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Okay so I got this close friend, and like he's a real pervert but he's really cute and nice. He's loving and caring. And I don't really know but I kind of like him. And I wanted to know, why is he so perverted with me? I'm also like that with him and every now and then he's like this. I'm not saying its pissing me off, but could he like me back?

I am not sure what you think perverted means so I will post the dictionaries interpretation of the word and then try to answer.

Perverted: Something or someone that has deviated from what is considered right, correct, natural, moral, ethical, or its intended function. Examples of perversion would be "perverted justice" or "sexually perverted acts". Dictionary went on to list things that the majority of society agree upon as being perverted: sadism, masochism, flashing,incest, pedophilia, bestiality, rape and even included some that society is coming to not feel as harshly towards, like prostitution and swinging and homosexuality, bi sexuality, cross dressing, transgender

Somehow, perverted doesn't go along in my mind with loving caring friend.
If you are simply refering to every mans 24/7 thoughts of sex and horniness then its natural. Maybe a bit exaggerated but it consumes a great amount of their waking day. What most men have learned to do is hold those feelings and urges in check and acting more appropriately for the situation. If you two are having sex together and he does this in the bedroom, that is fine. If he grabs and squeezes your boobs in public in front of his friends, thats not proper social behavior. If anything he does makes you uncomfortable..you need to let him know. If he is not considerate of your feelings, you'll need to decide whether its something to part ways about.

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I'm a 13 year old girl. If I go to singing lessons will I become better in singing? I'm not that good but I'm not terrible either. I really wanna become better at singing because both му best friends are good and always sing and then I feel left out cs I must just stand there with them while they have fun singing and I just wanna be good :) so yeah can I become better?

There was a basic of singing lesson/techniques that were taught in school chorals and when I was in high school choir. They checked to see what each persons most comfortable singing range was. I was alto. Could never be expected to sound like a soprano. I hope that is not the case and its a matter of comparing soprano and alto singing voices for you. If you are moved by music and its not just wanting to be like friends, then music lessons are a great way to go. What i mean to say is let the draw to take lessons be something that you have a personal interest in and not take lessons cus you want to be more like your friends.

If you did not like ice skating and could not skate as well as your friends, would you take ice skating lessons to become as good as them even if you knew you did not like ice skating? Be true to yourself first and do something because it interests you.

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Hi, I'm 23 years old guy. Since last couple of days I'm hanging out and drinking with one of my female friend. Actually we are very good friend of each other but we've showed each other our feelings through different conducts for example touching each other with the means of love, helping and sincerity. However last time when we were having wine , she literally showed me that she likes me a lot by her words and ended up with a kiss. M trying to call and text her but she is not answering and no response at all. This triggers a confusion in my mind that why she is doing that ..? I don't understand is she ignoring or showing that she's not desperate or what.? I love her truly but I don't know what should be the best way clear this trouble .? Please help me with ur experience.

Maybe it was the wine that helped her to get relaxed and beyond her un-comfortableness and do something she felt rash like kissing you which she might not have done if she was more sober. I think she may plain and simple embarrassed. Do you have a way to contact her in person? text and online and calls are not as personal as face to face where she can have the reassurances of the looks in your eyes, facial expressions and body expressions. But don't rely on her ability to read those too well. My kids are in this age bracket and have had trouble too picking up on body language and the look in a persons eyes..it comes with the technology age, but it is a very helpful ability to have. If you can't seem to catch her in person, send a card to her in the mail in which you pour out your feelings after saying you tried to catch her in person but it was important to you that she know how you felt about her. I have a daughter 24, who she and her boyfriend are dancing around the issue of coming out and saying i love you and want us to be a couple even tho they enjoy each other and are sexually compatible they still feel awkward saying anything and she is happy and unhappy at the same time because shes glad she met him but not secure that he may be around in the future cus he doesnt feel deeply enough. Its possible your girl is feeling some of the same. Oh and you could try sending flowers with a notecard asking to meet her or have her contact you.

