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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.

I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.












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I got some cheap eyeshadow for christmas but it doesn't stay on if I touch it or anything. So I don't want to waste it so is there anything I can mix it with to make it stronger or something like that???



Vaseline and eyeshadow make a good lip gloss.

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So my best friend has asked me out twice in the past and I've said no both times. But within the past 2 months I realized that I think I've fallen in love with him. I was going to talk to him about us possibly being a couple, but he says he likes this other girl (who he's going to prom with) and that he's trying to get over me. The girl who he's going to prom with likes him. So do I bring up to him how I really feel or should I just let him go?



Don't ask him

You turned him down twice in the past, You had your chance. He moved on, found interest in someon else and is going to prom with.

Honestly, Instead of turning the poor guy down ypu should of given him a chance when he asked. It sucks, it really does. However you sort of owe it to the guy to let him be happy. Sometimes we can want but its a bit to late. It would be unfair to him to suddenly express your feelings when he has someone else he likes. Move on and let him be

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My friend likes to have sex with his dog! It's so sick! I don't even know what this kind of problem is termed. I have to help him immediately since I know he's not right. What can I do for him? I'm really sorry if this steps on someone's toes, but I just thought someone on this site might be able to help me. Thanks!




You report it to police as soon as possible

This is a crime and it is referred to as beastuality.

This is wrong, disgusting and cruelty to an animal.


You know information you need to report it. With holding illegal information is protecting a criminal and you could be charge for not reporting him.

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i am a totall ignorant lately,from a couple months i cant get excited about almost anything and i dont care about anything,its good not to care about some stuff,but i dont care about anything and thats bad.maybe its apathy,i dont know...what should i do to get "better"?

-ghostgirl7




Do you enjoy being ignorant? I think it's a complete turnoff.


I don't give two flying shits if you want to get better!



Okay now that you just read that, That is me being ignorant.

Offensive isn't it? Well you see this is how people react towards ignorancy of others. Meaning, You should care. If you were offended by what I said then you do care.

People have feelings and this is what you should think about before you decide to act ignorant. Not everyone deserves such treatment. You change because you want to change not because of what others think.

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i am scared of losing my virginity, but then i am scared i will never get to have sex. what do i do?
i am 13



You are 13....

I did not loose my virginity until I was 17. Why the hell are you thinking about sex at your age anyway? You are way to young. Are you ready to possibly raise a child? NO. You are writing to us telling us you are scared. This means you are way to young. Wait a few years and stop thinking like that

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Hi! So I've been dating this guy for almost a year. And there is a big age difference between us, 8 years. But it works for us. I'm 23 and he's 31. But lately I am starting to get nervous. His older brother has a wife and his parents are completly in love with her. They adore her. But I don't feel like they feel that way about me. They treat us differently. His family is very conservative and proper and I am a huge kid at heart. I get offended over it. When i ask him about it he just says they love me of course but I know he sees it too and is just ignoring it. I'm really offended. Should I walk away even though I love him or what should I do?

Thanks in advanced (:



My answer may sound offensive but I apologize in advance as I am just trying to be honest.

You are 8 years apart in age. It is possible his parents do not take your relationship seriously. Ayear is not that long to be dating someone. It is also possible they do not see you as a grown adult. I know this sounds harsh but these are also possibilities. If you want them to become more accepting then i would be polite and respectful towards them and in time hope they come around.

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how do you know if a guy just wants to hang out with you & is just being nice to you to just get in your pants?



Obvious

There are too many signs.

Being pushy and forward

Not respecting how you feel and is all about him and what he wants.

Implying that he wanrs to spend "alone" time with you

Constantly talking about his fantasies and sex

Not listening to you, staring off at your body

Doesn't seem interested in what your talking about but decides he wants to hang out with you when he feels like it


All sifns of a player

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Okay so I need prank ideas. For those who have read Looking for Alaska I need something like those. I go to a public school of about 350 kids (really small) and I'm targeting one guy who is an asshole but I don't want to physically hurt him. Just enough to confuse him to the point of insanity. Now it needs to be big I have 9 weeks to plan and pull it off. I just need an idea. It can be elaborate. But I want it to get to him. To like mentally fuck him up to the point where he doesn't know what's going on anymore. All I need are ideas. And I am willing to go to any extent to give him what he deserves.
Thanks


This sounds like retalliation seeing you referred to him as an "asshole"

I am not sure exactly what you mean by "prank"
Either way, Why level yourself? What point are you trying to proove? Not only is the entire thing sounding extremely immature, you are not going to change someone. If someone is an asshole then they are an asshole. Trying to prank someone in revenge of them being an asshole prooves nothing, nada, not a damn thing. You follow? Mind as well add seeing you ind it funny to give this asshole what he deserves sounds lile he may be an asshold but what about you? Honestly, to even think of doing something like this sounds like a bitch don't ya think?

