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i am frightened to drive behind the wheel with the instructor. i'm afraid of the instructors yelling at me. please help, i need serious answers. how can i make myself less scared? (link)
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picture your instructor doing something really embarassing like falling down a flight of stairs (but he doesn't get hurt) or crying (even though there is nothing wrog with crying) and try to have confidence even if you don't have any
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Thanks for al the advice. Yeah it's weird a girl i just want to be friend with comes to our house while were gone and leaves me cupcakes on the kitchen counter. She trespassed. Don't you think this is crazy? What should i do about this?
But i also I used your advice and when we were leaving class I fianlly talked to her. I asked her where she'd been at. She had been sick a couple of days. She was smilling but looked up rarely and talking sweet but looked like she was in a hurry. What does this mean? What do you think i should say to her next? How can I tell if she likes me or not?
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kid, this girl is crazy for you. When a girl can't look you in eyes and seems to be in a hurry she is so into you. If you just see this girl as a friend then don't say it right off the bat that you don't like her. Try to talk to her in a sublimital way. Ummm don't stop talking to her and be nice but in a way you would be talking to an ex girlfriend. Dont be mean and do not flirt.
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I have a really hard time talking to boys (except for my guy friend). Whenever guys approach me, my mind just goes...blank. Even if I don't have a crush on him. Like when I'm going to drama there's another guy going down to the chorus room right next door. This guy's named Greg* who has a girlfriend, and it's just really awkward. We're headed in the same direction, and since it's so weird for me, he think I like him when I don't. Then he blocked me on AIM and that junk. Or some guys are just trying to hang out with me, and I just go really weird. Does anyone know what I mean, and what can I do to stop this?
*name has been changed to protect privacy ;-) (link)
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Yes I know definetly know what you mean. You are very shy around guys but remember that it will pass. When you start to be around guys more often you start to relax. It is not going to take a day to feel secure about yourself but it will happen. Just be patient and even if you don't feel confident around guys, fake it. Also some guys like the quiet girls. Remember that you are beautiful, intelligent and sexy.
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i had some drama within my group of friends. me and my 2 bffls told some of our other friends how it annoyed us that they always talk about their amazing sleepovers infront of us and we're never invited. They all hate me now, and they really dislike my 2 friends, but since i did most of the talking, they especially hate me. They said some really mean stuff about me and even said they "never liked me." i know i shouldn't care about girls who pretended to be my friends for 3 years, but it really makes me so mad! i have friends on my side too, but i feel so crummy about the things that said about me, calling me a b*tch and a hoe and annoying and stuck up. what should i do? i'm so mad at them!!!
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this is a deja vu. Last year when I was 15 I had the same exact problem. Take the high road, don't talk about them, period. All these girls want is attention and you can't give it to them. No matter what. Sure, these girls are going to be mean and nasty but remember you are mentally stronger than them and you have something which they will never posess: Substance. You are probably thinking...wtf is substance. Substance is a type of person that can always be cool, calm, and collected (NON drama!) This will help you survive the vicious attack among teenage girls (yeah most teenage girls are animals, start chillin with more guys) and remember what comes around goes around.
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So I am a twenty-one year old female and I've suffered from panic attacks since I was a pre-teen but have managed to get them pretty much completely under control with therapy and medication.
My problem is lately I get these really weird little attacks that last only 5 – 7 seconds. I've always been told that real panic attacks last much longer but these feel just like the big ones, I stop breathing, I felt hot and sweaty and everything feels doomed and I'm terrified for no reason, but then it's just over and I only feel a little shaken by it. Has anyone else ever experienced something like this? They are so quick I can't seem to stop them, any ideas? (link)
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yes I once had really bad panic attacks but went to therapy and learned how to control them. Since now I know how to control them, I still get mini-ones that only last for a couple of minutes
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if you have sex when you are on your period will the guy's penis be bloody? and can i still get pregnant? (link)
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you are not truly ready for sex because you should know this! Always be educated about sex
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I am in so much emotional pain right now it could kill a cow!
I was basicly raped
I have lost everything
im not in school
everything is just going down the drain and I hate it!
What can I do to make this stop and have me be happpppy once in my life i just want to be happy (link)
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first of all you need 2 understand and face this rape. Have you ever tried to get past the fear and degrading feelings of the rape and really tried to understand why a rapist rapes. Usually when a person is raped, it is so hard for them to get past the trauma of it and can't dig deeper to the *psychology of it. (TALK ABOUT IT) I am not saying that everything is going to be like it was before but you will be truly happy once again. It takes patience to recover from these things (which you probably know) and even though you will have bad days, there is always hope no matter who you are. Take things day by day and PLEASE stay positive. These things will get better and remember if it doesn't kill you, it makes you stronger!
