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Young girl making serious accusations=causing grief with family
My Question: What do I do?
My fiance and I were at a party, a young girl is claiming he was making out with her and ended up having sex at the party. I know this is not true because we were together the whole night.
My fiance is telling me to let it go, she is young and wanting attention. I would let it go if she were not telling our family and friends...and some of them believe her. My family dont understand why im still with him and think im desperate. This is one of many of her accusations...she is 17. My fiance is 23.
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if your certain that this is just a rumour then first of all you have to tlet your boyfriend know you believe him. Then tell your family you trust him and your happy they're all looking out for you but you know this girl is making things up about him. Try looking into why she'd make it up to back up your point but if not you still need to talk to this girl face to face. Don't make it like your having a go just ask this girl what happened and tell her your side. If she denies starting it tell your family. Alternativley don't say anything to anyone and ignore it like your husband said. But now your definite your fiance didn't do it but this might eat away at you until you doubt it and it may wreck your relationship, sort it and be happy. To be fair you Fiance should be sorting this out think why has he said to ignore it??
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I know what you would like to do with her but you can't as that would get you in trouble.
What you need to do either in person or by snail mail, is let her know that you and your fiance know she is spreading false rumors about the two of you. That the only thing keeping her out of court for defamation of character is her age.
Next since you can't sue her, see if a district court judge will give you a protection order making her stay away from you and your fiance. In this way she cannot attend any social events that you and your fiance attend. You can also just threaten to do so if she doesn't confess to her lies and make things right for the two of you.
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she sounds like she is after attention, and what better way than to go for a classical TV moments right? If you were with him the whole night, then you can be confident in that he was loyal to you and I would contact this girl and tell her that she is causing grief for the whole family and she should start to act her age, then blank her from your life until she does, no phone calls or going out together until she stops the lies. As for the rest of your family, stand your ground tell them that you trust your fiance more than a teenage girl, and give them your reasons such as he was with you the whole night, and if this girl has a history of causing trouble and lieing use that as an argument to.
The problem with todays society is it is so easy to say "he slept with me." and everyone believe without question, that a girl would never make such stories up, it's times like these when your love for one another is put to the test, and eventually your family will understand that you trust him and they should give him a chance to at least prove himself. Allthough, if he has ever had an affair before, it may be very difficult to convince others that it will not happen again. Listen to your heart and your gut feelings about the situation, if you believe he is trustworthy then take the risk, at the end of the day 17 year old girls are not best known for their undying honesty and high moral grounds.
Good luck x
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I'm going to ask you a question rather than give you advice just to be sure I'm not mistaken anything..
Are you sure this girl isn't referring to a time when you weren't around? Many women of age 17 would know better then to spread around a rumor that can cause legal trouble.
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