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I've been with my boyfriend Steve for alomost 2months now. I haven't seen him in over a month and by the time i get to talk to him it'll have been a month. Lately I've been talking to my best friend Chris a lot. He's really sweet and nice to me. I really like him now. And i'm more open with him and i can talk to him easier than i can talk to steve but hes going to high school next year and im going into 8th grade and so is steve. Chris just got dumped by one of my best girl friends and shes mad at me cause she thinks i called her a slut and i didnt. I told chris i liked him when he was still going out with my friend. about a week after she dumped him he said he liked me back. we were playing truth or truth and he asked me if i would dump steve for anyone. And i said why do you want me to. And he said yes. I said i dont know if i would cause i hadnt talked to steve in so long. I'm really confused i dont know what to do. Should i dump steve and go out with chris? i mean it might make my friend mad cause she gets mad at stupid things. Or should i wait till steve comes home and talk to him cause i also feel like i barely even know him. who should i choose? what should i do?
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sorry this took so long..my internet's been gay..allright this is a very tough situation..okay well all you need to do is tell yourself..who do you feel more comfortable with..and dont worry about what other people are gonna think of you..its your relationships and if you like the person then you like them and you cant change that..so this is completely youre decision..so good luck:)
-Chris
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well i dont know why u went out with steve but theres gotta be a reason so i would wait untill he got back and talked to him and u know if u dont think u n steve really click than go with chris, chris sounds like a nice guy but u gotta at least talk to ur boyfriend about it u know dont just dump steve outta nowhere because he doesnt know whats goin on u know? just talk to him :)
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i think that you should wait till steve comes home. just dont do anything that you will regret in the long run. i know that you prolly still like chris but who do you like more? just because you can talk to chris easier doesnt mean you have to like him. i have a guy friend that i tell everything to...and ppl assume that i like him but i dont. and your friend will just have to get over herself. i mean its your decision who you go out with and who you like. just tell your friend that you didnt and if she doesnt belive you than she obviously isnt that good of a friend. just follow your heart, its never fails. ask yourself which guy you like better. i hope i helped...rate me...and sry if it took awhile to right back..
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Your current boyfriend Steve, did you feel as strong about him before you two started dating? It all depends on who you felt more strongly about before you started dating. The one you felt more strongly about is the one you should stay with in my opinion. But this is not my descision to make, its all about what YOU feel inside right now. Search yourself and find the answer.
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Well... are you willing to lose Steve or lose your friend (the girl)... Dating your friends exes could cause BIG problems.. besides.. Chris is going to highschool next year... hes going to be around tons of new girls and hes prob. going to flirt. And ging out with a friends ex right after they break up is prob. not the Best idea. Don't dump steve just yet.. because you don't know if your feelings for him will reappear once you get to talk to him again. Its okay to stay Chris's friend.. but make sure thats all you keep it at for now. I say keep dating Steve.. that way if it doesn't work out with you and steve once you start talking to him again.. you can dump him and feel no regrets or unassurance.. and then maybe next year when you get to highschool you can be with Chris and your friend will have cooled off by then and hopefully not care that its her ex :)
-Hope I helped-
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Good Luck
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Talk to Steve when he gets back, and let him down easy. After you break up with him, go out with Steve. Don't do anything with Chris until then, you don't want to be labelled as someone who cheats. I've seen and had similar situations.
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this is just my opinon, and u mite also wanna ask sum1 else, cuz im just about as cunfused as u r on the subject, but here goes anyways
u like both boys
both boys like you
you see chris all the tyme
u hardly see steve
well u can either wait until steve cumz home, and tell him that since u hardley see him, u've developed feelings for another guy
and i got confused, are both boys goin into 9th grade, or just chris??
well here's another opinion of mine
YOUR ONLY WHAT 13, 14!!
u don't need a steady boyfriend (i mean i have 1... but u don't need 1)
i can't really tell u who u should choose, but this is wut sum friends and i do, whenever we have mixed feelins on sumthin, we also use this as truth questions when we play truth n dare
If there was a murderer in your house, and u n steve n chris were the only there, he said he was gunna kill both boys, say he has 2 guns and he'll shoot them at the same time
WHO WOULD U JUMP IN FRONT OF AND TAKE THE BULLET FOR¿?
if the answer is neither, then ur screwed(idk how to rlly put that in a nicer way)
if the answer is steve, stay wit steve
if the answer is chris, go wit chris
if the answer is u'd try to kill the murderer b4 he could hurt either of the guys then im not sure
but wut i would do is wait for steve to cum back, or w/e and talk to him, do u still have STRONG feelins for him?
if not then leave him and take chris, but make sure chris still wants you
or if it's allright with them, then go out on dates wit both of them, u don't need a steady boyfriend
sorry this is so long, and probably REALLY confusin, but maybe u should also see wut other people have to say
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Hey hun,
heres wat i would do if i was u... as i was reading this question i was talking on the fone and i was reading it aloud and my best guy frend was like OMG that sounds exactly like wat jus happened to u... cus i like him and jus kinda broke up with my bf for him and so on and so forth...but wat i would do is break up with the bf. if u havnt talked to him n that long thers a major communication problem and that NEVER works! and i say go out with the best frend he seems like a great guy and like u hav a sure chance with him! about the frend... explain ur situation and tell her the truth about everything... u dint call her a slut u dint tell him anything bad about her etc... she should understand and get over the fact that u going out with him if shes a tru friend. lastly jus remeber to b happy... the fact of ur happiness is the most important thing here. hope i helped!! write me sum time!
<3 fran
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Aww, well i mean 2 months is a while to be with someone and not to see them much! In my opinion i dont see a reason why you shouldnt or couldnt go out with Chris, he's give you all the signals and has even told you that he wants you to finish steve! Your friend obviously isnt as good of a friend as she or you think she is because shes made up that you said she was a slut? its probably jealously! At the end of the day no one can make you choose, but if your instints are going towards chris.. then go for it! Please if you need anymore advice at all please email me at IxMzFaBuLuSxI@aol.com
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Ok, a couple of things. When your going out with someone, it's usually a given that you see them more than one a month. That is, if you really like the guy and your not just going out with him for the sake of telling people your going out with someone. So, if you can really talk to Chris, and are more comfortable with him than Steve, then you should go for him instead.
But first, before you do that, I would talk to your friend. Make sure she knows you didn't call her a slut and tell her you really like Chris, you don't want to hurt her, but you can't help liking him, and ask her if she is ok with it. Then I would sit down and talk to Steve before you make any decisions. Tell him that you don't like the fact that you never see each other and stuff like that.
Oh, and the fact that your a grade under Chris doesn't really matter. Boys usually mature slower than girls anyway, so you two are probably just about on the same maturity wavelength.
So, talk to you friend, talk to Chris, and then you can start to make your decision.
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ok. calm down. breath. first of all you have a screwed up problem. lol. it happens alot. i think that you should wait until steve comes bak and talk to him. you can't dump him when he's so many miles away. it just wouldn't be fair. i think that you know the answer already. you just don't know it. so do do that true love test because that's crap but it will giv u giggles.lol. so just wait until steve comes bak. and talk to him. just be honest. you'll know what to do. as for chris if he really likes you he will wait for you. so just be patient.
hope i helped *~~~shana~~~~*
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Well you could try taking a break from Steve for awhile, see how your friend would feel about you and Chris, if you dont want to ruin a friendship over a guy its better off to just stay friends with Chris, but if you really want Chris and you don't care if it hurts your friend then date him for a little while see how things work, then make it official, don't rush in to anything
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