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a big mistake with a long story
hi im 15/f and i have a boyfriend whos gay i know its strange but there a good reason why this happened. i met him a year ago as my other self. im pansexual and i crossdress i feel like im a boy inside and i act it out online not in a bad way i promise but i have an account i use for my boy side. well he messaged me one day and we started talking. we both fell for eachother and now a year later we still havent seen eathother its been a long distance relationship. he still doesnt know my real gender and i really want to tell him. one day i asked him if he would still love me if i was a girl and he said that he would still love me no matter what, he loves me for whats on the inside. even though he has said this to me i cant find the words to tell him. ive been trying to make him break up with me so i wouldnt hurt him anymore but he wont leave me. and when i break up with him my heart hurts,it beats an empty beat. i dont know whats wrong with me. i love him with all my heart and i dont want this lying anymore, all i want is for him to be happy. please help me.
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Urgg, MEET UP WITH HIM ALREADY!!! Before you do tell him not to be mad, tell him you were scared and trust me- online relationships don't work!!! And I know you may think you're in love but it's not possible to be in love with someone you can't be with in real life. If you don't beleive me- meet him in real life and feel how much stronger it is. Also, be honest and tell him your problem. Also I think you may be a transgender, look it up! :3 It's when you were born you knew you were a boy but you were born inside a girl's body. :3
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Well somethings are just hard to do when they are right, but trust me it is wellll worth it, it will take a huge load of your chest.
You just have to tell him there is not other way around it except not talking to him anymore.And i think what ya'll share is something too good to let go of just because you don't have the courage to tel him. Plus that will hurt him even more if you just leave him like this.
If you really love him you have to come out and say it, and easy way to do it would be like saying "You know how i told you if i was a girl would you still love me...well there is a reason i asked it's because i'm a girl but feel like a boy." Or something like that!
Hope you really gather the courage to tell him. Good luck(: SandyDandy.
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It's going to be hard, but if you love him, you have to tell him. Explain to him how you feel more like a boy then you have ever felt a girl and how you feel about him. It's not fair on him otherwise.
If you really want him to be happy then you'll tell him. It sounds like he loves you enough that he'll stay with you, but you really need to let him make the decision.
Hope that helped you!
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look you should tell him yes itll be hard but guilt must be driving you crazy! look this guy already told you he loves you no matter what and if you explain that you feel like a boy on the inside wouldnt he understand? just do it because you cant built a reltionship on a lie.
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