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Okay I am really into rock/hard rock and some classic rock. I have a lot of CD's already but I am looking for all the suggestions I can get cuz I really need some more for this upcoming road trip I have. If you could please just leave a few bands names and their CD's names that fit into the rock/hard rock/classic rock column. Thanks a lot! (link)
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I listen to similar music. I have a list of the cd's currently in my cd case on my column. I like all of them. My favorites are Refused (Harcore punk), anything by Mike Patton (Experimental), Porcupine Tree (Space rock, progressive), and Between the Buried and Me (Hardcore/metal). Give me a list of bands you like. I'll give you a list of bands that I think you'll like based on what's your the list.
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i love my friend from down the street. WE shared so many things together, ive known him since i was 2. He grabs my one day and tells me he loves me and kisses me softly. I really thought he meant it. The next day my total flirt best friend comes and steals him away. I know he still likes me but it was so hard seeing them flirting. He may like her. I am hurting so much inside knowing that there could be someone else besides me for him. What should i do? i really love this guy. (link)
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It's rare if someone only feels for one person. How did you respond to him telling you? If you didn't tell him you liked him to, he definitely thinks you don't. How ever it ended, the point is it sounds like he thinks you don't like him. He brought up the fact that he likes you so he doesn't have to ask you out. He wants you to. He may be flirting with your flirtatious best friend to make you jealous, or he's already trying to get over you. You need to talk to him about how you feel, and do it soon.
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maybe someone can help me with something that iv been having a problem with. Ok well iv been going out with this guy Chris for like a month and half now, and im in love with him i mean i know some people think its crazy b/c we werent dating that long but i know the feeling and its definitly love, well anyways he had to go off to military school for 5 months, so he wont be back till december sometime, before he left he got me a Promise ring, its so pretty, but anways i told him id be waiting here till he gets back he said once he gets back everything will be perfect and will just be starting our lives. But heres my problem how do i make time go by fast? Iv been so depressed since he left im still in my pj's and he left 3 days ago. All my freinds tried getting me outta the house but i dont wanna leave i just sit in my room and cry b/c hes gone, so u think u can give me some advice into telling me how to make time go by as fast as possible....thnx to who ever answers it IF anyone answers it.
Mandy (link)
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Yeah, of course your depressed. That's understandable. But maybe you should listen to your friends when they try to get you out of the house. If you think about it, staying there isn't going to make you feel much better. It's only going to give you more time to think about him. Try to make it to where you don't have time to dwell on the fact that he's gone. Get a(nother) job, something to fill the time.
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Should i let my friend come up my shirt..? hes always like bringing my boobs up.. were not goin out but we flirt a rly lot.. Hes always hinting.. He really wants to.. Shuld i let him!? plz help i have no idea wut to do
(( im 13 )) (link)
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He's not even your boyfriend, you're only 13, and he sounds like he has a 1 track mind. No.
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I've been with my boyfriend Steve for alomost 2months now. I haven't seen him in over a month and by the time i get to talk to him it'll have been a month. Lately I've been talking to my best friend Chris a lot. He's really sweet and nice to me. I really like him now. And i'm more open with him and i can talk to him easier than i can talk to steve but hes going to high school next year and im going into 8th grade and so is steve. Chris just got dumped by one of my best girl friends and shes mad at me cause she thinks i called her a slut and i didnt. I told chris i liked him when he was still going out with my friend. about a week after she dumped him he said he liked me back. we were playing truth or truth and he asked me if i would dump steve for anyone. And i said why do you want me to. And he said yes. I said i dont know if i would cause i hadnt talked to steve in so long. I'm really confused i dont know what to do. Should i dump steve and go out with chris? i mean it might make my friend mad cause she gets mad at stupid things. Or should i wait till steve comes home and talk to him cause i also feel like i barely even know him. who should i choose? what should i do? (link)
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Talk to Steve when he gets back, and let him down easy. After you break up with him, go out with Steve. Don't do anything with Chris until then, you don't want to be labelled as someone who cheats. I've seen and had similar situations.
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This year my mom gave me a budget for school clothes, only 500 dollars. Last year I got twice as much and this money includes clothes, shoes, accesories, bras and panties! I'm spending my money wisely but what should I spend the most on and where should I go?
I spent 200 bucks today and didnt get hardly anything... I went to Buckle, Hollister, and Gadzooks! I need fashion HeLp please!! (link)
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You should be thankful for what you do have. I don't have a budget. My t-shirts are plain and cost a dollar each. my socks have holes and my pants are old. I was happy when my grandmother bought me a pair of pants for Christmas. My shoes are years old, and we are in dept. Some people are less fortunate than you.
