Okay this might be kind of confusing but bear with me please. So at the end of summer last year, I met this guy, Joe, through my best friend, Liz. Joe dated one of Liz's good friends, Grace. They dated for about 2 & 1/2 years and then at the beginning of summer, they broke up. So now its September, and Joe with his friend come by Liz's house, and I'm there with her. So I meet Joe, I knew who he was and about him & Grace and I thought he was pretty cute. He thought I was really cute too. He liked me and all. I wasn't even THINKING about me and him together, the thought of US never came to mind. I felt like I had no chance. Grace (his ex) was unbelievably gorgeous and so much different from me.Well anyways, so we started hanging out. He'd come by more often and we were both very shy. Later I found out that one of the reasons he fell for me was because I was so quiet. But anyways, so we would hang out; play tennis and just hang out with friends. I also got drunk for the very first time with him -- and that's a very goodmemory. I remember how he was so worried about me geeting home and everything that day. Ahh memories. We went downtown by the lake and shopped and everything. Then one day, we were walking, just the two of us, and we kiss. Later on the walk home, he told me about how he wanted to kiss me sooner but that didn't work out cause it was never good timing with his friends and all. So yes, then the following week we would hang out and kiss :) and talked online. He asked me do I see him as a boyfriend and all that and talked about us dating. The next time we hung out, he asked me out. It was perfect. I never met a guy like him. Never dated ANYONE like that. Too perfect for words. It was awesome, the best time of my life. Everything was going great, I couldn't have been happier. He was a bad boy, ditching school, band with his friends, typical guy stuff. But I was always able to count on him. He always chose me over his friends, and even stopped drinking. We went to different schools, and then I started working with my dad, so things got harder. He had his friends drop him off whenever just so he can see me -- it was like a dream come true. My prince charming had come. But meanwhile, Grace (the ex) found out and went crazy. She hated me and my friend/her friend for letting it even happen. She had people watching me and threating me all the time on the interenet that they're going to kick my ass for dating Joe. But I didn't care. My friendshad my back. I remember when Joe was over and I wasn't supposed to have anyone over, and he was over and my dad came home, haha... he ran out the back door and jumped the gate and everything barefoot. Lol poor him left his shoes. He had written me a song and everything, we even wrote each other notes in school. Now back to the psycho ex-gf, well me and her were sort of friends, we just knew each other because of my best friend Liz. She would always follow me & Joe, (she had a car so was EVERYWHERE) and yeah. Then one day, me and joe sort of got into an argument. Me and my friend Liz and some of his friends were all walking around the nieghborhood onour way to chill at this one park. His ex would drive by and stop and talk to Joe's friends. We were with a bunch of friends all walking when these little 12=14 year old were with us and they were talking shit to joe about me and just because bitches and giving me and my friend attitude so I wasn't gonna deal with it and me and my friend Liz turned around and left. He didn't even bother to go after me or call. I regret doing that, I know he must have gotten mad, I remember when I hung up on him, that upset him also. but anyways, so the same day I call him. And I call again. And I call again. No answer. Same thing the following day, Saturday. Then Sunday I call all day. Finallly I try one last time on SUnday night and Grace picks up. And she said he's with her now and all those times he wasn't with me, he was with her. I dropped the phone. It was crazy, my friends wanted to go right over there and beat her up. But I thought about and decided just to forget it. Lateron, I signed online and he was on -- so I instant messaged him. And I yelled at him and everything and then signed off and cried. And cried. I thought I got over him, I was into another guy -- well then he chose another girl over me, and yeah. Then he came back and I rejected him and all that because I'm not gonna deal with someone liek that. SO I really don't even know what I'm asking. Him and Grace have been together ever since. I ran into both of them the other day at a store which was really awkward, he was with his friends in the store and I was with mine. Then they left the store and his girlfriend -- Grace -- and his sister come in. Then they leave and are waiting outside in the car for us. We goto our car and trhey pull up and then she says something and flicks us off and drives off. But anways, I just can't seem to get over him. Its crazy cause this all happened quite a while ago. Maybe its just because he was my first SERIOUS boyfriend? I have no idea what to do... and I really want to believe that one day WE WILLE get back together. I just hope and pray something along the way will happen and we will be together.Like today for example, I felt like breaking down and crying. I went with my friends downtown, on the train. And they were with their bf's and it reminded me how we used to be like that. Last time I took the train was with him. We went to musuems on Columbus Day. Memories :( It was just so heartbreaking. Do you think that we will get back together? People say "THINGS HAPPEN WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT!" and I wanna follow that, because well thats how I met him. I wasn't even looking for a boyfriend. ANd now every guy I look at or my friends want me to meet/date, I just can't. And it kills me because I want to be with him and no one elsre. DO you thinkin it's possible for us to get back together? Maybe later on in life? It was my mistake because I was always so shy and not really OUT with my feelings, and I regret not telling him how I feel, he always thought I didn't like him or anything. Although we dated for only about 2 months, the memrories and the times we had together even before we began officially "dating" ... they mean soo much. I just wish I had another chance. Do you think it's possible for us to ever get back together? Do you think he ever thinks about me the way I think about him? Is there ANY chance of us getting back together in the future?
