Hi Hi! i am sakura im helping all those who need me. ive always been the 1 people spilled all their troubles to not that i minded its nice knowing people trust you and i hope you can come to trust me as well.
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-Sakura
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I have been shy for a very long time now,how do I overcome it? I have trried everything that I possiby could but it doesn't help?? (link)
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shyness can come from worrying about what people think or feeling uncomforatble around your peers so people with shyness will hide in their "shell". i really think you should wake up in the morning with a goal a goal that says screw what everyone thinks im going to be myself and have a good time! you go with that enthusiam who can put you down? also people like people who display confident energy. so forget everyone else just go and do your thing!
hope this helps even a little
-sakura
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Omg this problem keeps biting me in the butt...I'm on break with my boyfriend lets call him Alex and I'm starting to like my childhood friend lets call him Donny. So me and Alex would fight all the time and never seemed to be on the same page on anything and Donny walked into my life again around that time. He told me he was going to help me with my problem with Alex but in that attemped I realized that I like Donny more then just friends. I told Alex about it and he understood and I kinda made I bigg no no and started dating Donny I didn't think that I was going to start liking him a lot. So I'm still stuck bcuz Alex told me that he wants to fight for me as long as he knows that I still love him and after that Donny told me that now that he has me he doesnt want to loose me again. Both of them are good guys but I'm love with Alex and I think that I'm starting to fall for Donny. So I dont know what to do I'm stuck because whatever choice I make I know I'm going to hurt someone but my question is what do I do, Who do I stay with???? I need help quick!!!! Omg is someone out there that has been in the same situation?=/ (link)
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as you know you are going to have to make a choice its not fair to them that youre so undecided. i truly think and feel free to reject this but i say you must pay close attention to the differnt feeling you get when your around either guy. is it warm safe nerve racking etc. which ever one makes you feel uplifted, alive ,whole,longing is who will suit you. also a sign of true love is if you wake thinking of him and if you fall asleep dreaming of him.
hope this helped even a little. anything else about this ask. stay true to yourself.
-sakura
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Please don't answer "don't do it" because that won't be helpful at all.
So I AM going to be doing ecstasy this coming Saturday. I know it makes you so happy but does it just increase your happiness? Or is it like dreamy and shit like on weed because I don't like the 'high' feeling weed gives you. Also, I know it makes you really hot and to drink lots of water so would that mean going into a hot tub would be a bad idea? You talk a lot on it right? But is it really like annoying? Because I hate feeling annoying. Also, how long does it last for?
Thanks guys. (link)
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ive had brothers whove done this so heres what ive seen and what theyve told me. ecasty can havee differnet effects but mostly it makes you crazy hyper and really tripped out. no worries no dreamy state. i dont think it matters if you go in a rub or not. but rememeber WATER IS CRUCIAL TO HAVE! because ectasy will make you pee and you moust replace this water. serioulsy one of my brothers almost died because he wasnt drinking enough awhile on it. sadly i have no idea how long it lasts. hope this helps!
-sakura
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im 15 male and ive been thinking and trying to figure out my sexuality for awhile i thought i like girls at one stage and after a lot of thinking i realise that im gay the last few months ive become really attracted to guys i look at guys a lot more than girls i more happy being around guys it been confusing is this a normal feeling? (link)
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lots of people go thourgh what your going thourgh your not alone! maybe do little experimenting or maybe join a group online or somewhere in your comunity. with people who understand it will becime less confusing and over time it all be clear. hope this helped
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i feel me and my bf just have a physical reletionship and nothing more.. i dont think either of us find the other physically attractive either .. i dont get it.
but he is a great bf.. we just have nothing to talk about. (link)
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how much time do you spend tougther? maybe spend more time together and just talk about random stuff if that dosent work maybe its time to move on
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hey my boyfriend and I are thinking about throwing a halloween party and want to dress up together. Do you have any ideas we can do as a couple? Either to buy or make? thanks a lot! (link)
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try tarzan and jane:)
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So this is going to make me seem like a 10 year old whiny little girl, but its really bothering me, so be as honest as you want to be, i need it.
