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She said yes to not hurt me.
So i asked this girl out and she said yes, it was kinda awkward at the beginning at it still kinda is. She acted nervous around me, and told her friends that she liked me, even her best-friend.
But today i found out from one of my friends that she said yes not to hurt my feelings! Was this just a fake? Could it be that she wanted to end the awkwardness by saying she doesnt like me?
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Well you shouldn't let what other people say get to you. The only way to find out what happened is to go ask her. If she says she does like you and she didn't say yes not to hurt you then just believe her. It could have been fake and people make up stuff all the time.
A relationship is about you two only. Don't bring more people into it.
When I was a freshman in high school, my friends were so involved with my relationship. They'd try to get us to hold hands and keep moving forward and not let us go at our own pace. Eventually they would start telling me that he's flirting with other girls, ect. It was just annoying to have other people get nosy in your relationship.
So go talk to her and find out.
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Don't always believe what other people tell you. This is the best way to ruin a relationship. If it didn't come directly from her, Then it's nothing but gossip.
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I think the best way to end any awkwardness is to confront her about what you heard face to face. Once you get it out in the open, you can get a better understanding on how she feels about the relationship, and you both can be more honest with each other. Never beleive what other people say about your relationship until you have proof from the source. By asking her, you may be surprised about what you find out.
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There's a party game called the telephone game in which the host whispers a phrase to the first person who whispers it to the next. Each person cannot ask to have the phrase repeated, just whisper to the next what they thought they heard until it has gone full circle. The last person in line then tells the crowd what was whispered to him.
In most circumstances it no longer resembles what was originally spoken.
The lesson here: Do not count on messages passed back and forth by 3rd party members. Only count on what you hear straight from the person in question. It will do you good to learn this now or you will have to learn it as an adult often with much more embarrassing and critical outcomes.
Only way you can know for sure is to hear from her.
So not to make it embarrassing for either of you, and give her a chance to be let off the hook. So you'd have to be creative in what you say to her...not a message given to your friend to give to her. Use your own words but it could be something like, "Hey Jill. Thanks for agreeing to go out. I am still new at the dating thing like you so if something comes up or you change your mind, just let me know. I wouldn't take anything personally."
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