Your story is a painful and difficult one to read:I have gone through some uncomfortable breakups in my time, but none so bad as this.
What makes the situation so confusing is the way that Joe went back to Grace after they had what appeared and was such an extreme breakup. But as strange as it seems, the contrast between you and Grace is the catalyst which pulled him back to her side. It is not that he didn't genuinely love you-perhaps he on one level still does, it's more likely than not. But they had a two and a half year relationship before you even came into the picture-the dynamics, the chemistry of their relationship was set like a timebonb waiting to go off. And off it went, with you as the unfortunate and innocent victim. That is the reason why a relationship between you and Joe is futile, and likely to bring much misery. Any relationship you had in the future would, I believe, be doomed to follow the same unfortunate pattern of intimacy and love between you being shattered by the intrusion of Grace, with whom Joe has this poisonous and symbitoic relationship.
My greatest concern now is for your emotional safety. Tell your friends that you're not ready to date right now, there's nothing wrong in waiting for a while- you're only young and young people(probably especially women) place too much importance on dating. Enjoy life as much as you can. Weep when you need. Remember Joe with love, knowing that the love you offered him was valuable. He just wasn't strong enough to take it, he's one of those men who needs an abusive and domineering woman- in short,a bitch- to make the world seem the right way up. When you're older you'll pity both of them. Now, you need to grieve.
Do keep me posted as to how you are doing. I also suggest that you drop this same question in Razhie's inbox-her advice will probably differ very little from mine, but it tends to be better expressed.
All the best, Lucretia x.
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Am I justified in being upset with my bf? Since he moved to another state back in November for a job he hasnt contacted me ONCE. I phoned him on Xmas Day and he said that he'd phone me on New Years. I was waiting up all night for his call, and never got one. I've decided to give him one last chance, on Valentines Day. If he doenst phone me then it's over. Life is just too lonely having my life put on hold. My feelings are deeply hurt that he would treat me this way. My question is if he doesnt contact me on V-day, should I phone him up and tell him that it's over between us?
I'm so sorry that you've had to go through this-breaking up with someone in a vacuum is a very painful experience. The sad truth is, this guy is not your boyfriend. He has no respect for your feelings, just plays you along for no reason at all. I really wonder about people like him:whether it's true sadism which motivates them, or just an enormous disregard for others' feelings. None of which is relevant to you-you just need to forget him. I think you already know that he won't call on Valentines Day. Face the fact that it's over, and move on. Just don't think about dating for a while. Cry, , throw things, but in moderation. There is a point at which letting your anger out becomes self indulgent, and the pain and the anger feed on themselves in an ever-continuing cycle. The only person this loser has permanently hurt is himself.
Good luck, and try to ignore Valentines day.
Lucretia x.
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okay... Well, my x(Ryan)broke up with me a month ago and is going out w/ another girl!And, I mean me and Ryan have still done stuff ever sicne he broke up w/ me and he has a g/f. But, i wanna say something to really mke him think about what mistake he is making and how he should come back to me! we went out for 6 months by the way!! And, i told him i have to talk to him and i wanna go back out with him and he still likes me but he don't wanna come back to the arguing all the time so therefore he don't wanna go back out yet and i want him to come back and i want to say something to make him think about it and convince him that he should come back to me PLEASE help me! i rate high!
