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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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im only 13... and i have had the same boyfriend for 2 years and about two months ago we had sex...unprotected... let me cut to the chase... i havent had me period since then and i took a pregnancy test and it was positive... how do i tell my parents? or my boyfriend? or ANYONE?
please help (link)
You just tell them. There is no sense in waiting because you really need prenatal care. It is especially important because you are so young.
Here is a link that will help you understand what is going on.

http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy.htmhttp://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy.htm

It includes some 800 numbers of places like planned parenthood who may be better equipped to answer some of your questions.

Here is a link about telling your parents about your pregnancy. I hope you get some good info from them. Good luck :)
http://www.pregnancy-info.net/teenage_breakingthenews.html


what is sex? its confusing
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Here is a website that can answer your questions.

http://www.coolnurse.com/sex_stuff.htm


Ok im 14 and i never got my period. i just want someone 2 tell me what happens b4 you do

Much luv thanx (link)
Here is a website that I think you will find very helpful. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/menstrual.htm


how do you masterbate..does it hurt/feel good..make u hhappierr..does it bleeed! step by step here..where do you do it..what do you use

only 14.. female (link)
For legal reasons we are not allowed to answer these types of questions here. If we did we would have to get rid of all our users under 18.
We don't want to do that! I can give you a link to a website though. I hope it answers all your questions. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/masturbation.htm


hey
can someone please tell me what some signs of a misscarage are? (link)
Rather than write it all out I will send you this link. Hope it answers your questions. :)


how the hell do you masterbate?

female/14 (link)
http://www.coolnurse.com/masturbation.htm


Alright, I'm 13/m, and i was wondering, if i go to the movies with my girlfriend should i pay for her, because im like broke right now but if i dont pay for her im afraid shed think i was really cheap... what should i do? (link)
The guy usually pays for the date unless they are just friends. If you are low on funds though she might pay her own way. She may not consider that a "date" though. Maybe dad could lend you some, hes probably been there himself. :)


can you masturbate during your period... && this is my first period ever in my whole life...there isnt alot of blood is that normal? what is it like when wou first get it? pleaseeeee hellppp (link)
You can if you want to. :)


I don't know what to do about this guy... at the beginning of the summer i found out he liked me and the more i thought about it the more i liked him back, well i jacked up really bad cuz i accidentally misworded a quote he had told the person that told him so ever since then he thought i said no, but i didn't, he was just so mad at the peron that told me that he didn't give me a chance to say yes... well he hasn't talked to me since then and it's really depressing, not only cuz he won't talk to me but because he won't talk to the person that tole me either and he get's POed at anyone who brings it up from what i've been told... i don't know what to do, if anyone can help i'll rate high.
thanks

o, yeah... 14/f (link)
You need to go up to him yourself and let him know about the mix up. He likes you so he isn't going to be mad about. Go do some talking. :)


I'm i'm a 14 year old girl, (15 at the end of september) i'm 5' 9 1/2" tall and i weigh 145 lbs. Now, i know i'm not unhealthy or anything... i mean i'm certainly not obese, but what's the best way to lose weight? i don't want to be anorexic or bulemic or anything (ew) i just want to slim down and tone muscle. I want to be slim, but not disgustingly skinny. I think i eat too much junk food but i love the sugar lol. Are fruits a better subsitute for cookies and ice cream? Also, i want to have defined curves. ( i dunno if losing weight makes it tough to have curves or something but meh) but i've got these, i assume, muscles under just below my hip that gives my pelvic region a kind of square-ish look. Somebody said this was because i do sports and i've just built muscle there and it can't be helped. Is that true? And i want my thighs slimmer, too.

o.o sorry that's so long. Any suggestions? Bottom line: how do i get my body to look the way i want?

-thanks- (link)
You need to eat 3 meals a day...watch portion size. To make it a little easier, 1/2 cup of most things is a serving.

Exercise everyday. You do sports...excellent exercise. Keep it up throughout the year even when your sport isn't in season.