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* What I also wanted to ask was, he always said 'I miss you!' When I wasn't there and like last time he said it was like 2 weeks ago so I'm wondering why he's not saying it anymore?:( It makes me sad how he changed himself :s
He turned 16 in April btw

I don't know what your original question was. If a close friend changes behavior in any way toward you, and it has you concerned, the better thing to do is find the courage to ask. Left to wonder, your mind will come up will all sorts of scenerios...often much worse than reality. I learned early in life to stop wondering and go after answers. It is better to be informed, even if you don't like the answer you get, than to go through life tormented by your mind. You can make some pretty bad decisions in life if you go just by what you are feeling based on imaginations in your mind rather than on reality.

Dont interrogate though, ask nicely as a close friend. An example: Maybe he lost a grandparent and didnt tell anyone including you so he is distracted as he deals with it.
I know its scary hon, but its the only way to find out whats up if anything at all.

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My boyfriend wants me to have sex with him but I'm only 12..... iI want to but then again I don't want to.... am I too young for this or should I do it?

And how old is he? While there are kids at your age beginning to have sex, others are choosing to only masturbate to take care of their urges. It is an awfully young age at which to begin having sex. It best to have sex not because you are curious what it might be like, but because you have a great sexual attraction to the young man in question. If you are determined to do this...do it only because you want to, not because he wants you to. do not have sex in hopes that it will help you to keep him as a boyfriend instead of him leaving you. At your age range, no matter what , relationships last an average of 5-6 months or so statistics say. So having sex to keep someone for a few months longer just doesn't make sense. If you decide to go ahead with it, you will need to go visit a planned parenthood for contraception. There is no age limit of how young. If this is your decision you may want to be well aware of side effects of hormonal contraceptives...read on line because if it becomes an issue, you'll need to go back and get on something else. Your body at 12 is not yet at its fully formed adult state. I cant tell what effects it may have so do please read up and get informed.

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Me and my girl friend have been on and off for about seven months now but were currently on a firm relationship but lots of guys usually flirt with her and i do have a bit of an anger problem so usually i just walk out of the room quick and calm myself down, but what pisses me off the most is that she acts like she likes it and i don't want to be mean because some of the people that flirt with her are my friends. I do push them away but not all the time because i don't want to seem overprotective. I trust her but every man has his limits ya know. I just don't know what to do anymore. Help?

Flirting is a natural thing some people do at times their whole life long. It does not mean they want the relationship with the other person, especially if the other is already taken.

One thing about women, is that they can be truly dedicated and hopelessly in love with their man. Even if their man gives them plenty of compliments as to how beautiful and hot she is, once in a relationship for a while, like a marriage, women start to wonder if its something hubby says out of habit to keep her happy or that she is only pretty to him, not to other males out there is in whole.
There is something that strokes the ego to have a man wink at me or flirt with me, even though I am happily married and dont want a relationship let alone sex with another man. Men need the same thing too...don't kid yourself. Once married a while and having had babies spit up on you and kids in the cart at the grocery store, for a woman to look at you and smile, wink or say something like, what a cute little boy... so handsome, just like daddy. And then she goes her way and you never see her again. That boosts a guys ego as much as it does a womans.

Flirting does not mean that your guy friends want to steal her away from you. If they wanted to steal her away and get her into bed, they would be trying a lot more than flirting with her right in front of you. There is a code of honor with guys. Doesnt matter which one of them finds a girl first. They may not know how to talk to a female and so just flirt with her. Or, they feel she is a safe person to practice flirting skills with so they can go out and find their own girl later on. If your male friends are the type who would go behind your back to get to her, they would not do anything like flirting with her in front of her guy to draw attention to their interest in her. I mean, think of it man, if it were you, would you be that stupid to flirt with a buddys girl right in front of him, if you wanted to convince her to run away with you?