Do something useful and mature with your time and leave the kid alone. Use your head and think!

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13/F

So my mom and I went to a bakery and I got a Pink Champagne cupcake. Do you think it has actual champagne in it? And if it does, does it have enough of it that I'll get drunk or something? I haven't eaten it yet, but I'm planning to later.



A champange cupcake contains no alcohol. You are fine

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a month we are both in high school. My boyfriend asked me one day last week if I would want to do a three sum with him and my best friend at first I thought he was kidding but then today he asked again and before he did tell me he was seriouse but I said idk. But today I was talking to him and my friend on Skype. He asked again and so then I asked my friend if she would want to she was down w it but then I started to tear up bc my bf used to have a crush on my friend and he had one on her for 4yrs. And so I kept crying cuz I can't picture him putting his penis in her knowing the fact tht he liked her but he loves me and always says it but it feels weird. How do I get the image of them out of my head? I can't take it an my bf is trying to help me and he apologized for bringing it up but I keep picturing him putting his thing in her. Yes ik he will do it back to me but still I can't get it out of my mind.... HELP!!


Edit: How the hell is my reply ignorant? I would thonk encouraging something that doesn't sound like a good idea in this particular situation to be a little on the "ignorant" part Dalamar. Excuse me for trying to help. Phsh


I agree with Mo on this one, Dump him.

Sounds to me like he is looking for a 2 way ticket. Meaning, he wants the best of both worlds and he is using this as an advantage. If someone is truly happy in a relationship then it should be about that person and their partner only. This relationship doesn't sound healthy for you and your boyfriend can't be completely faithful and committed to you if he has feelings for someone else. Not worth it

Need to find a new man and new friends sweetheart.

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Hi everyone (:


I'm 5'4" and I weigh 112 lbs. Is that too much and how much weight should I lose if it is?
I dont have time to go to a doctor right now and I dont trust the whole BMI thing.. what do you guys think? I'm 19 years old btw.

thanks :)


Nope you are not overweight at all.

For someone who is 5'1 the healthy weight is 100-115

For 5'4 you are slightly underweight.

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Okay so I've been having this boyfriend for like about 2 1/2 years . I resently Acussed him of talking to his ex so we got into an argument . I always acusse him of stuff like this by the way and during the argument he said I was a bitch because I keep goin on and on about how he was lieing and whatever ..so after he did that a few hours later I texted him and ask how could he say that and he still wouldn't say sorry or anything he was still upset he wasn't still calling me a bitch I mean that is like the first time he's actually said that to me so later on tht night I've been ignoring him and now he's just saying sorry and I'm telling him to leave me alone is that the right thing to do . ????????????



Drama....

Sounds like there is no trust in a relationship. Zi don't care how pissed someone gets, Calling someone hurtful names is unacceptable. My two cents? Dump hom and move on. You both don't sound compatible anyway.

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Do you guys believe in those pictures or comments that say something like "Repost in 4 minutes or else"? I'm scared of those things...



Nope, It's a bunch of nonsense.

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I have a huge crush on my attractive female teachers who is like 28 I believe. I am flat out obsessed with this girl I;d say, -I always walk by her room or try to go wherever she is and at the end of the day just to see her leave,.i 'm willing to buy any school related paper and yearbook just to see if any pictures of her are in it, I went searching for her Facebook account, and I found it and I find myself staring at a lot of pictures of her. I get mad just whenever I see another boy go up and talk to my teacher, but the worst thing of all is that she is married and I can't stand that she is. I have feelings of hate towards her husband just because she is married to him and want him to die and I sometimes like to rip papers up or something pretending it is him. Do you think this is a problem I should tell someone about?



I think you should talk to an adult about this yes.

It is okay to find a teacher attractive but to act on it is not. You have become obsessed and are stalking your teacher via facebook.

You are a student, She has authority over you. It will not happen and it should not happen. This woman is married, meaning she is committed to her husband and that's it.

Student/teacher relationships are against school policy and she could loose her job.

So yes, I think you need to talk to a counselor because your behavior is not appropriate.

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And do you need a license?


It depends on who you are sitting for. Most people require you to have CPR classes.

