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Welcome everyone! My name is Kya. I love helping people, and I truly believe that all problems can be solved in a positive way. I am new here, so please feel free to message me anytime!

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So I went to washington Dc with my mom for a political convention. It was three days. The first day we were there my phone fell in the toilet. I had no way of contacting my boyfriend because my mom doesn't have a phone and our schedule was packed tightly. The only thing I thought of was to email him or try using a computer texting app. I texted him to tell him what was going on that same day so he wouldn't freak out. He ignored all texts and emails. I got back and called him and he said he doesn't want us to be together anymore because he doesn't trust me because I ignored him for three days. I don't know how to feel about the situation. what do you guys think about the situation.

I don't want to be mean, but your boyfriend really sounds like a waste of time. You know you emailed him, and there is no way he couldn't have gotten those emails. He is trying to make you feel like you are the reason for him wanting to break up, when its really him being a coward. There is most likely a more selfish reason why he doesn't want to be with you and is just finding an easy way out. Don't beat yourself up for any of it. If he is a good guy, he would find a way to fix things instead of giving you up so easily.

What do I do if no teacher or anybody cares if someone is bullying me?

Have you tried getting ahold of your vice principal or a counselor within the school? They can help a lot more with what you're going through more than teachers. And if you have any friends who can cheer you up, don't be ashamed to let them know whats going on. They can help defend you and support you if no one else is around.

Long story short, my roommate is AWFUL. She uses up my groceries, leaves a mess everywhere, and purposely goes in the bathroom whenever I get home from work because she knows I need to shower. Those are only a couple examples. We have a house together and only a couple short months left. However, I need a way to get some type of revenge on her. We've had plenty of conversations and arguments about ways she needs to change- she doesn't even have anything against me- and it never helps. Don't bother preaching to me about how revenge isn't the solution- I've made up my mind. However, it can't be the type of revenge where it's obvious I'm trying to mess with her.. that'll just bite me in the butt. What ways can I make things difficult for her but she can't be absolutely positive I had something to do with it?

Something that really helped me get along with my step sister after being pissed off with the way she lives is by both of us writing an agreement. You write 5 rules and she should write 5 rules. Hang it up somewhere you both frequent, like the door of the bathroom and give each other a week to adjust.

There is this guy and I am not sure if he likes me. We have never talked before but we have had shared multiple eye contacts everyday and there are times when we stare at each other for quite a while. However, our facial expressions are usually fixed. No smiles no nothing.
There are times when I will look first and vice versa.

Thanks you for taking time to read! :)

If he looks at you a lot, he is definitely interested in who you are. If he smiles sometimes, that is a sure tell way that he likes you. Especially if he raises his eyebrows. It means he wants to talk to you. Maybe the next time he looks your way, you should smile so he feels more comfortable to come up to you and not creeped out!

so i have been suffering with depression for a while now, and last semester (i'm in college) i had a complete breakdown. i started missing classes and avoided all my friends. avoiding them, mostly because i didnt wanna be the sad mopey one who eventually everyone wont wanna hang out with. also i just didnt want to burden them with my sadness. i've been struggling with the same issue for so long that i felt my friends got disillusioned by it. people texted or called me and i'd ignore or avoid them. i was completely isolated from everyone else.

but after a while, i felt better and talked to my friend about it. instead of being comforted, she yelled at me for being selfish and not thinking about her. and tells me that im not being considerate of other people's feelings while i was preoccupied with my own sadness.

should i feel offended? i know that being depressed makes you more pessimistic, but i just didn't think it was other people's problems. is it okay to think that my friend is making the main issue into her problem instead of mine, without considering my feelings instead?

I really think the only thing that you did wrong in this situation is isolate yourself. You are aloud to talk to people about your situation. Especially if they are close friends of yours. You should never feel like you are a burden because you want to talk about you depression. What you can do instead of keeping your feelings to yourself is listen more than talk. Find out what is going on in your friends life. Escape from being lonely for a little while and let people in. When you're ready for them to hear what is going on in your life, you should tell them. Don't fabricate what is going on. You can't beat this without a little support and love from the people who care about you! Your friend isnt saying you are selfish to hurt you. She is offended because you misjudged her before finding out what she would feel about everthing.

Can I get rid of stretch marks by natural ways ?

If you are a lighter complexion, you can lighten the look of stretch marks with vaseline. It works really fast. If you are a darker complexion, cocoa butter works just as fine. It may not be the most natural way, but it works and it is cheap and effective.

So i asked this girl out and she said yes, it was kinda awkward at the beginning at it still kinda is. She acted nervous around me, and told her friends that she liked me, even her best-friend.
But today i found out from one of my friends that she said yes not to hurt my feelings! Was this just a fake? Could it be that she wanted to end the awkwardness by saying she doesnt like me?