They are red blooded males like yourself...this is normal behavior. If your buddies do not live by a high code of ethics and would actually attempt to steal her behind your back, then you are hanging out with the wrong guys. If the girl who is crazy about you is soo easily coaxed away by another guy, buddy or not, then she is not the right kind of gal for you if you want someone committed to a relationship. But you can not suspect anyone of that behavior and treat them accordingly. If constantly questioning your friends to their face of their actions you may lose their freindship. If you harrass your girl for enjoying the innocent flirts, smiling back, then you will drive her away. Or she becomes so afraid of you that she changes who she is to please you. That backfires man. You will lose respect at some point for anyone who changes who they are to please others because they are not being true to themselves.
It is good that you are aware of your anger problem and step out of the room to calm your self. Long term though, it will not get at whatever underlying issues or thoughts are deep inside you that bring on these reactions. are you comparing yourself to others and feel that you are lacking somehow? Do you have a need for reassurances? Perhaps you have never talked about and you do not know what it is about you that has caused her to choose you over other guys? Everyone has personal likes in others. Beauty IS in the eye of the beholder. What one girlfriend of mine thinks is a hot movie star for example just doesnt come across the same to me.

If your relationship is so new 7 months of not even being consistant, then yes you can easily being feeling a bit insecure because the two of you haven't even figured out what you like about each other over anyone else. Focus your attention on that.Get to a place of feeling secure in how special and unique you are to her. She needs to hear the same from you. Why her over all the females you could possibly with? If it's all based on looks, she will be insecure thinking that the next pretty face could pull you away. What it is you like about who she is inside? Once you feel more secure after having some talks about what you both are attracted to in each other and you know she truly has her heart set on you...
Try to work up to staying in the room with your friends while they flirt next time. test that security inside you. If you still feel insecure...maybe you truly did not believe her. Perhaps you have deeper issues that might be best addressed by seeing a counselor. If you find difficulty with constant anger and jealousy and never progressing to get beyond it on your own...you will want to see the counselor or forever have this insecurity come between you and a meaningful relationship. the biggest battle right now seems to be in your mind, your thoughts. If you work on that, you should be able to get past it. Good luck.

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It happens to me so often, it's annoying. There'll be this spark, a certain energy, a banter going on. Smirks, winks, the works. For like, months. And... nothing! They never take that extra step!

Is it me? Is it them? It's bothering the HECK out of me. There's only so much stomping your heart can take, ya know? Sometimes I'll genuinely come to like them a lot, and they never do anything. A LOT of guys will flirt with me, but don't do anything. Is this something guys do often? Thanks

Oh honey, the poor guys are truly attracted to your looks but they don't think they are in the same league as you so they don't bother going the extra step. They truly believe they don't have a chance.

The plain looking girls seem more approachable. You and I may not see ourselves as raving beauties but if the majority of men see us this way...there's something to it. It's a totally weird and totally ungrounded belief that the prettier girls only want to be matched up with the guys who look like male models. Never mind that often the pretty guys are so into themselves and wanting worship and adoration from females that they don't make good partners. Or some pretty guys choose the cheerleader type and then get angry when other guys turn to look at her.

It is initially going to be up to you to do the ice breaking in conversation, especially with the ones whom you like their looks as well as the energy coming off them. But learn to know quickly if the guy is truly available and doesn't have a girl friend or wife. There will be a couple guys who know they aren't on the market but enjoy flirting. It will take practice to discover who they are. But i would say the majority acting this way around you, really think you are out of their league.
So ask them what they do. What their hobbies are. See if you have any things in common with which to attempt to forge a closer friendship. It may take several attempts, not just the first time you show an interest back before he gets it that you truly are interested in him. Find something in conversation to compliment him on. It will help to boost his confidence, that he actually has a chance with you. Go for it girl and have fun

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So I like a guy in my class (who is 17 by the way). I don't really have friends at school, but I feel like we can talk about anything. We have so much in common. I feel that he likes me too- he's a genuinely sweet guy, he cares about what I think, he always makes eye contact, he walks me to lunch...but I feel like we're a little bit stuck. It's kind of obvious that we like each other, but both of us are really shy and we haven't admitted it yet. We're good friends but I'm a little worried that maybe that's all it would be...I wouldn't want to make things awkward between us. I really do like him...what should I do?

