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Hello.
My boyfriend recently graduated so I'm going to strip for him when we go on vacation to the beach.
The thing is I don't know which song to stripdance to!
We both like alternative and rock but pop is okay.
I need a song that I can dance to in stilettos, seductive/sultry songs are preferred, but with enough of an update beat to dance to

Thanks!!! (link)
im in love with a stripper - t-pain.

enjoy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Hello.
My boyfriend recently graduated so I'm going to strip for him when we go on vacation to the beach.
The thing is I don't know which song to stripdance to!
We both like alternative and rock but pop is okay.
I need a song that I can dance to in stilettos, seductive/sultry songs are preferred, but with enough of an update beat to dance to

Thanks!!! (link)
candy shop, just a lil bit, rich girl, my humps are a few good ones


i`m a 15yr old female,
i started to hang out with this boy about 2 months ago. he is in 2 grades higher than me he drives and i relly like him. tha first day we hung out i started to like him and since that day we havent gone more than 2 days without seeing eachother. But tha thing is he only wants to be friends with benifits.. and i want more. He is also involved with this other girl but they arent dateing she is an ex but they still have sex. I havent had sex with him yet he has asked but i said no. I met a few of his friends and became friends with some of them too. One night 3 of his friends asked me to hang out with them even though the guy i like wasnt there but i wsaid yes anyways. i ended up haveing sex with one of his friends. When the guy i like found out he was mad i`m not to sure why, he said he was mad because i said no to him when he cares about me and knows me well but i said yes to one of his friends that i jut met and didnt care about me. I'm not to sure why i had sex with his friend and won't have sex with him. He still asks me to have sex but i always say no. It might be a revenge thing because the night that i had sex with his friend was the same night i found out the guy i like was still haveing sex with his ex.. now the guy that i had sex with started to call me and ask me to hang out. i like him too but i don't think he knows it. i think he just thinks i like fooling around with him. so im wondering what i should do about this because i think tha first guy i like is just useing me and i don`t even know what to do about th second one. (link)
THE is not spelled THA. OK? And THIS ' is an apostrophe, not THIS `. and WHY did you do that?! that is for AFTER marriage, gah. go read the Bible!


hi i'm a 16 years old girl and have never had sex, a boyfriend, or kissed a guy. people tell me all the time that i am pretty and must have a ton of guy friends. i get ridiculously nervous around guys i really like and act like a total dork. what can i do to get guys to like me or to handle my nerves?

here's pics of me lol
http://i8.tinypic.com/24fa8o1.jpg
http://i7.tinypic.com/24fadcy.jpg
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first off i lovveee your shirt so much :)

anyways, a good way to become more comfortable with a guy is too talk to him on im/email/myspace/facebook (by commenting for the last2)

cuz that way you can think of what you are gonna say and then ask yourself is it dorky or not


is spaying and neutering a pet wrong? (link)
heckk no! but i`m not saying that you should deff. neuter your pet. but neutering it wouldn`t do ANY harm whatsoever.


I've never been to a bloc party.
What exactly do you do there.
My boyfriend always goes to them. Do people hook up there or what? (link)
A block party is a neighborhood type party. They're really fun because there's always food and music. It's basically just everyone on your street hanging out and stuff. And no, usually, there is no hooking up. It's a family thing.


Okay , so i babysit this sixth grader three days a week. & let me tell ya .. IT IS SOOOOO BORING OVER THERE! All that i ever do is watch t.v., eat, & talk on the phone. Oh yeah ... and i also get on the computer. Any ideas on what else I could do over there? He always goes over to his friends houses all the time , so its not like I can do anything with him. Grrrr , HELPPP! (link)
you could bring a book maybe for summer reading or enjoyment. you could also babysit with a friend and so stuff with them and if its nice out go out and do things outside. but um if hes over his friends house why are you babysitting??


hey i was reading a question someone asked, and you answered it and it was really good advice. i even took some of the advice lol.
but anyways, there was this this about aeropostale. and you said you shouldnt wear it unless your in 7th grade or younger, & i agree with that, because their clothes are so cheesy but i love their boy hoodies. even though i am a girl and im going into 9th. so my question is, do you think its bad to wear those hoodies? i mean, its not like they're all bright and pink and have butterflies on them lol. the ones i have are, green black and dark blue.

thanks. (link)
Nah, the guy hoodies are okay I think. They're REALLY comfortable too haha. Areo's guy clothes are much better than their girl clothes; they aren't so kiddish. Their jeans are alright too. It's mostly their *baby tees* that I hate.


