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I think I messed up, BIG time.

Question Posted Monday August 15 2011, 9:41 pm

Today, I had this guy that I like comeover, and I guess I have been having second thoughts already. He fingered me, and ate me out and it's been 5 hours plus, and I am still sore and swollen, and it's never been like that before. Now, I am just sitting here, and I want to cry, I am in a pissy mood, and went off on him. I don't know what to do. Did I make a mistake doing this with him?

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cocomac101 answered Tuesday August 23 2011, 1:37 pm:
the pain is probably worse because your unsure about what you did. My friend did what you did but after she was unsure. If it's that bad then pretend it never happened, tell the other guy your a bit unsure if your ready for a relationship at the minute. let him down easy don't let him make you look bad. Then take it as a practice session and move on. Maybe your in pain at the minute but see if it gets better if not see your doctor confidentially. Forget what happened if it's that bad it wasn't love so..

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adviceman49 answered Tuesday August 16 2011, 9:23 am:
If I knew how old you are I would be able to better answer your question.

Neither I or anyone else can tell you whether you made a mistake only you know if you did or not. The fact that you are questioning what happened says you feel as though you made a mistake.

I've never been told by a girl friend or my wife that they have been sore after oral sex. Either you boyfriend was too rough, you went at it to long or he hurt you in some other way. If the soreness and swelling has not passed in a reasonable amount of time, say the morning following your oral sex session, then I would suggest you wither talk to your mother or see a doctor.

If you choose to see a doctor what you discuss with your doctor by law remains confidential. The doctor cannot tell anyone including your parents.

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Lovelife101 answered Monday August 15 2011, 11:15 pm:
Im sorry sweetie. Well is this your first time? I have never done anything more than kissing, because of my promise to remain pure. But im sure everything is fine. Your just stressing, having second thoughts, so your mind is going off in some sort of train of aniexty. I have aniexty sometimes, i use to alot and this is what it sounds like. You shouldnt have done that with him honey, but theres no changing that. Keep me updated if it continues.

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Peeps answered Monday August 15 2011, 10:27 pm:
Anything that entails a male that you refer to as "this guy" in the sexual sense is probably a bad move/mistake.

You may be just irritated.

It's also possible he had eaten or touched something before you that you're allergic to.

Maybe he was too rough and scratched you inside.

You might want to get checked out just to make sure you're good.

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