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Just to tell you a little about my body: 5'9" or 5'10", 132 lbs, D or DD breasts.
When i was about 11 or 12 I was told I had scolosis and kyphosis caused by my vertabrae bring wedge shaped. I went to physical therapy for it, but it didnt really help. It causes me daily backpain and my upper back to slouch, even when i try to stand up straight. The pain and the appearance of it is starting to drive me insane. I think its called Sheuermanns disease from the research I did, and the only good cure was surgury. I do NOT want to do that because of time and money issues. Can anyone link websites for excersizes or other ways to help me? :( thanks.
I tried to do some research to find exercises you could do. What I found was more information on Scheuermann's disease then I thought I would. The one thing in common in everything I read was; that surgery was only indicate in those rare cases where pain was debilitating to the patient.
Suffering from back pain myself due to a automobile accident I am going to make a suggestion to you. In trying to find relief for my pain I saw a number of Orthopedic Back Specialists without success. Living where I do there are four schools of medicine attached to teaching hospitals, two trauma centers and several other highly rated hospitals. I decided to look to one of these hospitals for help.
The back surgeons all told me my problem was nerve damage. I choose a teaching hospital, also a trauma center, closest to my home and called the patient referral line. I asked for a Neurologist based on the diagnosis I had. I told the referral coordinator why I was calling and they said I need to see a Neurosurgeon. I questioned why a brain surgeon would be the correct doctor for a back problem. She explained the Neurosurgeons are also trained in spinal surgery especially for my type of problem and I need to be seen by one of them. Long story short. It was a neurosurgeon who found my problem. Surgery was not a remedy but they have been coordinating my treatment with their Pain Management Treatment Center.
If you are not seeing a Neurosurgeon I would suggest you seek one out and get an opinion from one of them. The best Neurosurgeons generally work in Trauma Centers. If you have a Level One Trauma Center within reasonable travel distance I would suggest you call their patient referral line for an appointment.
You have nothing to loose by getting one more opinion. A referral to a Pain Management Clinic may do more for you than any other type of treatment and should be covered by insurance if you have insurance.
I know you were looking for exercises; I hope my answer is useful to you.
i suffered with eating disorders when i was about 17, a senior in high school. i'm 20 now and i have been recovered since i was about 18. i am happy with my weight right now. i'm at a VERY healthy weight, exercise regularly, and eat healthy. I went through anorexia, bullemia, and then bingeing when I started to recover. I would say bingeing was the scariest because it was when i realized i had a problem.
i have my period this week. I have had SO much blood! It was insane. I hadn't had that much for years. I needed to go to school today to buy my books and I decided to eat a salad at the student union. As I was eating, I started to feel like I was going to throw up. I felt sick and dizzy so I didn't eat. For dinner, my mom made some pasta. I didn't eat most of it because I felt to sick, still. I guess it was because of the period.
So, now, I felt hungry. When I stood up, my vision went black and I fell to the floor. I went to mcdonalds because there was nothing here and nothing else was open. I had 5 chicken nuggets and less than half the fries and a caramel sundae. I am scared that this is a binge. I know once in a while, I have to treat myself. But, I'm just scared because of what I went through. Just needed some comfort and thought I might find it here
Thanks
I'm not a doctor nor am I an expert on eating disorders. what I do know is that from what you wrote I tend to agree with you that this is a result of your period.
I know when my wife has her period and she gets painfully bloated she will not feel like eating and at times she will get some crazy cravings, almost like when she was pregnant.
What scares me is the black out; this is not normal and I do not believe is associated with your period or your eating disorder. Unless you have been cheating and not eating for more than you have written here.
First thing you need to do is contact your doctor about the black out. Then see if there is a support group for people with eating disorder in your area. IF you received professional treatment for your eating disorder the treatment center or hospital that treated you should be able to help you find one. Also your doctor may know of some.
From what you have written her my best uneducated guess is you did nothing wrong and we all treat ourselves to fun food every once in a while. Like I said my wife gets crazy cravings during particularly bad periods.