You can't convince someone to go back out with you who really doesn't want to. Also, in this particular case, your headlong pursuit of Ryan is not only futile but also morally questionable, since he has another girlfriend. Stop fooling around with him-that shows a lack of self respect. I f he wants to keep one or more girls on a string, that's his concern-don't you get drawn in by him and his sloppy morals. The best thing for you to do is forget him and move on (which is also, incidentally the most likely thing to bring him back-but nevermind about that). Guys like him thrive on a drama, as from your question, you do yourself. Give it up!
Good luck.
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I always lie to my parents so I don't get in trouble. They're awfully hard on me sometimes, but after I tell the lie I realize it probably would've been easier to just tell them the truth, admit what I did in the first place was wrong, and then take my punishment. What can I do to stop lying, and is there anything that my parents can do on their part so that I don't feel the need to lie - or am I just a weak teenager because I used to be such a good kid and never get in trouble?
I strongly sympathise with you. It sounds as if you're caught between a rock and a hard place, between your parents' strictness and the pressure of your peers to be a "normal" teenager. Your question doesn't specify what kinds of things you lie about-is it going out, smoking, typical stuff? If so, then my only advice to you is to stand your ground. You have a right to what friends you like, though you have of course to understand your parents' point of view. It is quite hard to answer your question properly without knowing the specific problem areas with your parents. Perhaps you could give us more information? As to the lying, all teenagers do it-I am lucky in having a very liberal family, but even I still lie to my mother from time to time, or at least do not tell her the complete and unvarnished truth. In response to your last sentence, no you are not weak-a desire to preserve truth and honesty shows you as being potentially very strong. Thriving on conflict is no sign of maturity-it is indeed arguable whether one can truly "thrive" on conflict- it's natural enough to want to keep those closest to you happy.
As I said, give us a bit more information, and feel free to drop a question on my inbox.
Good luck, lucretia x.
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How do you know when you're about to orgasm? I feel like I'm getting there, yet I never seem to be able to reach it. Maybe what I'm feeling isn't the precurser..
You just need to concentrate your mind. Chances are that if you have to ask how you feel before you're about to come, you've never been that close. What always works for me is to have several erotic fantasies on the go, pretty much overlapping with each other. That way, if one becomes stale, you substitute another. Tease yourself by cutiing back and forth, and above all give yourself time. If you feel rushed, you might come but it won't be as hard or for as long.
Relax and enjoy!
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I am a 17/f in my senior year in high school. I am not very popular, and hang out with the loser, or nerd crowd. The few friends that I have are not very nice to me, but I put up with them because I would rather have some mean friends then none at all. Well last week, one of my "friends" told the most popular guy in our class that I was checking out his butt. ( This wasnt true, but because my face went red they all assumed it was). I was mortified and just walked away. All my friends laughed at me, and the guy just looked uncomfortable. There was just me and my two friends, and him. He had none of his popular friends there to witness this. Well anyways, the next day I kept catching him staring at me. When I would look at him he would look away. This would also happen in our english class. Well on friday, we had a grad council meeting in the cafeteria. He was there, and when no one else was looking, I had to walk by him. This is when he gave me a huge smile, in kind of a sexy, flirtatius way. I was shocked and never said anything. Anyways, my question is: do you think he may really like me? I find it hard to believe because he's the class valedictorian and jock, and can have any girl in school. I also heard he doesnt have a gf right now. Or do you think he's just playing a trick on me?
First off,I have to say that I am staggered by the immaturity of your class group. Seventeen year olds behaving like that?! I don't like to brag about Britain(and goodness knows there are enough things wrong with our culture) but at least in my school, noone was still playing these petty, cruel and spiteful games so late on in school.
To cut to your immediate problem, I have a nasty feeling that this jock is just stringing you along because he feels the need to enhance his status, and making you uncomfortable, perhaps even making a fool of you, is sadly what cuts a dash in your school's most unfortunate culture. Having said all that, he could be a genuinely nice guy who really likes you, and if he's really popular enough, that won't affect his staus-he's still him whatever. I would still say to go carefully though.
Good luck, and I guarantee that these situatiations occur less in college. lucretia x.