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hey how do you rate somebody?! (link)
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After someone answer's one of your questions the option appears below their answer. You can rate the quality of questions if you are a moderator. the option for that appears below each question.
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i'm 17 and never kissed anyone, how pathetic is that? the thing is, it's not like i'm ugly or anything because i know many people who have liked me or would've kissed me, but i don't want to make things weird between my guy friends by doing anything with them and the other guys who have liked me are not exactly top rate...another thing is that i never even tell people who i like cuz i don't want to be embarrassed...i don't know what i'm waiting for - someone who i feel comfortable with?? the perfect person who doesn't exist? i'm not the kind of person who would do things just to make myself appear cooler but as i get older it just gets more embarrassing to say i've never kissed anyone (link)
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It's not pathetic at all, it's endearing. Waiting for someone you're comfortable with is what everyone should do. If you're attracted to one of your boy friends, then you might want to tell them how you feel. If he's a good friend, he'll be empathetic and your relationship might be stronger, even if he doesn't feel the same way. Weirdness will only occur if you make it occur.
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I'm a great advice columnist but i guess every advice person needs some advice as well.
Ok so about a month ago my sister and my brother in law came to visit us and i was sleeping (it was night time) and I remember waking up for my brother inlaw touching my leg. I didnt think much of it but after that I kept on thinking about it. Well i was at their house and last night he said he was sorry, and i didnt know what he was talking about and i was like for what and hes like I touched you in a place that you shouldnt have been touched by me (higher than my legs) I dont know what to do! because I mean I dont think he was doing it for more than a sec cuz i think i woke up right away but I dont want to tell my mom and dad because my dad would kill him and they would say something to my sister and then my sister and him would probably get a devorice and my sisters really happy. I mean that was the first time but I still cry about it like i feel so violated and i dont know what to do. I cant sleep cuz i think about it. All I do is cry about it. Please help me please!
I promise i'll rate a 5 no matter what! Atleast your trying to help me. (link)
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The promise of a five is tempting, but you don't have to rate me. What's important is that you consider what I'm saying. This guy is wrong for your sister. He clearly can't control himself, and his feeling guilty about it doesn't change a thing. And whose to say he didn't just tell you so you'll feel sorry for him and not tell your sister. Consider the future, if he did this now chances are he'll do something like this again. Maybe not with you, maybe with someone else. How much more is it going to hurt your sister when she finds out two, three, maybe four years from now. The sooner she finds out what he's really like, the better. You need to talk to her about it. How angry would she be if she found out you kept it from her? You can't keep something like this inside. I strongly believe it's better she find out now than her finding out years from now.
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My best guy friend hangs out with my boyfriend. Today he told me that my boyfriend was talkin about how annoying I am because I play mind games with him (I have NO idea what kind of mind games I play..) He said he doesn't love me as much anymore and he might break up with me.
Should I believe my best guy friend and expect the worst... or do I just ask my boyfriend about it and hope he doesn't get mad at my guy friend.
I don't want to ruin their friendship, but I don't want to get my heart broken because I didn't listen to my guy friend... What should I do?? (link)
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I wouldn't bring it up. Your guy friend told you because he wanted you to know, he probably doesn't want you telling your boyfriend he told you. This or he's trying to break you two up. Ask your boyfriend how he feels, ask him were he sees you two in the future. You can probably tell whether or not he wants to break up by how comfortable he is after you've asked.
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I live in a small neighborhood, huge houses and lots of kids. That is the bad part lots of kids, so i have a bunch of friends, and they are constantly fighting. But i am always stuck in the middle, and then i give advice to 1 friend and the other thinks i'm on there side. It is so confusing and bad. hOW DO I handle this?? And i already tried the whole "its not my fight so don't get me in the middle" it doesn;t work!! i rate **LaUrEn** (link)
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You must understand both sides before arriving at an educated conclusion. Remain impartial by not advising, but helping one grasp the situation of the other. Make sure the one you're talking to knows you understand their side too.
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This is not so much a request for advice as an asking for feedback on a random gripe...
I've only recently noticed, after years of what seems now to have been denial, that most everyone loves being unhappy, simply because it is the easiest and most familiar way to exist. After several attempts at being a good friend to many people, it is apparent that my helpful thoughts are shunned, and my existence ignored should they find any reason to be angry at the world. After speaking with a close friend of mine on this subject, their reply to my disgust was 'No Shit, people hate the truth and happiness, because they know that these things are better than what they have always had, and will most probably ever have.’
This upsets me greatly, because it has always been my policy of sorts to tell the truth and be as helpful as possible...Though I noticed as a child that even my mother gave me strange looks for this.
My question is: has anyone else recieved hatred in return for honest attempts at being helpful, or something similar?