I would still like you to check with your doctor concerning the black out just to be on the safe side. As the saying goes and once of prevention is worth a pound of cure.
i have dated my boyfriend for 4 years nown am 22f still a virgin, we both decide not to have sex till we are married. any time we re together the temptation keeps coming seriously i always fell like doing him too but we just want to keep to our promise and also am so afried of losing my virginity pls what should i do
You bring up two good points here. Keeping your promise to yourselves & the pain of loosing your virginity.
Keeping your promise is and can be both a moral and religious issue depending on how the promise was made. The issue of the pain of loosing your virginity is one that weighs somewhat on the first point.
Back in the day of our great, great and even greater grandparents; virginity was expected. The bride and groom spent their wedding night in the home of one of their parents, usually the brides, and the following morning the blood stained sheet was hung from the window. This was an honor bestowed on the bride and her family. It was expected the bride would be in some pain and her mother was there to help her.
Today of course that is not done, the bride and groom go off on their own. The pain a women feels in loosing her virginity varies from women to women. A more mature women may suffer less pain than say a girl of 16. That is not a guarantee.
This is not a question any of us can answer for you. You and your future husband need to answer this for yourselves. The gift of your virginity may be just as meaningful if given before the wedding then if you wait and possibly have your honeymoon vacation ruined because of a painful loss of your virginity. This is the question that only the two of you can answer.
my boyfriend forced me i had no way out. please believe me.please don't get mad but ihad no chose my bf really forced me.i tried to leave but he kept grabbing me. please believe me.
I really don't believe you. But on the outside chance you are telling the truth then it is rape and you need to call the police. No excuses, no reasons not to. Don't shower go home call the police and then go to the hospital.
Today, I had this guy that I like comeover, and I guess I have been having second thoughts already. He fingered me, and ate me out and it's been 5 hours plus, and I am still sore and swollen, and it's never been like that before. Now, I am just sitting here, and I want to cry, I am in a pissy mood, and went off on him. I don't know what to do. Did I make a mistake doing this with him?
If I knew how old you are I would be able to better answer your question.
Neither I or anyone else can tell you whether you made a mistake only you know if you did or not. The fact that you are questioning what happened says you feel as though you made a mistake.
I've never been told by a girl friend or my wife that they have been sore after oral sex. Either you boyfriend was too rough, you went at it to long or he hurt you in some other way. If the soreness and swelling has not passed in a reasonable amount of time, say the morning following your oral sex session, then I would suggest you wither talk to your mother or see a doctor.
If you choose to see a doctor what you discuss with your doctor by law remains confidential. The doctor cannot tell anyone including your parents.
My Question: What do I do?
My fiance and I were at a party, a young girl is claiming he was making out with her and ended up having sex at the party. I know this is not true because we were together the whole night.
My fiance is telling me to let it go, she is young and wanting attention. I would let it go if she were not telling our family and friends...and some of them believe her. My family dont understand why im still with him and think im desperate. This is one of many of her accusations...she is 17. My fiance is 23.
I know what you would like to do with her but you can't as that would get you in trouble.
What you need to do either in person or by snail mail, is let her know that you and your fiance know she is spreading false rumors about the two of you. That the only thing keeping her out of court for defamation of character is her age.
Next since you can't sue her, see if a district court judge will give you a protection order making her stay away from you and your fiance. In this way she cannot attend any social events that you and your fiance attend. You can also just threaten to do so if she doesn't confess to her lies and make things right for the two of you.
my friend went into 2 peoples cars and stole their GPS's then he sold them to cash converters . We went up there today to sell some stuff and they said that one of the gps's had come up as stolen and that the cops were working on the case . is he going to get arrested ? can he just say someone gave him the stolen gps's or do you think they fingerprinted the car and all that stuff ? what happens if they do catch him, hes 18? thanks !
Your friend committed a crime. As the saying goes if you can't do the time don't do the crime. As to whether or not he goes to jail is going to be up to the judge after the police catch him, if the catch him.
Depending on the value of the units he stole he could be looking at Grand Theft which is a felony. Judges take felony charges very seriously even for first offenders. Your boyfriend should be prepared to do some type of prison or jail time. A mitigating factor will be how hard the police have to work to find him. In other words if he turns himself in and tells the truth; the judge will be more inclined to go easier on him than if he lies to the police and the police have to track and chase him down.
