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I have a problem.My problem is there is this guy name james,and I'm not sure if I like him.When ever I'm in class ,I always glance his ways,sometimes he staring at me.I'm curious he still mad because on valentine's day I decided to play a prank so I sent a gram to a girl name julie, she sits by him,anyway is says"will you be my girlfriend ,love james"ever since I sent that ,we just stopped talking,well we have a small conversation.I dont know what to do,because I'm not those girls that believe in love (I'm 12 yrs old and a girl)
I'd say your prank embarrassed him and he didn't like it. If you have an interest in him, start talking to him. I don't understand why so many 12 year olds happy birthday blessings dont know how to hold a conversation face to face unless its because you got so used to growing up with computers, emailing texting facebook that you dont know how to talk to someone any more. You just approach him when theres no others around to hear. and say "Hi James. First I want to apologize for my Valentines prank. I would like to be your friend. I am not sure I am ready or interested enough to like you enough to be a girfriend...just a friend for now. I'll treat you like one of my girl friends and you can treat me like one of the guys if thats okay with you?" Or choose something else to say to start conversation but you will need to learn eventually how to talk to a guy, apparently your mom and dad talk to each other, other couples talk to each other. How did they get there. They just started even though its scary for the first minute or two. If you can enjoy conversation with a guy, then you can discover what things you have in common to do together. This is one of the important parts of a relationship besides sex. Start the friendship first with the guys and you will know which one you want to go to the next stage on.
Please can sombody help i met my husband when i was 17 and he was19 i have lived in constand feer as he swrved 22yrs in the army once finished i dwcided to move to the uk with him to bring him back home and support him so we took our sons and moved he started a new job after me and the boys picked him back up coming out of way he knew for 20 od yrs and then cheated on my and walked out on us paramedic dont trust the nhs i cant return home coz my boys at school and i have nibody and nothinh i tried to kill myself and feel traimatised and have nightmares ever single night i tru to hold on and fight but i lost eveeything i ever lived for and believed in
If your husband was 22 years in service and saw some hard ugly action, he could very well be traunatized by it and also have PTSD post traumatic stress disorder.
Stuff like that can change a person totally so they lose who they used to be. And they become a totally different person. Sounds like both of you have been disillusioned and or jaded about life for different reasons.
Some of your letter isn't clear to me so I have to guess. If paramedics are mentioned I can only guess there was possibly violence towards himself, you or the kids. If you are having nightmares and have experienced trauma that i can't begin to imagine, you need to see a counselor. The kids may need counseling too.
We often feel we have lost everything when we place all life value in the things and people around us. Its hard if we put so much effort in and then its pulled away from us.
As souls having a human experience, sometimes it takes a different perspective to be able to find it easier to understand and piece a life together.
Sometimes we simply need to change our focus from striving so hard to gain a soul mate, husband, lover, a house, a job, to striving just as hard instead for that of spiritual value to us. Something that can never be taken from us is the love of our Creator. When I was in an abusive marriage, it was my relationship with my Mother/Father God that kept me sane and feeling like there was a reason to go on. I felt love from Spirit and that helped me to start a new life, find time to heal. I even got some counseling and then I finally met the wonderful husband I have today. If you have a spiritual path, I suggest you find some comfort there, if not, it would be a good idea to seek one out...it doesnt matter which as long as you feel it feeding you spiritually and helping you grow stronger.
Why has my bf told people we had sex when we neva
A good guess is he thinks he will look better and gain some status with his friends. I don't know what the stats are today but in my times when guys claimed to their friends to have had sex, that put the pressure on with all the guys thinking they were behind the times so they either tried to have sex with a girl but if no girl would do it with him, then he went back and told his friends the same lie the other guy did, that he had sex with his latest girlfriend because all the guys think it makes they seem more cool.
Guys don't communicate with each other like girls do. If a girl wants sex and her boyfried wont she'll ask her friends what can I do to get him to have sex but you wont hear her bragging about having had sex with him cus that doesnt solve her problem. Guys like to outright lie, or hint at something to get others to believe what they want to believe.
Hopefully he's young like 12 or so and will out grow that.
If your boyfriend is 19, 20....there's something seriously wrong. Not only does he have a lying problem but theres a chance he is perhaps gay and cant admit it to himself or he has a medical problem and has no sex drive and should see a doctor or a mutation from what is the norm.
