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I'm 20 and I broke up with my first love a year ago. I loved him with every fibre in my being and did literally everything for him, even if it went against my morals. I spent all the money I had on getting him expensive gifts and I stuck with him, even when he couldn't care less about me. When we broke up because of the fact that he didn't wanna deal with commitment, at this stage in his life, he wasn't upset, not even for a day. It's been over a year and I've been the only one carrying all this pain and I've been holding so much hope that we could get back together, someday. We still see each other and he kisses me and that's what gave me hope that he still likes me. But last night, he told me that he'd never even think of marrying someone like me and that he needs a submissive kind of girl who doesn't pick up on the wrong things he does, like I did.I always picked up on all his lies and everything he hid from me. It hit me all at once, last night that he's been using me this past year and using my vulnerability. I cried in front of him for two hours straight and he kept saying the same things like "You're not my first love so I can't hold that much love for you" and "I told you I didn't want a relationship" "My first made me lose all my emotions" . I don't know why I'm so attached to him or why I'm even this devastated over a jerk like him. I just need someone to talk some sense into me. I worry, that I'll never be good enough for someone. What else can I do for someone to make them appreciate me? I allowed him to cross so many limits of mine and went above and beyond for him, and I get this, in return. How will I expect the next guy in my life to appreciate what I'll do for him and not break my heart again? (link)
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Love is hard but he has been damaged by a girl before you and if you let him carry in he will damage you well he is because your scared of love now. The idiot you aren't picking up on bad things your telling him what he doesn't want to hear he wants to think he's perfect when all your doing is expressing your feelings which your allowed to do. Stop letting him take you for a mug do not speak to him delete any contact with him!!! And what's the point in being with someone if it won't last he doesn't want commitment so you shouldn't want him. He's an idiot and he's tAken advantage of you he's done all these things wrong like keeping lies and he's making you feel like it's your fault. Get mad tell him all the shit is his fault and if he doesn't like it tough tell him to leave you alone. Then you'll stop having this false sense he will come back you deserve to be respected by a man and if I were you I'd go it alone become independent and happy and the right guy will come along just you watch.
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So... I have been having this issue going on for some time now. I have been with my boyfriend for a few years and my mom has not liked him for a while. I first thought that it was a phase. Then, I thought she would grow to like him eventually. But, now it is worse than ever. He was away for a few months for something that he needed to do for school. Those months were pure bliss with my mom. I finally remembered what it was like to love my mom again because we weren't butting heads. We were just friends. I'm 23, by the way. I live with my mom and grandparents at the time because I cannot afford to move out. I live in an expensive city and I'm a teacher, so I don't make very much money. I had a plan to move out, etc. when I had some more money just so that I could have peace of mind. But, it's not happening right now... at least for another couple of months. This summer, like I said, my mom and I re-kindled our relationship.
Upon his return, it was like everything I ever saw in him was different. Things that I took as a joke now seemed serious and rude. For instance, today, I was running late or wanted to slightly change our plans and he told me that my mother was a psycho liar and that I should never believe anything she says. PS, he doesn't know how she feels about him. He was just saying so because she was part of the reason I had to change the plans. Then, I told him that we have all had to sacrifice our plans at one point and I gave him the example about how we both left town on my birthday (to the same place) and didn't see each other because he was with his family and I was with mine. He could have chosen to come with me and I could have chosen to go with his family. But, it was my birthday and I wanted to spend it with my family. I was just using it as an example. I wasn't implying anything about it. This was months ago! And he said that it was my fault that he didn't see me because I decided to go with my family. We were in the same city! He could have certainly made an effort to take a cab or even send some flowers to my hotel... i don't know. I'm not saying something huge. Just an effort to know he was thinking of me. I've excused his behavior since I've met him. Now, I look back and see that it wasn't so nice of a thing to do. And before summer, I would have excused this too and say "he's just frustrated." Now I see how quickly his anger escalates and I don't like it.
