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I am a fourteen-year-old freshman female.
So, the thing is that I'm random. I'm thinking that because of that, boys choose to avoid being in a relatioship with me.
For an example of my randomness: I will be the kind of girl who skips down the hallway singing, "If You're Happy and You Know It". I would say, "The stick people are here to conqure the world and kill us all!" randomly in class.
As for the boys, I do believe that they flirt with me a lot because, for example: They insult me in a playful manner, try to take stuff of mine, etc. However, they NEVER go any farther than that. Most of the time they go out with one of my friends or other classmates.
Now, I generally can't help the randomness for the sake of my santiy, and I've tried to calm myself down, but it generally doesn't happen. So we know that me changeing for a boy is out of the question.
So, forgive me for making the question seem so long, what exactly is going on? How could I fix it? Will it be like this for a while?
I would greatly appreciate it if you give detailed (As detailed as possible) advice.
Thanks! (link)
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It might go on for a while, but then again your fourteen. You have your whole life ahead of you. You'll get a boyfriend, just be patient. Anyway at you age having a boyfriend is never really that serious, and almost always never lasts, so don't stress. You not missing out on much.
And as for you random personality I wouldn't worry about that either. Don't try to change for anyone, you'll find someone who like you, for you. My brother for example will only go out with girls that are random. He loves the crazy ones :P He says they are way more interesting and fun. There's someone out there for everyone, and that means you too :)
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I am a 45 year old male. I served in the army for 20 years. I was medically discharged due to a negligent life threatening parachute collision. I could not live without being in the army. So on my last day before heading off on holidays, I went up to my room on the barracks and swallowed in excess of 300 tablets. Previously I had been diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome (PTSD) of which I was taking a cocktail of drugs. On top of that I was also taking a cocktail of drugs for the pain from my parachute injuries.So I swallowed the pills...wrote my goodbye letter to my wife and 4 daughters. Unfortunately I woke up in hospital. 2 years later I slashed my left wrist and I was bleeding into a bucket whilst talking to a counsellor...once again I woke up in hospital. I want to die. I can not take this life of mine any more. Please tell 100% how to commit suicide! (link)
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Honestly I think you need to wake up and realise you have so much to live for.
You have four daughters! And a wife! How selfish is it of you to off yourself and leave your family to deal with picking up the pieces.
Get some help. Seriously. There are so many people out there that can help you. You cannot commit suicide. You just can't.
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im 15/f
ive been with my bf for several months now. hes fingered me ect and were pretty active (still virgin)
so i was wondering if there is any fun games we could play.
or any naughty questions i could ask him
????
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Your FIFTEEN and already wanting to 'spice it up'?!?
Wow...really?
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My boyfriend and I are sexually active. The sex is alright, but I noticed he has never gone down on me, although I frequently go down on him. So today I called him out on it, "I said do you not go down on girls?" He said that he didn't, its something that girls should do, but for a guy to do that for a girl is not acceptable.
This is the only way I can get off, but I don't think he really cares. How do I get him to stop being selfish in bed? (link)
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"its something that girls should do, but for a guy to do that for a girl is not acceptable" wtf?!
He sounds like a douche.
What you should do is go down on him...and in the middle of doing it bite it off?
Just a suggestion.
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My period came twice last month and it didnt come this month, why could this be happening? Is it normal? Oh and im 17f (link)
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It's not 'normal' but it does happen.
Most women have 'due dates' and what not with there periods but some don't.
Once I went almost three months not having my period, and then when I finally did get it I got it twice in a month like you did. Nothing wrong with you. Just annoying lol.
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I saw this TV show years ago called INXS or NXS and I think it might have been on VH1. On the show they had some people trying to form bands and whatever. There was one song that was played once that was called "Trees" but I don't think it was ever released on a CD? I am so sure the name of the song was Trees. Anyway, I am dying to hear this song again because I haven't heard it in so long and I wonder if what I thought was good then is still "good" now? haha.
It said something like
It'll be you and me
up in the trees
and the forest
will give us the answer
That's all I THINK I remember? Those might not be the EXACT words though either. Anyway...can anybody find this song where so I can hear it online? Thank YOU! (link)
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dude that song was awesome!