I'm 14/f and I sweat so bad in my armpits and even my butt.. No matter what season its wet under my armpits. It's cold and wet and disgusting. I have to keep my arm down and I can no longer wear gray clothing, or any other clothes that you can easily see sweat on. Tank tops, sweatshirts, north face, everything! When i get up there's like a wet mark showing my sweat too! I'm a girl, I shouldn't be sweating more than guys like this.. And yes, I use deodorant. It's not the typical one, its the special sports one in the box. Should I go to the doctor? I can't deal with this anymore. Help!
While sweating is normal for a body, you don;t want to stop it totally and try to block it with a Anti Perspirant because it can block up the glands that sweat. I know someone whose glands swoll up under their arms and they were told by dr. to switch to using only anti deodorant.
I am sharing that piece to remember for later once your excessive sweating is under control.
What do your parents think? It doesn't hurt to see a doctor. Maybe there is a change in diet that could help or perhaps it's a normal faze for some teens. You didnt say how long its been happening. Did it start with puberty or have you had it all your childhood and only now concerned since you are teenaged. I vote for seeing a Dr.
Why did my bf hide his erection he got over me with a pillow
How old are you both. If you're a first girlfriend and he doesnt want to pressure you for sex, he could be embarrassed or trying to act as if it didnt happen. When females are aroused... their arousal is hidden as their sex organ is. For a guy it is the opposite. Imagine having something on your body that reacts like that every time you see a guy whose looks you like, dozens of times a day even when you dont want it too...like it has a mind of its own and shows up when it wants to. Erections can be very embarassing you see?
Why does my bf always rub his dick against meme and why does it make me horny plz anwser both
sounds like you're both young, full of raging sexual hormones and you have no clue what's what because of inexperience.
Well, ya gotta start somewhere, so I suggest you get on you tube and look up the channel of Lacigreen for sex plus talks 156 videos and growing each lasting 3-4 min on any and all topics such as what you ask. She has dating info also. I highly recommend her..She's a young person. And Planned parenthood approves of her. Lots of real info not made up stuff.
Why does my bf bounce me up and down when i sit in his lap
I am not a mind reader so i have no way of knowing what he is thinking and his reasonings. So you will just have to ask him. If you dont like it, ask him to stop, and if you do like it, then enjoy it.
How should i tell my bf i want to fuck him
Open your mouth and tell him. You can use the words you posted here or something else. I wonder why it is hard for you to know how to communicate with another human being, especially a boyfriend. Is there another issue you have not asked advice for such as shyness or he only wants to be friends and not have sex?
Why do i feel like this everyday? What can i do?
I know everyone has seen something like this before. I have looked at other peoples questions like this but they are not the answers i'm looking for. I'm 17. I hate my parents more than anyone. I have one person who used to be my friend but i don't like him anymore. If i bump into an object/wall i get angry and punch it or kick it. I hate everything about myself. I'm pessimistic about everything. I used to think about suicide but then i realized its everyone else who is my problem and i wish they would die or get out of my life completely. The only things i love at all would be my 2 dogs. and surfing the internet after i play with my dogs. That;s my life now, it's summer , but i am stuck here at my room, i don't want to go out, may father is always intrusive what i am doing, when i go out with friends, just once a week last month, when i got home he always do say i am flirting with a boy(im bi, and he knows it). That's why i never get out with my friends anymore. It change me a lot what my father treat me. I am not social at all. The friends i used to have came to me i didn't go to them. Sometimes i can manage to act happy but really inside i want to put a hole in something. I am so mad with my father, last 2 months he punched me, and kick me in my leg, just because i forgot to feed his chicken, i am eating that time and i said to him, wait i will just finish my breakfast, and he yelled at me saying you respondent idiot, he cussed me while im eating, thats what happen, then he punched me and kick me. Not only that, much more. I wish he die, i tell my mom all the time when im pissed of him. I don't know where to release my anger towards my father. And because of this i am always offer profanity, to anyone even to my mother. When my father got home, i shut to my bedroom. I have been this way for 2 years and i only get angrier by the year. Most of the things that used to make me happy are dead to me. My parents are getting sick of my constant angry attitude and violence toward inanimate objects and to my sister, and friends of my sister, i get angry all the time. I go to a "special" school full of the most idiotic people you can imagine. Really i'm not sure how much more i can take before i have a mental breakdown. Sometimes i am thinking hanging my self. :( need your advice guys . I am from philippines.