While in high school, I had friends my age all the way down to sophomores. The freshmen didn't seem the same amount of maturity level so I suppose thats what kept us seperate. So if you have a senior who finds he clicks with you, being able to relate, thats wonderful!!

There are early 20 somethings who write in for the same advice as you ask. It is a hard thing to get past opening up and making yourself vulnerable by asking questions to things they might not feel the same about. Since you have a good friendship already which is a step more than others who have a crush, trust your friendship relationship. It's really your subconscious mind that wants to protect you from hurt feelings. So you need to look at the bigger picture to decide if you will allow this to hold you back from finding out. He will be graduating and you will have 3 more years at school without him. Will he be going off to college or staying in town and starting a job to save up for schooling.

No matter what path he takes in life, will you be part of it in whatever way possible as his sweetheart. And then again, if you became sweethearts, would you be okay with it being a shorter relationship, until he moves to college if thats the case, (tho it could last thru it all) or be okay with not going for it and then wondering all your life what it might have felt like. You can't go back and re live it over. If you can see yourself at age 30 wondering what it might have been like if you had just been brave enough to just start the conversation about how you like him as more than just a friend, then you should say something. At 30, will it still be as painful if he didn't feel the same? No. Ask.

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i'm 22 and i usually date guys around my age. anyways, it always seems like even when i date the "nice" guys they still end up being just as crappy as the "jerks". but my real question is why is it that every time a guy wants to break up with a girl he treats her as crappy as possible and gives her little to no attention so that she feels obligated to break up with him and then he's free to do whatever he wants with whomever he chooses? it seems to be a re-occurring theme with EVERY guy i date. then when i do break up with them they are like okay that's fine like it's really no big deal while i'm over here crying. it's super frustrating.

Sounds like all the guys you have met so far are more into themselves than into investing their mind and heart into you. A guy can really be into you, like you alot, even love you as a person...but if he is not IN LOVE with you...it won't last.
I carried my end of a dead marriage making it hold together for 30 yrs before a couple we knew addressed a callous way he spoke to the other woman. In convo, they discover he treats me always the same way and knew they didnt want to associate with him anymore. (verbally abusive) When the guy asked hubby if He was in love with me. He did not answer for a while. finally he said he loved me as a human being and loved me as the mother of his children. "But are you IN LOVE with her" he was asked again. He said no, he never had been. I was everything to him but his true love where he heart wold break if he lost me in an accident. I was sex partner, cook, maid,. etc... but not his love.
We all have lessons to learn in life. Some are simply to learn to recognize something, like for you this pattern in guys. Think hard about what little signs they all gave off early on that hinted this was coming down the road. At 20 when I married, there were hints too but I wasnt really sure. 2 years later when I knew for sure there was a major problem, i chose to ignore them or not make a big deal about it, afraid of the failure, the divorce which my church would frown on. Granted that there are not many guys out there today who know how to treat a lady right in any kind of relationship let alone a partnership/love relationship. Guys are getting lazier and lazier. Ever wonder why so many older guys are still single? There are way more females in the world than men. So if having more than one wife was okay throughout the world each man could have at least 3 wives if not more...thats the ratio. And yet there are so few healthy long lasting love relationships out there at any age.
Sadly you can not train any person or change any person to make them become perfect for your relationship. The few but perfect guys are out there and still single because they keep running into females who are shallow, extremely possessive and jealous, low self image and very bitchy all the time.
Again, the trick is to be able to enter a room of strangers and observe them for a while to see how quickly you can pick up the same traits you did not like in your boyfriend. My current wonderful husband who is the love of my life and me his, has told me that if people would learn to back away from any new people they meet that they see these unacceptable traits in, they will keep backing up until they unintentiontally bump into the person who is right for them. Even if you were not necessarily looking hard for them.

