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:.Hey x3
My name is Emily and blah blah blah.


:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.


:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.


:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.


:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.


:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.

If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM

If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.

:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).

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I'm re-doing my bedroom, with the colors of light blue and brown.
Anyone know where I can get good stuff to match?
Thanks!

Well, I can't tell you what stores will have what in what aisle...but you're going to have to look

Walmart, Target, Bed Bath and Beyond...they all have bedroom accessories. Pottery Barn (For teens of course) has the awesomest collections of bedroom stuff although it's a little expensive.


Google Pottery Barn for Teens and you'll find the site. But I love that store!

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what is apples-apples? is it a party game?

It's areally fun game...I think you're talking about apples2apples

It's a game played by a lot of people. You can play it for any game anytime. It's really a cool game you should buy..

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Ok this has been bothering me and my friend for a long time now, what song does this lyric go with "middle finger up, we dont give a fuck" if you know please helpp! thankss =)

ying yang twins --- grey goose

next time, type in the phrase and lyrics after it on google

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ok i have this best friend of 9 years.. shes like my other half.ok whenever i get grounded or w/e and i cant hang out shell go out and do something with someone else. thats fine i dont have a problem with it. its just we do everything together and when i hear shes hanging out with other people its like i feel jealous and i get mad at her but its not like im reaklly mad at her. is that wrong? and i know she feels the same way when i go out because she always says you could have told me you were going out but w/e but is it wrong to feel this way when shes with other people?

Okay, there's some problems going on here:
Since you guys are friends of 9 years, you guys feel attached to each other and possessive of one another. If one hangs out with another, one gets immediately jealous because the one who was left out feels rejected and ignored and thinks "We've been friends for so long and she ditched me for them?"

Real friends are hard to find..better yet best friends. You guys should compromise with each other now that you guys won't get mad/jealous of the other when they're with another group of people. I'm sure you guys don't want to break a friendship over a stupid thing that you guys will get over. So just compromise that you guys won't be mad at another...

Plus, you guys can't live with each other 24/7 by each other's side and better yet seclude yourselves form the rest of the world, right?

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ryt well i recently started talkin to my ex again on msn and i still love him even though i have another bf. Anyway he was saying things like we dhould go to the pictures simetimes and saying that he still really likes me. He also started texting me alot aswell. And then one day he just stopped talking and texting me. I meen he wil still talk if i speak first but its not like what it was and he doesnt try to make conversation. What does this meen ? Please Help! xxx

I hate it when this happends but I try...please next time if you have another question, send a msg, not on the comment section. You broke up with your ex for a reason. If you want to go through the reasons of the break up and the break up again, be my guest. But know this: you guys broke up because you guys couldn't compromise on a thing without breaking up. You may like your ex right now more than your current bf, but you may regret it later when you say you love him. You're being unfair to your bf by having doubts and liking someone else better. I think you should just take a break from all the guys and sort out your feelings for people.


He may have had a sudden infatuation, time of regret, or was just really horny. Haha.

But he probably realized that what he was doing was leading you on and he doesn't want to bring out the feeligns you had for him again since oyu have a bf. Just stick with your bf and your ex is your ex for a reason so just stay friends.

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I'm so confused!

All my friends are splitting up & talking behind eachothers backs!! & like the second one of them will go away, they'll be like.. "ehmagawd, i hate her." or something like that. I'm afraid their doing this to me too. I don't know who to trust anymore. & their all doing it too! Their all sooo fake. & I can't be friends with anyone else, I go to a very small school. & I'm not hanging out with losers or the sluts. SO. what do i do!?

Um, age would've been helpful but it seems that you guys are at a level where it's "in" and constant to talk about each other. They're just being immature and showing that:
1-they have no lives
2-they have to criticize other's to boost their ego up.

So, keep this in mind "No one can make you inferior without your permission" by Eleanor Roosevelt. Just keep yourself out of this, don't mind what the other girls are saying and in the end, they'll be the lsoers who looked like idiots.

