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seeking advice
Okay Try to bare with me. I am seeking advice for my Great Aunt...
Okay Remeber I told you about My couisn Brandon that pass away? whoes My aunt Patty Son? well okay thing is Brandon did had a daougher was 15 when he die. before he die. she had a fight with bradon (Her dad) Saying she hate him and stuff. and when he was dying he try to call her and she never calls back.. ok after brandon pass away she never came too the funeral or send fallowers or card you know too her grandma.. whoe my Great Aunt.. okay then like that time My aunt try too call or send a letter about her dad. and tori who is her half sister that was maybe 3 or 4 wrote her letter. never hear or hard from.. okay now pass 7 year now.. This week My Great aunt Gotten a Graduaction Card with picture. and thing is she not put her Grandpa Name on it along with her grandma.. and she not writ too her grandma. but she did writ too tori who is now 6. she ask tori sorry she didn't writ then. and ask hows she was and tell her about her school and freinds.. thing is my aunt think she just wants money or not shure what she try to do. iwas thinking maybe she not writ becouse she rather see her in person i am not sure. it very cunfuse. but thing is my aunt dose not want to forgive her for what she did and hurt her dad..
i hope you get it . lol. if not that ok
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I imagine that your cousins daughter has lived with a lot of guilt over the years. While she had no way of knowing her dad would die after their argument, that would be an awful thing to have to live with. She said things she probably didn't mean, and now she can't take those things back.
It may have been hard for her to talk to her grandmother after all that. Guilt, and maybe she even blames herself for his death can be tough to live with. In her mind she may even feel her grandmother blames her for what happened. In the heat of the moment, maybe she even said something that made her granddaughter think she did. If she does blame her, its time for her to get over it. Accidents happen and you can't blame one who was a teen at the time for it.
This is something that letters won't solve. Your aunt will probably have to actually go see her and then they can talk and maybe resolve a few things.
As for the graduation announcement, most people send them to all their family. Usually the parents send them out. I doubt it is her way of asking for money. If your aunt feels it is then just have her send a nice card. Getting an announcement doesn't mean you have to send anything more.
I really think they need to get together and speak in person.
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That does make a bit of a difference if he died of cancer and she knew he was dying. She probably should have known better.
She probably still has feelings of guilt. Teen years are tough and many teens say and do things they regret as they get older. She will just have to learn to live with it. It will be hard for her to do.
Seeing her grandma may make her feel even more guilty. They may never have a good relationship.
A lot will depend on how your aunt chooses to handle it. If she can find it in her heart to forgive her granddaughter, they may eventually
find some sort of relationship with each other.
If she can't, well, that's sort of understandable too.
She still doesn't have to send money for graduation if she doesn't want to. If she wants
to forgive her, she can write a little note in a card and see if anything comes of it.
As for Tori, if she wants to know Brandons daughter, she should be allowed to. She may be a little young right now. So its up to your Aunt until she can decide on her own.
Continue to prey for them all. Thats about all you can do right now. They have a lot to forgive each other for. It wouldn't be easy for any of them.
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