I know which one your talking about too. It is called Trees and it was sung by Marty Casey who was one of the contestants on the show and he made it up then. I think he might have made it a single later on with his band...it was like Marty Casey and the Lovehammers? I think?
Anyway, just type that into youtube, you'll find it :D
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So i was with my boyfriend the other day..and the topic came up, and he basically said that he thinks vaginas are unattractive. I thought guys liked...looking at that? I mean he didn't mean specifically mine, he just meant in general. I was kind of offended and now I'm really self conscious about it. Is that normal for a guy to say he doesnt like the way they look or whatever? (and no he isnt gay). Guys opinions would be good. Can anyone give me some insight please??
Thank you! (link)
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Dude. Genitalia in general is ugly. Or alien. Or whatever.
Breasts are way better looking than vagina's ever will be. (seriously, think about it, strippers don't wear tops, but they wear panties. Why? Vagina's...are...kinda weird.)
Its even more weird for guys because they don't have a vagina, so it's even more foreign.
It's pretty normal for a guy not to like they way they look, but it's all the fun you can have with them that makes them so damn attractive ;) haha
There is no need to feel self conscious or offended or anything.
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Hi!
I know that dreams can be really random and now one can tell for sure what they mean but I would like to have some of your thoughts on a reoccurring dream I have.
I have been dating a girl for about half a year, and now we are doing a long distance thing. I will see her in a few months though. I'm happy being with her but we have been apart now for about a month.
Over the past few weeks it's been odd because I've had 4 or 5 different romantic and sexual dreams about being with various girls I have never even met. I'm a 22 year old guy so I bet it's relatively normal but I just think it's odd that I have never had a sexual dream about my girlfriend even though we are active. When I wake up I always feel bad after these dreams cause they're so realistic I feel like I'm cheating on her! I don't even remember in the dreams that I have a girlfriend it's after I wake up that I feel like I cheated. I haven't told her about it of course. How would you interpret the dreams? Is it maybe a message of some kind?
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This probably won't help you but I'll say it anyway.
I think you need to remind yourself that they're just dreams. There's no point feeling guilty over something you can't control. I probably wouldn't look to much into either, because the more you look into it the more you try to justify why your having them.
Who cares. They're just dreams. I have had sexual dreams about pretty much everyone I've met but funnily enough my boyfriend wasn't one of them. I've told him about them too, but he doesn't care, because I don't care and life goes on.
Are you happy with your gf? Yes? Then you don't need to find a message in your dreams because chances are there isn't one.
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whenever my friends and i hang out, they'll be talking and i'll listen. but then i'll try to talk about something that happened to me and they won't act like they're listening or they'll say something else that happened to them immediately after. it even happens with my boyfriend. its not like i'm quiet and awkward, these are people that i've known for years and years. how do i get people to listen to me? its causing me to be stressed and upset and i'm tired of feeling like no one. (link)
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There are two simple tests you can do to see if your friends actually listen to what you say.
A) Yell "FIIIIIIIIIRE!" and if the start screaming/running away/trying to put said imaginary fire out, then, yeah, they're listening to what you say.
OR
B) You could tell them. Just sit down and say something like "You know, sometimes it really feels like you guys aren't really listening to me." Chances are they don't even realise what they're doing. If they're your friends you've known for years they won't like the fact they've made you feel upset. And they'll make sure you know they're listening.
However I hope your not expecting your friends/boyfriend to be talking to you/listening to what your saying ALL the time. Because that's just silly.
