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His actions contradict his words
I am a 17 year old female, ok there is the guy that I met in high school. & we had a history. We both liked each other but had a falling out. Anyways we started talking again when we met up after he graded & sometime had passed he is now 18. We talked for about 2 months and I began to see a more mature side to him. Soon we started to text. He was very flirty like I remember him to be. Anyways, after testing for awhile he wrote I realize you are interested in me but I need to organize my life right now you deserve someone great. Sorry. I then told him I was interested and that I wanted to get to know him as a friend 1st even if that was all he had to offer was friendship. He continued to be flirty and eventually I said we should meet for coffee. What was initially only to be a 30 minute get together turned into a 2 hour conversation? I got the impression he really liked, he was flirting asking me if I was seeing anyone, offering to buy me a drink ECT. But now I'm more confused than ever. Cause afterwards I text him and said I had a great time he replied by saying “same” then I said we should do it again sometime soon he replied possibly. Does this mean all he wants is a friendship? His actions contradict his words, leaving me totally confused
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I identify with your confused feeling:it must be very tempting to pursue this man and what it appears he might be offering. I have to warn you, though-don't expect too much. Guys like that keep women interested by always promising and never delivering. (Some girls do the same thing-it's a personality rather than a gender trait). "You deserve someone great" is pretty much a kiss of death to a relationship-in this case it appears to mean "I'm not interested but I'm going to have some fun anyway" . Don't let him get away with it! Don't text or IM him, just leave him alone. In that case, one of two things will occur-he will either give it up and go off to plauge some other girl or, just possibly, smarten up and start treating you seriously once he realises you're no longer up for his little games. Whatever happens, your self-respect will remain intact. Eighteen year old boys can be heinously immature-it can take them years and years to grow up. Some never do, though I'm not saying that your friend is one of these. Only time will tell.
Good Luck!
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i hear ya!!! Guys seem to be very different in person, than they do on the phone or online. Its like they dont know how to say the things to our faces like they can over the phone or online. Ive been where you are, and yes, his actions are contradicting his words. When a guy doesnt follow through on his actions or words, thats all they are, is just words!!
I dont think i would wait around for him. If a guy is truly interested, he would be calling you, and he would want to hang out with you.
Good Luck!
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