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I HATE myself so much..... :(
My life is a wreck. I was naturally just born ugly. My life felt like it was falling apart starting in fifth grade. I had buck teeth, short curly hair (I had extensions then), I was a good foot taller than everyone else(I was 5 foot five, they were 4 foot 5), and I also got acne really early so my face was always a greasy mess. Now, going into seventh grade, I have no friends. I'm terrible at every sport even though I am a "nerd". I have braces, acne, and I'm going to have to get glasses soon. I also wear a back brace because I have a curvature in my spine and if it gets worse I might have to get surgery. I just feel like an awkward lonely loser. All I wanted this year was to be popular. School's starting in three weeks and I really don't want to screw things up this year.
By the way if it helps, I'm twelve, five foot eight and ninety-nine pounds.
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Hi, I'm in ninth grade and was never "popular" during middle school. I wasn't really a "nerd" and was kinda pretty but I am a quiet person and didn't have much of a social life. I was so hung up on being popular and envying the popular kids that I ended up hating myself. However, during eight grade I became friends with this girl who I had always thought was kind of weird and arty because she looked and acted very different from the rest of the kids at my school. I am so thankful for this friendship because it taught me an extremely important lesson. This girl did not care what her social status was. She taught me to be this way as well. Popularity does not matter. I know it seems like it does right now. But you have to start living life without comparing yourself to other people. Except yourself for who you are, and stop caring what those people think of you. So what if they think you are a nerd? When all of you are adults, nobody is going to remember who was popular and who wasn't. It doesn't matter. I know this will probably be hard, but stop caring about popularity and you will be so much happier. That's what I did and it worked for me! Also, you sound like a really nice and honest person, two traits that will get you far in life. If the popular girls are anything like the ones at my school, the traits that they have won't get them far at all. Hope I helped and good luck! :)
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popular isn't what it looks like. to get there those people had to do ugly things to become good looking people. they won't be popular for long you be the 'nerd' but so what. Sit with your nerdy friends but when you leave school youll be the one with the awesome job the true friends, honest good looks and perfect guy. Then they'll want to be like you
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Smile You Are Beautiful(:
You Are YOU!
And You Should Be Proud Of That!
You Are Going To Find Friends Who Like, Are Proud Of And Appreciate You Just Because You Are True To Yourself!
Time Is On Your Side, Just Be Patient!
Stay True, Stay You<3
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There is an old saying about not judging a book by its cover. This saying is appropriate to people too. Beauty is only skin deep. The real you is the person who lies just below the skin. The real you is your personality; the person you are now and the person you will become as you grow older.
With proper medical care your buck teeth will be corrected, the curvature of your spine will be corrected and as you go through puberty your acne along with proper care will go away. Your exterior will change but who you really are should not.
My advise is not to try and be someone you are not. Be the person who resides inside you. Be the caterpillar in the cocoon waiting for the beautiful butterfly to come out. When it does and again it will, keep those who ignored you at arms length for they will never be true friends.
Those who judge you simply on your appearance are not worthy of your time or friendship. When your looks change and they will. The people who are ignoring you now will want to befriend you for many reasons. One of which is your scholastic ability, nerdiness.
Make friends by joining activities that interest you. People with common interest tend to get to know each other on a deeper basis and outward appearances are secondary. Use your knowledge and aptitude to make friends. These friends are of the kind that become life long friends.
If I sound like a parent it is because I am. I am also someone who knows how it feels to be the one left out of the conversations, picked last for games and only friends because I had something they wanted when I was in school.
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Truth of the matter is appearances are just that, appearances. I wont say that some people dont judge other solemly based on looks because some might, but think about it if someone does not accept you for you why do they matter.
You are beautiful, you need to believe that. Its really hard for many girls in todays society to accept themselves because of the way media portays women.
Confidence is something you have to demonstrate to others, for others to believe in you. You cannot put yourself down the way you do. It saddens me that you are only twelve years old and you feel this way, baby girl the acne will go away, your hair will grow, your braces will be gone someday, all these things will go away. Instead of focusing on your appearance, rather focus on being more social, i guarantee you that people will like you for being you. Look for kind people, and i assure you, you will have genuine friends.
Popularity is not important, it all fades away. So what if you are a "nerd" thats a good thing! Focus on your studies and try to see yourself in a positive light, rather than pointing out yur flaws tell me things you love about yourself <3
If you'd like feel free to message me. You have a friend in me.
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Hi, I am sorry you feel that way. Reading your "question", you're focusing on your appearance - what you look like is not going to make you any more or less popular than the next person. I was also awkward at your age - very tall, the tallest person in my co-ed school (and I am a girl!), pale skin, a nerd, bad at sport. What I did first of all was get a sense of humour; I would joke about my height and my pasty white skin.
If you can make people laugh, you have them on your side (not laughing at you, but with you). If I had a back brace I might tell people I was auditioning for the Robocop re-make - you know, light-hearted stuff like that. Or: there was a girl in my highschool with a back brace and she was very popular, probably because she didn't make a big deal out of it! People liked her for her personality, they didn't care about the brace.
The next thing to do would be to buddy up with the others in your class who might also be viewed as "losers", or less popular. You will find many good, lifelong friends. Remember that most of your classmates are having the exact same issues with self-confidence that you are, and most of them would be grateful for your friendship.
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