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Hey guys, my name is Levi,Im 16, male, 5'11-6' about 155 lbs. I posted here last summer about a girl and i tried to follow what some you people said, and well let's just say, it didn't work...Yeahhh anyways, I met this girl beggining of my sophomore year, "this year", and she is a freshman, completely gorgeous, she plays softball and from what I know we have a lot in common. I talked to her the other day driving home from school on my cell and she said she likes guys who where athletic and confident blah blah, and I can say im both, I lift weights and I play two sports, the only problem is that im afraid to ask her out sometime, she's really intimidating because I've never met a girl like this before and wow, I really wanna get something going. I always here her talking to her friends about how she wants to find the right guy, with a low drama relationship, and im pretty much looking for the same thing. I mean I want it to be fairly serious but I don't want everyone and thier mom involved. How should I approach asking her out, "should it be on a date? A trip to block buster then to my house? With friends out to eat somewhere casual? She seems to be really easy going, and she isn't stuck up and self centered like most girls I know, please help me out...
Levi (link)
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do u want my brilliant answer...do it. Don't let rejection stop you from doing what you really want to do. It also seems that this girl would be perfect for you and take it from us girls when a girl talks about what her type of guys are and it describes you to the max, then she really wants you. She sounds like a grt GF tooo!
don't whimp out, she wants confidence, give her confidence
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Am I justified in being upset with my bf? Since he moved to another state back in November for a job he hasnt contacted me ONCE. I phoned him on Xmas Day and he said that he'd phone me on New Years. I was waiting up all night for his call, and never got one. I've decided to give him one last chance, on Valentines Day. If he doenst phone me then it's over. Life is just too lonely having my life put on hold. My feelings are deeply hurt that he would treat me this way. My question is if he doesnt contact me on V-day, should I phone him up and tell him that it's over between us? (link)
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stop the self loathing right there, UGH you girls you should never put your life on hold for any little boy. You seem to be very loving person but lost as a person. I think you need to re-evealuate what you want out of life, and please remember no guy is ever good enough to put your life on hold. Your life is precious and no i am not just saying this because I am nice but you can be doing such better things right now then being hung up on some boy. There is so much you can do, especially if your a teen. Try volunteering at the hopspital you live near, paintball (try it, its fun), go visit your local monk (YES try meditation), start going up to random people and start talking to them. Yes people arent going to run away, unless you have a chainsaw in your hand (ALWAYS REMEMBER: put your mind to challenge)
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I'm a straight A student and I'm going to be graduating this year from middle school. I can't wait! The most difficult thing for me right now is choosing the high school I would like to attend next year. There are so many things I would love to try out for next year. For some clubs, I know I will definitely join. I love all these sports, track, hockey, lacrosse, basketball, and so forth... Some sports only have a boys' team which kind of stinks. I've noticed that a lot of people are in more than one club and more than one sport... and are still a straight A student. I'm just wondering... How can someone manage their time with all of this going on? -- Thank you. (link)
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i am happy that you are challenging yourself but you need to learn it doesn't matter hoow many clubs, sports, and after skool activies you take part it, are YOU, as a person, having fun and not feeling to much pressure. Remember that you are young and even though you are on the right track for college, don't forget to have fun. Work is good, but having unforgetable moments are priceless (I sound like the mastercard comercial)
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How do you get over it besides popping the pills? (link)
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Well, if your depression isn't chemically (if it is then you do need medication) but try seeing a monk. I'm serious meditating can help you overcome anything...remember this: Where true hapiness lies is not within people or objects, it is within yourself (Your mind!) Try to think positive cause whenever you feel like your world is being torn apart, being positive and remembering the good things in life (it could be sitting down reading a great book or that feeling your get when you do good for a person).ALSO YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE WHO SUFFERS FROM THIS MIND TORTURE and rent the movie "What the bleep do we know!" Trust me on this
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Well, I have in issue with becoming a vegetarian. I really want to, but my family is Greek and they just don't understand why I won't eat perfectly good meat, and if I don't eat it they think I have an eating disorder. I really want to give it up because I love animals and it's a lot healthier, but I'm shy when it comes to telling my parents these things and I don't know if they'd understand. They'd probably make fun of me. What should I do? (link)
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ahh my fellow greek. yes I know how it is to have a greek family. Want my advice, do it, be a vegetarian. There is nothing wrong with it and sure at first your mother is probably get a little angry but she is your mother and no matter how angry she is she will accept it. And remember hate plants not animals
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