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boyfriend won't reciprocate
My boyfriend and I are sexually active. The sex is alright, but I noticed he has never gone down on me, although I frequently go down on him. So today I called him out on it, "I said do you not go down on girls?" He said that he didn't, its something that girls should do, but for a guy to do that for a girl is not acceptable.
This is the only way I can get off, but I don't think he really cares. How do I get him to stop being selfish in bed?
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Heres a suggestion,
Don't go down on him anymore!
Atleast untill he figures it out that thats what you want him to do!
Give him hints!
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I think it may be time to find a new boyfriend. He seems lazy and selfish. If he had gone down on you once and then said he didn't want to do it, then I would suggest better cleaning down there but for him to not even try is plain lazy. There is one other option to try before you give up on him and he may agree to 69 where you both get what you want. But if he can't help, you shouldn't accept second best because do you really want to live like that the rest of your life?
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"its something that girls should do, but for a guy to do that for a girl is not acceptable" wtf?!
He sounds like a douche.
What you should do is go down on him...and in the middle of doing it bite it off?
Just a suggestion.
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Stop going down on him.
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The person below me is right- you need to communicate with him and let him know. And if he flat out refuses...well, first of all, he's a selfish jerk, and you need to re-evaluate your relationship with him. But for the time being, just stop going down on him. Fair's fair.
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Have you tried telling him this is the only way you can get off? If a guy knows he's not doing very well in bed, this is usually a blow to their self esteem and they try to correct it. It may just be that he's never tried it, and he's not sure how to initiate it.
How does he treat you otherwise? Does he treat you as an equal? Sometimes this attitude of what girls should and shouldn't do can develop into later problems. Selfishness in bed can grow to other areas and there's really no room for sexism in a relationship. This happened to me and in my case it turned out to be a deal breaker. If you've told him this and he still refuses, he may not respect you and your happiness. Sex is a big part of any serious relationship, and if both people aren't satisfied then it causes problems.
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