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all of the sudden im getting b's&c's on like almost every time i used to get A's all the time. I dont know if it's band or my rock band or if it my sports? please help
It all depends on how many extra-curriculars you were doing when you were getting your straight A's. Your question doesn't say whether or not you were doing the band before. Grade changes rarely occur with true suddeness:there is usually some background, some change in the way your scheduel runs, that has built up over time. In your case, you could well have become more absorbed in your rock band-music(especially when you write it yourself) takes up a lot of intellectual and emotional energy. Sport and band are less likely to be to blame since they are presumably school run activities, purpose built not to intefere with grades. In fact, many schools bar you from certain sports should your grades drop below a certain level. Thus my advice would be to look to the rock band(Sorry!)
Another possibility is, of course, that the work is simply getting harder; if this is the case, then talk to your teachers about it. They might have helpful suggestions as to how to manage a more demanding courseload, plus there is always what we in Britain call supported study(study hall).
Good luck!
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Whenever i go shopping with my mom we always stumble across these REALLY cute jeans that I want her to try on. When she eventually does, she automatically says NO because they are too "trendy". My mom usually wear straight leg jeans which if you didn't know have absolutely no flare. My mom has a really big butt, so she looks ridiculous!! I told her nicely that these kinds of pants don't compliment her, but she just got mad at me. She's 41 and she thinks shes too old to look good in jeans. Can you give me some tips to convince my mom that she doesn't have to be young to look great?! Shes SOOO stubborn and sensitivE!!!!!
I hate to be the one to tell you this, but I think that you need to leave your mother alone. Sure it's frustrating that she doesn't look as cool and great as you believe she could, but you have to remember two things:
1)What looks good or even appropriate in your eyes does not necessarily fit in with her sense of style. Middle aged people often get stuck in a kind of comfortable rut, and while it's sad to watch, it is often what gives them a secure sense of self. Which is what leads us to 2)-Your mother's sensitivity. She is probably all too aware of the size of her butt, and that makes her cling to her familiar jeans, even if they are the cut and style that flatter her least in all the world. This is the way that body insecurity works. I agree with you that it would be great to have her feeling better about her look, but you won't do it by running down her current wardrobe. One trick that you could try would be to compliment her on some item of clothing other than her jeans, and then work up to suggesting how good the different jeans would look with her top/shoes/bag/whatever. If that doesn't work, however, the only thing to do is to accept her the way she is and be thankful she doesn't dress like a teenage wannabee, the way some middle-aged women do.
Good luck.
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This guy that I really like in my senior class has been dating this girl who behind his back makes fun of him. He is so in love with her, he'll buy her a dozen roses for no occasion and bring them to school for her. I also heard he spent hundreds of dollars on a bracelet for her birthday. I know what she's been saying behind his back because she's in my french class. The other girls wanted to see her new bracelet and she just rolled her eyes and said "this is the THIRD one he's bought me"!. She is such a superficial bitch. She's also said she's only with him because his family has money. She's also a bigot, I've heard her making derogatory comments about homosexuals and african americans. I also heard she's cheating on him. I don't know what he sees in her. She is very popular and pretty, but has the personality and kindness of a dead squid. He would be heartbroken if he knew what she said about him and did behind his back. He is such a nice guy, I feel sorry for him. Should I tell him or just keep my mouth shut? Or, before I forget, HIS friends make fun of him behind his back for how hard he's fallen for her.
Yesterday I answered a question so similar to this one that I wonder if you are the same person that I answered before. Whether you are or not, my advice is basically the same as the other columnist's-don't interfere. Your crush's girlfriend sounds like 100% poison-it's terribly sad when beauty and popularity obscure someone's nature. But this "love" that your friend has for this girl is an immature "calf love" which is only really extreme infatuaion. He will find out in time-someone will tell him, perhaps one of his "friends" (it sounds as if he's too nice a guy, and keeps getting taken for a ride-his friends should make him wise to this bitch instead of sneering behind his back: I'd normally expect more of guys). It sounds to me as if you're the only true friend he has,the tradgedy of which is that he doesn't realise it, so caught up is he in his false girlfriend. I would still say wait it out, and let one of the guys tell him, as guys are usually ulinately loyal (they may not as yet realise the extent of her duplicity).
I suppose though that if he does find out from another source, he'll wonder why you didn't tell him sooner, and that is what makes your situation so tough. Tell him if you need.(Or even record her, as the previous columnist suggested). She sounds so bad that your liking him is not an issue-whatever your feelings, noone should believe in a girl like her.