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im a senior and these girls who arnt my friends were talking about this girl who is my friend and like a friend does to another i went and told her what they said no big deal i usually let that end from there. this other girl found out and asked them why they were talking about my friend this girl who told them doest like them and gets a thrill to call people out. so they asked who said that they were and she didnt tell them it was me becuase she is also my friend. well this other girl stoped me in the hall and was like why are you telling *** that we talked shit about her i was like i didnt just to not start anytihng then she kept going about it and i was like okay. so my boyfriend goes up to her and says stop you would do the same thing if it was your friend regardless if you did talk smack or not she said she heard it and told her friend. well now shes putting stuff on facebook which is so stupid becuase i hate when people do that on facebook its so child like and my boyfriend comments on them and she wrote o *** all the girls at cheer practice were talking about you and i wrote hey lets not talk about my boyfriend and she wrote well your just sad becasue he likes us more and i didnt write anything because my bofriend told me not to and hes right well any way at school i tried confronting her like why would you say stuff like that you obviously have a bigger problem with then mindidng my own business but what ever she started yelling in the hall and i did too and walked off so embarrasing im not the type to do stuff like this so its all new to me i thought confronting the situation would be a good idea i was calm and i said hey i want to know why you have a huge problem with me and she started yelling it pissed me off like why would you do that im trying to be nice i dont hit people and i dont yell at them its what ever and now her boyfriend who is 18 or 19 is threatning me if i go near his girl then hes going to fight my boyfriend and i told him well ill do what i want first and dont message me and dont threaten me she started it and you saying this will get my boyfriend to hit you and if you lay a finger on him then youll go to jail b.c thats what hapends so i message her and was like you need to stop fighting on facebook its stupid and you need to be civil with me cuz im not not doing this all year you dont have to be my best friend and you dont have to talk to me you dont even have to smile in the hall way just ignore the fact that im in the school stop talking about me and leave it at that and ill do the same i just cant do stuff like this but they keep going the two of them so i dont know what to do. if someones talking about me in my face im going to get mad and its lke when people get mad you cant control your self so if she cant stop this then i have to find a way to not let it get to me and just stop i already had it made facebook so she cant see what i write on facebook along with the whole cheer team but didnt block them so idk i think i being fairly calm and letting her know that i tried talking to her face and told her that it is all talk and id never hit her and she wouldnt either i just dont understand i just told my friend what she was saying they talk loud anyway so im surprised that my friend didnt hear. this whole situation makes me sick and makes me reaise that this is why i dont befriend any one bcuase stuff like this happends she used to be my so called friend but i dont trust anyone these days as you can see shes fake any way she talks bad stuff about you then is your bestfriend. i dont know so stupid i just want it to stop. (link)
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To be honest it sounds like you did all the right and mature things to do in this situation, like calmly confronting her.
Problem is your in high school, and she's not mature, so your effort is wasted. She sounds like a stupid typical attention seeking teenage girl, and I'm afraid nothing you do is going to get her to change her ways. Period. You'll just have to hope later on in life she realises how horrible she's been and maybe then she'll stop.
For the meantime there's nothing you can really do except pretty much ignore her and eventually she'll probably. ( I know, that really sucks) Or get a teacher involved. That pretty much does nothing either though, she'll still talk about you.
Sorry this wasn't much help :(
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I got the runs today and it started when I woke up. I just kept GOING to the bathroom and, well, pooping a lot. It's really runny and disgusting and smells just BAD. It's embarrassing because I am going to have to go to school tomorrow and it hasn't stop. Why is this happening and HOW can I make it STOP?! (link)
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Honestly diarrhea normally doesn't last that long anyway. (Like a day or two).
There are some medications you can take but they don't really help and its better to let it run its course anyway (yeah I know it sucks) because it's actually your body's way of cleaning out toxins.
However if it lasts longer then that definitely go to a doctor to get it checked out.
Hope that helped!
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My boyfriend has this friend we'll call Rob. Rob is really pervy and is always talking about looking at naked girl and trying to get in their pants (or panties as the case may be). Well, today he was standing there talking to my bf and Rob said he watched this girl striptease on her webcam. My bf was like did you pay her? LOL but Rob said he hacked into her computer online and she just happened to be taking off her clothes and stripping for somebody so he got a free show without her ever knowing about it. I'm kind of worried because I did this a few times with my boyfriend where I touched myself on cam a few nights for him and now I'm afraid somebody like Rob saw me and knows about it. I mean, can this really be done? I am thinking it can't be done and if it can't then I should stop worrying but if it can be done then I'm really scared and thinking what if Rob saw me and is just not saying anything so he could keep watching or something? IDK wat to do now (link)
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It is possible, depending on a whole lot of things really.
But him actually being able to do it? Bullshit. Sorry about the language but its true. Honestly it sounds like he is lying.
It's really hard to do...like REALLY hard, and I'd bet my lifesavings that no one apart from your boyfriend has seen you on your webcam.
