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I have a problem with my close guy friend!
Okay well I have a really close friend I knew for like 2 months now?
We actually talk everyday. About life and about all the random things!
But yesterday I mentioned my step mother in one of our chats. And he said: Wait.. Step mums? You have a step mum?'
So I said yeah and I told him I don't talk about her at all cause we aren't that close so basically I thought okay sorted.
But he sent me a picture on snapchat saying goodnight
Then he sent me the message on a messenger after that.
But since then he ignores my snapchats
And I have a feeling he's a bit different with me. He one word replies! :(
Do you think he might be angry for me not telling him about my step mum? We don't know each other in person. He's in America and I'm in Europe.
If it helps, I'm 15 and he's 16. And I'm female :p
Hope someone helps!
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Honestly, that's a little weird if he did get upset over him not knowing you had a step mother.
It's not like this is something uncommon or it was a secret so maybe it's another reason why he's being like this. Could have just been bad timing, who knows.
The best thing to do in this situation is to talk to him and just ask him if he's upset with you. Then find out why and ask if it was about your step mother because that's when he started acting this way.
We don't know him so we can only make guesses. The only way you'll know for sure is by asking him.
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As an American myself I can tell you that American's are no strangers to divorce and step-parents. I doubt this is the issue. I'm leaning towards the idea that because you never mentioned this before he might think there is some sort of game being played on him. He may be questioning if you are the same person you have presented yourself to be. I highly doubt his actions are based on who you really are. If his hang up truly is over step-parents it makes no sense for him to be upset or distance himself from you as you had nothing to do with the choices your parents made. I know he's been a big part of your life the last couple of months but you lived 15 years without him and if he doesn't realize what he is missing out on then just move on. Trust me there are plenty of other nice American guys that would appreciate getting to know you.
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Talking every day does show interest in the other in most cases but still...2 months is not a long time in an on line relationship. When I did online dating, I had a male friend I talked to daily, for a year, who didn't live far from me and never wanted to meet in person. Who knows the reason why some people like an online relationship, and why others don't stick with it.
So because of his reaction to you having a step mom and right after not responding to your chats, you are connecting the two as related. While they might be, they also may not be. If he never responds to a chat, you won't have the chance to ask why he was surprised to hear you had a stepmom.
If you shared in detail about other family members, it might be a surprise to hear there was another by marriage. But it should not be shocking to any guy you ever talk to again. Why?
Because everyone in order to be alive on this planet needs to have had a mother and a father. They sometimes divorce and re-marry. That is a fact of life. Nothing unusual. Also nothing unusual in not clicking with the step person and or their family. But being civil to them is. Not being close is nothing for you to be ashamed to admit, alright?
There is always a very slight possibility that he comes from a very strict religious background that frowns on divorce. If anyone you ever meet is that narrow minded that they can't accept you for who you are no matter what the rest of your family is like, then steer clear of the guy.
Your age is a perfect time for learning the ins and outs and ups and downs of friendship with the opposite sex. Dont dwell too much on this and move on when you're ready.
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