Good luck, and keep us posted.
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Well my x bestfriend bobby, we have been friends for more then years
before we were in 1st grade, now were both in 10 grade high school.
Well it was just me him his brother and Trevor my other xbestfriend he
was are friend at 6 th grade, so me and bobby were the first. (and his
brother Thad) Well last year me and bobby both got a guitar, so we
started to talk to two kids (Vinnie and Vito) because they are great
at guitar and we wanted lessons, so before we know it we hang out with
them evey day. were having fun its been like six mouths, so were good
friends. well Vinnie and Trevor always beat on bobby, and we were all
throwing empty waterbottes at everyones, them we stoped. Bobby likes
to sing so he started to sing, so i picked up a waterbotte and i throw
it at him now hard. Vito right after throw it at his face. So the next
day everyone hates me because of that. That was six mouths ago. I
started to talk to bobby only on the phone, but only like every two
weeks. Now i don't have any one to hang out with. I was one of the
only people he trusted. SO PLEASE TELL ME WHAT I HAVE TO DO SO WE CAN
BE FRIENDS AGIAN!!!!! Or help me to stop thinking about him.
Dear oh dear, boys will be boys. It's a little tricky for me to answer this question, as I'm generally much better on female friendships than on male, but since you've dropped it in my inbox I'll give it my best shot....
To start off, I don't think it matters all that much who's best friends (or even ex best friends) with who-the point is that or some reason you were scapegoated, made to take responsiblity for an unfortunate situation that was only partially your fault. That said, if you were really one of the only people Bobby trusted , then your behavior was the worse, since it was more of a betrayal than it was for Vito. I'm not trying to make you feel guilty-this ganging up and teasing the most vulnerable member of a group is all too common, and occurs every bit as frequently with girls as it does with boys. I think that it's really good that you want to be friends with Bobby again-no you should not stop thinking about him, that would be very sad. Actually, it seems to me that you're going in the right direction with Bobby-even once only two weeks is something, and you should gradually but steadily increase the number of times you call. Remember that you hurt him(however unintentionally) and it will take time to regain his trust. Time well spent. As for having been dropped by the group, well my friend that's just the unfairness of life, and the sooner you realise it the better for you. But if you can salvage your friendship with Bobby, then both of you will emerge stonger people from this whole sorry situation.
The best of luck, and drop me a line for more advice or just to let me know how it all went.
Lucretia x
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why would a guy that you're just friends with get mad if you ask about a friend of his? I had just gotten hired at a new store. I found out from my guy friend that another one of his friends got hired at the same company. I asked him what department he got hired in, and if he knew that I was working there as well. Then my friend got angry and said "why do you want to know"? It almost sounded like he was jealous.
Is this a normal reaction? Or does it sound like he's possesive of me, considering that we are just friends.
It does sound oddly possesive. Your question doesn't say whether you're interested in either of the guys, or why you asked about the second guy. However, that's hardly relevant-the point is that the first guy has no right to be jealous of you. If you were, just possibly, contemplating him as a boyfriend(ie if you rather hoped that he was jealous)be warned. Possesiveness, while it may be flattering, is a most undesirable quality in a partner.
However, to keep the peace if you're interested in the second guy I would keep it to yourself, and find out about him from some other source.
Good luck.
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I am just wondering but what does your first time actually feel like cause i have made the decision to have sex but i want the facts.
For a start, I am going to patronise you by asking how old you are. You sound fairly clued up, and it's good that you're getting the facts, but if you're worrying about how it feels, you might not be quite ready. Have you discussed it fully with your boyfriend? Of course he must understand that he needs to wear a condom(I'm sure he does).
But to get to your question, it varies from woman to woman. All vaginas get more flexible with use-thus a virgin has a smaller and tighter hole than an experienced and sexually active woman(though vaginas still vary in size from woman to woman). I myself had a considerable amount of pain and rubbing, but no blood since my hymen was already torn(the hymen is the thin, stetchy "tarpaulin" which covers the vagina and which can easily be torn during non-sexual activites such as horseriding). If you're in pain, then ask him to slow down or even stop, then go at it again. You're unlikely to remember your first time as one of sexual ecstacy(that comes-excuse the pun-with practice) but it should be a good bonding experience with your boyfriend.
Good luck, and message me again if you need.