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okay , so i know halloween is pretty far alway from now but , i want to have a really hott costume , my friends having a really BIG party and i just wanna look really good . My past costumes were pretty lame , so i would appreaciate alot of you guyss giving me suggestions ! Well i was gonna be a hott firewoman , but idunno , or a pirate :S i really need help , i wouldnt mind being something scary but it can also be non scary . ill just say all my past costumes so you guys can like know what im "into" so , bumble bee (3 years old) , angel , pumpkin , i actually wouldnt mind being a bumble bee again though :$ , vampire , and nerd , thats all i can really remeber
btw im sorry for it being so long ,
please help :) thanks ! (link)
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Have you watched kick ass? Going as Hit girl would be really really cool.
Or maybe Harleyquin from batman...shes super sexy if you can pull it off.
Or just go as any girl-villain from anything really. They're always more interesting that just your generic costumes and most of them are hot as well ;)
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OK! I am totally freaking out because I came home and the house was quiet and I was being stupid I guess and just walked right into my brothers room without knocking because I didn't think he was home and I wanted to borrow one of these sweatshirts he has that are really comfortable and he was totally jacking off like right there when I opened the door. I slammed the door and ran to my room because that is DISGUSTING. Now I can't even THINK about him without wanting to vomit. What do I do now? Do I confront him? Should I say something about him being a nasty perv? I KNOW HE KNOWS I SAW but he hasn't come out of his room and said anything to me. This is so gross. (link)
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Oh for god sakes please don't call him a nasty perv! He probably feels super awkward already about the whole situation. Masturbation is totally natural and he was in his own room.
O.K so it is disgusting that you saw that, I'm not denying it but don't make him feel crappier then he already does.
To be honest I would say nothing and ignore it...then make jokes about it later on in a couple of months...but that's just me.
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I'm shaky and feeling sick. I've been a little perv and I watched porn. A year ago I used to watch a lot of it. I went on a site and had cyber sex a few times.
I feel like a worthless skank and I take back everything I did.
What I did was ridiculously wrong. I'm 14!!
The question is, are my parents going to find out about my mistakes? I erased the history on everything I've ever done on the computer, but is that enough? What else can I do to erase it? I want these awful teenage mistakes behind me so I can move on and never do anything like this again.
Please be honest, but don't be too harsh. I'm already being terribly hard on myself for getting into porn. I'm not a bad person, I'm just being a curious teenager. But I think I got too curious, and I watched a lot.
Trust me, I won't be doing anything like this ever again. I can see how wrong and gross it is.
I'm making myself sick. Please help settle my nerves so I can move on from my terrible mistake!!!!!!!!! I beg you!!!!! (link)
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Hey!
I did the same thing at your age and if you've deleted the history on your comp, you should be fine :)
On another note watching porn isn't that bad! You shouldn't be beating yourself up about it!!! Your fourteen, your hormones are going crazy, of course your going to be a little curious. And to be honest its better to watch porn and have cyber sex then to have actual sex...which a lot of kids your age are already doing. Seriously watching porn isn't something that you should be feeling this bad over. You are most certainly not a worthless skank or anything. Just take a deep breath. You are absolutely fine :)
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ok so my friendd is very sick she keeps making herself throw up and its sad like i want her to eat she thinks she fat and shes not even fat !!!!! not even kidding you this girl is like 135 that nt fat ! anyways so i went up to her today and i grabbed her hand and she felt so weak ! i wanted to cry because she shouldnt b doing this to herself bt i didnt i just told her that i loved her and i will always be here for her... i dont no what to do can someone help me? what should i say to her? and why do you think she keeps doing this to herself? and do you think that she will b able to go to this trip thats on friday??? (link)
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I had a friend in the same position. You need to tell somebody. A teacher or councilor at your school maybe? If it's gotten that bad you definitely need to tell an adult before she gets really sick and admitted to hospital.
I'd also round up your friends and tell her that you love her, and will support her and that she's fine just the way she is. It might feel a bit awkward but she needs to hear you'll all be there for her. That's what we did, and she's good now :D
Hope that helped you!
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There's this girl who lives near my house. She's four years older than me and im 20.Our families know each other for a very long time. At first my elder brother wanted to be with her but that didn't work out because of the family issues and now he's married.
From last month we started textin each other. I made a total independent impression and she and i became somewhat close to each other. I felt like she had feelings for me and so did i.
we usually chat during the night.we didn't chat for two nights, for me it was like normal to give a break to increase curiosity. But now when i chat she's different. She doesn't take that much interest and her responses seem artificial.
