive, healthy people.
Get involved in projects which help other people or the environment: Habitat for Humanity, Literacy programs, Big Brothers/Big Sisters.
Seek counseling or self-help/support groups. You may find these very helpful and/or comforting.
Most importantly, make conscious, healthy choices. The "choice to choose" is the most important choice you will ever make. Make choices that leave you better rather than worse off. Make choices that synchronize your beliefs, values, and actions. Be honest.
Also, if you can't control comparing yourself to others, why not try comparing yourself with yourself, instead? Or, how about focusing on only the similarities with others? This shift in focus can help you realize that they have imperfections, too, just like everyone else, and that their flaws do not reflect your own self-worth or value as an individual.
Overall, this self-realization process (getting to know yourself better) may help you figure out what the real problems are behind your low self-esteem. I also hope you will take steps to find assistance through support groups or therapy. Take care, and be gentle with yourself.
Written by professionals from Columbia University's Health Q&A Internet Service.
Okay, that is the most relevant information I could find about self-esteem, that I agree with.
On one hand to me, you sound as if you really want to work on your issues. But on the other you ask for help in how to "USE PEOPLE TO YOUR ADVANTAGE"?
If you do not want people to USE you, then don't aspire to use them. It's not a good goal, and will end in you, again, being used. What goes around comes around, after all.
The whole drug influence I find disturbing.
I do understand that you are young, probably experimenting, and maybe drugs help you break out of your shell for a few hours.
But please keep in mind that while drugs can make you feel like you have lost your inhibitions, that while under the influence you can make choices that you will regret.
Leading to even more feelings of low self-esteem and negative self worth.
And as far as finding another half?
Even if you were to find someone right now, I fear that the feelings you have about yourself would make you needy in a relationship.
You would need constant reassurance from a partner, "Do you love me? Do you really love me? Why do you love me? Do you think I'm pretty? Do you think she's pretty? Do you think she's prettier?" ETC.
Work on yourself, learn to love yourself. Then you can be a self-assured partner in a relationship.
18 M
I work in an Italian restaurant as a waiter.
I have been working there for about 4 months or so.
My boss is a very vulgar, and rude man.
He constantly yells at all of the waiters and waitresses every night. Even when we do nothing wrong. When he makes a mistake, we are the ones who are wrong. Me being one of the only two male Waiters in this restaurant he feels comfortable saying very sexual things about women, and other stuff. Now I joke with my friends about different stuff sexual, what 18 year old boy doesnt. I am tired of the sexual harrasment and mental abuse that he dishes out everyday.
My question is, if i were to quit and want to take action in court, would i be able to?
And how would i go about it?
When I was younger I worked as a server in a lot of restaurants. It's a high stress occupation.
Chances are that your boss works in the kitchen?
Every cook, chef and manager in every restaurant that I have ever experienced always blames waitstaff for everything.( They work in a kitchen, they're hot, sweaty, and more than likely in the weeds.)
Servers are the only people that the kitchen deal with, they aren't going to go out on the floor and take their frustrations out on the customers....
And the customers have no idea what is going on in the back of the house. They blame servers for everything as well.
In their mind the server is responsible for everything. Servers represent every aspect of a restaurant.
You just need to grow a thick skin, don't take anything too personally.
There's a movie about working in restaurants called 'Waiting'. Check it out, it's very funny.
Also a website I use to love to go to when I worked in restaurants is Bitterwaitres.com.
Alot of funny stuff there too.
And sexuall harassment?
If your boss were telling you everyday, how you really "fill" out your uniform, or if he made you feel pressured to do something sexual to or with him, or someone else...then maybe.
But as it is , he just sounds like a person without a lot of taste.
Let's save sexual harassment for people who really need it,so as not to diminish it's meaning.
nice answer on that 15/f chick. loved the stripper comment. that little harpy's got a mouth on her. anyways, yeah. that was awesome.
-gunner
Thank you.
I know she's young and I was a little harsh, but, you have to grow up sometime. Hopefully without her knowing, she grew up a little and realized that you can't go through life abusing people, taking them for granted and then wondering why they don't want anything to do you...lol.
Thanks again.