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I've liked this guy since the beginning of the year and we are so much alike but we dont talk alot. Then in my music class there is another guy that isnt as popular as the first one but is still really nice and we talk alot more than I talk with the other guy. My friends tell me that I should do whatever my heart tells me to but what if even your heart doesn't know. So my question is, how do I decide between the two perfect guys?
I rate high for good advice
I've already answered a question much similar to this one today-I suggested that the girl go out with the less popular guy, which is what I also suggest in your case. Not that I have anything against popular people, just that they can be harder to get to know than regular folks, plus there's always the insecurity factor. However, the more concrete reason for choosing the second boy is that you talk to him a lot more, which suggests that you have an easier relationship. Sometimes, however, a more distant connection can be more exciting-the sense of never quite fulfilled promise is very alluring. I also suspect that you must have a slight preference-one is rarely torn between two absolutely equal prospects. Ultimately, only you can know what that preference is.
Good luck, and a happy Valentines Day!
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I know I like one of my friends... a lot, and he's going out with someone. He's in love with her, but sometimes it feels like he likes me too, but maybe I just want it that way... I know his girlfriend, but she's not my friend. There's this whole controversy with his girlfriend and one of my other friends. One of my other friends had told her that he loved her and she said the same. When the guy I like found out about this, he refused to believe it... and I know that it's true. It's been going on for a while, and I feel kind of bad... He doesn't know that I like him... and I have no clue what to do... I really like him. What should I do?
Two words. Butt out. I know that it sounds frightfully harsh, but you can't do anything about this situation, and if you try to, you will look as if you were deliberately meddling in order to get your crush away from his girlfriend. I know she doesn't deserve him. I know that it sucks that you love him but he loves her and she isn't even worthy of his love, but trust me he will find out for himself:people like her expose their true character sooner or later, without any help from anyone else. And that is the point at which you can come in, when she's broken his heart and he feels lost. I'm not saying that you'll get him- he may never see you as more than a friend, but you'll at least have a chance, which is what you won't have if you interfere now.
Good Luck.
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This boy that I liked ever since middle skool see's me once in a while.So our middle skool had a party and he happened to be there he came up to me and said hi so i said the same. My friends and i went in the disco and started to dance and he soon came in and my heart started to beat faster and faster and he started to dance with other girls and a song came on and I started to dance and he only stared at me and he even came across by me and watched me and soon asked me to dance and I said yes and we started to dance when I reached home I told me brother all about it the next day my brother said that he came up to him with another girl and he said he loved her . Do you think my brother is lying ?Do you think the boy likes me?
Oh dear, this one is tricky to answer because I don't know your brother. You ask whether I think he is lying, and I can only respond that I don't know, does he have a history of telling lies? It sounds as if you two have a fairly good relationship for you to have confided in him to the extent that you have: however that doesn't I suppose mean that your brother would never lie. I would however still go very cautiously with this boy, as I suspect you may be searching too hard for signs that he likes you. It sounds to me as if he's a bit of a flirt, dancing first with one girl, then another. Which doesn't mean he doesn't like you-just that it's questionable how much he really likes anyone, even this girl your brother says he's in love with (always assuming that's true). You should follow his example and dance with other boys, relax and enjoy their company. It's all too easy to develop an obsessive crush on someone, especially in middle and high school (I've been there).
Having said all that, there's no reason why you shouldn't be friends with the boy-just don't expect it to necessarily turn into a relationship.
Good luck, and feel free to drop another question in my inbox.
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I'm currently expecting my first child and my due date is fast approaching. I recently told my husband that I'm hurt that no one has offered to throw a baby shower even though everyone around us (family, friends, coworkers, church members) knows that we are expecting. He said that I should throw a baby shower for myself. I'm afraid that it would be a breach of etiquette and come across as greedy. With our current financial situation, the gifts would be helpful, but I want the shower more for the companionship and celebration that comes with it.
1) Would you consider it greedy if someone were to invite you to a baby shower they were throwing for themself?
2) What would you do in this situation?
While I sympathise with your situation, I don't think that there's a great deal that you can do. I agree that it sucks that noone has thrown you a shower (though you can't be quite sure- a surprise might come your way one of these days, though your friends will need to hurry up).
