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Why do men flirt with me, but never ask me out?
It happens to me so often, it's annoying. There'll be this spark, a certain energy, a banter going on. Smirks, winks, the works. For like, months. And... nothing! They never take that extra step!
Is it me? Is it them? It's bothering the HECK out of me. There's only so much stomping your heart can take, ya know? Sometimes I'll genuinely come to like them a lot, and they never do anything. A LOT of guys will flirt with me, but don't do anything. Is this something guys do often? Thanks<3
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Maybe if instead of just flirting, you talk about serious matters, like the future...but don't scare them off by talking about marriage ;)
A lot of men just want a bit of fun, so maybe you're looking in the wrong places...Try and find a man who looks a little more serious...or just take the extra step to ask them out yourself! good luck! (Also, you may find this comment is stupid..Don't hate! I'm only 13..) :D
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Oh honey, the poor guys are truly attracted to your looks but they don't think they are in the same league as you so they don't bother going the extra step. They truly believe they don't have a chance.
The plain looking girls seem more approachable. You and I may not see ourselves as raving beauties but if the majority of men see us this way...there's something to it. It's a totally weird and totally ungrounded belief that the prettier girls only want to be matched up with the guys who look like male models. Never mind that often the pretty guys are so into themselves and wanting worship and adoration from females that they don't make good partners. Or some pretty guys choose the cheerleader type and then get angry when other guys turn to look at her.
It is initially going to be up to you to do the ice breaking in conversation, especially with the ones whom you like their looks as well as the energy coming off them. But learn to know quickly if the guy is truly available and doesn't have a girl friend or wife. There will be a couple guys who know they aren't on the market but enjoy flirting. It will take practice to discover who they are. But i would say the majority acting this way around you, really think you are out of their league.
So ask them what they do. What their hobbies are. See if you have any things in common with which to attempt to forge a closer friendship. It may take several attempts, not just the first time you show an interest back before he gets it that you truly are interested in him. Find something in conversation to compliment him on. It will help to boost his confidence, that he actually has a chance with you. Go for it girl and have fun
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