In march, i dated this guy for THREE WEEKS. Not long at ALL. And it wasn't even like we were friends or anything for very long before that. I really liked him a lot. he was super attractive, really fun and i just loved his personality. Unfortunately, he ended things because we rushed into things and they weren't working out like we planned. When he did this (at the time), i agreed we should just be friends. Well for about two weeks after we broke up, i was kind of depressed and i cried all the time about it. But we said we could still be friends, so i was hopeful that we'd get back together. But then, for about a month after we broke up, we didn't speak at all and it was incredibly awkward. Over the summer, we talked online a few times and stuff, and i realized that i still have feelings for him. It's been MONTHS and im still not over a guy i barely knew. I feel SO pathetic. Why do i care so much? What the hell!?
thanks for anything :) (link)
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the same thing happened to me. its probaly because you havent met anyone else yet to get your mind off of it so your stuck in the past. put yourself out there talk to somone new! hope this helped:)
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hi im 15/f and i have a boyfriend whos gay i know its strange but there a good reason why this happened. i met him a year ago as my other self. im pansexual and i crossdress i feel like im a boy inside and i act it out online not in a bad way i promise but i have an account i use for my boy side. well he messaged me one day and we started talking. we both fell for eachother and now a year later we still havent seen eathother its been a long distance relationship. he still doesnt know my real gender and i really want to tell him. one day i asked him if he would still love me if i was a girl and he said that he would still love me no matter what, he loves me for whats on the inside. even though he has said this to me i cant find the words to tell him. ive been trying to make him break up with me so i wouldnt hurt him anymore but he wont leave me. and when i break up with him my heart hurts,it beats an empty beat. i dont know whats wrong with me. i love him with all my heart and i dont want this lying anymore, all i want is for him to be happy. please help me. (link)
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look you should tell him yes itll be hard but guilt must be driving you crazy! look this guy already told you he loves you no matter what and if you explain that you feel like a boy on the inside wouldnt he understand? just do it because you cant built a reltionship on a lie.
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so i have this crush on a guy. he's cute sweet and easy to talk to. i do want to talk to him a lot but everytime i try i get so nervous that i chicken out. he gets on facebook and my heart drops and i get so nervous and i run away from the computer. why do i react like this? also what some tips so that i feel comfortable and relaxed before i start talking to him. (link)
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you probaly recat like this because you rlly likme him and dont want to say somthing stupid to him. try practicing what your going to say before you say it or maybe just talk to him! the more you talk the less nervous youll be evrytime! itll be hard at first but you can do it!
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alright so. theres this guy that ive been talking on and off with for about a year now. ive only hung out with him a couple of times because he lives sort of far away from me, so most of the interatction we've had has been through talking on the phone. he will text me or call me once and a while, every few months or so just to say hi, or to just see whats up, or see if i want to hang out. and im really hesitant to talking to him because i am crazy about him and i know that what we have going on wont go anywhere. i've tried before to tell him how i feel and he sort of just ignored me, but continued talking to me. i just recently deleted him off my facebook and deleted his number off my phone but he keeps calling me every so often and i just cant resist. when i do talk to him though i keep my gaurd up and i get so nervous that i dont really say much of anything. adlsjflsadfj. what should i do?? (link)
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maybe talk more offten if you like this guy why resist? become rlly good friends! maybe over time hell like you too! talk talk talk
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This girl has been my friend for a while, and about 6 months ago we started getting really close. Then, just in the past week or two, she doesn't seem to want to talk to me anymore.
She ignores most of what I say, and when she doesn't she always seems mad at me for some reason. Then when I ask if I did something wrong she'll say something like, "No, I'm just tired..." or, "I don't really want to talk to anyone right now." Then when I log onto facebook a day later I'll see that immediately after I log off she's joking around and talking with a bunch of people...