Geez, I just watched a movie last nigt about a 16 yr old boy who began to have anger issues. His stemmed from witnessing dad verbally and physically abuse his mom. They got divorced but the feeling bottled up inside him eventually came out in anger because they were'nt dealt with. Today psychologists understand better what things will a affect a child if not dealt with in counseling.
The problems in the movie is the mom was now being abused by her son and he didnt want to be that way. Eventually though she kept quiet to authorities at first for fear of losing custody of the son or son going to jail, it got bad enough that she began to ask for help.
I don't know what culteral norms there is for familys who are Phillipino...so if there is any about keeping any family stuff private...you will have to break the rules.
See, its not fair to yourself as it wasnt to the kids in the movie that you are so angry. You would not ever have been this way if it wasnt for your family life. To have such anger is not normal. It can easily lead you to do something that would end you up in jail for life...and all because of your dad. Your mom is afraid of him even if she loves him so she won't do anything or she would have divorced already. Because mom wasnt strong enough to leave him and remove the kids from such violent temper, you probably are mad at her too.
Now I will suggest something that doesnt sound fair. I dont know if you have ever had any religious beliefs but I have. I believe, that we are born to learn certain hard lessons in life as a soul. Most all growth comes from hardship. Our souls reincarnate again to learn the same time next time if we dont learn it this time. Doesnt sound fair right? But that is life. Once we learn our hard lesson then life gets better and we only have the smaller issues to work over and learn.
It looks like possibly you have a lesson to learn in loving yourself enough to ask for help to be removed from such a situation and then getting the counseling to deal with anger. To do this, unfortunately, your dad will have to be exposed for what he has been doing.
You mention nothing of how he treats your sister or Mom. But even just witnessing him treating you like that is having its affect. Your sister, not knowing anything better could end up marrying a man who beats his wife and she eventually is murdered. Someone has to be strong and that person is you...or you wouldn't have written here asking for advice. It is never okay for a parent or anyone else to beat a child or any other human being. God is love and all of us are his children. As siblings of the greater family of God, as souls we are related and should be learning to love one another. Some souls are not as mature as others and make some very ugly mistakes. Your dad needs counseling. If you tell school counselors and they dont respond, you need to ask police for help. Dad will be taken in and questioned, and so will you. Do not think for a minute that you are the cause of his anger for being bi sexual. That is perfectly normal...I have known many bi men and women. Your dad has an anger problem as evidenced by the chicken feeding example. The sooner you ask for help the sooner you can be on the road to healing. You may no longer be living with your parents if authorities deem him too dangerous until he has gone for some anger treatment.
Just what if your dads daddy beat him and yelled and abused him like he is doing to you. That would explain why he has such anger. If you feed anger and indulge in anger outbursts, you grow more anger. If you spread love, you grow more love instead. If how he was treated had such impact on him, and you can see how it is impacting you...can you see it leading you having a family and you beating on your kids and maybe wife too? The chain has to stop now or your childrens children will have anger issues too.
The world has so much anger and hate...it is time to turn the tide. I believe you are strong enough to do it. Let me know what you decide to do. I will be praying for you
hi. i just got my period and dont know what to say to my mom..... it feels really awkward talking like that. help!!!!!!
Yes, it's awkward in the beginning but once you've pushed yourself to do it and keep up any female, period related, hormones and sex related talk going, it just keeps getting easier. Your mom is going to be your strongest ally. She is always looking out for your best interest. Remember she was your age once. Things may have changed some in the world so maybe some of her ideals won't match yours but I am sure you both can compromise.
Good luck dear.
There's this guy and we've been pretty good friends I guess. I've liked him since the day I layed eyes on him. Buy he's dated so many girls. He's even dating a 15 year old and we are both 12. And my friend said she heard him say he liked me but I think she was just trying to make me feel better or she just wanted to lie to me cause she does that sometimes (that's a whole other story). I see him every Sunday and Wednesday I just don't know what to do. I feel like I'm not cool enough or something ( I know I'm beautiful so that defiantly can't be it lol). I just don't know what I should do I just want to punch him when I see him with another girl and touching her and stuff.
As has already been said, if a guy is starting a habit of changing girlfriends like he changes socks and underwear, that is not a good sign. I ditto that.
