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My mom thinks shes too old
Whenever i go shopping with my mom we always stumble across these REALLY cute jeans that I want her to try on. When she eventually does, she automatically says NO because they are too "trendy". My mom usually wear straight leg jeans which if you didn't know have absolutely no flare. My mom has a really big butt, so she looks ridiculous!! I told her nicely that these kinds of pants don't compliment her, but she just got mad at me. She's 41 and she thinks shes too old to look good in jeans. Can you give me some tips to convince my mom that she doesn't have to be young to look great?! Shes SOOO stubborn and sensitivE!!!!!
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I think that you need to just leave her alone. Wouldn't you be pissed if someone told you that your favorite makeup/hat/shoes/whatever looked horrible on you? Just leave it alone, because 1) you're not going to convince her without making her mad, and 2) she seems happy enough with the clothes she wears. Hope I helped!
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Try watching "What Not to Wear" with your mother, they're terribly anti-mom jeans. I know a TV show won't fix all your problems, but they do a lot of mom's on the show, so while you're watching you could say "oh Mom, that would look great on you! We should look for them next time we go out!"
If she still refuses, just leave well enough alone. They're called mom jeans for a reason, everyone's mother squeezes their butt into them.
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Sounds like you love your Mom a whole bunch. That's a very good thing, and I hope this continues. You're Mom is NOT old, I'm 61 and I know how young she really is.
Does she ever take time for herself, like taking walks, taking a art class, or joining a work out group? If not, it would do wonders for her morale and would generate she would develop good feelings about herself.
Does she work all the time and is tired alot. Does she work because she has to? If so, then I'm sure her schedule is very tight. But a little exercise and eating the right foods is very important for her.
What does she eat in an average day? Good foods or quick/easy snack type things? If she's eating alot of starches or simple carbohydrates, she's gaining weight and it won't get better until she starts consuming fresh veggies and fruits and rice or a good protein/nutritional shake. You can buy those powders in healthfood stores of groceries with a nutrition center in them.
Go with her on these walks, they'd do you good too, and she'll get her blood moving.... also treat her with special things to enhance those long hot soaks in a tub. Essential oils, bath oils and powders add to the fun of relaxing. She should relax more if she's always working.
It sounds like she doesn't have much time for herself. Perhaps if you helped with the house chores she could go for these walks, take a workout class.... look at the lifestyle she currently is experiencing and see how you can help, what you can do to give her a little more time for herself.
Mothers that work(even if they don't) have a very heavy schedule and pretty soon they forget about their own needs, their own body's condition and how it got that way.
I wear jeans all the time, my friends my age do also. When it comes to age and denim there are NO limitations, only in one's mind that is bogged down.
Hope this helps.... I know there are answers to your Mom's situation, many of us have 'been there and done that' and understand. Working with a woman that's stubborn is not easy, so you may have to do it in small little increments..... perhaps some of your friends have mothers her age that wear denim and somehow you could get them together!
Don't give up though, your Mom is worth it!!!! And one day when you're a Mom, you'll know not to do it that way.... it's easy to put on the pounds than to remove them. It's easy to keep them off also, but it takes time to consider
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hey mothers day is coming up around the corner so you might want to buy some jeans for her that will look good on her and have your family and you compliment her alot on her jeans but dont make it to obvious. or you could sign her up for the show " how do i look " on the style channel which is 211 by the way. its a good show ehre they give peopel make overs. another thing is when you go oto themall with her bring a friend and separae and with your friend buy a good pair of jeans for her wihtout her knowing. cait ♥
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Don't push it, she'll get more and more stubborn and insecure. The best thing you can do is wait until her birthday or some other occasion and buy her something flattering but that isn't too far away from her general style. Then when she wears it and looks nice compliment her and get your family to in the least obvious, over-the-top way possible.
Just say you saw it and thought she'd look great.
If you do this s bit she'll get the idea that people compliment her when she wears flattering clothes and so she must look good in what she's wearing.
Simple psychology
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Lol get ur mom's size or a pair of her jean n for her b-dai or mother's day buy it for her! She has to accept it n wen she feels confident in em she'll be sassy enuff
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I hate to be the one to tell you this, but I think that you need to leave your mother alone. Sure it's frustrating that she doesn't look as cool and great as you believe she could, but you have to remember two things:
1)What looks good or even appropriate in your eyes does not necessarily fit in with her sense of style. Middle aged people often get stuck in a kind of comfortable rut, and while it's sad to watch, it is often what gives them a secure sense of self. Which is what leads us to 2)-Your mother's sensitivity. She is probably all too aware of the size of her butt, and that makes her cling to her familiar jeans, even if they are the cut and style that flatter her least in all the world. This is the way that body insecurity works. I agree with you that it would be great to have her feeling better about her look, but you won't do it by running down her current wardrobe. One trick that you could try would be to compliment her on some item of clothing other than her jeans, and then work up to suggesting how good the different jeans would look with her top/shoes/bag/whatever. If that doesn't work, however, the only thing to do is to accept her the way she is and be thankful she doesn't dress like a teenage wannabee, the way some middle-aged women do.
Good luck.
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Tell your mom that just because she has some years on her, that that doesn't mean that she shouldn't feel sexy or look good. You know, all it really means is that she still has IT at the age that she is now. Tell her to look at celebreties such as Vivica A. Fox and the woman that played in the movie Unfaithful. Tell her that being sexy and beautiful at such an age is the new thing that is "in". But if she doesn't see it from this way, leave her be and let her pine. Some people are better off that way. You know, you can't force someone to want to look sexy for themselves. It's them and therefore it's their decision. So if she wants to wear clothes that you view as old fashioned, then let her because in the end, it her body after all.
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