There have been other situations that have happened in the past. Like, how he got angry at me because I didn't have cash to pay for parking when he had a wallet full of cash. If we've had a difference in political views, he turns bright red in anger and has pushed me away. One time, he was fighting with someone over politics and I thought they were just talking until I walked through the middle to throw something away. They were at a reasonable distance away from each other so it wasn't like I was cutting through them. He got angry both at me and the other person, but grabbed me and bent my thumb to my wrist. It was throbbing till the next day. I have excused it all. It was like I was under some weird spell. And now, I see how wrong it is.
So, this question is going to be broken down into a few pieces. First of all... I wouldn't even know HOW to end it. I feel like I still care. It's not like I'm a ball of fury. It's just that I think that I deserve to be happy. I want to feel loved. And I have felt loved before, so I know the difference. I don't always want to feel scared that I've offended him. And I can only see this getting worse. Imagine... bending thumbs now... how about when we are married? How about by the time we hit a 20 year anniversary? Do you really think it's going to get better? But, it's just hard. It's like I'm not ready... even though I know this is necessary. How can I get over this? What do I do?
Secondly, I have some issues with my mom that need to be addressed too. She turns into a PSYCHO when he's around. When he's not, she's my best friend. When she's around, she wants to throw me out of the house and tells me that she hopes I know that if I'm with him, she will never be a part of my life and she won't want to meet her grandkids. As much as I love my mom, this is unacceptable behavior from a parent. She is in no way providing a safe environment for me to come to her with real issues that a mother is to help her daughter with. Instead, I feel fear. Then, I burst into anger because I get angry at the fact that at 23, I need to live in fear. And then I feel even angrier because if it weren't for financial issues, I would be able to move out. So, it turns into a whole circle.
I don't want to be deciding this for my mom. I just wish someone can extend a hand and just say: "I think this is what you should do." An objective person. Someone who is not in this situation at all. I am crying out for help. Please answer!
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Well, you should break up with him simple. The way things are he isn't on the same wavelength as you and things he is doing and the way he is acting is wrong and he isn't willing to change them. He wants someone who will put up with the stuff you hate and you want someone who will take the time and effort to do the things that he won't so if I were you I would break up with him it wil
L hurt but you will get over it but that's not what you want to hear so give him an ultimatum last chance he changes or your gone. If he says to go do it! Have your pride and as for your mother she's being horrible and she needs to be told that your 23 and you need to learn and make mistakes even where boys are concerned on your own. Really just persevere until you move out because your 23 and you need to have your own house life and make your own decisions. Hope I could help.
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the girl i "thought" i loved just shattered my heart in into pieces. since freshman year, she's told me she loved me, that she wanted to always be with me and she even told me she wanted to bare my children. and if a girl tells any gu that it just makes him love the girl more. she told me the other day, that she's lied to me since i met her. she said it was to protect me, but the thing is she didnt think it through. i was gonan find out sooner or later, and finidng it out later made it worse, and she's like my best friend. how should i get over this because i feel like death is the only solution. please help, i dont want to end my life, but i cant go on liveing without her. my name is branden gurley, age 16, and heartbroken.... (link)
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please don't feel like this I got out of a bad relationship and it feels like everything you knew was once lies and please dont feel that way whatever she told you she didnt mean to hurt you
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Before I ask for any advice, I should give you some background information. I'm 17 years old, my girlfriend is 18, and we are both still in high school, so I still live with my parents. Almost a year ago, my girlfriend decided that because she is bisexual, she was going to have sex with a girl at least once.
I don't know if I was stupid, or too lenient, but we talked about it and she ended up doing it - with the ONE person we agreed it WOULD NOT be, because the girl was a friend of ours and in almost all of my classes.
They're still good friends - if anything they're even closer - and my relationship with both of them suffered. I can't even stand to look at the girl anymore, and any time my girlfriend says or does anything even remotely related to the other side of her sexuality, I can't help but get pissed, which never used to happen.
Now, for a few days I'm 1600 miles away and I got a bunch of facebook notifications on my phone. Apparently they're spending the night at my girlfriend's house tonight. Even worse, the girl is currently "secretly" dating my best friend, who is lesbian and hasn't come out yet.