At age 12, there is innocent dating, and then there is daiting to get sex because the hormones are raging. If a 12 year old boy goes after a 15 yr old girl...that would confirm it for me even more...he is after the sex. Don't tell me its because he finds her more intellectually stimulating. If he were that intelligent he needed someone who is also more intelligent than 12 yr old girls, then he would be intelligent enough to not bounce from girl to girl and have a better idea of what he is looking for.
If you are beautiful, you will have many boys after you because at their age, again beauty will get their hormones going and they will want sex. If you are not ready to have sex, then say no to the guys which means they will probably not want to date you.
About your feeling like punching another girl...that is jealousy. This will come from placing an ownership on someone even if its a person you have never dated. If you can't have him, you want no one else to have him either.
The fastest way to destroy a relationship chance with a guy is to go into crazy jealous rages, questioning him about any female that even just looks at him or talks to him. That scares guys. Heck, I'm female and if any girlfriends were that crazy with jealousy (not of me but other females) was hanging with me, I'd stop associating with them. You need to get a handle on that now. If it becomes a problem...go for counseling
I am a 32 yr old female who has always had very intense orgasms. I have recently become interested in the idea of squirting and have tried with much advice to do this but never successful. I have very good vaginal muscles and my partner and I have notice that during orgasm my vaginal walls clinch very hard. I can however push just as hard when this happens at will, my body naturally tightens though. I have on many occasions pushed rather than clinched and still nothing. I always feel the urge to pee and I always have to go afterwards. The orgasms are always very intense. What should I do differently?
Squirting or gushing is the female ejaculation. We can do it more often than men and some can do it with more volumn than men. I have heard that not all woman end up able to do it.
But if you feel the urge to pee, you're almost there.
G spot is a collection of nerves on the front wall of the vagina. By doing a “come here” motion with your finger, 2-3 inches inside, you stimulate the area.
I suggest you empty your bladder before you go for it. Pee doesn't build up that fast. That way you can be assured that when you when the urge to pee to just let go. Once you let go the orgasm can then continue to grow. I will range anywhere from dribbling drops to maybe a cup of liquid. Although it comes out the same place as pee it isn't pee. It has been tested by scientists or whoe-ever does those tests. The G spot is between the vaginal wall and your bladder and thats why you feel an urge to pee. The good feeling should build until once its intense it feels like an urge to pee. Have a folded towel on the bed so you also dont hold back for fear of wetting the bed. There's a young gal who does sex plus videos for young folk and I love one she did on the g spot. She made a clay doh model of the females organs so you get an idea in 3d of what your dealing with. You can find her on youtube, then look up Lacigreen and then the G-spot video.
BTW, men have a g spot too. Their prostrate is their g spot. About 3 inches inside his anus if you feel for the prostrate, its about walnut sized. Massaging it helps him have greater orgasms and if done on a regular habit, should ensure he has less likihood of prostrate problems when he gets older.
in the morning me and my boyfriend exchanged intercourse and i have completely forgot the pill the same day i needed to take it. I am a bit worried because it was over 12 hours of having sex. Could i be pregnant and id so is there an easy solution what to take?
Do you forget pill often? If so, you may to switch to having an IUD implanted to prevent pregnancy. It is removable by Dr. when you are ready to start having kids.
Take a pregnancy test you can purchase at the pharmacy. Next time if you forget, go to pharmacist and ask for the morning after pill. It must be taken fairly closely after sex, so if sex was at night, next morning go buy it. Or if sex was in the morning, ideally it should be taken that same day's night.
If your pregnancy test is positive, make an appointment with your gynecologist. There is no easy solution and the longer you wait to confirm or not, the harder a solution becomes. Take a test today. If positive, make a Doctor appointment today!
I'm thinking of making a new religion, just to see if it catches on at all, and what people think. Got any ideas? I want something weird, but not too weird. Something about as odd as christianity. I, personally, am an atheist, but I enjoy messing with people. Also, I'm 13, so take into consideration my limited resources and impact.
If you have a streak of the entrepreneur in you, then you may want to focus on ideas for a product teens would like to buy and make money off it, rather than just create a new religion for fun.
If you want to spend the time doing this just to see if it catches on...with time it eventually will. Who knows why people gravitate to some things, they just do. So wheres the challenge if you know ahead of time that it will catch on with some people? Don't limit your self
Well normally I wear sports bras but lately I changed into a real padded bra. I didnt want it to be like I'm trying to make my boobs look bigger but now my friend who's older than me was like " Dang, you grew they almost look bigger than mine". It made me feel like I was trying to look older or sOmething but I'm not I actually don't want this. What do I do?