Personally if I had children I would not hire a babysitter under the age of 21 and they would need a CPR certificate as well as a background check.

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My boyfriend of 2 yrs introduces me as a 'good friend' sometimes and I have told him it upstes me yet he still does it. Since we have been together so long I find this so odd and troubling. Does this signify some subconcious feelings of not wanting certain people to know he is committed? It's odd - it's not even women he does it with but men so it's not like he is hiding it fom women. Thoughts?



It's a bit rude and offensive

You need to explain to him that you are not his "friend" you are his girlfriend. Tell him it is offensive and hurtful and ask him not to do it anymore.

If my husband introduced me as his "friend" several times I would after awhile get the impression maybe he isn't into a committed relationship or even a relationship at all. It gives the wrong impression to others and would make me feel non important in his life.

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Okay so my guy friend that's a junior posted on Twitter that he is should most likely start finding a prom date because he was desperate. I am a sophomore and really close friends with him. Do you think there's anyway of being asked to his prom?



Why not just ask him?...

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Okay, so I want to be a writer.
I have severe chronic depression... I have several medications for different issues (none of which I take...) but lately I've been getting really bad... So I guess I have to at least go back on one of my medications....
The problem is I FEEL so different on them... No one else can tell, but I can and I hate it. It's worse when I try to write, it's like the pills erase my creativity and my emotions which fuel my work.
So I need help, because I may have my boyfriend make me take my medication daily (because I'm obviously not doing it by myself) so what my issue is is I need help being able to do the only thing I actually feel passionate about, and care about doing, while the pills I have to take restrict my ability to do them...
Please help!! I don't want to choose between my writing and feeling okay... Because I'll probably choose my writing..



I also suffer depression

Trust me, Take your medication. If this one doesn't seem to work then talk to your doctor about another Med that will.
All to many times we cannot see the positive change medication can do to us. Also, many people on medication often find excuses to why they can't or so bot need their medication.

I have been for years making up excuses for myself and other people. As I got older and responsibilities became an everyday part of my life, I learned in order to live my life to the fullest I need to faithfully take medication.

I also have been writing for 18 years. I find when I am off my medication I show limited patience, my attention is tops 3 seconds and I find myself to think constantly. Please rake the meds, Its not worth it.

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13/F

So every night, I sleep in my room. I have an alarm that goes off about 8 times on my phone (I have a pass code on my phone, so he can't turn it off but he can turn it off by sliding my phone) and he always turns it off because it's "annoying" - Yet HE GETS MAD AT ME WHEN I'M LATE TO SCHOOL!

Plus, he turns off my TV and leaves my door open every night. My TV isn't loud and my door is SHUT NO MATTER WHAT.

What do I do? He turns off my alarms and gets me in trouble at school, he turns off my TV, touches my things in my room, and he leaves my door open. My mom NEVER does this. I'm getting really annoyed at him. Advice please?


Talk to mom about dad invading your privacy

Also try hiding your phone umder your pillow or somewhere he won't find it.

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I don't want to sound like a total freak out, but he sees her at least 4 times a week to exchange clothes/toys. We are in our early twenties and live together. They text all the time, and I've gotten to a point where I am just really uncomfortable with the whole thing, and he knows that. He says I have to accept that he has a child with her. I understand that she will always be in his life because of that, but in a way I feel like a home wrecker just by being with him. I feel like the other woman, when I haven't done anything wrong. I am having second thoughts. Maybe he should try and work things out with her for the sake of the child. Is what I'm feeling normal?



Edit:

No, I didn't answer your question but I aalso told you if you can't handle it then you need to tell him. The way your thinking is selfish, To not want the mother of the child around is and will put pressure on the father. I can understand not wanting her to be involved in your lives constantly yes, but she will be present from time to time. Perhaps you need to tell him you feel he is in conract with her a bit too much and you feel like your being put on the back burner. If he is not willing to one down his contact and put more focus into you then this relationship isn't for you to begin with.

Now sorry for the misunderstanding on my last answer.





Your actions are extremely selfish

His child will and should always come first, He is a father. As the mother of his child yes, she will always be in the picture.

Basically this guy is a package deal, you except him, his child and the fact that this other woman has a child with him or you do not except him at all.

If you decide to do the mature thing and realize that he is a parent who should be on mutual terms with the mother then you also need to except as his partner you will have co-responsibility to his child if you were to end up married.

So if you feel you truly can't handle the mother being around then be honest with him. However, staying around being selfish about it IS beibg a home wrecker indeed

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