I see that you know a lot about cars so I'm hoping you will be able to help me.
My husband and I are thinking of going to the USA and travelling around for a few months when he retires. Not knowing too much about things over there, I was wondering, as we wanted to use something like a winnebago for this, whether it would be better to buy, (how much roughly) or to hire, (from where)? Or is there a similar vehicle that may be better? We would want to start at one of the country and work our way to the other.
Also, are there any sights, other than the obvious, that we should take a look at? I do want to go to Sedonna, Grand Canyon etc.
Thanks (link)
http://www.gorving.com
that website is a site setup by many of the motorhome makers in the united states encouraging people to go and explore the country from behind the wheel of a house on wheels. now they might help point you in the direction of an RV rental place better than i can but if not go here:
http://www.usarvrentals.com/?src=google1&grp=Generic
they have a listing of all the dealers in the US that rent their RV's. and if that doesn't help well then i dunno what to tell ya haha.

and as for sites. well check out the historical stuff as well. especially if you're starting on the east coast. i mean you have new york city, boston, washington DC, and all sorts of other places where you can relive the colonists and the british fighting it out. if that's not your thing. check out the baseball stadiums across the country, or the national parks from glacier national park, to big bend, and yellowstone. heck even stop by san antionio texas and see the alamo where 100 texans battled over 10,000 mexicans in the 1840's. or san jacinto texas and see where the texan army took the mexicans by surprise and won the territory from mexico and from spain. there's a lot more to see than i can write about but the only way to see it is to just go for it. good luck.


I think i have ADD and i am going to be tested for it before i go back to school. I have taken adderall a bunch of times before and that helped me. I was wondering though.. is adderall more for people with ADHD? Cause i dont think i have that. If i got diagnosed with ADD, do you think i would be prescribed adderall? (link)
Different medication react differently with people. If you are diagnosed with ADD you should talk to your doctor about it and tell him how it hasn't helped in the past. He'll tell you what you should take whether it is Adderall or not. My friend used to be on Adderall and it seemed to work good with him. He had ADD too.


I'm just wondering though, if you aren't prescribed Adderall, why are you taking it? I'm guessing you aren't since you haven't even been diagnosed with ADD yet.


do girls go for guys with piercings? if they are good looking that is, and do girls get attracted to guys with piercings,like let's say nose rings?and if they do, can you specify which part of the face or body you find most attractive for a piercing on a guy and how much piercings should your ideal guy have?thanks (link)
Piercing don't mean much to me. I can take them or leave them on guys. But, I defiantly DON'T like nose piercing, I think they look girly on guys.


I will tell you though that girls go wild for those lip piercing. Nipple piercing on guys are good too.


do girls like guys that are neatly trimmed, just some hair or not cut or shaven at all at the dick? and do girls like guys that shave their ass or not? and lastly, are girls more attracted to hairy chested men or hairy legged men? (link)
I like that area SHAVED. Some guys don't like shaving there though, so if it's REALLY trimmed I guess that's okay. Um, ass doesn't bother than me; I'm not in that area much. I don't like hairy chests. Some is okay, happy trails are good, but if you look like my big Italian uncle then you need to take some of that off haha. And legs don't bother me that much. My ex boyfriend shaved his legs and I liked that about him. But hairy legs are guy-ish and are good.


im gunna be a freshmen in highschool nd i need a WHOLE NEW WARDROBE! i wanna be known as the hottest freshmen in school, the hottest girl in school for that matter. what clothes and make-up should i buy? idc how much it is, give me the most expensive thing you can find for all i care. haha well anything reasonable actually that will look hott and will make my ex's think 'damn i shouldn't have let her go' somehting that will turn heads -- BREAK NECKS for that matter. =] thanks! (link)
I wasn't going to answer this but seeing the answers you got, I will.


Just some advice, you can wear all the designer, expensive things you want. But, if you don't look *right* in them or don't look *comfortable* in them to others, you will not look good. Sure, in high school, wearing the expensive things help with some things, but not with all. Most of the time it isn't what you wear, it's HOW you wear it. Just a rule of fashion.


This one girl I know from school shops at Target and she still always looks good.