What is the regular size of a full grown penis
According to the latest Ansel Research Survey; the average male penis when erect is between 5.1 & 5.9 inches long.
Average Vagina Size is:
Relaxed
Length 3 1/2 to 4 inches
Diameter 1 Inch
Aroused
Length ("tented) 5 to 6 inches
Diameter 1 1/2 to 2 inches
As you can see by the size chart of the average female vagina. Any penis over 6 inches in length and 2 inches in girth is larger than the average vagina can easily accommodate. A larger penis will cause a woman with an average sized vagina pain during intercourse, especially if the male is not a thoughtful and considerate lover.
Based on this information I would say a fully mature male penis is one that an average female vagina can accommodate comfortably.
I hope this answers your question.
Hey everyone, I'm doing a Psych. uni assignment and I was just wondering if I could get your opinions/advice on my hypothesis, if its correct etc.
A researcher was interested in the relationship between number of employees supervised and managers’ stress levels. He asked five managers to fill out a stress questionnaire and also took note of how many employees were under their supervision.
IV - Number of employees under supervision.
DV - Stress levels.
Hypothesis - The number of employees under supervision positively affects stress levels.
Could you also, please tell me if its alright to use the word 'positively' in my hypothesis? Or should I just simply say, The more employees under supervision, the higher the stress levels.
Thank you!
In my opinion when you hypothesize you cannot have a positive as a positive is a statement of fact. You would be better of say something like; "my research indicates."
its me the 12 year old with the 16 year old bf.i just finnished having sex with my bf about 30 mins ago.i'm crying right now i'm in so much pain. right now my bf is sleeping.he put his p**** in my v***** i am in so much pain. i'm really really really sorry. what do i do? what if i get pregnant?was it normal for me to bleed while he put his p**** in my v*****?
I dont't know what to believe with you anymore. I at first thought you were a mature responsible 12 yerar old girl. Your Last few messages make me think you are either playing some type of game with me or you are a 12 yearold child in dire need of a spanking.
I'm not here to play games with you. If you are telling the truth you need to talk with your mother as you may have done yourself some serious harm. Girls your age may not be physically ready for sex. Some bleeding & some pain is normal, a lot of either is not. Now you need to be checked for STD'S & HIV. Do you even know what these are? Did you use any protection that can be used against some STD' & HIV or Pregnancy?
Please don't write me any more.
i'm sorry i can't take it any more adviceman49. to much pressure. i'm gonna have sex even if i'm 12 and he's 16. i don't care if i get pregnant thats what my boyfriend wants anyway.the pressure is to much.i don't want to breakup with my boyfrien becuase he wants sex.i know adviceman49 you dealed with these type of problems at your job cuz ur a firefighter who works with police i just can't.everyone is having sex except me.if i don't have sex i mihgt kill myself.
If you want to ruin your life then stop writing to me. Otherwise get away from your boyfriend now. I have nothing else I can tell you.
ok i'll tell my dad that my bf is trying to make me have sex with him.
Thanks I feel better knowing your dad will handle this.
its me again the 12 year old with 16 year old bf. I don't want my dad totatally getting mad at my bf. Do you suggest me talking to my bf about him always asking for sex.If he DOESN'T say he'll stop then i'll tell my dad to talk to him. I PROMISE.
This is really something that your parents should behandeling. If I'm right and he doesn't get what he wants from you, which is sex, he will find another 12 year old he can convince to have sex with him.
What if this girl is someone you now and she gets pregnant, or worse he physically hurts her. How will you feel then. Please don't tell me if won't happen, it can and it will if something isn't down to stop him. There is something very wrong here.
Without talking to this boy and finding why he is dating someone so much younger than himself every warning flag I have is waving. If he was 24 and you 20 there would be no problem. But this is not the case here. There is something wrong. He should not be pushing a 12 year old to have sex with him.
Please, please listen to me and tell your dad. It is not the time to worry about the boyfriend. It is time to worry about you and other 12 year old girls.
I'm an adult firefighter/first responder.
All to often we and the police end up dealing with the aftermath of these situations. Please tell your dad.
adviceman my parents do know that i date a16 year old guy. my mom doesn't mind but my dad is a little uneasy.but is okay with him. they don't know that my bf wants sex. do i tell them.yes or no.
