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Stuck in the friend zone...
14/f
So I like a guy in my class (who is 17 by the way). I don't really have friends at school, but I feel like we can talk about anything. We have so much in common. I feel that he likes me too- he's a genuinely sweet guy, he cares about what I think, he always makes eye contact, he walks me to lunch...but I feel like we're a little bit stuck. It's kind of obvious that we like each other, but both of us are really shy and we haven't admitted it yet. We're good friends but I'm a little worried that maybe that's all it would be...I wouldn't want to make things awkward between us. I really do like him...what should I do?
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ASK HIM OUT
Imma guy, I won't ask you out, because that's pervish, and horn-dogish. it doesn't look good on us.
there are no guards in the friend zone, the only person keeping you there is yourself.
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So you have a good feeling that he feels the same way as you do.
So it really depends on what you're willing to risk. Since there is a good possible chance that he likes you too, maybe if you tell him how you feel, he'll tell you he feels the same way and ask you out.
Maybe you will tell him how you feel, he'll feel the same way but doesn't want to date.
Maybe he just sees you as a friend and that could result in awkwardness.
If I was in your situation, I'd invite him to hang out and do something. Maybe bowling, skating, movies, anything really. If he's up for that, just the two of you, he is interested in you. And maybe see what happens from there.
If you feel like you can put yourself out there and admit that you like him, then do it. If you guys are good enough friends, you'll remain that way even if he doesn't feel the same. It might be a little weird at first but it'll most likely go back to close to being normal eventually.
Anyways, see what is best for you and good luck!
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While in high school, I had friends my age all the way down to sophomores. The freshmen didn't seem the same amount of maturity level so I suppose thats what kept us seperate. So if you have a senior who finds he clicks with you, being able to relate, thats wonderful!!
There are early 20 somethings who write in for the same advice as you ask. It is a hard thing to get past opening up and making yourself vulnerable by asking questions to things they might not feel the same about. Since you have a good friendship already which is a step more than others who have a crush, trust your friendship relationship. It's really your subconscious mind that wants to protect you from hurt feelings. So you need to look at the bigger picture to decide if you will allow this to hold you back from finding out. He will be graduating and you will have 3 more years at school without him. Will he be going off to college or staying in town and starting a job to save up for schooling.
No matter what path he takes in life, will you be part of it in whatever way possible as his sweetheart. And then again, if you became sweethearts, would you be okay with it being a shorter relationship, until he moves to college if thats the case, (tho it could last thru it all) or be okay with not going for it and then wondering all your life what it might have felt like. You can't go back and re live it over. If you can see yourself at age 30 wondering what it might have been like if you had just been brave enough to just start the conversation about how you like him as more than just a friend, then you should say something. At 30, will it still be as painful if he didn't feel the same? No. Ask.
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