15/f
this is a VERY long story, but im gonna try to lay this out as short as possible and please, im desperate here, you have NO clue what i've been through these past few months, and i need all the help i can get..
last year i met a REALLY sensative guy. he was 16, about to be 17, and i was 14.. he was soooo shy, hes VERY insecure. when we first started dating, all he said to me was how i saved him and pulled him out of his misery because he has had no luck with relationships and was treated like shit by girls his whole life. hes not even that cute and popular, and i have a waaay higher social status in my grade/ school then he does in his grade.. but ive been known to have wierd taste and i can look beyond looks and things like that very easily. i think when we first started dating him i was just excited over the fact that he had a car and he was a junior and i was only a freshmen.. but i actually did end up falling in love with him. and he was COMPLETELY in love with me. we lost our virginities to eachother and ill tell you, im smart, and not at all a bit naiive.. i knew this kid loved me. & we did NOT have a sex based relationship whatsoever.. we became eachothers best friends. both of us lost all of our other friends because we were only with eachother 24-7. he called my mom 'mom' and i did the same with his mom.. we were incredibly close.. and sense he was older, i felt so comftorbal and secure with him, and i went to him with all my problems, and he would help me.. ive been suffering from depression for years and me and my mother never had a good relationship, and my father left me, and i was molested as a baby.. but when i was with him, he made me feel so comftorbal. we told eachother EVERYTHING. and i was postive he was there to stay. he promised me forever every single day. we dated for a year. i messed it up, biggest mistake of my entire life.. he started getting very annoying and up my ass. you know when youre in a bad mood and you just want to be left alone? well he would never leave me alone. he'd be like 'its okay babe i love you' bla bla. all mushy, when i just want to be mad!. i tried talking to him about this many times and all he could say was im sorry i just love you soooo much i cant help it.. all my friends called him whipped cream and everything.. it was BAD. but anyways, one night i was out with my friends the day before a cheer competition, and my ex was there.. and somewhere along the lines, we kissed.. my boyfriends friend was there and told him that if i didnt tell him, he was going to.. i knew he wasnt going to break up with me or anything.. so i told him.. but the thing is.. i think i was looking for a fight with him because our relationship was so boring. when i told him, it pissed me off how he was crying instead of being mad, yelling at me. so i started saying things to make him mad.. i said TERRIBLE things. like i was gonna keep cheating on him because he basically lets me, and how i know i take advantage of him because he trusts me so much but i shouldnt.. and he was like well maybe i have to break up with you then.. and he was like i really dont want to. and i was like fine just do it idont care! yelling at him and stuff.. and then he did. i was thinking we would get back together in a couple weeks.. so after we broke up, we still talked because we obv. still loved eachother and everything. we acted like we were going out, and we even 'hooked up' a few times.. but when he asked me back out, i kept saying no, i wasnt ready.. because the relationship was SOOO akward after we broke up.. he was acting so different. and i knew why. it was because i broke his heart. and i did, bad. so one day after we hooked up, my friend told me that her brother saw my 'boyfriend, x-boyfriend, whatever u wanna call him' at a store.. and he was saying how he was done with me and he was trying to get with this new girl 'leesh'.. i was FURIOUS. i called him up screaming at him asking for all my stuff back and it was over for good and everything. but really, i wanted an appology from him, not my stuff back. btw, i was very remorsful for cheating on him and saying what i said to him, i mustve appologized a million times.. but he didnt say anything, he justgave me all my stuff back and acted like it was nothing.. and then i kept trying to get him back, but he kept rejecting me. i was litterally down on my knees for this kid. until one day i found out he had a girlfriend. not just some girl.. the girl who dates ALL the boys that i date after me.. but thats a whole nother story.. anyways, i was devistated. i couldnt eat, i couldnt talk, i couldnt sleep, i couldnt go to school,, nothing. all i did was cry and cry and cry and cry. i tried talking to him seeing if we could be friends and stuff, but he hates me now. if i send him one text, he shuts his phone off. he goes all different ways in the halls so i dont have to see him in school, he wont even look my way. he saw me practically drown in my own tears and he didnt even care. i wrote him long long letters, i tried everything i could just to be able to talk to him when i need to, so i wouldnt be so hurt about the situation.. now, i have two weeks left of school and im failing 4 classes.. and im an honors student. i DONT fail. its not me. and im grounded because of it, so i cant even go out and try to forget it. its been sense thhe end of february... and still,all i can think about is killing myself.. people say they are heart broken.. but this gives heart broken a new definition. there is litterally a hole in my chest. and i keep getting maaaassive anxiety attacks in class, and i do go to counceling wich is sort of helpful but we mostly talk about my parents.. three days ago, she broke up with him. and he was very upset from what i heard.. he hasnt tried talking to me or anything but i dont know what to do, i want to talk to him but he'll just ignore me.. i love this kid and care about him with my life. today i thought i was going to DIE. it was the last day of school for the seniors. the last time ill EVER see him again. the last time ill ever get to look for him i the halls so i can walk by him.. that was the only time i ever got to see him, and today was my last day. and when i walked by him for the very last time of my life today, he didnt even look at me. it was so painful. he couldnt even have the heart to say bye to me considering im his first love and helll never see me again. i havent been able to stop crying sense i last saw him. i dont even know what to do with my life any more. someone PLEEEEEASE tell me what to do to get him back. ANNYTHING. I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP. we had such a good relationship till i cheated and we Never ever had one fight. but you dont even understand. this kid wouldnt even look at any other girls, deleted all the girls in his phone book, couldnt go an hour without texting me just saying he loved me, couldnt go a day withouth seeing me, brought me flowers randomly, did EVERYTHING for me. how can you love someone so much and go through everything we've been through together, and then just completely shut them out of your life?
