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My Dad Won't Stop Touching My Stuff!
13/F
So every night, I sleep in my room. I have an alarm that goes off about 8 times on my phone (I have a pass code on my phone, so he can't turn it off but he can turn it off by sliding my phone) and he always turns it off because it's "annoying" - Yet HE GETS MAD AT ME WHEN I'M LATE TO SCHOOL!
Plus, he turns off my TV and leaves my door open every night. My TV isn't loud and my door is SHUT NO MATTER WHAT.
What do I do? He turns off my alarms and gets me in trouble at school, he turns off my TV, touches my things in my room, and he leaves my door open. My mom NEVER does this. I'm getting really annoyed at him. Advice please?
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This is an interesting situation. You didn't mention how close their room is to yours or how loud your phone is, but if they are loud, that could be the reason why he is turning it off.
Either way, there isn't much you can do except talk to him and your mom. Make sure you do it politely.
If he does keep doing it though, you can't really do much because he is your dad and is in charge.
I had a problem with an alarm when I was in school, eventually my parents would just wake me up in the morning and it was up to me to get up then and there because I'd be late if I slept in.
Do you sleep with your TV on or are you watching it when he turns it off?
If you sleep with it on, it's understandable for him to turn it off because of electricity and such, maybe put it on a timer?
If he turns it off while you are watching, ask him why he does this. If it's because it's too loud, then you can fix that, if it's because it's late then you can't really change that either.
Anyways, the best thing to do is talk to him. I can see why it could be frustrating but don't argue with him and just try to be understanding.
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Um, if you are leaving noise makers on (like an alarm continuing to buzz for several minutes, or a television) while are are ASLEEP, then yeah, your Dad is going to turn that shit off.
Learn to wake up without hitting snooze more than once. If you live with other people, it is not fair or poliete to allow your alarm to blare more than like, twice. If you can't wake up after two alarms, you need to be going to bed earlier.
Turn off your TV when you are going to fall asleep or leave the room OR save up and get a TV with a 'sleep' setting that will turn itself off at a certain time.
Politely ask your father to close your door when he leaves the room.
Your dad might be an asshole - I don't know. But if you are letting your alarm blare for more than a few seconds, you are also being rude. If you are leaving the TV on while you are asleep, or not in the room, then you are absolutely in the wrong.
You can stop his reasons for entering your room, or touching your alarm, by correcting your behavoir.
If you make that effort to fix your errors you'll be in a much stronger position to - politely - insist your father closes your bedroom door when he does need to go in or out. As long as you are not taking proactive measures to be respectful with your alarm and to turn off your TV when you aren't watching it, then your father is going have really good reasons to not take your complaints seriously.
You are thirteen. You don't have a 'right to privacy'. You are a young adult who in the process of proving to their parents that they can be responsible and deserve their privacy. One of the ways you can prove that your deserve your privacy, is by not doing things in the privacy of your own room that are disruptive to others.
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The phone situation, I would definitely try having a conversation about privacy with the both of your parents at the same time. This will allow your mother to have her say in the matter and maybe enlighten your father on her point of view. You could also ask them to try and wake you up instead, since the alarm is "annoying". As parents, their sole purpose in life is to take care of you and protect you. God forbid if something were to happen to you while they were asleep, and your room door was shut with the TV turned on, on the outside of your room, nobody would be able to hear anything! Not to mention, having your TV on at night when you're not watching it is a waste of electricity. But, if you need it to fall asleep, you could try getting a TV with a timer on it so it can turn off automatically. Your fathers intentions could really mean anything, but you will never fully understand unless you make the time to have a real, mature conversation with him so he can hear what you have to say, and same with him! I hope this helps. :)
I never said he did anything to you in your sleep or that he was a bad man. I said that if something bad happened to you, your parents would probably never know because your room door is shut and the TV is turned on at night.
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Talk to mom about dad invading your privacy
Also try hiding your phone umder your pillow or somewhere he won't find it.
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