I think that to throw one for yourself does look a bit tacky, plus would defeat the purpose if they were just holding it back as a late surprise. But the columnist above disagrees with me , and I'd listen to her first: I'm British and we don't really have a "shower" culture here.
Good Luck, and wishing you an easy birth.
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hey i'm a guy and have a girlfriend, i love her and everything. i was wondering...i havn't asked her yet, but would it be a bad thing if i sent valentines day cards to my friends that are girls? some of them i'm really good friends with and i wouldn't want to do it if it offended my girlfriend or let her think the wrong idea. should i just ask her about it, or am i over-analyzing things? i am getting my girlfriend a gift, but would it be wrong to send a few cards to my friends as well? what do you think, thanks in advance.
What a lovely idea! I'm quite sure that if you explain it to her, she wouldn't be offended;in fact I would go so far as to say if she was(I mean after discussion) you would need to rethink your relationship, for it would show a mean spirit on her part. But I'm sure she won't. Of course you should get her more than you get your friends, but I think sending something to everyone is more truly in keeping with the spirit of the day than all this exclusive lovey-dovey stuff.
Good on you!
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I havce 3 morbid, discusting habits, And i need help on stopping them.
- I forget to wash my hands after using the bathroom. Gross, How can i remeber to wash them?
-I chew on pens I literally take them apart and chew on different pieces and usally end up with no pens, its sad. How can i stop?
-And i can never remeber to flush the toliet.
And thats gross to.
Help me with theese horrible habits!
Habit 1) Buy yourself some nicely scented soap, the smell of which you find really addictive. Tell your family that this soap is yours exclusively, and only use it to wash your hands.
2)I'm not sure about this one-I feel you because I had the same habit for years, lol. I think that it just goes away of itself, but you could always try telling yourself "I could die a brief but gruesome death by asphixiation if I swallow this". Just a thought.
3)Just flush the d*mn thing! I wonder about these bathroom habits. Is it you have a large family and you always feel rushed in the bathroom? If so, then stand your ground. You need to take your time in any case-rushing bathroom time is bad for both physical and psychological health.
Good Luck!
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My boyfriend is 13 years old..he is always horney and I wanted to know...do you think he would want to have sex? I'm not going to I was just wondering
It's very possible that he would want sex-which would make him just a normally curious thirteen year old, rather than "perverted" as massieblock says. If he's always horny, there's nothing to stop you fooling around, although you're quite right to hold off from intercourse.
Still, if he never talks about anything but sex, and it seems to be the only or even the most important factor in your relationship, you should move on. Not all boys are like that, even at age thirteen.
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I am a 17 year old female, ok there is the guy that I met in high school. & we had a history. We both liked each other but had a falling out. Anyways we started talking again when we met up after he graded & sometime had passed he is now 18. We talked for about 2 months and I began to see a more mature side to him. Soon we started to text. He was very flirty like I remember him to be. Anyways, after testing for awhile he wrote I realize you are interested in me but I need to organize my life right now you deserve someone great. Sorry. I then told him I was interested and that I wanted to get to know him as a friend 1st even if that was all he had to offer was friendship. He continued to be flirty and eventually I said we should meet for coffee. What was initially only to be a 30 minute get together turned into a 2 hour conversation? I got the impression he really liked, he was flirting asking me if I was seeing anyone, offering to buy me a drink ECT. But now I'm more confused than ever. Cause afterwards I text him and said I had a great time he replied by saying “same” then I said we should do it again sometime soon he replied possibly. Does this mean all he wants is a friendship? His actions contradict his words, leaving me totally confused
I identify with your confused feeling:it must be very tempting to pursue this man and what it appears he might be offering. I have to warn you, though-don't expect too much. Guys like that keep women interested by always promising and never delivering. (Some girls do the same thing-it's a personality rather than a gender trait). "You deserve someone great" is pretty much a kiss of death to a relationship-in this case it appears to mean "I'm not interested but I'm going to have some fun anyway" . Don't let him get away with it! Don't text or IM him, just leave him alone. In that case, one of two things will occur-he will either give it up and go off to plauge some other girl or, just possibly, smarten up and start treating you seriously once he realises you're no longer up for his little games. Whatever happens, your self-respect will remain intact. Eighteen year old boys can be heinously immature-it can take them years and years to grow up. Some never do, though I'm not saying that your friend is one of these. Only time will tell.
Good Luck!
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