Your drama is so long and self indulgent that I only read half.
Leave this boy alone.
You are some animalistic being feeding off of good people. You need to be in a cage.
This "kid" loved you, and you couldn't have cared less, until he didn't. And you think he is some kind of whimp who will love you til' the end?
You, my dear, are dellusional.
He is Bill Gates, and you, well, you are a stripper at the nudie club by the airport, that nobody remembers but freaks.
Get over yourself. You think someone is lucky to be with you?
Why?
You think he had no life before you?
Now you want him back so you can make his life hell again?
He saw what a game playin' girl you are, and wake up sweetheart...he's NOT in love with you anymore.
HAHA.
I wish I knew his number to warn him that you may be jumping out of the bushes.
Bla, blah bla blah
On a more serious note:
If you can ever find someone who loves you like that again,
don't SCREW it up.
HaHa at your feedback. Truth is hard to take, huh?
You have the mouth of a stripper too, you'll fit right in at that nudie club by the airport in AnyTown, USA.
And hey, good news, you don't need to know how to spell to work there either, so you're good ! :)
um i was wondering,well i have two questions my straightening iron is an andis 1 inch and i noticed that there is brown redish buildup on my iron can you give me some tips on how to get it off,using houseold stuff not like oils, scrapers, or rubbing alchohal somethin simple.
The build up you see is the hair product you use.
I don't know about household products.
But the best way to remove this build up from straighting and curling irons, that I have found, is to go to your local beauty store. There's one in every town that sells wigs and extensions.
Buy a cream relaxer, doesn't cost alot.
Heat your curling iron, to a medium heat, get a soft cloth and dip the cloth into the relaxer, get a small amount on the cloth, then smoothly apply to the iron surface in a back and forth motion.
You will literally see the buildup dissolve.
When all of the build up is gone, unplug the iron and let cool.
After it has cooled completely, wipe it with a water damp, warm, and very soft cloth.
May not be the simplest way, but the best I know of.
PS:
Washing any electrical applicance, in a sink , with soap and water, even if unplugged is ill advised...and straight up retarded !
I have very healthy but fine hair. When I was younger and bleached my hair a lot I had no trouble curling my hair with a curling iron. Now it just falls flat after I try to curl it. So, I bought the Vidal Sassoon Answers curling iron for fine hair and it works really well but after a while the curls begin to fall. I want to wear my hair curly for my wedding so I want to know if there are any good styling products for fine hair to help it keep the curl for a good while.
Step 1:
Redken blow-dry lotion
After you towel dry your hair, you put a dime size amount for shoulder length hair, more or less for shorter or longer hair.
You don't want to saturate your hair with it, just lightly coat it.
Step 2:
Redken Guts: A root lifter
Lift your hair up away from your scalp with your hand every where that you want volume, and spray the root-lifter directly on the root at the scalp.
Then massage it in well, making sure to rub it only on the scalp, not out to the ends. Keep in mind, the better you massage, the better your volume. Not the more product you use.
Step 3:
Either blow dry your hair upside down or dry it the same way you applied the root-lifter.
Lift the hair up and away from the scalp while pointing the hairdryer up towards the ceiling.
While you are drying your hair go ahead and plug in the curling iron, because you can't have curls without it.
Step 4:
Redken 22 setting spray
This is the real work. No way around it, if you're going with a curling iron.
At this point you have to pick up individual sections of hair, spray the section, curl the hair with the iron, let the iron sit on the hair just a moment, and gently let it go.
When you get through with all the sections on your head, just leave it alone.
You have to let it cool for the curl to set.
The longer the cooling time, the better the curl.
So take this time to get dressed, find your shoes, talk to your friends, get over the nerves, whatever.
And then when you get back to your hair, spray it...again, all over, light mist, not steel.
Then you gently take pieces of the curls apart with your fingers, to make beautiful smaller curls.
And then girl, I think you will be ready !
Enjoy your DAY !
hi everyone.
firstly i'm 16.
there is a guy i really like. he knows this - i've told him. he has said he likes me too.
anyway we had a fall out over something stupid - not serious at all, i can't believe we even argued about it.
but he won't talk to me now, at all. i have tried to call but he didn't answer. i text, no response. it's been 2 days now. i am not going to keep bothering him, but i like this guy more than he thinks.
i am getting the feeling i should just give up, because he doesn't want to talk to me?
help please!
loves x0x
Sometimes, I know it's silly... but true, that you have to play games with these boys.