What's in right now? A lot of polos for one. But I don't wear polos because I don't think they fit me right (I don't like my shoulders and it's almost as if they make my shoulders look wider eeKk!). So, just because something is *in* doesn't mean you have to wear it to look *hott*. So, if you don't have the legs to wear something really short, don't. If you don't have the tummy to wear a belly shirt, don't. If you have a big butt that you don't want to look bigger, don't wear something that will make it stand out because it's *in*. See where I'm going? Wear things that hide you imperfections and show off your strengths.


Something else, just because something is *in* doesn't mean it looks good! I hate those flats with no backs. They look like house shoes. They're most likely in because some reporter saw Paris Hilton wearing them to get her mail or something and all of a sudden, those things were all over magazines.


I get plenty of complements from guys and girls for what I wear. I've even gotten a "You look so cute!" when I was in a Chanel boutique. But it isn't just because I wear Abercrombie and Hollister. I wear those clothes but I put my own spin on them. Most girls that wear the so called *preppy* clothes wear jeans, an A&f/HCO shirt, brown belt, and brown flip flops. THEY ALL LOOK THE SAME! And that will not get people to notice you. You'll just get sucked in to what you *should* wear. Don't let that happen.


I wear my A&F shirts and jeans but I don't wear the regular old brown belt with brown flip flops. I have about 9375286 belts that are all kinds of colors. I match them to my shirts. Nothing to over the top or too out there but they look cute and give my A&F more or my personality. Then I wear shoes that match that. Sometimes flip flops, sometimes heels, sometimes tennis shoes. Depends on what looks best with my outfit.


If you're wearing a dressy shirt, do not wear tennis shoes. Even if they do match, do NOT wear them. It will throw your look off and you go back to the whole not looking *right*. Sprint for some heels or *dressy* flip flops. Those plain Old Navy flip flops go with regular tees and polos, not dressy things.


Then, jewelry. I have tons and tons of jewelry that I also match to my outfits. And they thing with jewelry, it doesn't have to be expensive.


So here's what you should do. Go to the store you like, or that you think are *in* (I'll give you a list of stores when I'm done) and get everything YOU like and think YOU will look *GOOD* in. Then go to the fitting rooms and try everything on. Don't buy anything that makes you look chunky, short, flat, wide, etc. Bringing a friend with you helps alot. But bring one that will actually tell you what looks good and what doesn't. Don't bring a *yes* friend that agrees with everything you say. Moms are actually good for this because they'll tell you the truth (or at least my mom does haha).


Here are the stores I shop at:
Abercrombie and Fitch
Hollister
Buckle
Express
American Eagle (I stay away from their tees though because sometimes they aren't cute at all)
I rarely shop at Forever21 for clothes but sometimes something will catch my eye and look alright.
Same for Fossil


Now on to jewelry. Like I said, it doesn't have to be expensive. Go to stores like Forever21 and Claire's for jewelry. They're adorable, cute, and pretty cheap so you can get alot of it!


You want to get the regular old Old Navy flip flops in different colors to match your tees and such. But make sure you have some dressy ones as well. And have at least two pairs or tennis shoes to go with athletic stuff (school shirts, hoodies, etc.).


Here are just a few tips before I go on to hair and make up. I'd like you to remember though, that these are all my opinions.


*I stay away from skinny jeans because they make my hips look bigger, and I just don't like them.
*No black with brown!
*I never go near ballerina flats. Not only do I not like them but I'm 5'3 so no need to make my self shorter
*Like I said before, make sure your styles do together.
*Stay away from knock offs! Nothing will make you look more needy to *fit in* than designer fakes. Plus it's not fair to the real ones. This is my biggest pet peeve!
*DON'T shop in Aeropostale unless you're in 7th grade or younger.


Now hair, my favorite part :D! I always have my hair different. Sometimes I have it straight, sometimes I curl it, sometimes I wear it natural and wavy, sometimes I have it up, and sometimes down. I'll put it up in a messy bun on some occasions or I'll even part it different. I get many complements on my hair as well. Experiment and see what looks best on you.


Makeup. You don't need designer make up to look good. I watched this on the Tyra Show once. They took a girl that only bought designer make up and did half her face with the designer and the other half with drugstore make up. She thought the drug store was the designer. If you send me a picture of you or tell me what you look like I'll give you colors and how you should do it.


Need anything else, let me know.


Oh yeah I forgot one thing:
With your clothes, try sticking with like, the top 4 colors that look good on you. Then you don't have to worry as much with matching.