Just hang low for a while and stay away from these girls and focuse on school work heh.

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i need some exercise tips; i want to tone my inner thighs, my hips, and majorly flatten my stomach. Thanks

Okay, first thing is eat healthy. Cut off all junk food and stay away from sodas even if they're diet. Also stay away from energy drinks etc. Drinks lots of water. Let water be your first choice when you're thirsty. Eat lots of veggies and fruits everyday and try to eat good sized meals. Don't skip any because that'll just cause your metabolism to slow down and have your body STORE fat since it won't know when the next meal might be coming.

Then there's exercise. To tone your body, you need to first get rid of the fat on top of your muscles. Do cardio and aerobics. Run everyday or every other day. Play sports with your friends such as tackle football, basketball, softball. Jump roping really gets your heart going. When your fat has come off, then you can start doing exercises to tone your body.

For your inner thighs, do squats, lay on one side and lift your leg up and down. Running will help with your thighs the best actually. Your hips, lay down as if you were going to do curl ups. Instead of having your knees parallel to your body, let the knees go over to one side of your body (Have the lower knee touch the floor) and come up as if you were doing crunches. Another very effective one is by doing this: lay on one side and prop your self up with your feet and elbow. ONLY with those body parts. Your legs and hips should not be touching hte floor at all. Aim to stay up in that position for 30 seconds and switch to the other side. If you're confident enough, bend your arm on the top and put your hand by your ear and reach down to the ground to have your elbow touch the ground. It's really hard to do. For your stomach, there's always the trite and hackneyed crunchs/curl ups. Pilates that aim for your stomach also helps. If my instructions were'nt clear for the toning part, send me a msg because I suck at trying to condense instructions into a paragraph =P

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I, just like everyone else, want a flat stomach.
I've done crunches, I've done cardio and the
pooch and buldges are still there. My best friend
has totally flat abs and she followed the
same routine, so I got fed up and I quit.
(btw, 15 female, 122lbs)

Now volleyball seasons back and our
uniforms are long sleeve and spandex so
everything shows, I really don't want
to walk around school with buldges.
Does anyone know any routines to keep my
tummy flat?
Thanks, and I'm sorry for the usual question
I've tried so much, and nothing has worked.

Well, of course you're not going to get flat abs by quitting so you're going to exercise after readin this, oui? Haha okay. Well first to get abs, you need to burn off the excess fat on top of your muscles. You could do crunchs everyday 50 times nonstop and it would still take a long while before you burn off the fat.

What you do is first just do regular exercises to burn off the fat. Run every other day or every day if you're up to it. Go to the gym with family/friends. Play sports for fun like basketball, softball, tackle football, etc. Jump roping is simple and really gets your fats burning. Buy aerobic videos and do them at home. Dance if you want and burn the fat off. The main point is get your heart pumping at least 3 times a week with hard exercises.

When you've achieved losing all the fat, you can start the crunches and what not to get abs.

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Okay well this going to sound werid but I have this internet boyfriend he use to live by me but he moved and like now im datting him and i really want his number but im afraid to ask him and like I don't know how to like ask him like being all nice and not tring to be like I want it so bad ya kno? and what should I say. And I'm also kinda like afriad to hear his voice so what do i do to like make this fear go away. can someone plz help me.

Well, before you do that, ask him for his address to send letters just as if you guys were "penpals" Haha, that's one way to start. Then in your letter, say your computers going to be down for a while and you won't have internet access too much and ask him for his number saying you don't want to write..

If you don't want to get his address, just simply say, "What's your number? (Excuse here)"

Excuses:
1-I have to go but I still want to finish that LONG story
2-I broke my hand and it's hard to type
3-I'm too lazy to type


Hehe, those always work...well maybe not 1.