I think the best way to end any awkwardness is to confront her about what you heard face to face. Once you get it out in the open, you can get a better understanding on how she feels about the relationship, and you both can be more honest with each other. Never beleive what other people say about your relationship until you have proof from the source. By asking her, you may be surprised about what you find out.

i need a boyfriend,but im so fucking picky,i like strange boys,dont give a fuck about the looks that much,i like weirdos and sad people,i myself am very weird :) but i like that,but its soo hard to find someone strange,should i lower my expectations or something?

ghostgirl7

You may be surprised that everyone is a little strange in their own sort of way, and some people hide it very well! I think you should give anyone you click with a chance.

this boy hes a manwhore he does one night stands he says girls have to much politics he wasnt like this at first he cared for this girl a year back hes 17, but she played his so he didnt want to have another girl cos he got really hurt. he's said before he would have a girl if he really liked her i have known him for 6 months now and hes amazing, lovely personality and so funny always puts a smile on my face i know i really like him but he says he wont change who he is but he doesnt no i like him either but what i think hes hiding his real self not giving a real girl a chance hes just going to slags and get nothing of it just sex... despite all this i cant stop liking him? can yous help me please i need to know what to do i want him to see his real self cos he can make himself change hes did it quite alot we were really close meeting up and going on cam and stuff then one day he just stoped taking and know we only talk once and a wile but i cant change my feelings for him i need him to know but i dont know what to say? if anyone could help me i would be so thankful xx

Hey there,
You don't have to try and change anything about this guy. If he likes you back and wants a relationship with you, then you should expect him to be fully committed with you and to end his man-whoreish ways. Tell him in person that you really enjoy spending time with him and that he's the only person you're interested in. Let him know that you are looking for a relationship and willing to take things slow. He needs to know that you're not the type of chick he usually just hangs out with to have sex with. Allow him to process this and to let you know how he feels. Be patient and try hard not to push him for an answer right away. If he feels the same way, then you won't have to worry about him being with other girls. If he doesn't feel the same way, it isn't your fault at all. He told you already that he won't change, but what he really means is that he doesn't want to change. He just needs some more time and isn't ready to be committed yet. In that case, I would try to stay clear of him for a while until he gets his head straight and realizes that the girls he is sleeping with aren't going to be enough for him. They won't care enough, and are probably sleeping with other men too which is why he got his heart broken in the first place. Let him know what he is missin! :) xx

13/F

So every night, I sleep in my room. I have an alarm that goes off about 8 times on my phone (I have a pass code on my phone, so he can't turn it off but he can turn it off by sliding my phone) and he always turns it off because it's "annoying" - Yet HE GETS MAD AT ME WHEN I'M LATE TO SCHOOL!

Plus, he turns off my TV and leaves my door open every night. My TV isn't loud and my door is SHUT NO MATTER WHAT.

What do I do? He turns off my alarms and gets me in trouble at school, he turns off my TV, touches my things in my room, and he leaves my door open. My mom NEVER does this. I'm getting really annoyed at him. Advice please?

The phone situation, I would definitely try having a conversation about privacy with the both of your parents at the same time. This will allow your mother to have her say in the matter and maybe enlighten your father on her point of view. You could also ask them to try and wake you up instead, since the alarm is "annoying". As parents, their sole purpose in life is to take care of you and protect you. God forbid if something were to happen to you while they were asleep, and your room door was shut with the TV turned on, on the outside of your room, nobody would be able to hear anything! Not to mention, having your TV on at night when you're not watching it is a waste of electricity. But, if you need it to fall asleep, you could try getting a TV with a timer on it so it can turn off automatically. Your fathers intentions could really mean anything, but you will never fully understand unless you make the time to have a real, mature conversation with him so he can hear what you have to say, and same with him! I hope this helps. :)

I never said he did anything to you in your sleep or that he was a bad man. I said that if something bad happened to you, your parents would probably never know because your room door is shut and the TV is turned on at night.

And do you need a license?

It depends really on the age of the children you are babysitting. The younger they are, the more training you should probably have. You need to be emotionally, mentally and physically capable in order to care for another human being. I'd say the most appropriate age to start would be 13 years old. In Canada, it helps a lot if you have a background police check to verify you have no criminal history, references and First Aid & CPR training. If you are younger, having experience and and a few references under your belt should be perfectly fine. Also, try taking a small course if it is your first time babysitting!

"i am from Tanzania" How can i convice my virgin girlfriend to have sex with me

The best way you can have sex with her is to not ask her, and let her tell you when she is ready. And when she is ready like you are, it will be so worth the wait because you both will be 100 percent comfortable with each other.

Okay,
So I'm babysitting for the first time on Saturday, one is eight years old and another is about 3.
Okay, so what do you do-do you just sit there like what someone did to me when I was little? Or do you play, or have fun or what?
Seriosuly any advice welcome :))

I can almost guarantee you that if you sit and only watch the children, and not play with them, the parent or caregiver will not want to keep you around very long, and the children will tell them that you are boring. The 3 year old will require a lot more energy, but with very simple things. You will need to keep them physically active at almost all times. Since the age gap between the two children are very big, something they can both do with you is bake something together. (Chocolate chip cookies are a favorite. Even store bought, cake mix can be fun. You can make cupcakes and decorate them with the two). Ask the parents if using the stove is okay first! If not, you can buy store bought cupcakes, and ice/decorate them with each other. You can fill time in with the 8 year old by watching a movie of their choice or teaching them a new card game. The 3 year old might not be able to sit down for a long time. The 3 year old, you can entertain by making a few different arts and crafts. You can find plenty of ideas online. Even finger painting can be very fun. Also, the 8 year old will most likely tell you exactly what they want to do with you. You can keep them in a good mood by playing the radio in the background. Talk to them a lot, smile always and be careful of everything that you say around them. Don't use any slang words, and look clean and groomed. Just remember that you are the adult, and you are the one in charge. Keep your eyes on them at all times, and never turn your back on them at all. You should do perfectly fine if you actually like children. Good luck! :)