You can try internet dating but you will still have to learn how to weed out the duds. Though it does speed up the process of weeding through..that part goes faster.That is how i met my current husband. I found it easy after my first marriage to notice all the things that were wrong. Look for a man to take himself out of personal integrity. Read some self help books on how to recognize these things. A guy may be able to hide his true self long enough to get a meeting with you and a couple of dates.
I had that happen. On a 2nd date, the man i was with began using bad slang words for other races and speaking belittlingly of an asian maid he used to have. A teen will still be learning what is right and wrong but once you're in your 20's and older, there is no such thing as letting slip one comment like that by accident. What comes to the surface is something that lies buried inside, is part of who the person is at core. Works the same for any girlfriends you make because it isnt a gender problem, it is present in both sexes.
I caught guys contradicting something they said about what their beliefs morals or values were and when i pointed it out, they became angry with me. Poof, I disappeared and they never heard from me again. You know what to avoid, the liers, even white lies...if someone must make excuses for their lies, that is something to avoid, inconsistency, focused on them selves, anger easily, get jealous, possessive, controlling, etc... you will figure it out. Women who are questioning why certain relationships dont work are ready to learn to spot what does work. So I know that someday you will find yourself happily with a man who truly loves you and nothing could make him ever desert you.

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Can I drink the water came out of pussycat

I assume you are talking about oral sex with a female, and not about a real cat.

Just as it is okay for a female to swallow a man's cum, it is okay for a male to swallow her fluids if he wishes.
You might want to go on the net and study up on female ejaculation which occurs most often with g-spot stimulation. Not all women will release fluids this way and that is normal so don't pressure a girl to do so...it is beyond her ability to make it happen or not even with stimulation.
Enjoy the research.

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I went to take a shower and left a croissant on the counter and when I was done I heard strange high pitched noises so I looked around the corner and at the top of the stairs was my boyfriends lab. She was crying and limping, and my much larger male dog was standing at the bottom of the stairs.
They obviously got in a fight over the food, and she didn't win...he took her to the vet this morning, but now my boyfriend will not talk to me or acknowledge me or my dog in any way.
My problem is, he slept downstairs last night, didn't wake me up to go to the vet, and has said maybe 10 words total to me today. I'm upset about her being hurt and I feel like I'm being blamed for this. Obviously I shouldn't have left the food out, but its not the first time we've had food out and they've been downstairs with it alone.
Should I try to talk to him or just leave home alone. I'm feeling sick to my stomach and very stressed about this whole thing

First off, both of you as dog owners need to be trained. Its not the dogs that are at fault in every case but the owners who have unknowingly done the subtle but wrong things that actually train their dogs to become the way they are. Not only should they not be taking food that is left out, even in reach, but they should not be aggresive with each other no matter what reason. If you have watched Cesar Millan, the dog whisperer, you will remember what I am talking about. Its not easy...even I do not know how to think like a dog so if I have made mistakes too. We all do.
So if you feel the boyfriend is blaming you, have a talk. Bring up the subject of both of you learning to train the dogs better. (Books by Cesar or better yet, both dogs in same dog obediance class with both of you attending to learn what you need to learn.) If he still insists that you were at fault, that is very immature of him and it is good you learned that now about him. This may be a trait about him that will never change if he thinks he is perfect and doesn't need to improve as a human ever during his lifetime. We all need to keep evolving and growing in our life. If we don't we become stuck and end result we aren't happy with ourselves or someone else is not happy with us. And life or a relationship begins to lose its joy for us.Maybe this is no big deal to you, if so
So observe the boyfriend closely for a while...what hints are there that he has other traits you might not be willing to live with for long term. The fact you feel stressed shows its a big deal to you so you can't just go on forever ignoring things about the boyfriend that might be staring you in the face...things you know you can't put up with long term. Don't let him talk you into only you learning how to train the dogs because he will continue to counteract your training by doing the opposite. In a partnership relationship, like a business or a marriage, both parties need to be willing to put in maximum effort to make it work. If you discover that he is not willing to hold up his end, that it will be time to end the relationship.
I know this is more than you were asking about but in real life, your situation will naturally lead into these possibilities. I hope everything can be worked out for you two and the dogs

