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I am in so much emotional pain right now it could kill a cow!
I was basicly raped
I have lost everything
im not in school
everything is just going down the drain and I hate it!
What can I do to make this stop and have me be happpppy once in my life i just want to be happy<3
(p.s dont mention councelers i already have one)
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There are brighter days ahead of you. I was raped on my 15 birthday by someone I knew 3 years older then me. I convienced myself that it was nothing and never happened for the longest time and it was not rape. I told my closest friends and I finally got up the courage to tell him how he made me feel and what I think everytime I saw him.
But then I saw the guy again because we ended up going to the same college.
I broke down and cried hours on end to my current boyfriend and like that my pain was gone. It was his comfort and his care that helped me 100%. I still see the guy that raped me everyday and it does not stop me from gving him the evil eye so he knows how i still feel.
I am over the pain now.
You just have to help yourself in every possible way. Help other people in the same situation charge him so he cant do it to anyone else again.
I wish I stopped him when i was younger but he still rapes 3 other girls untill one of them pressed charges.
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Look, if you're still this emotionally scarred, your therapist is not working, or at least not working hard enough. I would say to not throw yourself back into regular life all at once because that's very stressful. I think you'd do well to find a very good psychologist. One not being helpful doesn't mean there aren't great ones out there. You might want to call hotlines if you feel like you can't talk to/pay for a sit-down counselor. You've got to let someone in eventually.
p.s. things WILL get better.
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first of all you need 2 understand and face this rape. Have you ever tried to get past the fear and degrading feelings of the rape and really tried to understand why a rapist rapes. Usually when a person is raped, it is so hard for them to get past the trauma of it and can't dig deeper to the *psychology of it. (TALK ABOUT IT) I am not saying that everything is going to be like it was before but you will be truly happy once again. It takes patience to recover from these things (which you probably know) and even though you will have bad days, there is always hope no matter who you are. Take things day by day and PLEASE stay positive. These things will get better and remember if it doesn't kill you, it makes you stronger!
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1. I'm terribly sorry about you being raped. I have a close friend that's been raped, and I know that it can emotionally scare you for a while.
2. Get in control of your life. Spend a little bit of time a day, doing whatever you feel like doing. Read inspirational books, like the chicken soup for the teenage soul, or the mother's soul, or the preteen's soul, or the golfer's..etc..etc.. whichever applies to you, they have tons.
3. Get back in school. Do whatever it takes to get you back. An education is the one thing that you won't regret later. It might actually help you in life.
4. Talk to your friends. Depend on them if you need to, and if you EVER need someone to talk to, i'm always here. you can message me, email me, or talk to me on aim.
5. Always look on the brighter side of things, it really will help you feel better.
---I hope it helps, and I hope things go better.---
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Kill the cow.
Getting raped is always unfortunate. I have a friend, she has been raped by 7 different people at different times and I realize it can be hard to cope with.
You say you lost everything. Do you have your family? any friends? Self respect? These are the first things you need to look to or restore. If you're religious, you can look to your God.
You should really get back in school. It will help with money problems and allow you to meet people.
It sounds like you have a real reason to be depressed, but there are many bumps in the road, and most people get extremely depressed about 2 times in thier life (on average). Once you get out, you realize why life is really so great.
Good luck.
Write if you need anything.
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Well you need to start thinking positive. Try just going out with your friends and doing things for yourself that will help you relax (a spa, tanning, getting your nails done, shopping, etc.) Just try to forget about the past. If you want to become a better person and be happy about yourself, maybe try going back to school. I know it's tough but you need your friends and family to help you through this. I hope you become happy because everyone should be happy. =)
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