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Why do older guys hit on me but not guys my age?
I'm 17 and I get guys in their early to mid twenties hitting on me, but when I'm in school most guys just want to be my friend. I've had boyfriends but none lasted very long. There's this one guy that's been hitting on me since I was in middle school, he chased me down the street one time just to ask me how old I was and where did I live. He's friends with my brother and every time he comes to my house hes either staring at me or trying to flirt with me and I don't like him. He's 24 yrs old and he's been hitting on me since I was like 12. I was having a conversation with this one guy and he was 18 and I told him I was 17, he reacted with a holy sh*t. I don't dress slutty or wear make up and I don't understand why older guys hit on me or think that Im older than my age. So is it because I look older or because guys think I'm easy because I'm younger?
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They don't care what age you are really but I don't think it's because you dress slutty but go for an older guy girls mature faster so you'll be with someone at the same maturity level as you then take it was a comliment and move on.
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I would go with xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx answer. Girls are more mature than boys by almost 2 years to begin with. IF you are the type of girl who is more mature than other girls at school. Gives of an older appearance both in and out of school you will attract older men and at the same time boys your own age will shy away because they feel you will turn them down or tease them should they actually work up the courage to ask you out.
Suggestion: If there is a boy at school you really want to get to know better and would like to date. You will have to let him know in a more straight forward way that you are available to go out with him. You would have to say something to effect of; "You know I think we would really have fun if we went out together, Why don't you call for a date some time?" or Really get bold and say; You know we should really go out together, are you busy on Friday/Saturday?"
Sometimes you just have to take the bull by the horns and make things happen.
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Guys will be guys.
When I was 17 the same thing happened to me. I worked at a restaurant and there was a waiter/bartender who was 25 at the time. He was always flirting with me and talking to me. Meanwhile at school I couldn't even get a guy to notice me in a 'relationship' kind of way. What I figured out as I got older is that the guys your age might be immature or scared. Older men have experience in talking to women. Guys your age might still be immature and not into getting a girlfriend or maybe just maybe they don't know how to talk to girls making it look like they're not interested. Things will change I can assure you.
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I think it would be more because you look a little older than you actually are. You might have a mature personality or be quite intelligent for your age as well which can make you seem like you're older. A lot of people (male and female) mistake me for being a year or two older than I am because I seem a little more mature than most of the 19 year olds that they know.
A lot of guys like younger girls too, and I'm sure you're a really pretty girl that just happens to look a few years older than she actually is, so you attract older guys. I don't think it's because they think you're easy, though you should be careful and remind yourself that not everyone has good intentions.
You might notice a lot of guys your age date girls a year or so younger than them. I think it's just a preference thing. I know I personally like guys older than me rather than my exact age or younger. And remember guys your age aren't exactly completely mature yet and haven't got the same confidence as older guys. I think there are probably guys your age that like you but they're just too shy to tell you.
Try to consider it flattering. Obviously you're a gorgeous girl and that attracts attention from older guys. But once again, be careful with hanging around or dating older men. The guy hitting on you since you were 12 is a bit odd though, keep a distance from him. I mean it's flattering, but still weird which you seem to have already picked up on.
And don't worry about the short relationships, most girls your age don't have long term relationships. I know because it was only two years ago for me and most girls my age now still don't have long term relationships. You'll have one when you find the right guy.
Don't get upset about it, it happens to a lot of girls. It's just because you're a really pretty girl and you look a year or two older than you are.
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You might look older then your age, and that is one reason why older men hit on you. All you can do, is ignore them older guys and make it clear your not interested in them.
As for the guys in your class, if they aren't interested in more then a friendship that's fine. You will soon find a guy that meets your taste and age, just give it time...
Your young you will meet your lucky froggy soon :)
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Honestly, it's probably a bit of both. Not too many older guys have "just going out" with a girl on their mind, there's usually some thing else that comes along with that. If he's older (especially that much older), he's probably in it for one reason, and one reason only. Especially if you're a virgin. Older guys tend to try to get girls younger than them, and once they do, it's just for some quick fun and then they up and leave. A 17 year old has nothing in common with a 24 year old. In my option, I'd stay away from him. Being friends would be alright, but nothing more. And don't let him pressure you into ANYTHING!
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