What I need to know is how I should approach this. What do I say? Do I act based on how I really feel? Or should I bottle it all up again and just hope she finally leaves? It's bad enough they're almost definitely doing this to me again, but they don't have the right to do this to my friend. (link)
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Your girlfriend should respect that you asked her not to go with this girl that was your friend. You need to have sit down and explain to her that you accept her sexuality and fair enough she might be bisexual but she's with you and because she's bi her having this girl to stay round at her house and things is the same as your sleeping at other girls houses and it's wrong because their relationship isn't just friends if they've slept together in the past. Explain that you have good reason to be concerned and make it clear that your not disputing her sexuality but if she's with you she can't sleep with other girls just because she's bi it's still cheating. jsut make it clear you are threatened by the relationship her and this girl have after sleeping together and it's too wierd for you to accept good luck :)
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Im a girl and My boyfriend recently broke up with me, we had been dating for over 6 months and i thought everything was fine. I love him so much now I can't do anything right I miss him so much. He said that he just didn't feel like we were together anymore but that he still loved me. We never had problem seeing each other I always showed him how much I loved him. I just don't know how to get over him. It's been affecting everything I do I feel alone , I can't draw, act , study, I can't do anything right and I'm starting to get frustrated more than sad. I feel hopeless what do I do ? (link)
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The same thing recently happened to me, you feel lost and fed up and confused and overly sad. What you have to do though is understand that your better than he is. And that he was in the wrong for dumping you. Theres a saying that theres a lad out there that is glad you broke up with your shitty ex boyfriend. And that saying is right. Don't go for rebound look for someone else and go out with friends and have a good time to get your mind off it. I know its horrible but you were fine before you had him and you'll be fine after he's gone. he's not sad sat alone all upset hes off being normal so you do the same and I promise you this there will come a day when he realises what he lost and he'll wish he had you but you will have someone much better who sees how beautiful you are
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im 15/f and he is 16/m. he is really sweet and he goes to my church. I know i used to like him but then for a while i didnt. now hes acting like he likes me but we are really good friends and i dont want to ruin it. we are always pushing each other around and just playing but recently ive wondered if maybe hes flirting and i just take it as friends cause he is just like family but tonight in church we were poking each others hands and then i poked his and he just sorta held my hand and kinda just rubbed my hand for a minute before i pulled away. the only time we see each other is at our small mostly family church and at my grandparents house. i just dont know what to do because im sure he likes me but im not sure if i like him. should i tell him we need to just be friends for a while or just leave it to be what it will? im just not sure if i like him. i am so happy around him and i talk to him about everything tonight when he rubbed my hand it made me feel so good. he is always telling me im pretty. i could see us being together but im scared that if it doesnt work out we wont be as good friends. i am homeschooled and he is the only person that i feel like i can tell anything to. im just not sure do you think i should flirt back so he knows im interested or should i just keep doing whta i am and let him make the moves and just follow? any advice welcome (link)
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casually flirt back, however friends turning into a relationship either messes the friendship up forever and makes things awkward or it makes one of the strongest and best relationships there is so casually flirt back and wait to see if he admits his feelings which hopefully he will fingers crossed good luck :) x
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I like this 17 year old, but my parent's won't allow me to date him. My heart is set on him and i can't just let him go.. I really like him and he really likes me... What should i do? (link)
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As long as your really like him age is but a number and sadly all your parents can do is sit and let you date this boy. They have to understand that you have a right to make your own choice of boys no matter how old they are and they can't stop you.
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I'm 17 and I get guys in their early to mid twenties hitting on me, but when I'm in school most guys just want to be my friend. I've had boyfriends but none lasted very long. There's this one guy that's been hitting on me since I was in middle school, he chased me down the street one time just to ask me how old I was and where did I live. He's friends with my brother and every time he comes to my house hes either staring at me or trying to flirt with me and I don't like him. He's 24 yrs old and he's been hitting on me since I was like 12. I was having a conversation with this one guy and he was 18 and I told him I was 17, he reacted with a holy sh*t. I don't dress slutty or wear make up and I don't understand why older guys hit on me or think that Im older than my age. So is it because I look older or because guys think I'm easy because I'm younger? (link)
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They don't care what age you are really but I don't think it's because you dress slutty but go for an older guy girls mature faster so you'll be with someone at the same maturity level as you then take it was a comliment and move on.