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I m weak and have been being called that for 20 years I can't take it I'm ready to leave this place nobody likes me I give people my last an I'm always the one being hurt I fuck hat myself

You don't give us much to go on to base any advice on.
Are you male or female? Explain what you mean by What do you do for work, or if just school, what study to become "Weak", such as having a weak willpower, or weaker muscles, any condition or disease which might contribute to a problem of mental weakness or physical weakness?

You say nobody likes you. So based on that, I am going to guess that it is not really some kind of weakness you have that is the issue here but something else.
Most humans do not find themselves attracted to people who have low self esteem. That is what I suspect may be going on but I could be wrong. So before I go into trying to give you some pointers, why dont you write a new help question and provide more information this time. Thank you.

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hello. I'm from India. well, here's the thing. my family, friends and even my boyfriend thinks that my voice sucks on phone. to see if there's any truth in it, i recorded my voice on my cellphone and it sounded sooooo bad.
i'm not into singing and stuff. so i dont think i need classes or something. but do tell me if they'll help or not.
i'm becoming self-conscious because of this and these days, i've even stopped talking to my boyfriend and friends. i just text them.

please help!!!

Everyones voice is distorted some on a phone...some worse than others. That is just the way it is.. What I wonder is what your voice sounds like in person. Some people have a naselly voice like they are speaking through their nose. Some men and women have much higher pitched voices making females sound like children and men sound like females. Once a person has reached adult hood, the shape of their voice box has been set in stone...that is why people whose first language is not English have a hard time being understood by english speaking people and can try to americanize their speech sound but there will always be a hint of sound that is different. A speech therapist will work with a person to help pronounce more clearly and properly in their own language. that is a place to start if you are so concerned. Personally I wouldnt worry about it.

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My boyfriend talks for hours with a girl..she is in of his age and they are 2 years older than me..what should i do?

It doesnt sound normal to me. Does he also talk to you for hours when he is with you? If he doesn't perhaps there are other points he likes about you.
But that still means he desires good conversation. t

But that still means he desires good conversation. Or maybe since they are in the same grade and facing some of the same things or same studies, they have that in common. Do you know what they talk about? If its all just fun stuff, and not homework related, then the best way to handle it is to bring it up.

Do not accuse him of anything, if he's gonna hang himself with his own words, let him do it. Then again, I have assumed things that like your example sound like just what it is, him paying too much attention to another girl when he has said you are his girlfriend. I have made a statement only to find out I was wrong and there was a logical explanation.

If there is a logical explanation, its not nice that he hasn't told you what is going on so you dont have to sit there wondering. But he honestly due to his age and inexperience may not have had it occur to him.

I don't know how you know he talks to her for hours so unless you yourself have witnessed this yourself you cannot say so. If a friend has said so or his phone was busy for hrs it is not proof that would hold up in court so to speak. YOu can mention you know he has spent some time on a consistant basis with her if this is happening daily or every other day. Ask him if they are working on a class project together. Act cool and don't interrogate but say you're not jealous, just curious as to what they talk about. Hopefully if you can pull this off without sounding jealous or sending off anxious vibes, he may open up to you and tell you whats going on.
Does he have many male friends or does he seem to talk mostly with women.?
My husband is the type who has 1 close male friend from childhood but other than that usually made friends with only females throughout his life. Some were strictly friends, some became lovers before he married his ex. Now he's with me.I am secure with who I am to him. He is not sexually attracted to other females but still enjoys conversation with females over males.
If this is who your guy is and you can not accept him for it, he will resent you wanting him to be different and rightly so. This is why I caution you to so slowly and check it out. But you have to ask to know, right. If he has nothing to hide and it is all innocent conversation with females and he is only romantically attracted to you, then you don't want to mess it up. then again, usually at this age, a guy might not have figured this out yet about himself and be confused about it himself.
Then again, if he is trying to straddle the fence and keep two girls on the hook at the same time it will soon become obvious. Are you friends with the girl at all? If you are, it would be easy to say I see John likes chatting with you. When we're together we talk about -------, what do you guys talk about? If you can keep calm you can find out if she knows about you and him or not. She is not your enemy or competition if she didnt go after him first not knowing about you. She would be in the same boat as you. If (Lets say John) has not told her he was dating you when he went after her, it would be his fault concealing that info, not hers. If she came after him and he chose not to tell her about you, again it is his fault for not saying something, not hers.
Once you learn what is really going on, then you can make an informed decision.
Or perhaps there is nothing wrong and no decision needs to be made