Yes you do tell them, especially your dad. For three reasons.
First: You are as you realize way to young to be having sex. This boy is pressuring you to have sex. This is wrong for several reasons that I mentioned in my answer to you. You need your parents, especially your father to intervene before something happens you don't want to happen or you get hurt.
Second: As I also said; this boy should be dating someone closer to his own age. I could be over reacting but I have been in the position in my professional life where I rather put safety first. This boy dating someone 4 years his junior is a red flag for me. Most teenage boys, and when I was a teenage boy his age, are very well knowledgeable in the statutory rape laws. He for whatever reasons is ignoring them.
I see a pedophile in the making here. Like I said I could be wrong. Your father may agree with me and that is why he is uneasy with you seeing this boy. Tell your dad this boy is trying to convince you to have sex with him. Let dad handle it from there.
Third: This is a time for learning. At your age you need to be going out with boys closer to your own age so you can learn what dating is all about and learn how to handle a boys advances.
I'm sure your thrilled that a 16 year old boy is interested in you. My thoughts are his interest is in taking advantage of you sexually because he feels he can easily overpower your will power or physically if he so desires. He is not able to do so with a girl his own age.
I believe you are in danger if you continue to see this boy. I may not always be right but unfortunately I am rarely wrong in situations like this. I would rather tell you like I see it than possibly have to deal with the carnage later. You just have to watch the evening news to get what I mean.
Tell this boy you can't see him any more. If he continues to call you and to stalk you have your father call the police. Yes it can be that serious.
My son's father and I recently had a bad break up. He is very emotionally abusive. Not only does he say things about me but my family also. He gets so angry that he has told me the worst things anybody can say to you.Im scared that he is going to come back and think everything is okay, this is what he usually does. I don't want him back anymore because I know that he will never change. I also feel bad for my son he is only 4 months old and he is my pride and joy. I just don't want him to think that I couldn't keep his dad around because he was rude to my family. I know he will be coming for his stuff in a couple of days. I just don't know how to handle the situation if he comes back and wants to work things out?
The first thing you need to do is go to the district court and get an order of protection for you and your son against your son's father. Once you have done that you need to find a good family law lawyer.
Your son's father has certain rights and responsibilities. A good Family Law Lawyer will see to it that all of your rights and the child's father's responsibilities are protected by the court system. This would include child support, medical insurance, maintaining life insurance on himself, and a visitation schedule that you approve of. Should the child's father object to any of this he would have to hire his own lawyer.
It is important that you take all steps necessary to protect you and your child. Never accept the father's word that he will protect you. Get it in writing by your own lawyer and have it certified by the courts.
I'm 17 year old female from london, england. I had sex with this guy once and then missed my period so I took a pregnancy test and it was a faint positive so I took another one a few days later and I got another positive. I told the guy and he said get rid of it he can't deal with a child and he won't come to any appointments or help me. But then a few weeks later I got two light periods that lasted 4-5 days in the space of 4 weeks. Iv recently gone to the doctors and she was very unhelpful, she's said about me having a possible miscarriage so she's sending me for a scan but I haven't received an appointment yet and this was a week ago!
iv been threw a lot the last couple of years, diagnosed with bipolar, self harm, family problems and since iv found out I was pregnant iv been happier and I think this baby is going to get me threw life. I'm really scared because I want this baby an will be destroyed if iv had a miscarriage.
How likely is it that my baby is okay? And why is my doctor not giving me answers and treating this as serious?
I too am not a doctor so I too cannot make a diagnoses. What I do know is that a miscarriage can be serious and need of further treatment to insure all of the fetus and the placenta have been ejected. This is very important to your well being.
I am also aware of the UK's National Health system and how hard it can be to see a specialist. You should be seeing a OB/GYN. In the states most OB/GYNs have ultrasound equipment in their offices to do scans during a routine visit. If you didn't see an OB/GYN I can understand you being sent for a scan.
Since I do not know how the National Health System works I can only suggest you be proactive and call to make the appointment yourself. You may also want to, if it is possible to do so, make an appointment with an obgyn. Tell them you think you miscarried and what treatment you have received thus far. This may possibly allow you to get an appointment without a referral. Last but not least you can always try one of the emergency clinics or hospital emergency rooms.