You did not state your age so I will just make a guess. I have never heard adult women worry about breasts making them look older than they are...usually its the fine wrinkles. So I will assume you are very young, not done with body maturing and breasts are still in the developement stage.
By ones late teens your breasts have likely gotten to the size they will always be except for extreme weight gain or pregnancy. Start looking around you. Size variation does not make one woman look older or younger than another.
Take Nicole Kidman, an actress I am sure you're familiar with. Does she look like a kid to you?
I never realized her actual boob size until in one movie the fashion style she wore revealed that she had a very petite chest. Yet all those glamour shots of her in gorgeous gowns made her look the adult female she was with a curvy sexy body. So whatever look you are trying to achieve, it can be done with fashion and bras. Go to a lingerie section or a lingerie store and tell the lady there what look you are trying to achieve. She is trained to help you with that in sizes that fit right and are comfortable.
I go to a uniform school an on friday we are supposed to have a dress down day, which means we don't have to wear uniforms. We can pretty much wear anything but like spaghetti straps and really short shorts or skirts. I have a really complicated wardrobe though. It's not in style it's kinda like clothes a 8 or 9 year old would wear (mayb 10 or 9). I want to look good but I don't hav a lot of money to spend. Actually I would like to spend as less money as possible. I have this black frilly skirt and I have so many types of jeans capris, shorts, and pants. Shirts are kinda hard like I have some plain shirts and most of my shirts have some sort of design on it. I really want to look cute because... I don't know I just like to look good lol! Please help if you can! Thanks!
I am echoing the thrift store solution. You may not find what you like the first time around so go there regularly. There's always new stock rotating through. The more such stores you visit, the better your chances. Its a fun way to spend time with a girlfriend, trying on stuff and make sure to wear the frilly skirt when you go so you can see what the tops you try look like with it.
All my three daughters got 3/4 of their wardrobe from 2nd hand stores and it was to their liking, in style and they never got teased about it. In fact, I once knowing nothing about designer clothes purchased a top I liked and all of a sudden women all around were spouting the name of the designer of my top. One woman even offered to buy it from me.
i had my period on 28 th of march and had sex 0n 5th of april without condom and took ipill with in 48 hours. its 30 th of april now and in dnt hav my regular period... m i pregnent.. plz tell me... and suggest me pills to come over it i m just 19 years old.... i will be very thankfull to u
The easiest way to find out if you are pregnant is buying one of those pregnancy tests. I think you already know that. You just don't want to hear the answer if it's positive. But ignoring it doesnt make it go away. Go to Planned Parenthood. The name is just a name. There are just as many people who end up seeing them because of unplanned pregnancy.
Skipping or forgetting to take your contraceptive pill can affect the effectiveness of protection. In cases like that, run to the pharmacist and ask for the morning after pill. It can be bought over the counter. Ask your pharmacist about side effects as there are some.
If you can't remember to stay regular on the pill and want a more carefree sex life with a regular sex partner, you might want to ask you gynecologist about and IUD, Intra Uterine device they place inside you that is very effective against preventing pregnancy. I used one without any problems. Again, there can be side effects, so check with your doctor.
I have no idea what I'm good at doing. My own mind is poisoned by self doubt; others tell me what they think I want to hear. I havn't me t a councillor I can trust to really look at that simple question and work towards discovering the answer.
"There is no good or bad but thinking makes it so." ~~a quote by William Shakespeare
We all struggle with this concept. And even though my mind knows better, I still find myself making comparisons betwween one thing and another, or myself and another person.
There is no good, There is no bad. Just perspective and opinion or personal taste.
Lets use cheese for an example. Feta cheese, I can't eat it because to me it tastes "Bad". It doesn't mean the cheese is bad, it's just not to my liking. And my husband absolutely loves it. My mom used to eat Brie cheese, a runny cheese that stank so bad I couldn't get past the smell to ever eat it. Does how it smells make it bad? Many people love to eat it. It's all about personal taste.