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Hello , i slept with 5 sisters and they were virgin they lost their virginity by me so people called me porn star do i ??? My penis is 18.4 and i still 17 !!!

Sounds to me like you want a forum where you could brag.If you need advice please rephrase

If I were a guy, I wouldn't be happy at all with that length because the statistics for womens vaginal sizes are that at a relaxed state she is 3 1/2 t 4 inch long, when aroused and the uterus pulls up, now she is at 5 to 6 inches, when pressed even further by the penis most women can take up to 8 or 9 inches. That is the majority of women. Only a smaller percent can take less and some women after multiple child births are able to take even more. like 12 inches. You are still way beyond being able to fit 99.9 % of women.
Nothing to brag about.

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I had sex a few days ago, and now I have a slight leakage, but my period isn't for another week. Is it possible to have a belated bleeding after hymen breakage?

If he was rough with you and you were fairly dry/not lubricated enough and he rammed himself in too fast, there could have been some tearing of the skin. Hymens dont need to be popped or broken. That is an old wives tale. Hymens stretch slowly and will do so over time so if you were using tampons or using toys on yourself, it could already have been stretched out. No matter what a persons age, if there isn't enough lubrication for ease of gliding, forcing it when too dry will rip or make you sore and also do the same to the guy. Thats why lubricants are so popular...because they are very much needed. Just because a women gets wet, or gushes or squirts doesnt mean she wont need a lubricant. She own liquids are very watery and can actually wash any thicker lube away so it need re applying.
The only other way there could be some spotting is if he hammered the cervix pretty hard...due to maybe being slighter longer than you had room for and some of the tearing and bruising took place there.

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Hello Good day,

I would like to ask something about taking oral contraceptives. I had been using bcp for 3 years now just this month of May I switched to a different brand from trust pills to althea. Because of switching to a different pill brand I took 2 pills everyday cause I'm afraid that I might get pregnant. My boyfriend and I never use condom ever since now I'm just a little worried because usually I have my period on the fourth and fifth day off the pill. It's my sixth day off the pill and still I don't get my period though I'm experiencing some symptoms that it's going to come but still I'm worried. Can taking two pills everyday affect the cycle of your menstruation? Please I need some advice on this. Thank You!

Your body is going to be messed up and confused for quite a while. As has been said, never make a change in dosage of medication without consulting a Dr. I personally am a high advocate of non hormonal birth control. If relying on just a condom, there's a greater chance of becoming pregnant while waiting for your body to readjust because it may be back to normal before you have a cycle indicating that is so.
An instant easy BC method is the copper IUD. Look it up on line. It is not the Mirena..that version has hormones. Copper has a natural ability to prevent pregnancy without pumping your system full of hormones that make your body think it is pregnant so you don't release an egg. With the copper IUD method you are not only instantly covered for birth control, but you get to have your regular cycles which is much healthier for your body. Next to having tubes ties it has the highest rate of success in BC and lastly, once removed you can instantly try for getting pregnant, no wait for hormones to leave the system. Check with your Dr. or with Planned Parenthood.

