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Boyfriend of 2 yrs introduces me as a 'good friend'
My boyfriend of 2 yrs introduces me as a 'good friend' sometimes and I have told him it upstes me yet he still does it. Since we have been together so long I find this so odd and troubling. Does this signify some subconcious feelings of not wanting certain people to know he is committed? It's odd - it's not even women he does it with but men so it's not like he is hiding it fom women. Thoughts?
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Who knows what he could be thinking. If my boyfriend started introducing me as his friend, I'd be confused and I'd find it very rude.
Talk to him again, if he doesn't change it then you might have to make some changes. He might not see it as a big deal but if it's important to you, he'll do it because he cares about your feelings.
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ASK HIM.
I hate using the word 'boyfriend'. I generally call my boyfriend 'my partner'. I don't mind when his friends or colleagues call me his wife, but I bristle a bit at being called 'girlfriend'. These terms feel really immature and even a bit pejorative.
Maybe your boyfriend is being deceptive or trying to be seen as single... Or maybe he has other reasons for choosing the language he does.
None of us here can read his mind, but after two years together you owe him the benefit of the doubt. Don't assume the worst of him. Ask him what's up and tell him how you'd prefer to be introduced.
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It's a bit rude and offensive
You need to explain to him that you are not his "friend" you are his girlfriend. Tell him it is offensive and hurtful and ask him not to do it anymore.
If my husband introduced me as his "friend" several times I would after awhile get the impression maybe he isn't into a committed relationship or even a relationship at all. It gives the wrong impression to others and would make me feel non important in his life.
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