I feel as though I've been blindsided by this concept, it is extremely confusing.
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Of course, but it's more simple than you may think. Sometimes they don't love being unhappy. It's the attention they receive when people think they are. Other times it's this case of pessimism, where people perceive the worst. They do this because of, maybe, something bad that happened. And in part, it's not the feeling that's the worst part for them, it's the shock. They think feeling depressed willfully will protect them from being blindsided with pain. If people wanted to live the easiest and most familiar way, they'd never move out. The reason your helpful thoughts are disregarded may be because of how they perceive them. Everyone, as you know, views each situation differently. If an outsider knew a husband was beating his wife, they would immediately come to the conclusion that she should keep away from him. The wife, however, might thing that her husband still loves her, and that he probably won't do it again. To some (like you and me) the answer comes too easily, and we are not brainwashed by the feelings that people have towards certain people or situations. You know that you have a good policy, so don't change it because of the reactions you get. You may want to take other things into consideration before you try to help. Like the fact that people do, in part, fear change, and find comfort in what they're used to, even though they would be much happier in a different place. From what I've learned, it's better to help people find out for themselves, as opposed to telling them. Hopefully some of what I said makes sense, and I didn't read your question wrong.
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How many people are fed up with the really silly questions.. ok ready everybody
1. if theres a guy you like YOU TALK TO HIM!!!! you dont need to ask about that ne more.. you cant get a guy to like you without being friends first...
AM I CLEAR?
thanks!
XOoxoO-- not trying to be rude but just trying to answer questions that are ALWAYS being posted...ALWAYS,ALWAYS,ALWAYYYYYS (link)
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Give the question a low rating if it has been asked several times. People do need to include more detail if they want help. Otherwise a lot of the questions are nearly identical.
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I'm pretty, smart, athletic, funny, happy and really fun to be around according to my friends. But is it true that alot of 14 year old guys dont pay as much attention to flat girls? I mean In my oppinion think im girlfriend material! Why dont guys like me as much as they like my skinny developed friends who have gone thru puberty? I know it sounds stupid but please help me! (link)
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Most guys suck. Especially at your age. But, personally, I never cared about a girl's bra size. It has never factored. Some guys share this opinion. Another thing about guys your age, ones like me are scared to death of girls. I never asked any girls out at that age, and was semi-mean to the girls I had a crush on. If the reason you think guys might not notice you are because they don't ask you out, then don't worry. Most guys are shy.
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Please tell me what you think: What is better, the truth that brings a tear? Or a lie that brings a smile?
hmm... (link)
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I know you asked this weeks ago, but since it's such a good question, I decided to answer it. Almost anyone would say the truth that brings a tear, but lies bring up a good case. Say you got a terrible hair cut, I'd rather people tell me it's not really that bad than say it's the worst thing they've ever seen. Really, it depends. On small matters like appearence and work (Small matters to me anyway) I'd say, but on important matters like someone's feelings I'd say the truth.
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Some moron sent this piece of poorly written tripe to me and everyone else who didn't completely agree with their narrow-minded opinion. Don't make a habit of this - it would be a shame to have to ban you from the site for harassment.
"Let me tell you somethin.
1)youre telling me that u think women should have the right to KILL their unborn child? thats wrong. under any circumstances. and dont tell me they arent alive in there yet. ive done SEVERAL research projects on it.
2)If we didnt go to war, the terrorists would just REPEAT what theyve already done to us thinking we wouldnt fight back. PLus, its not like those people are being forced to go to war. Its their choice to join the forces you dumbsh*t.
3)Youre right about not being able to choose who you love. And you shouldnt have to stop loving them just because you cant get married. ive also done research on this. theyre are many other factors on letting gays/lesbians marry than just letting them go to a chapel and confess their vows. in this country, along with getting married, theyre tax benefits and many things of that sort that SOME people..it would be possibe for them to be getting married just for those reasons. You might think that thats the same for male/female marriages but its not. its a long story and very confusing.
4)kerry is 'pro-choice'. bush..is pro-LIFRE...youre voting for somebody who says its okay to kill an unborn child when if you just put it up for adoption, you would be making another family very happy as well as be getting paid for the hospital bills. abortions are expencive. plus, kerry looks like his face is melting off but thats beside the point.
and your a comple dumbass cuz u have NO IDEA the things that sadaam did to the us and his country. he was killing thousands of people in gas chambers and torture cells just like in the hollocaust. and he was leading his country to make more attacks on the us. get your facts straight. also, gays and lesbians have been getting along FINE for MANY MANY MANY years so why change things now and make a bunch of controversy?? and kerry is against the death penalty. you know what that means? more people in prision. you know what THAT means? INNOCENT AMERICANS HAVE TO PAY MORE TAX DOLLARS TO PAY FOR THE PEOPLE IN PRISION TO BE COMFORTABLE AND NOT HUNGRY!! So, you wanna pay for murders to be 'comfortable'? i dont think so.