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I have a friend I'll call Bob. His wife told my wife that he hit her in the stomach when she told him she was pregnant with their second child. They've been married about four years. he is 32 and she is 25. On Facebook, I saw him post "married women looking for men" as his status, but I think he put it in the wrong box on his phone, intending it to be in the search box. I saw it and responded to it with "?" and he deleted it quickly. Later, he asked if I thought it was funny and he was showing his friend from work all the stuff on Facebook. I didn't believe him. Since then, I've distanced myself from him and he hasn't called me in a month or so. I can't tell anyone why I'm treating him like this because if he found out, he would know it was his wife who told on him and told my wife. I find this behavior despicable and in conflict with my morals. I really don't want to be friends with him anymore. So, I have to keep quiet. He has already commented to my son that I was "acting weird" when he saw my son at the store where he works. So do ya'll think I should tell our friends that we have in common why I'm giving Bob the "cold shoulder" if someone asks about it or just be quiet?

Poor gal. She's only 25, married at 21. I married at 20. As a person, we know so little at that time and that it doesnt occur to us what really is proper treatment of another human being and what is not acceptable. I was only emotionally abused all my marriage. I left after 30 yrs.
This young woman may not live to see another 30 yrs.
I have a girlfriend who had a child from a previous abusive marriage, her 2nd marriage ended up the same. When she was like 5 months along her husband beat her stomach up so bad she aborted right there on the kitchen floor in a pool of blood. When she went to agencies asking for help, she was told to pack her son and some belongings in a car and leave the state and go far away and let no one know where she went so he could not come looking for her. Abusive men will consider a woman his property to do with as he wishes and will stalk them and hunt them down to kill for leaving. Best thing you can do is first suggest she go to an agency for help. Women who are beat once or twice will continue to be beat because the man has an issue. Agencies may have more they can do today. If not, think of someone you know out of state who might be willing to take her in until she can find work and get on her feet. But if she wants help she needs to leave the area without a trace and quickly. THe fact that he is already suspicious of how you are acting with him is enough to get him thinking she said something, and its not the facebook thing. he's not stupid, just abusive with an anger issue. Thats enough to make him attack her again. I know i would feel guilty if i had not at least tried to talk to the woman and see if i could convince her to leave him for her sake. Just say as little as possible to anyone who asks, that he SAID something you did not like and you no longer want anything to do with him. Do not use the word DID as in he DID something you did not like because he knows what his problem is and will instantly make the connection that you found out he is a wife beater.

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How to commite suicide

People have written in before asking how to commit suicide. No one is going to ever give advice on that here.
If you want help to get better, repost with some question more appropriate so we can work with to give some advice.

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Umm My 15 year old son asked me if he could give his Virginity to me And I don't know what to say to him ......

The frontal part of our brains that help us to make good solid decisions doesn't finish developing until a person hits their mid twenties. Any time before that, a young person will make decisions that could forever change their world, sometimes in a bad way. As a parent, when our child is using us as a sounding board for any decision, as the parent you will want to point out things he may not have given thought to.Take yourself out of the equation when questioning him.
Ask him Why does he feel the need to give away his virginity at age 15? Why can't it wait until he is of legal age?
Is he determined to experience the sex act or as with a sex therapist does he just want to ask very personal things to learn intellectually (not from experience) what making love to a woman is like...perhaps he has a girl at school he likes enough that he would like to have sex with but has heard she has had sex before so he wants to be experienced or at least seem experienced when he asks her.
Or ask him if he thinks he is interested only in older women. If so, you can feel flattered but theres that part about him not being of legal age. Ask him to wait and once old enough he can go find older women for sex partner if thats what interests him.
Although in rare cases there are families where the parents and children have sex together, that does not mean it is okay. It can and will change the relationship you as the parent have with your son. Some young men may grow too fond of parent and not be able to ever connect with someone of their own age to marry and have kids. You and he won't know this ahead of time.
All these things need to be explained to him instead of a horrified, "No way..Yuck!" response.

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