So what about math? How can personal taste come in there? It doesn't so I have to give another example here. Math was not my strong subject. My mind worked in a different way so I was better at language arts and writing because my mind was naturally geared that way. It did not mean I was bad or good at math, I just needed to be taught different ways to arrive at the same answers. So learned enough that I use math naturally in my life, measuring a room and furniture to redecorate on graph paper first before moving the heavy pieces in real life. Things like that. But math did not hold my interest like singing, art and writing. So don't waste your time in life trying to get "good" at something. You have to get to a place that you are satisfied with your skill level. I am satisfied with my skill level in math. How about art? I always doubted my abilities in art, was I good enough? Remember, its not about good or bad, everyone has different tastes in art so there will always be someone who likes what I do. Somewhere in my late 30's I attended an open house art show where you drive from one artists in home studio to the next following a map of the event. All day long. I found some was paint splashed on canvas and I thought, that's not art, heck a kindergartner can do that. The price tags might be $850. and I'd snicker...who'll pay that much for that. But then I'd hear someone else talking to their friend. Isnt that absolutely lovely. and the reply, Yes, it would go well with the color scheme in your living room. I saw many different styles of art that day. Some I found would be easy for me to duplicate or do better at. But in my heart, did I have a desire to do that style of art. No. I had my own style and have found that enough people have a liking for my personal style. Same goes for your looks as a female and personality. Can't use young boys for an example as a large amount of them, (not all) want sex with any female as long as she's alive and breathing. But once a male matures, he begins to discover he own personal likes and may desire brunette over blonde. That doesnt make blonde bad, it's his personal taste. You simply need to be happy with your style and level of skill. If you are happy with it, others will notice and be drawn to that in you
I don't have any skills or interests that are obvious that I would like to develop. I have spoken to the guidance councillor at a local college who told me I needed to know what I wanted to do before she could tell me how to achieve it. Not much help really. There is a psychologist that can do a heap of tests and stuff to determine my aptitudes but she costs about $400 and it is way too much money for me at this time. Aptitude tests don't really hep me either and those tests deigned to tell people what carriers best suit them always come back with strange results that are always different. Any advice on how to determine where my strengths are would be helpful, thanks.
I remember taking the free tests at colleges to see where I might have an interest, I did not score high in anything there...so they couldnt help me and I ended up not doing college. Now in my 50's I can see looking back that I had in interest in gardening but the college tests then did not address that and I had no idea I could probably earn a living as a Master gardener. I also have great interest in Spiritual things and natural health and energy healing. Most general college do not offer courses for that either. So think about what you have interest in. You may need to go to a specialized school for the particular subject, not regular college.
If you still have not discovered anything you have an interest in, then college must wait until you discover the interest. Only way to do that is to expose yourself to many different things..like volunteering time at a vetrinary hospital and being around animals, take guided tour on finding edible plants in nature for foraging, take a sewing class. You may decide you have in interest only after spending time doing something. With my examples, you could work with rehabilitating wild animals, or become a vet, Write books about identifying plants, or learn to become an herbologist, or become a tailor who makes alterations or you create and sell comforters or design your own clothing line. You won't know unless you just go experience life for a bit first and see what interests pop up.
I have been dating my boyfriend for about 2.5 years. Things were great when we first started dating, we were always together and enjoyed it. Lately we have been drifting apart and we hardly talk anymore,even though we live together. The less we talk the more i feel closer to my boss. At first I just enjoyed talking to my boss but lately I feel like there is something more between us. My boss constantly brings up my name during converstation with other coworkers.
I really love my boyfriend but when i try to explain how i feel that we are drifting apart he just hugs me and walks away or says "no we are not".
There once was a time in life when I was treated better as a human being at work from my co-workers who were female and my boss who was male than from the husband. I felt myself admiring the good qualities in my boss that the husband lacked and wished for the same for myself...however I had not left the relationship yet to give myself a chance to find a better man. Not all guys you meet will make a perfect match for you and you for him. You had enough attraction to get together but it wasn't enough to hold it together. It takes having lots of similar interests, same outlook on life, same goals to have things in common and projects to work towards together. Right now, all you are is roommates. Thats all I had become for my ex...a warm human body around...more like his security blanket. If this was a husband, I'd say go for counseling to see if it helps...but this is a boyfriend, so it's time to move on. And yes, you'll probably go through a grieving process, even though the relationship isn't what it used to be. Don't settle for less. Too many of us do. Allow yourself to meet other guys and see if you can find someone whom you have much more in common with, the person who finds that the mundane things of life are more exciting simply because you are at his side and vice versa. Or simply said, Life is better because you;re in it. You find you can talk for hours on end without ever running out of things to say, and there is great passion in your love life, then I'd say, you've finally found the one.