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me and a friend had sex and we didnt use a condom and im not on birth control. I knew he cummed in me because it didnt just cum back out in my shorts. I have had little signs but not much to tell im really pregnant. SO how can i know for sure without taking a pregnancy test, becuase if my parents found out im screwed. (link)
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Okay you definately need to take a pregnancy test but you can't tell for 2 weeks anyway. So don't worry I'm afraid you'll have to go to the clinic or buy a morning after pill either way you need to sort this out otherwise it will become an abortion
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Theres this guy I like but I'm not sure how he feels about me because he sends a lot of mixed signals. One day we attended a church function and he sat next to me the whole time and was talking and making me laugh. Some other girls were interested in him and my friend wanted to hook him up but he never went over to talk to them he stayed at the table with me which i was kinda shocked i thought he would have been interested in them. He was hesitant like he did want to go over there but he never did. Then at the end of the night he hugged me and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I felt really happy but idk what he really feel. There r other days when he is distant from me like he seems nervous to talk to me but he has no problems talking to other people i wish he could feel comfortable with me and sometimes when i look at him he smiles at me. He does flirt with other girls which makes me jealous. What should I do does he like me or not? (link)
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okay he flirts with other girls to make you jealous he is awkward when he's around you because he likes you and he's unsure if you feel the same. Its a classic guy move and the fact he stayed with you at the table and kissed you on the cheek proves he likes you. Carry on as you are it sounds like he likes you a lot!
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I can get a tampon in and everything, and for the first few seconds after its in everything's okay, but then it feels weird like its coming out, and I can feel it there. I asked my mumma if she could feel it and she said you should be able to forget its there. So I keep trying but I get the same result. My period has finished now so I can't try till next month.
At first I used the method of sitting on the toilet seat and putting it in. Then my mumma said I should squat and aim at the small of my back. So I tried that and got the exact same result. So then I tried using a clean finger and pushing it in, but that didn't work! :( I need help!! (link)
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okay if you want to wear tampons you just have to keep pushing it in a bit further each time. They feel uncomfy at first but after a while you can't feel it anymore. Don't stress just wear them and pads until you find them comfy.
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I really like this guy hes 11 and im 11 i asked him out and he said maybe im not sure if he has liked me in the past but he said will answer me at the up comming dance should i worry i just really wanna know what does maybe mean in a guys language (link)
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aww don't worry when I was younger that was always my reply. Maybe means he's afraid to say yes and hes unsure. But don't worry carry on talking and acting the way you usually do hopefully things will work out xx
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my 4 year old is for lack of a better term a terrible child. he randomly screams loudly for no reason, he tries to steal things when we go ANYWHERE, he abuses our animals, his baby (7 month old) brother and me. my husband and i argue everyday over my son and his bad behavior is getting to be a problem in our marriage. he lies for no reason about things he doesnt have to lie about. he calls me names, curses at me and hits me in the face. he refuses to listen and almost always does the opposite of what is told or asked of him. we have tried everything. he gets verbal warnings, time outs, toys or favorite things taken away, soap in his mouth, even spankings. its embarrassing to take him places and im afraid that if his terrible behavior continues in public and at school CPS will become involved and i love him despite his actions.
P.S. my husband and i dont curse at one other and there is absolutely no abuse in our home where can those things be coming from? (link)
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Perhaps he has ADHD, go to the doctors, but you must take control over this child. Tell him he can't have this and he can't have that. The one thing a child hates it to be deprived of attention so send him to his room be persistant. Don't let him have anything keep his telly and DVDs, games sweets take it all away and give it to him only when he is good. Let him throw a fit but you stay calm and persistant work with your husband to do this not against him. Talk to your husband and reach an understanding about what it is you would like to do about your sons behavior hope I helped.
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hay, my name is sally and theirs this boy hes really cute he stares and looks at me all the time i don't no if he likes me or not i want him but i don't no if he wants me so my question is how do i get him and make him like me back and also notice me i could really need your adive!. ;)
sinserly,
sally
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Okay of he keeps looking at you who knows maybe he does like you. Smile back sometime and wait try talking to him if you can, create a conversation and go for it within time you'll know if he likes you back.