I dont know what i did wrong. And i also know that she's not seeing anyone else.......i just want her to be like she was before.......ANY IDEAS WHAT IS IT ALL ABOUT???? (link)
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If your pretty sure she does have feelings for you then it sounds like she may be talking a step back, to evaluate things.
Your four years younger then her, which for some girls is a bit too much of an age difference, especially when the guys the younger one (I say that from experience) also your elder brother had feelings for her too which will probably make her feel as though she shouldn't like you. If you really like her, you'll have to convince her it's ok.
All this being said if you talk to her about it she probably would appreciate it. Even if you say something like, "Hey are you ok? You've been acting kinda different lately and I care about you and wanted to make sure you were alright." Or something along those lines. She'll appreciate it.
Good Luck!
I hope that helped!!!
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Well there are many famous musicians that are somewhere around my age (I'm 15) and they're living their dreams doing what they love to do whether it's performing for people their talent or just loving to be on stage.I'm a completely different story.I'd like to be a famous musician and do all those things someday but I have no confidence eventhough I've been told I'm really good at playing the piano and singing.they couldve just been being nice by lying or sugar coating it.I also have very big stage frite.how can I possibly,one day,overcome both of these things that are holding me back? (link)
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I'd probably suggest you start off small, just performing to your family and friends, small groups and such. Busking in a place you and your friends don't hang out is a really good way to gain confidence. Also putting up youtube clips! It's an amazing way to showcase your talent to the world, gain confidence and get some honest feedback.
You should also look around for music classes or camps because they are also really good. Especially as you are meeting heaps of new people who have the same goal, and same fears as you do, and it's always nice to be around people whom to you can relate.
Hope that helped you!!!
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I started talking too a guy, A, about 8 months ago. He lives in another state then I do, but we've been making it work. He's a little bit closed off, just like I am, but there's something about him I just can't give up. He's in the same career I am, and that's music. He's very sweet and not normally my type. Though he tours all the time, I still get to see him when I can. We have a connection I've never felt before. I'm crazy about this guy.
But then about 4 months ago, I met this guy, B, through friends and he's been amazing. We spend so much time together. He's the same age as A, has the same career as I do, but doesn't really tour. He lives near by me. He's going to school and doing music. He's got a good head on his shoulders and has a back up plan in life.
Both of these guys are the same age. Have the same career, although A is more successful then B is. And I'm crazy about both of them. I know that I can make it work, long distance with A, but I don't know if I should just stay with B. I feel like B is the safe bet, and A is a risk. But it's a game between my heart and my head and I don't want to feel like I settled for anyone. I need serious help with this. I want to choose because I feel terrible seeing both of them.
Please give me your input.
-Anndie (link)
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Go with the one you love the most.
Who knows, it might not work out, but there is absolutely no point in settling just because someone may be a safer bet for you.
Later on in life you will always regret the boy you loved but didn't chase because you were too afraid it might not work out. So go for boy A. It sounds like you love him more.
Hope that helped :)
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hi im 15/f and i have a boyfriend whos gay i know its strange but there a good reason why this happened. i met him a year ago as my other self. im pansexual and i crossdress i feel like im a boy inside and i act it out online not in a bad way i promise but i have an account i use for my boy side. well he messaged me one day and we started talking. we both fell for eachother and now a year later we still havent seen eathother its been a long distance relationship. he still doesnt know my real gender and i really want to tell him. one day i asked him if he would still love me if i was a girl and he said that he would still love me no matter what, he loves me for whats on the inside. even though he has said this to me i cant find the words to tell him. ive been trying to make him break up with me so i wouldnt hurt him anymore but he wont leave me. and when i break up with him my heart hurts,it beats an empty beat. i dont know whats wrong with me. i love him with all my heart and i dont want this lying anymore, all i want is for him to be happy. please help me. (link)
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It's going to be hard, but if you love him, you have to tell him. Explain to him how you feel more like a boy then you have ever felt a girl and how you feel about him. It's not fair on him otherwise.
If you really want him to be happy then you'll tell him. It sounds like he loves you enough that he'll stay with you, but you really need to let him make the decision.\
Hope that helped you!
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