I'm not controlling, and I'm definitely okay with her having other friends, but it's just weird how she went from basically being my best friend to not wanting to talk to me.
Does anyone have an idea what might be going on, or if there's something I could have done to upset her without realizing it? (link)
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you should wait for her to come to you. youve already tried talking to her and asked if somthuings wrong. shell come to you when she wants to talk. if not maybe she letting you know she dosent want to be friends anymore.
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I tend to bottle up my feelings and keep things to myself, i tend to act like i dont care when i really do, and my peers would always tells me to "stay true to yourself" to me, what does that mean? (link)
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it means dont lose your self like be your self not who somone who does whatevr it takes to fit in. dont bgecome lost!
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i didnt know what category to pick , but i had got braces 3 days ago , and my teeth hurt so bad , i called my doctor and he wont b in t'll monday . can neone help me with some tips to releive the pain . it would b a big help . thankk you soo much!! i'll rate u a 5 , nethng will help riyte now (link)
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dont eat anything solid stick to noodles and soup for the first week. advil also helps!
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Well over the summer my friend didn't text any of my friends or me (except for once to go bowling...) and then we got back to school and she sat with us at lunch for one day. After that day she sat with this other group that she claims she didn't like last year. And since then she hasn't talked to me at all or any of my (used to be hers too) friends. My mom says i should talk to her and tell her everything, but im not sure. what should i do? i miss her a little, but i don't want to be desperate and pathetic or anything. help! (link)
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ive had the same prob with my bf too eventullay i just tpld her how i felt. if this girl really is your friend you should tell her. just talk to her at school and invite her to sit with you and to hang out. soon shell relize how much shes miissed you and you will be friends again. if she doesnt want to hang out it just shows that youve grown apart and she wasnt rlly a somone who would stay by yourside which is what a real friend would do.
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My friend was physically abused by her boyfriend when she was about 15. He hit her a lot and put her in hospital. THey are definately not going out now.
My friend (lets call her Ana) is still haunted by the abuse. She says that when she closes her eyes she sees him coming at her. She has been to a psychiatrist, it helped a little, but she is still scarred by it. One day Ana came up to me and she was very upset and about to cry. Ana told me that she was upset because she had an emotional talk to one of my other friends (lets call him Michael) about it. Michael wasnt a very good help, although he thought he was doing the right thing, he told her that the best thing to do was to try and get over it and just "put on a brave face". This really upset Ana and she got mad at Michael, because she doesnt want to pretend its all ok when it isnt. Michael was abused as a kid so he thought he knew what to say and he thought he was doing the right thing.
The main point of this question is, what should I say to Ana when she occasionally gets upset about her past? She has already been to a shrink and gets help, so i dont need to give her advice like that. Usually I just give her a long hug and try to comfort her, I tell her "You are safe now" but i dont know what else to say. Is this the right thing to say?
What should I say to Ana when she gets upset about her past? (link)
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your telling her the righgt thing by saying shes safe now because she is somtimes its best not to say anything. just letting her cry on a shoulder she can trust will help her. sometimes hugs can replace words just be there for her. rember time heals all.
