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I walked in on my brother masturbating!
OK! I am totally freaking out because I came home and the house was quiet and I was being stupid I guess and just walked right into my brothers room without knocking because I didn't think he was home and I wanted to borrow one of these sweatshirts he has that are really comfortable and he was totally jacking off like right there when I opened the door. I slammed the door and ran to my room because that is DISGUSTING. Now I can't even THINK about him without wanting to vomit. What do I do now? Do I confront him? Should I say something about him being a nasty perv? I KNOW HE KNOWS I SAW but he hasn't come out of his room and said anything to me. This is so gross.
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In ten years when you've both grown up a little more you will be laughing about this. It was a taboo subject up until the last 15-20 years when people (comedians) and others have spoken about so much that today it is a well known fact that almost everybody does it at some point or another and you yourself will eventually become a sexual being, so don't let your head get all jammed up over something that is so natural. Always knock before entering anyone's room, if it ever comes up, even in anger, you should apologize for real and I bet he'll think that maybe his bratty little sister is maturing more than he ever guessed and maybe he'll even respect you and think you're cool for handling this better than a regular sister.
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Lets just clear something up- He isn't a nasty perv. It's normal for a guy (and a girl!) to masterbate. Theres nothing wrong with doing that.
I know you might feel weirded-out by the whole experience, but if you really want to talk to him about it, maybe you should suggest that he keeps his door locked so that this type of thing doesn't happen again. He shouldn't have to explain to you what he was doing, he has the right too. If you feel that there's things you need to clear up with him, definitely talk to him about it! It can't hurt.
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What exactly would you be confronting him for? He did nothing wrong. You were the one who assumed he wasn't home, and barged into his room with the intent to borrow something without asking. You are also the one judging him for doing something that is completely healthy and normal.
Just don't say anything about it. Chances are, he is just as humiliated as you and doesn't care to speak about it. Nothing needs to be said.
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What would you confront him about - doing something private in his own room behind a closed door??
Why would you call him names when he does something almost all men do?
You should probably write him a note and apologize for walking in his room and assure him that you won't do so again.
I realize this was pretty startling for you, but cool down and don't make this more awkward and more embarrassing for both of you by making any more of it. How would you want him to act if he walked in on you and you were naked? Do that for him.
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
Let me start by saying masturbation is totally normal. Most teenagers masturbate, be they boys or girl, to relieve the sexual tension brought on by the hormonal changes brought on by puberty. You do not say how old you are or if you are a boy or a girl so I will try to stay non-gender specific in what I relate here.
A recent report relates that as many as 90% of the population masturbate. Now this would include adults as well as teenagers and such acts as mutual masturbation, hand jobs, fingering and oral sex. One could define masturbation or mutual masturbation as any sexual activity other than intercourse. Males, especially teenage males, need to relive sexual tension more than females do. Masturbation is a natural way to relive this tension.
Most religions including the Catholic Religion condone masturbation; if this is so why do parents and church elders tell children it is wrong to masturbate? The only reason I can think of is the pleasure received from masturbating leads to wanting the pleasure of actual intercourse. In a sense there is a double standard here. As mutual and some people even use single masturbation as a form of foreplay, adults are telling children that something they do on a regular basis is wrong. Well if it is wrong or sinful for the children, would it not be wrong for the adults.
What my wife and I told our children is that masturbation or mutual masturbation is a safe way to satisfy desire without the chance of anyone getting pregnant. There is nothing dirty or disgusting about masturbation; it is a safe way to satisfy a natural urge. If you do not wish to masturbate that is up to you, you should not think any less about your brother for doing so. In fact you owe your brother an apology for walking into his room without first knocking and for any embarrassment you may have caused him. You may also want to add that he should lock his door the next time he decides he wants to masturbate.
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I realize you're his sister but this is pretty judgmental.
Something like 85% of men masturbate, and 65% of women. That's all men, by the way. The numbers climb during teenage-hood, puberty, and hormones. Statistically it's a 100% certainty that one of your grandfathers masturbates. Get over it. People are sexual, that doesn't stop because they're family and it doesn't make them disgusting any more than it makes the guys you think are hot (who all masturbate) disgusting.
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Oh for god sakes please don't call him a nasty perv! He probably feels super awkward already about the whole situation. Masturbation is totally natural and he was in his own room.
O.K so it is disgusting that you saw that, I'm not denying it but don't make him feel crappier then he already does.
To be honest I would say nothing and ignore it...then make jokes about it later on in a couple of months...but that's just me.
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