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You know i use to think i had everything figured out for my own good but looks like this is just something i need alot of answers. Heres my situation: Me and my boyfriend have been dating almost a year next month. And we went on a break not too long ago like late july. Well...on his birthday july 23rd he invited me and i rode with him to his party. It was me and him and my best friend his brother sister and the rest of his family. then he invites this girl. Who he had apparently grown to like on our break. well that hurt my feelings because we were suppose to be working on "us." but we got back together shortly. and now that we're dating i told him to lose contact with her. and a couple times hes slipped up and texted her and stuff.Well so yesterday and today she went to cvs where he works and bought things like a drink and stuff. And i told him i was going to text her, "Theres a walgreens across the street." she doesnt have my number and its not even mean. But he flips out telling me not to do that or hell be pissed. and then i said ok im just going to ask her if yall still talk. And he said DO NOT DO THAT. and a bunch of bull about he doesnt want me to texting her and i should trust him. But if he isnt talking to her shouldnt he not worry about me asking if they are?.... (link)
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Tell him you don't get why you can't ask her tell him how you feel. Say you first thought she'd taken him from you when you first met her. But tell him your not insecure you just don't know what to think if he won't let you know whats going on between him and her.
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So my girlfriend went to a party with an ex. There are two of them there actually. It is a twenty first birthday and they are drinking. Is this okay? Should I not be worried. I would not consider drinking with my exes. I would feel like I was betraying my love. I just want to know if I am being paranoid. I mean people can get crazy when they are drunk. I trust her with all my heart. But I know what happens when people get drunk. Esspecially when exes are involved. Also she is staying the night. (link)
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okay tell her your sorry but you don't trust him around her alone. Why would he possibly want a party with just the 2 of him. Say no, you don't trust him and you love her so much you'll be sick with worry all night. If she refuses say it wouldn't be so bad if you weren't staying aswell. If she does go you won't trust her because you don't trust him, tell he how you feel and fast
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Today, I had this guy that I like comeover, and I guess I have been having second thoughts already. He fingered me, and ate me out and it's been 5 hours plus, and I am still sore and swollen, and it's never been like that before. Now, I am just sitting here, and I want to cry, I am in a pissy mood, and went off on him. I don't know what to do. Did I make a mistake doing this with him? (link)
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the pain is probably worse because your unsure about what you did. My friend did what you did but after she was unsure. If it's that bad then pretend it never happened, tell the other guy your a bit unsure if your ready for a relationship at the minute. let him down easy don't let him make you look bad. Then take it as a practice session and move on. Maybe your in pain at the minute but see if it gets better if not see your doctor confidentially. Forget what happened if it's that bad it wasn't love so..
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My life is a wreck. I was naturally just born ugly. My life felt like it was falling apart starting in fifth grade. I had buck teeth, short curly hair (I had extensions then), I was a good foot taller than everyone else(I was 5 foot five, they were 4 foot 5), and I also got acne really early so my face was always a greasy mess. Now, going into seventh grade, I have no friends. I'm terrible at every sport even though I am a "nerd". I have braces, acne, and I'm going to have to get glasses soon. I also wear a back brace because I have a curvature in my spine and if it gets worse I might have to get surgery. I just feel like an awkward lonely loser. All I wanted this year was to be popular. School's starting in three weeks and I really don't want to screw things up this year.
By the way if it helps, I'm twelve, five foot eight and ninety-nine pounds. (link)
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popular isn't what it looks like. to get there those people had to do ugly things to become good looking people. they won't be popular for long you be the 'nerd' but so what. Sit with your nerdy friends but when you leave school youll be the one with the awesome job the true friends, honest good looks and perfect guy. Then they'll want to be like you
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my brother is not letting me do the same as him so i dot have an idea for the talent contest (link)
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awr well if your not allowed to do same think of something waaay better and make his act look stupid. Singing?, Dancing?, Magic?
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I hav eqan account in hotmail but now all of a sudden it has been closed and i face peroblem checking my important mails.
Please advise.
My hotmail id is franklinejose@hotmail.com
and franklinjose1@rediffmail.com
your repply and cativation of my hot mail is highly appreciated.
Thanks & regards
Frankline Jose (link)
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I doubt it's even possible to close an account keep trying and reset your e-mail password
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