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19/f. I've known my best friend since fourth grade. But, I didn't really become friends with her until high school. i'm not mean or picky about people, but she just kind of hid away in her own corner and thoughts, so we never really started talking till later on. but, sophmore year we became really good friends. she knows my life story, literally. but, during senior year i started getting these really weird e-mails from a girl (a fake account, obviously) saying that she went to my school and that she was in love with me. i thought it was a joke but the person was describing my class schedule, the way my bookbag looked and stuff. so, obviously, it was a real person in my class. i started to suspect it might have been her because she was never with me during the time when the e-mail was sent. i thought maybe i was just becoming paranoid. by the way, i'm NOT a lesbian. more like a homophobic. no offense to anyone who is a lesbian. I'm not like against you as people, i'm just not into girls, that's all. so, it blew away and after graduation i sent them an e-mail asking them who it was. and they said it was my ex-best friend (before i became friends with this girl. we never had a fight or anything, she just kind of found new friends). So, I thought that was weird. I let it go. Then, I got a formspring account (this is like months or years later). I'm still friends with the girl. We are in college together. By this time, I had forgotten all about the creepy e-mails because I already left that school. For those of you don't know, formspring is just a social network where you can leave anonymous messages to people. i've been getting messages from people saying that they were in love with me. I kept getting them on the same days that i was seeing my ex, who i am still in love with, and we are fliriting again. so, i was positive it was him. yesturday, i went with her to dinner after class. i get a message on formspring saying i had fun having dinner with you i felt special. with a wink. the wink was the same as all of the other ones from the i love you messages. it was kind of weird and it had a space in between. you could tell it was the same person. it's weird tho because i know she has a boyfriend and that she's still in love with her ex boyfriend. she's not a full blown lesbian but could she be bi? if she is, i got to get away from her. i can't let her jeopardize things between me and my guy. who knows if she was the reason why we broke up in the first place and what kind of rumors she has been spreading about me? help please! what am i suppose to do.. just tell a friend of 10 years... sorry i can't talk to you anymore because i SUSPECT ur bi?! obviously not. but this is already too much for me. help me please. (link)
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confront her about. give her a chance to tell her side. you need to tell her you dont feel that way and its getting creepy. you should still be friends but just not as close. that way you can keep your friendship and she wont have any "good" times to email you about. as you become more distant the emails will cease.
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i didnt know what to put this under but whatever. i want to have a BIG 16th birthday ( im 15 ) my birthdays in july. What should i do? I dont want to have a pool party or anything. But can you give me some ideas..like where to go..if i should stay at home and invite people over or where to have it. ( if youve already had ur 16th birthday reply! ) but if you havent thats alright lol. thanks (link)
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you should have the party at night since its hot in the day. if you dont want to have a pool party then try going to a teen club. dont have money then have a dance party at your house sounds lame but trust me it always a good time!
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Alright... here's the deal. I am an 18 year old girl who just had her last day of high school. I am going to college in the fall. I have a major issue...a problem with myself i guess you could say.
My mother is so completely outgoing and talkative while my father is very quiet and often too nice. Being their daughter I am a little like both, but I am much more like my father. And I hate it.
I have moments, mostly when I am out of school on the street or at random parties where I am very outgoing and talk to people and make great first impressions. Certain people at school that know me think I am so outgoing and open and out there. So I know I have that in me, I just don't know why it hides more than it comes out.
I cannot for the life of me be outgoing/fun/crazy or whatever in large groups of people. I am always the one that is quiet or reserved. I hate it! It causes me to not make as many friends in school and I am worried that this will affect my career life in the future, because being social and being able to talk to people is so important. I dont know what to do. I've read a lot of tips on how to be outgoing and they all say you need to have confidence but the odd thing is, I DO have confidence. I have enough confidence to know that I am very beautiful and smart and I can be very funny but for some reason those traits dont always come out. In large groups I just get lost and dont really know what to say... When a lot of people are talking I always find it hard to interrupt and enter the conversation. And sometimes when a lot of people talk to me at once I get very nervous...like when attention is all on me...and I say random things. But thats also weird, because I like attention on me I have modeled on runways and modeled and done a lot of things of that fashion. But when it comes to public speaking I just cant! How can I improve in that? I am going to college next year and I want to make a lot of friends and be outgoing and finally break this odd shell i find myself in... i have a lot to offer the world! (link)
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do you listen to what the people around you say? instead of trying to listen to all of them trty having a side converstaion with a person in the group. you wont have to talk to a big crwod and youll make more friends this way.
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