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ok so like my friend is turning 15 like next week. and like she hasnt develpoed anything yet. and she never got her period yet. shes like flat. is this normal?

Some people can just start their periods when they're 18...they are lucky...=X

If she does a lot of sports, that's probably why. IF she doesn't even only one sport, that could be the cause. Or it could be the genes in her family. She has nothing to worry about

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What are some things I ca say to conversate with a boy so that it wont get boring?

One thing that won't fail...focus all the attention on him. I mean what guy doesn't like to talk about himself? Haha

It all depends on the guy though. If he's outgoing, you can talk about upbeat stuff. If he's a total jock, talk about sports. If he's into music, talk about the kind of music he likes. But all good things must come to an end sometime.

Like Charles and I talk about our everyday trite lives and how everyone is screwed up here and there. Stephen and I talk about deep stuff like religions or talked about how the government is messing up everyone's lives. With Morgan, we just complain about a teacher we hate. Haha, in the end you guys will have something in common. If the guy is a deep thinker, talk about religion, society, government. If he's kinda goofy, just be goofy and switch topics whenever it starts to slow down

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How do you get rid of stress? Actually I don't think stress is a word to call it because it is much more negative and deeper than stress but it's not anger. I think it's more like drama like in dramas are really strong and deep like the feeling in soap operas kinda and I just get so 'drama'/depressed in my mind that I cry every night and just feel really bad inside all the time. And i'm really ugly and stuff so it keeps bringing me down to help myself feel better. I just keep thinking so negative all the time.

"No one can make you feel inferior without your permission." Eleanor Roosevelt. You shouldn't give yourself permission to make yourself feel so low. All your negative thinking is getting to you. We are all beautiful in every way and outter beauty doesn't matter.

You should definately get a journal or a diary and just write whatever you're feeling in there. I'm a big pessimist and I've learned that if i mop and be negative aorund people, it's just going to drive them away. So just develope a better outlook on life. Write down all the negatives of the day and start a fresh one the next day. What I do is when I encounter a horrible situation or a heartbreaking one, I just transfer it onto a piece of paper as a poem or lyrics. It really helps me. Also listening to music and just getting myself in one of the stories I'm writing helps.

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ok. i used to have a myspace, but i deleted now, but anyways, me and this boy would like alllllways talk. it was like we were best friends even! but since i deleted my mypsace [cuz i wasn't suppose to have one] me and that guy never talk anymore. and we have one class together. but i do see him a lot during passing time. and i want to keep in touch with him too cuz i like him. like him like him. ++i'm really shy. how do i talk to him?

Heh, that's like me!! Haha, except I don't have any classes with this boy and I don't like him in that way and well, he's gay. XD Anywhos, just talk to him if you guys both get there before school or if after school you guys stay. If you guys have sports games or something, ask if he's going and if he is, go there and talk to him. Make small chat in the hallways (This is really effective. There's this girl I like and I don't have any classes with her and I don't talk to her much online considering that we barely get on and we're really good friends right now) or write a note about you boring class that'sgoing on then and there and give it to him as you pass by. Get his sn, email, phone number and just hang out with him. If you guys have lunch, thats a plus XD

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I have an addiction, a real big problem, I'm a hacker. Well, not technically, only when it comes to my crush, I've gotten into his msn, myspace, aol, and facebook several times. And everytime I cry and promise I wont do it again (to myself, he doesnt know) I still end up doing it. I don't know how to get help for this, so that's my first question. How do I stop this?

My second question, oh wow.. when I do hack his email, and people start defending him, I save those conversations and send them to him so he'll know what great friends he has. A few days ago, one of his friends added me and started asking em questions. I could tell he knew it was me. And I could tell my crush had talked to him and also has his suspiscions now.

What do I do? Keep a low profile?
I don't think I'm a big enough person to tell him the truth, at all. Actually, I know for a fact I'm not. So what do I do?

Please help me. Thank you very much.

