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Ok so about a month ago my sister and my brother in law came to visit us and i was sleeping (it was night time) and I remember waking up for my brother inlaw touching my leg. I didnt think much of it but after that I kept on thinking about it. Well i was at their house and last night he said he was sorry, and i didnt know what he was talking about and i was like for what and hes like I touched you in a place that you shouldnt have been touched by me (higher than my legs) I dont know what to do! because I mean I dont think he was doing it for more than a sec cuz i think i woke up right away but I dont want to tell my mom and dad because my dad would kill him and they would say something to my sister and then my sister and him would probably get a devorice and my sisters really happy. I mean that was the first time but I still cry about it like i feel so violated and i dont know what to do. I cant sleep cuz i think about it. All I do is cry about it. Please help me please!
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Hi I think u shud tlk to him about it an find out how ,long he did it for. Maybe it was just a split second accident.
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If you feel violated than you should tell your parents, and then mabey make a coment like you don't have to tell you sister! or you can talk to him(if you feel comportable) and ask him what went down! and ask him u he did it! hope i helped!
~*~Natalie~*~
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Wow, that is definetly REALLY weird. I duno, I mean if I were you, I would tell your sister, but then again I see what you're saying about not wanting the divorce. But, I also think that your sister is family, and if she knew what a creep her husband was she would reconsider being with him. Family is way more important than anyone else, thats my opinion. Maybe you could talk to your sister and just sit down and make sure noone else is around, and just be like 'you know, so and so did this the other night, and I thought I should tell you about it.' Make her promise not to say you told her, but maybe she could talk to him about it and say that she saw him do it, like to cover up for you. If you need any more help please ask me, I'm really concerned now!! Hope I helped =)
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he had no rite to do that. you need to tell your parents rite away. you were violated and you shouldnt let that happen. how do you know that he won't do it again? or to someone else. please go tell your parents. he needs a reality
check. im sorry that he did that to you!
*~~~shana~~~*
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im so sorry about what happened and im sure that your sister would want to know what kind of man she married and you should tell your sis and then have her talk to her husband about it! im so sorry!!!!! if u have ne more questions then just drop one in my box!
xox ash xox
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omG sweetie im sooo sorrY You had to Go thru somethinG like that but You have to tell somebodY...trust me Your sister will be better off knowinG what kind of man she married rather then staYinG with a man that would do somethinG like that...esPeciallY to her lil sister...the man ProbablY feels a lil bad about what he did because he aPoliGized for it...or maYb he aPoloGized so You wouldnt Go bakk and tell anYbodY either waY Please tell somebodY...and be careful and good luck
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well, i think you have been violated and even though youve thought about others first, its time to think about yourself. should either tell your sister or both your parents and sister. if youre afraid they will act too severely, tell them this before they act. your brother in law had no right to do this w/out aking you(ESPECIALLY since he's married) and after that, try getting a therapists help to get you through this. this will make you feel better about yourself. hope i helped!!! :)
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you deffinately need to tell your parents. it could get worse if you dont and im sure your sister would be much happier in the long run if she knew.
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talk to your friends bout it or a doctor i dont no wat else i should say my ex step dad did it to me n i told my mom n she divorced his ass! good luck n plz rate me xoxo steffy
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You need to tell someone, even if it does ruin their relationship, even if he does die, because he has now not only broken 2 laws, he has violated you in a way that you cannot, as a being with self respect, stand for. It is not your place in this case to think of what will happen to ANYBODY else. Tell your parents, tell a counsler, tell someone who knows you and can take actions to resolve this. If you don't try to help yourself by getting him what he diserves, you will hate yourself, and feel like you diserved to have it done.
Please, for the love of serenity, tell someone.
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Oh, and also, try not to care what happens to him, he violated you, not the other way around. You should feel no guilt for his consequences, or even your sisters as a result, because it was His doing, please remember that. If you don't tell, you will be hurting your sister more because you are keeping a secret from her about her husband's breaking of a vow. Good things are to be kept to yourself for enjoyment, bad things are to be told so that they can be eliminated.
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thats denfiatly not good, if you dont wanna tell your parents, then tell your sister...she'll know what to do, and she should know about it anyway, she probably doesnt wanna go out with someone who sexually harasses her family
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You have to tell your parents and your sister. If he's doing it to you, chances are he has or is going to do it to someone else. Regardless, if he is married to your sister or not. You got touched when you were not aware of that, thats wrong and against the law. You will feel better after you tell them!
