my bf wants sex he is 16 and i'm 12 . He would touch me and he wud kiss me
Question Posted Monday August 15 2011, 1:48 am
my bf want s sex i'm12 year old girl and he's 16 i'm not ready he would touch me and kiss my kneck. I would say stop but would say babe relax. i say stop he says ok but he always bugs me about sex and once he tried to take off my shirt. i love him but not sexually. what should i do?
xXVioletRibbonXx answered Tuesday August 16 2011, 11:10 pm: Im going to tell you now that because hes that much older than you. That hes using you /for/ sex. usually about that time the girls decide that they've had enough of the boys in there own grade trying to hit on them and have sex. So the boys move onto the younger naive girls who fall for it. Its good that you keep saying no. And you should continue to. [ xXVioletRibbonXx's advice column | Ask xXVioletRibbonXx A Question ]
lightoftruth923 answered Monday August 15 2011, 10:44 pm: Well it's good that you keep saying no. But he's not getting it. I've been in a situation where the guy would always bug me about sex or doing other things besides sex. I didn't want that, I liked him but I didn't want to do anything sexually. At one point, he almost went too far and pretty much scarred me for life. I'm not saying that it's going to happen to you, but it could.
Just let him go. You're not ready for what he wants and you're not gonna be happy if he keeps doing this. [ lightoftruth923's advice column | Ask lightoftruth923 A Question ]
phoenixrise answered Monday August 15 2011, 12:22 pm: You should tell him he either needs to accept the fact that you're 4 years younger and are not ready nor do you want to have sex yet (You really need to wait a good 6 years, ideally) or that you will break up with him. It is terrible he is insisting you do this, he is 4 years older than you, it is different for him. I do not think you should keep dating him, I think you should focus on your friends/family, or find a new boyfriend more your age.
adviceman49 answered Monday August 15 2011, 10:19 am: You are too young to even be seeing this boy. Your age difference places this boy in grave legal danger in most states as it constitutes statutory rape. That means that sex does not have to happen just being with you alone is rape and he should, at his age know better.
Do your parents know the difference in your ages. If I was your father, whether you liked it or not, I would be having a very deep heart to heart conversation with this young man. A conversation of the type that would cause him to loose all control over his bowels and urinary system.
For the boys own safety and your own good tell this boy you can not date him any longer at least until you are above the age of consent in your state. I would also suggest you tell your parents about him. If he constantly looks to date girls your age he could be a pedophile in the making. There is absolutely no reason a 16 year old boy should be dating a 12 year old girl. [ adviceman49's advice column | Ask adviceman49 A Question ]
MummuM answered Monday August 15 2011, 9:25 am: If you aren't comfortable with what he is doing to you, tell him to stop. If he continues to bug you about this, I suggest leaving him. When you're telling him to stop and he "trying" to take your shirt off, that's pretty much rape. If YOU don't want to do something, you shouldn't do it. You're 12 and he is 16, that's a big different in age when you're that age. 16 year old boys only have one thing on their mind, and it isn't what 12 year old girls have on their mind.
I would kick this guy to the curb if I were you, and try to find someone more around your age. That way, you guys will both be on the same level in the relationship. A relationship shouldn't be all about sex...You deserve much more than this! [ MummuM's advice column | Ask MummuM A Question ]
mary200022 answered Monday August 15 2011, 8:17 am: HE IS 16!!!!!!......U R 12!!!!!!!......i know most couples are a bit age apart but mostly around 18+..... u 2 have a 2 big of a age difference and he is askin for sex......u r 12.......he is obviously not the rite sort of person if he is askin for sex from a girl that is 12...... [ mary200022's advice column | Ask mary200022 A Question ]
rotXinXpieces answered Monday August 15 2011, 4:31 am: Hun, I highly suggest dumping him. Boys at that age usually only have one thing on their mind. Just tell him you're not ready for this kind of relationship and end it. There's plenty of guys out there and you're so young, so you have plenty of time to find the right guy. Kudos for making the right choice and not having intercourse at such a young age :) [ rotXinXpieces's advice column | Ask rotXinXpieces A Question ]
Eunice101 answered Monday August 15 2011, 2:20 am: You should break up with this guy, even if you think you love him. He is 4 years older than you, which means he's more experienced then you, I bet if you give in to having sex which your to young for, he will probably break up with you that's what happened to a girl I know. If he's always trying to have sex, then that means that he only wants something physical, he probably doesn't want you for you. Please take this advice :) [ Eunice101's advice column | Ask Eunice101 A Question ]
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