Okay, first of all, stay OFF the internet. Stay away from the computer and if you have to use it, go to the library or use the school ones!!! Do this for at least a month. Also know that hacking into someone els'es account is an offense and if you want your crush to like you, you have to understand that hacking in isn't very appealing

Deny all suspicions, rumors, accusations made about YOU being the hacker..Just deny it. Say you have better thigns to do than sit and type over 10,000 into the password blank

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Alright so I need to start reading a new book and I want a good recommendation.


Whats your favorite book, why?
Or
Whos your favorite writer? In poetry or story writing. Why?

I am still in love with the book called "Keeping You A Secret" I've read it at least five times within 6months and I still love it. It's a really moving book about two girls. One is discovering her sexuality while facing the harsh consequences that's coming along with it. It's by Julie Anne Peters, by the way. Others are "Go Ask Alice" by Simon Pulse and "Crank" by Ellen Hopkins...it's a diary of two girls who both get hooked on drugs and the results of it. "The Outsiders" by S.E. Hinton is a really great book to read.

My favorite author doesn't exist. I love reading books of different genres and I can't ever find an author who writes more than one book that's interesting. Like I love Julie anne Peter's "Keeping You A Secret" but other books by her doesn't interest me that much.

Personally, for the poetry, I'll read whoever writes dark/serious poetry that is dealing with real life, personal problems, society problems like the governments, war, etc.

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What does it mean to lose your virginity?

Does it mean having sexual contact...because if so, then any type of contact would make you lose your virginity, right?

Or does being a virgin technically mean you have done anything but intercourse? I'm not too sure about this one, and I don't think Google would be of much help either. Thanks.

Different people will say this and that. Some will say if your private areas touch, that's goodd enough reason to lose your viginity, like giving a bj, recieving, etc. But I think that's kinda a little too stretched.

You technically lose your viginity when you guys have full intercourse

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my tampon is stuck. like, the string is there but when i pull on it the tampon wont come out. this was my first time using a tampon (i got my period yesterday) and im really scared. i know its a stupid question but i dont know what to do


PLEASE answer

It's probably because you put a size in that was a tad bit too big for your period. Say you you're having a light period and you put a regular/heavy one assuming you're gonna get a ehavy one. It's probably a little too dry for it to be pulled out.

Just be courageous and pull it out. yank on it if you have too but don't break the string. wrap the string around your finger and make sure the angling is correct

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Ok, have you ever seen those pages in the internet where it's writtne something and then there's a paragraph beside it saying what the guy/girl REALLY means when they say it.

In case many of you are wondering it's something like this:

"we need a break" - they really mean "let's break up"

that sort if thing, i havn't been able to find anything.

http://www.angelfire.com/ct2/funnyfacts/menwant.html

haha i just googled that and its funny XD

http://penn.home.att.net/guy08.htm

that sorta answers your question along with other pages that are itneresting =P

http://www.drinky.org.uk/stuff/whatguysmean.htm

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ive been talking to this one guy for about a month now and he asked me out the other day.. the only problem is is that hes shy! i dont know what to say or do to make this work because i really like the boy but it just gets so annoying! any ideas?

Just hang out around him more and make him comfortable nest to you. Go ask his friends what they usually do or what they did when they first met him to be less shy around them

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okay this guy i like...well like i've said in a lot of my questions i've played a lot of pranks on him well i told him i was sory and that i had like him when i did them...but i diddn't tell him that i still do and now he is going out with this really ugly girl that used to be my friend to make me jeslous what do i do?

Well, dont sink down to his level inhumanly use a guy to get him. Heh, just have your best guy firend pretend to be your bf XD haha, well he might actually like her and you don't know for sure. So let things take it's time. Don't flirt with him or anything or an ugly rumor about you being a bf stealer might start.

When they break up, make a move on him FAST. Or if you can't wait that long, just tell him that you like him and he'll either say okay and break up with this girl (if he was using her) or say he's taken

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