Do give up. But go the extra mile and totally ignore him. If he tries to call you be busy and don't talk to him. If he texts you, don't respond.
You will be suprised at how he will be dying to talk to you if you make yourself unavailable.
Then he will be wondering what he did wrong and how he can fix it..
True Story.
i have a square shaped face and i have thick wavy hair (which also tends to be frizzy and....fluffy?)
the problem is i like leaving my hair short (like a little longer than chin)
what kind of styles or cuts would look flattering for my face shape? pictures would be great!! thankss
THE SQUARE FACE SHAPE
Square faces are similar to round faces, except they are not quite so short. They are shorter than rectangular faces, but just a tad longer than they are wide. The cheeks, forehead, and jawline are all the same width (and the outlines are squared) but, if you are lucky, the chin will curve down a little, giving you a little more length than a round face. You still have to add length to this one, and be careful not to add any width.
Good haircuts to consider will play down the angular jaw. (texture in the form of curls or choppy ends will do this brilliantly). Side swept long bangs will reveal the center part of the forehead, while covering the wide square corners. Short spiky haircuts that add height will work, along with long, sleek styles cut with layers that start at the jawline and continue downward. The shorter layers kicking up, can mask the angles of the jaw and point to that chin that is saving us. Center parts will add a little length, but on this short a face, probably not enough length. I think a short side part, with the rest of the hair drawn back and up, will do a better job.
We need to stay away from one length bobs and blunt cut bangs as they add width and cut the face in half, respectively. Overall one length styles are a poor choice too, because we all know that she's going to tuck that front behind her ears so she can see. And that she's just going to put that angular jaw right where everyone can see it. Whatever you do, the hair should be long enough to cascade around the tops of the shoulders (best case scenario), or at least fall below the chin.
For colour, toplights are in order here. Try to bring all the attention to her eyes and the top part of her face, Play down anything that going to point to her jaw. One or two slices in the top part or her long bangs will fall into a line that looks like the top part of an oval, visually rounding out the top of her face, and covering the square temples.
Written by The HairMaven
I am 43 years old and don't really want to be here anymore. In the past month and a half my life has changed and made me realize that I am tired and just want to go to sleep and never wake up. I have been with my fiance for 7 years and within that time I never thought my life would be where it is now. I invested every dime I had in his busness ventures and now i have nothing. we moved to florida to a foreclosed house and he runs a strip club he bought with our money and little by little he kept getting home later and later. feeling alone and sad I got bad news from my doctor a month after that. I have ovarian cancer. I told my fiance and he said he was sorry to hear it but now he doesn't come home at all only every three to four days to change. I have no friends and feel so betrayed and there isso much more including that he ruined my credit buying properties under my name then never paying the mortgage.I have nothing. I can't see the future because I have so much in my life that is making me feel this way. I want to be strong but I can't sleep or eat and I need surgery on june 10th and I don't even know if I will be strong enough. I have realized that his actions means the relationship is over but what hurts the most is that I thought he was a good person and would be here for me especially now that I am scared and alone. I just really hate myself I hate who I am and what I have become. I never thought a human being could be so cruel. I feel as if I am looking out through someone elses eyes that I don't belong. I have noone to talk to and just don't want to deal with anything anymore. I never accomplished any great thing or have any friends just me and I hate me.
We are about the same age, and I am so sympathic to your situation.
I have been with a man who ruined my credit as well. He drained me and dragged me down with him.
Things were so bad that I had to start over again in my mid thirties. But with a child as well.
Thankfully I have great parents who helped me and provided the support I needed.
Where are your parents? Can they help at all?
I hate to hear that you have Ovarian Cancer to top every thing off.
You must have your sugery and take care of this NOW, that is really the biggest problem you have.
You have to fight the good fight and get healthy so that you can work on the other aspects of your life.
I know you said that you're not even sure you want to try, but you must find it in yourself.
Just because things are really bad now, next year or the one after may be the best of your life, but if you give up, you will never know.
And you're right, about how this man's actions show that it is over for him.
And they always seem like good people, or else they wouldn't be able to talk us into the things that we do.
And if you feel like fighting when you get over your depression and get healthy, I think that you could get some kind of settlement, or a stake in the club.
You have been together for 7 years, and you said it was your money.
But for now, like I said before, your main concern and focus has to be on getting your strengh back.
I'm sure in your area there are cancer support groups, where you can go and meet other people in your situation.
And a group for abused women as well.
Even if he doesn't hurt you physically, the way you say he is treating you is defintely abuse.
These groups offer an invaluable amount of support.
You get to see that you are not out here in the world alone.
And there is always someone in a worse place.
I hope that you will please check into that.
Try and take care of yourself, and if there is anyone, any family member you can turn to, please make that call.
You can start your life over at any age.
Depression is a horrible thing, but you can beat it. YOU CAN.