*Laci
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You were violated and touched in a place that shouldn't be touched without permission, especially by ur brother in law! Im sry but You deffinatly havta tell ur parents and ur sister. It was completly wrong what he did! And for all u know u may not be the first he has done this to. How do you know he hasn't done stuff thats uncomfortable to ur sister? U have to tell ur parents. Good luck! And ur sis will thank u in the long run.
~Shea~
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i would sooo tell ur sister. thats not right that he would even think about doing that. and i wouldnt be able to sleep either cuz who knows he could do it again. i would really encourage you to tell some one. good luck. i hoped i helped....:)
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This was totally wrong of your brother-in-law. it doesn't matter if your sisters happy with him, hes obviously a creep. you should definately tell your parents or someone about it, because what if it happens again? and he goes farther? and if they have or are going to have kids? what about them, he'll porbably do the same to them. You really need to tell someone, and get yourself help, because this is a big deal. hope i helped =-/
xoxo
ali
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The promise of a five is tempting, but you don't have to rate me. What's important is that you consider what I'm saying. This guy is wrong for your sister. He clearly can't control himself, and his feeling guilty about it doesn't change a thing. And whose to say he didn't just tell you so you'll feel sorry for him and not tell your sister. Consider the future, if he did this now chances are he'll do something like this again. Maybe not with you, maybe with someone else. How much more is it going to hurt your sister when she finds out two, three, maybe four years from now. The sooner she finds out what he's really like, the better. You need to talk to her about it. How angry would she be if she found out you kept it from her? You can't keep something like this inside. I strongly believe it's better she find out now than her finding out years from now.
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Thats just not right. Even though you want your sister to be happy, you should still tell someone. He might do it again, and that would hurt your sister even more. You have to tell someone
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Try telling one of your friends, or try to think about other things when you go to sleep, just try your very hardest to keep your mind off of what happened to you, think about what you did that day and think about the things that make you happy
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Wow, definitely discuss this with your mom and dad. What he did is wrong and you should not allow him to get away with it. He needs to know that was not okay.
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Think this off first how many ppl will he do it to again? He did it to you he can do it whenever he wants this is soo not right n its nasty I mean gez hes married thats discussing, but if you dont want to tell neone then dont if you want to tell someone then u may tell someone if not dont but I realli dont knw what to do in this kinda situation but its wrong is wat I think I still think if I was you Id do something because he can do to any other ppl he wants to ever again if no one does anything and I realli think your sister should know about this but this is just advice it could be the wrong thing to do or right but just do wat u feel is right. Hope everything goes good for you.
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Woah thats scary! Well what you can do is try to forget about it and maybe not sleepover there house anymore..you kno juss to be safe but if you have to lock your door or like be really cautious..you could warn him that if he ever does that to u again then you will tell your parents and they will get mad and your sister might not be thrilled..;-) hahaa i little black mail doesnt hurt! Hope i can help! If not talk to me agian!-x0x becca ((RATE ME A FIVE))
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You need to tell someone if it is bothering you this much. I agree with Kevin mostly with this add: find someone you have confidence in so that they can help you. A counselor, a member of the clergy, or a therapist. The fact that you feel violated worries me and suggest you need some counseling of some sort so that you feel better.
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i think u should say sumthing no matter what cuz no one deserves to b disrespected in tat way especially from sum1 ur family trusts.. there is a possibility tat he could do tat again.. n u really gotta talk to sum1 about tat.. gud luk xoxo angie
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Tell no one only if your brother in law doesn't even think about doing this again. If he makes ANY more advances toward you or you see him doing it to anyone else,tell your sister. If he said he's sorry,and you believe him,then don't say anything. But this one is so tough because there's always a chance he could do this again,if not to you,to somebody else. Tell your brother in law what he did was wrong and if he does it again,your ass is grass. Tell him if you hurt my sister,I'll make sure your ass fries in court. It also depends how old you are. If you're like 14 and hes 25,report this guy to the authorities. If he came out and admitted to it,and he said he was sorry,then believe him. But don't let this shit pass again.
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Hun, you really need to tell... It might be hard to do but you need to... even though he appologized... his wife (ur sister) has the right to know about this... maybe if he did that to you he could cheat on your sister or something... you dont want her to be with a guy whos like that do you?... You really need to tell them... it will relieve u alot of stress that you dont need to have... *mare*
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