You will get curves. Your age has a lot to do with that. Hang in there...and lay off the sugary, good stuff (aww, I know!) Try some of the flavored yogurts (3 a day) they can be really good, and, they even have some chocolate ones now! :)


A lot of answers to my questions is to flirt, how do I do that? Thanx (link)
The best thing is to be yourself. Some people can flirt and it is very natural to them and others can't. Here is a site that I hope is of some help. :)

http://www.romantic-lyrics.com/flirtideas.shtml


i'm wanting to get birth control to be safe but i aint having sex or anything but if i started doing stuff and it happened. i wouldnt get preg. i'm still a virgin. but i want to get on it to be safe. what should i do. get one of my friends to go with me and keep it away from my parent's so they don't know?? (link)
It would be the best if mom would go with you. If that is just impossible then you do what it takes...just use birth control. A talk with mom can't hurt. Here is a website that might be of some use.:)

http://www.coolnurse.com/sex.htm

It will cover everything from 'are you ready', to what to expect at a doctors visit. Do some looking around. Hope you find some useful info. :)


When I'm giving my boyfriend a hand job or head, how do I tell if he likes it? I don't know if I'm doing it right or not.. (link)
If he isn't complaining he likes it. :)


hi there, me and my husband are sexually okay. the only problem is he is very concious abt me for not getting pregnant. he might have fear for resposabilties. as far i know him if i get pregnant he would be fine and would except it but the only problem is how can i make him ejaculate in me, cuz he is concious abt wearing condoms too. should i make him drunk so he should not remember he had ejaculated or not? (link)
I think if you want a baby you need to talk to your husband. It should be something you both agree on it it could cause problems on down the road. The last thing you want is for him to resent a little baby. It would be horrible for both you and the child. Talk and see if you can't get him to agree on having a baby. If he doesn't want one then find out the reasons why. :)


I missed last night's epsiode of Big Brother. Do you know any websites where I can view last night's epside? I don't want any websites that have recaps, I just want the actual episode so I can view it. Can I use Kazaa? Thanks! (link)
Me too!! I can tell you Jen won HOH and nominated
janelle and rachel. Things are getting good. For the low down check it out here.

http://www.cbs.com/primetime/bigbrother6/_show/_w07/sat01.shtml


I haven't even had my period for a year and it comes like every two weeks and lasts like 5 days... it sucks! Is this normal?

Thanks! (link)
Here is a link that might have some answers for you. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/menstrual.htm


condom packages always say that they are like 99% effective if used correctly and stuff, but in school we learned that since condoms are latex like balloons, they have tiny holes in them that sperm can swim through. wtf. how effictive is that? (link)
Here is some condom info for you...I have never heard that sperm can swim through them. If that was the case what would be the point?

http://www.coolnurse.com/sex_faqs19.htm


i had unprotected sex about 3 days ago. he didn't cum inside me, so i know i'm not pregnant. but could i still have gotten any stds, even though there haven't been any signs so far? (link)
Anytime you have unprotected sex, even if you used the piull out method, the chance of being preganant exists.

As fir stds, how about a chart that will tell you everything you need to know...check it out. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/std_chart.htm

Also for birth control info:

http://www.coolnurse.com/birthcontrol.htm


is it absolutely 100% neccessary for a woman to go to a gynocologist at some point in her life? and what do they do, exactly?
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You have to go to a GYN before you will be perscribed the birth control pill.

You have to go if you ever have children since they are the doctors that help with that.

I suppose of you never have children or get on the pill it isn't 100% necessary if you aren't concerned with cervical cancer and the like.

Check out this site. It has a lot of information on GYN visits it might help alleviate some of your fears. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/gyn_stuff.htm


My boyfriend that I am now going out with (for about a two months)has just told me that he has schizophrenia. I know that if you are a schizophrenic that you are 50% more likely to commit suiside and I know he has thought about it in the past before I knew this condition. He is a really nice guy and I like him a lot. Although right now I'm worried. One because he didn't tell me before and two because I don't know much about schizophrenia or his condition of it. I did a report on it last year in health class so I know WHAT it is but I don't know if even medicine helps much. All I know about his condition with it is that he hears voices even when he takes medication and I also understand it isn't his fault he has it and I should be there for him no matter what. I don't know what to do, I know I really can't do much but what do I do with out relationship? Please help me figure what to do with us and how I can support him if he needs me although I am ALWAYS there for him. (link)
This should give you lots of info. :)

http://www.schizophrenia.com/




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