I am a 14 year old girl, and up until about a week ago I never had a boyfriend, had never been kissed or anything. But last summer I knew a boy from camp, and I liked him then, but I didn't see him again till this summer at the same camp, when he said we should hang out. Soon enough he asked me out, I said yes, and this was all before we actually hung out since camp. He invited me over, his friend was there and I brought a friend of my own. But before I went he put me on the phone with his friend, and his friend asked me if I wanted him to be the first guy I made out with? I said sure we'll see how it goes I guess. And then pretty soon he just took me inside and we made out... but like a lot... it was kind of ridiculous that we didn't even really talk much. And a couple times he did it in front of my friend and his friend which bothered me. There was one time though he kind of uh tried to touch my chest so I just kind of backed away, he asked me if it was too fast, I said yea and he said it's cool and stopped. Then he tried again later, I didn't really know how to stop him but I tried and he stopped after a little. A while after I left, he texted me and said he had fun and asked if I did. I said yea but asked if we could take it a little slower. He said yea no problem my bad, and that he was also trying to show up his friend. That's probably not good even if he was telling the truth. I feel like I should give him another chance... cause I really do like him. But I don't think he likes me - I mean he's telling me he loves me but I know he definitely doesn't, he doesn't even know me that well. He says I'm hot and I think that's the only thing that matters to him, but at the same time I feel like there had to be a reason that I waited a year for this guy and then it turns out that he asks me out. I honestly don't even know how I feel about it... I think I should go see him again, but probably with more people this time, and see how it goes from there. I feel really bad about myself though, how fast that went... I've been upset the past few days and I lost my appetite almost completely. What am I going to do? (link)
Just go see him again with more people around , like you said. & if he trys to make-out with you , in front of ALL those people .. then hes just using you. Pretty much. (=


Hey my friend is 11 years old and she thinks she has a yeast infection cause she always wears her bathing suit after shes done swimming to bed and she has yellow stuff in her "down there" she said its yellow and mushy please help! (link)
that`s discharge. ask her if it "itches" down there. and if it does, she most likely has a yeast infection.


what are the best ways to learn the words to a song? and good tips?? (link)
uhm , look up the lyrics? & sing along with the song. over and over and over and over over and over and over and over over and over and over and over over and over and over and over over and over and over and over over and over and over and over over and over and over and over over and over and over and over over and over and over and over over and over and over and over over and over and over and over over and over and over and over again. (= yeahuhh. that`s how we do. (=


My boyfriends wants me to send him a picture of my pussy to his phone. I don't really want to. How can I tell him I'm not going to without making it seem like I don't love him? (link)
Well first of all , it`s your body. So if you say no & he`s not okay with it .. then u shouldn`t feel bad AT ALL. And if you don`t send it to him and hes all like , "i`m ganna break up with you now , blah blah blah" , then he`s not worth your time anyway.

Hope I helped.


I need some basic feng shui tips.
A website would work. (link)
Here is are some websites:

http://www.qi-whiz.com/
http://www.wofs.com/
http://www.fastfengshui.com/

Hope that helped some.


I was wondering how long it takes for marijuana to get out of your system. I didn't do it!, but someone I know did. And I am concerned about them. My school does random drug tests too by taking a little tiny piece of your hair. So does anyone know how long? Please actual facts not just guesses. Thanks! (link)
I have a friend that did marijuana a couple of times, and he told me that it really depends on the person, but if your your friend is a regular user it could take from up to 3-57 days to clear out of his/her urine whereas it would only take up to 36 hours to clear out of his/her blood. There is a good chance that your friend could be detected, but drinking plenty of fluids and doing lots of exercise can speed up the process a little. You should also tell your frined to stay away from marijuana and other drugs. Hope that helped some.


Well, I really do need advice. This has been something that's been bothering me for so long.

I have a friend that is a boy, named David. I really really like him, you see. I asked him if I had any chance at all and he said 'sorry, no.' After this I was devastated but kept him as a good friend.

Lately it's so confusing as to whether he wants to be my friend or not! He is really mean at some points, and then he's really really nice. He even asked me to visit him at work, and go to his beach house with my friend, Molly.

Sometimes I like to think maybe I have a chance with him, and my friend insists that things can change. But I'm not even sure if he's my friend!

Help? Is he my friend or a soon to be something more?

P.S. We are both 14 years old. (link)
I think that you should talk to him and tell him about your feelings and thoughts of the situation and ask him if you two are still just friends or if you could be something more. He could have changed his mind, but be prepared if he hasnt. Consider him a close friend for now until you get to talk to him, and he tells you what he thinks. I really hope things work out for the best for you. Good luck.




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