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sick of putting my life on hold for deadbeat bf
Am I justified in being upset with my bf? Since he moved to another state back in November for a job he hasnt contacted me ONCE. I phoned him on Xmas Day and he said that he'd phone me on New Years. I was waiting up all night for his call, and never got one. I've decided to give him one last chance, on Valentines Day. If he doenst phone me then it's over. Life is just too lonely having my life put on hold. My feelings are deeply hurt that he would treat me this way. My question is if he doesnt contact me on V-day, should I phone him up and tell him that it's over between us?
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If he did not call you to let you know that he got to his destination,(wherever that might be) and that he made it ok, then there is something wrong. Now since he has not phoned or tried to contact you in anyway since he's been gone, then that should tell you that he does not care and you should move on. Life isn't only too lonely, but it is also too short. You are probably a pretty girl and there are more fish in the sea than you can imagine. So throw away the minnow and go catch a shark......
krystal<333
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nope i wouldnt call id just disappear like he did and if he resurfaces tell him that you sent him emails and stuff and you were under the impression he was over you or he moved on so you did the same.
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stop the self loathing right there, UGH you girls you should never put your life on hold for any little boy. You seem to be very loving person but lost as a person. I think you need to re-evealuate what you want out of life, and please remember no guy is ever good enough to put your life on hold. Your life is precious and no i am not just saying this because I am nice but you can be doing such better things right now then being hung up on some boy. There is so much you can do, especially if your a teen. Try volunteering at the hopspital you live near, paintball (try it, its fun), go visit your local monk (YES try meditation), start going up to random people and start talking to them. Yes people arent going to run away, unless you have a chainsaw in your hand (ALWAYS REMEMBER: put your mind to challenge)
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yea pretty sure you should tell him its over, there is no need to waste your time with someone who doesnt even bother to talk to you, if he was a decent bf then he would call or email or something, he clearly dont respect you ro your feelings
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I'm so sorry that you've had to go through this-breaking up with someone in a vacuum is a very painful experience. The sad truth is, this guy is not your boyfriend. He has no respect for your feelings, just plays you along for no reason at all. I really wonder about people like him:whether it's true sadism which motivates them, or just an enormous disregard for others' feelings. None of which is relevant to you-you just need to forget him. I think you already know that he won't call on Valentines Day. Face the fact that it's over, and move on. Just don't think about dating for a while. Cry, , throw things, but in moderation. There is a point at which letting your anger out becomes self indulgent, and the pain and the anger feed on themselves in an ever-continuing cycle. The only person this loser has permanently hurt is himself.
Good luck, and try to ignore Valentines day.
Lucretia x.
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hey yes phone im and tell him its over if he doesnt call. he obiviosuly moved on or something that is too important to call you which sucks. cait ♥
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