After a year of not so promiscuous promiscuity I was told that I had. and treated for, Chlamydia in April. I'm all clear and dandy now, but I've been panicking because I have to get my yearly blood test soon and I'm scared I might have HIV. I have been with the same partner for 8 months and he was a virgin before me and he assures me that if I have HIV - which means he also has it - we will be there for each other. This doesn't help. I panic at the thought of even getting tested because I'm scared to find out the results. What should I do?
I think it is normal to fear the worst when we feel that the worst may befall us. The problem is that the fear of the unknown is worse than actually finding out. Until you know for sure the very worse the odds can be of the worse news befalling you are 50/50. Those are not bad odds. Not knowing has a paralyzing effect on every thing we do.
A bad example of this is some surgery I needed on my knee. I had put this off as long as I could. Why I'm not really all that sure, I've had knee surgery before. If I were to give words to my fear I think it would be that I would wake up to find that the doctor was unable to repair the injury and had to replace the knee joint. Long story short I had the surgery, I woke up to find the doctor repaired the knee and the following morning I was able to put partial weight on it. Two days later I was walking without crutches. Much faster then the previous two surgeries.
All that my fears and delays did was cause me mental anguish and physical pain. Your worries are causing you mental anguish. A simple blood test and 24 more hours of mental anguish and you will have your answers. The chances are just as good that you will not be HIV positive. In the future make sure to take the proper precautions to stay that way.
does best buy give a discount when buying a laptop with a student id? if so how much?
Currently Best Buy in my area is advertising a $100. discount on laptops to college students. This is the only student discount I am aware of.
my bf want s sex i'm12 year old girl and he's 16 i'm not ready he would touch me and kiss my kneck. I would say stop but would say babe relax. i say stop he says ok but he always bugs me about sex and once he tried to take off my shirt. i love him but not sexually. what should i do?
You are too young to even be seeing this boy. Your age difference places this boy in grave legal danger in most states as it constitutes statutory rape. That means that sex does not have to happen just being with you alone is rape and he should, at his age know better.
Do your parents know the difference in your ages. If I was your father, whether you liked it or not, I would be having a very deep heart to heart conversation with this young man. A conversation of the type that would cause him to loose all control over his bowels and urinary system.
For the boys own safety and your own good tell this boy you can not date him any longer at least until you are above the age of consent in your state. I would also suggest you tell your parents about him. If he constantly looks to date girls your age he could be a pedophile in the making. There is absolutely no reason a 16 year old boy should be dating a 12 year old girl.
I recently had a one night stand with an acquaintance. We have a lot of mutual friends and I have met him before but I wouldn't say we are friends. During all this the condom broke and I took plan B, unfortunately I was on some medication that the Dr. thinks might have interfered with it working. And as it turns out I'm pregnant. I really don't know what I am going to do about the baby. I am not sure I am ready in life to have a child etc. But my biggest dilemma right now is whether or not to tell the guy. He is moving in less than 2 weeks and I am just not sure it is worth telling him. Advice?
I think you first have to decide if you are going to have this child; meaning would you be open to aborting the pregnancy. If the answer is no then you must tell him.
Even if you do not plan to keep the child he may want to take the child after you deliver. That would be his right as the father. Should you plan to go through with the pregnancy and put the child up for adoption, knowing who the father is, he too would have to sign his parental rights away. That of course is if you live here in the states. Any other place the laws may be different.
If you decide to keep this child and raise it, then he also must be told for he has a host of legal responsibilities to you and the child. He does not have to marry you but he does have to support the child with medical insurance, life insurance on himself, monetarily for the child's needs such as food and clothing, his share, and educational needs. All of this can be explained to you and by a good family law lawyer who can see to it that the courts order him to so.
If you decide to keep the baby then you should seek the counsel of a good family law lawyer before informing the father so that the legal paperwork is in place. You may also want to allow the lawyer to make the notification.
Never trust an unmarried father who tells you not to worry that he will take care of you and the baby. Get the court orders you need to make sure that the father stands up to his responsibilities.