I'm a 15 year old female.I'm still a virgin. My boyfriend and I were messing around and he cummed after he jerked off, and he touched a little bit his cum. 5 or 10 minutes later his hands were dry and he touched a few objects and then tried to finger me, he only got up to my clit when I realized he had touched his cum before and didn't wash his hands so i smacked his hand away. Me and him have been freaking out all this week and I'm experiencing mood swings, a milky discharge, constipation, and I'm waiting on my period but I have it irregularly. Could I be pregnant from? it's only been a week.

I don't believe you could be pregnant because his semen would have to shoot deeper than just inside the vagina to be able to stick to your uterus walls and attach itself to one of your eggs. Wait at least a week after your period due date to see if it comes, and if it does not and your symptoms are still the same, I would highly suggest you going to a doctor, or clinic for a pregnancy test. Don't waste your money on an at home test. Go to a professional. And if it turns out that you are not pregnant, make sure you ask them about your constipation, and for advice about your irregular period. Also, mood swings are quite normal for girls your age! Who knows, maybe your stress is the reason why your period hasn't come up yet. It could be right around the corner. Just be patient and calm.

I recently bought myself my first brown mascara-I thought brown would be sort of cool since I didn't see any other girls wearing brown mascara, so I got Maybelline's Glam Black mascara plus a new brown-ish eye liner, New York Color's Taupe. Now I'm wondering if I made a bad choice back at the store and to just go back to the black mascara thing. What color eye shadows would go with this? Would this match with dark hazel-brown eyes and my dark-medium brown hair? It can't be anything too extreme or anything if you know what I mean, since I'm still young. So no lip stick since I don't do lip stick or lip liner yet, but lip gloss is perfect, plus eye shadow and some blushes. I like the natural look, so nothing too wild either like some purple or green or blue. So would it?

I love the natural look as well! Brown mascara is very cute, and dark brown is even better. In order for you to look fresh, healthy and pretty which is the natural look, I would go with a black-brown shade of mascara for your dark hazel-brown eyes since it is a darker shade of your hair colour, a pink-nude lip gloss and black eye liner on the top lids to open up your eyes!

I asked out this guy at school today and he said yes. The problem is, we don't have anywhere to go. We are both 16 and he can drive. Any ideas?

First of all, good for you! It takes a lot of guts to ask a guy out AND even think up a cool date idea for the two of you. I think going out to do something active or competitive is the best first date you can have because you'll be doing something fun together that he would always remember. You can go ice skating together and then have latte's and dessert afterwards. You can go indoor rock climbing, go karts, mini-golf or even bowling too. You want to avoid boring stuff like going to movies because you won't have a lot of time to chat or get to know each other and get comfortable with each other. Save that for date two or three! Have fun :)

I'm 21/f and I've been in a great relationship with my boyfriend for a little over 2 years now, we're both very happy. Where I work there is one guy who I've been having dreams about every other night for the past 2 months. These dreams get more and more steamy to the point where I wake up feeling as if I've already cheated. Me and the guy at work are friends, and to make matters worse he has a fiance. I don't plan on pursuing these feelings but every time we stand even remotely close to each other at work my hormones go into overdrive and memories from past dreams almost push me into doing something stupid. What should I do before I completely lose it?

Thanks for any advice,
StupidHormones

Although you and your boyfriend may have a wonderful relationship, it is completely normal to be attracted to other men... As long as you don't take it to another level! This guy at work is something new and exciting, but he is definitely off limits to you. This work guy is a fantasy for you literally, which is okay. But in reality, you really shouldn't cross that line. It would be ruining a lot of people's lives. Maybe you need to take a step back and contemplate with yourself what it is about this colleague that your boyfriend clearly lacks. It's not a bad thing to want to improve your relationships! Just remember to also think about what it is about your boyfriend that this work dude doesn't have as well.

My current GF did not inform me of them speaking I had suspicion because it was becoming a routine of the texts curiosity is going to kill the cat so I read texts yes it was bad on my part but she should had told me aswell my GF dosent find anything wrong with this because the EX is having family tradigies but the EX has confessed her feeling to my GF, what do I do?????

Although it was very inappropriate for your girlfriend to hide something like this from you, it really is not a bad thing. Would you rather have them hating on each other for no reason, or getting along? As long as their relationship is not based on you as a topic of interest, you both should be perfectly fine. Just let her know that you understand you both have done some sneaky things and that you'd like to be more open and honest with each other. Also, if there is anything your ex may know that could potentially break up the two of you, let your current girlfriend know from you before she finds out from your ex!

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