so u vote kerry?? u might wanna rethink that." (link)
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Yes. I FEEL SMARTER ALREADY. I KNOW PEOPLE THINK I'M COOL WHEN I DO THIS. I'M SCREEEAAAMMMMMMMMMIIIIIIING!! Sorry about that. I would second that threat of being banned if I could. I agree, they don't know much about politics. I know very little, but this is rediculous. This site's dedicated to advice, not the spead of an ignorant opinion. stop trying to get people to agree with you. If they don't, then they don't.
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I am deaf but i can hear litle and i can talk i have good speech but my voice make me sound like little kid. I want know how to writ songs and how you end it and how come up with ideas of makeing songs any tips (link)
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I do the lead vocals for my band, and I usually write about what I'm passionate about. For some, it's political songs, for others it's more personal. Write about what bothers you. Ending a song isn't like ending a story. You can end a song wherever you want.
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I RLY RLY RLY hate my body.. al my friends wish they had ine an guys always flirt wit me but i wanna lose weight, even though no one thinks i need to ,i need for myself, ya know? but i cant. its like i work out but im already.. muscler. an i dont wanna b like this he she cause of workin out lol but i dont know, anyone know some good fun diets.. or just away for me to love myself. i have rly low selfassteem and it rly brings me down.. i dunno thanx. (link)
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I know exactly how you feel. I feel I need to lose weight, but everyone tells me I'm fine. I feel this way because I used to be in several sports, and during that time I was incredibly skinny. Now I'm probably just a little overweight. To help put things in perspective, I'll tell you what I've learned in Psychology. On a scale from 2 (Being the thinnest) to 5 (Being the fattest), the average women is around 3.6. What men actually preferred was around 3.2. What women believe men prefer is about 2.9. What women prefer is around 2.7. I would try a vegetarian diet. They usually work. Drink more water, less everything else. Anything that requires fast movement (Running. Playing a sport) without much force will also help. Stay away from lifting weights and things like that.
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Hi, this is MFS again.
If you come into the chat and people like myself, Jen, Fern, or Storage are in there, and we don't reply right away, it is likely because we aren't really there. We log in but are away. It happens. Often, I'll set my name to say something like "MFS|notHere" or "MFS|work". If you see that, then likely I'm just logged in and lurking.
The reason I say this is to demonstrate what happens when really stupid and immature people come into the chat:
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[19:22] hi,can sum1 gimme advice?????
[19:23] PLZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ?
[19:23] hello????
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[19:23] hey people
[19:23] can u plzzzzzzzzzzz help?
[19:24] does anyone know how to make your advicenators available on AIM?
[19:24] HELLO???????????????????
[19:24] God you guys suck ass
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[19:25] she/hes right!!!!!!!!!!! ppl cum in here to get advice and ur just like ...................................
[19:26] i bet both of yall are doing sumthin that i dont even wanna kno about
[19:26] fuck you!!!!!!!!!!!
[19:26] fuck you fuck you fuck you
[19:26] Yuck Fou! Fuck You!!!!
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Keep in mind, I can and will ban you from the chat for stupidity like that. We're not here to serve your every whim. We're here to help IF WE CAN. And hey, get this... some of us have LIVES.
Amazing.
Anyway, hardly anyone comes into the chat room - a few have, and we've had great conversations with them and even started to discuss a few issues. This chatroom is for the people of this site, particularly the frequent columnists, to talk to each other, get to know each other, and make this site a better place for everyone.
People who use it as way to act like asshats are not helping anyone, especially not themselves. (link)
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Hey, MFS has rage similar to mine. Coincidence? Yeah, some of them can be pretty rude. Fortunately, due to the crappiness of my computer, I never have to read these rude comments. My computer automatically freezes and I have to restart it if I'm on longer than a few minutes. And "asshats", that's hilarious. Good one.
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Okay, I just turned 16 a month ago and I have found myself to be interested in this girl who lives down my street. The problem is she is 14 (two grades below me), she goes to a different school, and her older brother is in the grade above me. On top of that her older brother used to be my best friend, and I know the family from back when I was his best friend. We are both afraid to do anything above being friends because of this situation we are in. Any suggestions? (link)
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I think you two are worrying too much about this. 2 years isn't long too long at all, and maybe it's a good thing that you know her family so well. You used to be best friends with her brother, so I'm sure he trusts you. The only problem I see is that you 2 go to different schools, which isn't too big of a problem at all. If I were you, I'd go for it. Unless there's something else holding you back.
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